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So confused. Scorp and i had a talk. We are believers and we wanna do things the wright way. And we both agreed on rushing with the sex was bothering us. So we agreed that we should leave that part for now. But we talked about where we stand now.

He says: i never had this connection with anyone and we are not just friends. For him this feelings are still new whil i had them already since summer.
And he is honest bout the fact that he is not looking for a relationship now.
And i know this: he has physical,financial issues and is still overcoming things from the past.

However i told him too that im in love and dont see him as just a good friend and that i dont consider myself single.

Weird is: he agreed and that there doesnt havent to change anything only that we shouldnt do that anymore because what if all this doesnt work out then we'll both be hurt

We still kiss and cuddle and he says that the bond we have is special and that im special to him

But......i think ahead. I wanna see where this goes. You guys think this is a rejection or a step forward. Somehow it feels like both to me. Im not sad im just a bit confused. Im gonna talk to him anyway today. Just was curious what you would say

I know there is no other woman and i dont see that happening either.
Thats not it

Posted by butterfly84

And he is honest bout the fact that he is not looking for a relationship now.

Im not sad im just a bit confused. Im gonna talk to him anyway today. Just was curious what you would say

Why would you be confused over his honesty? It's right there in black and white. If you push the future, it's planting seeds of EXPECTATIONS. Why would you do that?

@irrestistablescorp

Thanksss 😄 thats very helpfull! 😄 and he is very protective , i was with him today. He keeps pointing out that he doesnt want people to assume things and start bad talking , because he hasnt announced we are in a relationship. He has a really big issue with keeping his private things very private. And at this pint "us" is the only private thing he has.
Because what you say is true. Today i acted normal,and i didnt have the urge to act differently. In fact , nothing changed accept the sex part. So what you say makes alot of sense. And weird thing is...what you say about pulling back and not pushing it. He was ....how you say it. More comfortable it seems today 😄 and he pulled me towards him and kissed me. I think its all the things above.
He and we both are both very determinded to live a life with god. As the bible tells us.
And i find it hard because for me sex is the ultimate way to let him feel how much i love him.
But under the other side. Or need to get back on track with god is one of the things that bonds us. We share things and have a connection that is beyond anything we ever had with anyone. He keeps pointing that out to. And since our talk, im there everyday. And he asks me too! O_O
So your tips are very helpfull!
He has been hurt alot in the past. They all cheated on him
LOL i told exactly that: that i understand and im still here. And thats no lie. I also told him, that if he would decide to stop , even then i wouldnt mad or would date someone else. Cause my feelings are to strong for him.
And the first one: to see if his feelings are genuine. Yeah i think that that is a big part too.

Yesss the purifying thing.....sounds realllyyy something for him. And i dont even see it as a bad thing. I think its better for us at this point. The both of us.

Yeah, he gets really mad if someone tries to hurt me.
And he said twice: "if we go on having sex, and it doesnt work out, that would be awfull for you and me. So its better if i say this now. But we can still cuddle and kiss and nothing else changes. Its better if we dont do that anymore. What i have with you i dont have with anyone" those were his words.

And i was actually the one who said: "maybe for now we should stop doing that" because he said "its wrong what we are doing....we are not married"

And yes he is honest. And we are still very close. So you are wright ......

And LetitBe.....its not his honesty that confused me. 😉 its the fact t

Its the fact that after i said i loved him, for the first time ever: his words and actions were opposite of eachother 😉 so its not his honesty i got confused about. But the fact that he is carefull, yet on the other side he wants me to be there. As a girlfriend....yet he says he isnt ready. And that we can everything else except for that. I have no doubt bout him being honest.

Btw .......maybe a funny and sweet note....today i made a joke....i dont even remember what it was. He laughed before bout things i do but.....this giggle. Ive never seen him giggle like this. Hahaahahah -_- wich offcourse made him even more adorable ....but that giggle O_O he looked at me, gave me a hugg and giggled almost his pants of. Upside.....never a boring moment with him. Its like a rollercoaster ride.

Hahahaha @irrestisablescorp i hardly saw any typos hahaha i think i owe you a sorry for mine hahahaa there a couple of them in my post