Confused about breakup

So hello everyone, I have been lurking here for a while now. I just created an account.

I recently went through a breakup with my scorpio ex. She went out of town for work recently for a month and began distancing herself. While she was up there she started applying for jobs secretly and looking to move up there. She came home on a Tuesday, and we chatted that night where she said she needed a break, but we were't broken up. She would not see me until thurs evening when she officially broke up with me. Since then we have had dinner and she still tells me she loves me daily. Today while she was going back out of town for a few days for interviews in the other town, she told me she's confident we can work through things.

I know, pretty vague, as I normally would not be doing this, but is this normal? I'm totally head over heels for this lady, ever since the moment I laid eyes on her and it has been about 8 months that we have known each other. We were together for about 4 months and IMO spent too much time together.

She says she just needs to come to terms with some things and she has promised to remain celibate while we figure out if we can work or not. We have a very deep connection and open ourselves up to one another as easily as we are both able to.

Anyone have any advice? Should I just let her go and move on?

Both!

Awesome, thanks for the insight!

Oh one other thing, so you actually tried to discuss your problems? Like there was a possibility of trying again?

Cap

Extremely. I'm just afraid that the time apart has caused some of that to go away. She still wants to hold my hand and touch me when we are together, but is kinda stand offish everywhere else. She told me we are back to where we were when we first met, but now there are feelings involved, so she just needs to see if she still wants me in her life.

I admit, I have insecurities, I told her about them today before she left so she could better understand that I'm not perfect. I kinda blew up when she pulled away last month, because she had asked me to go see her while she was gone and when I wanted to she changed her mind, so I get that she's hurt about that.

Lol I haven't been aloof with her... yet.

I get moody at times, but don't ignore her or shut her out. Maybe I should just distance myself and see how that plays out.

lol I didn't mean completely ignore her, just be more disinterested. She says she needs her space, so I am assuming this is what she is wanting.

Recon... It's best to just let things flow naturally.
I don't know about Scorp wimmin but if they are like the men, being distant might send the signal
to her that you are not really interested.

IMHO, that may not actually be a astro sign thing, though, but more "male/female" thing or a personality conflict type
of thing.

Always remember this on your distant journey: No matter how far you distance yourself from her, there you are.

Ok, now I haz confused. Explain, please.

Mine:

Sun Aquarius 0.37 Ascendant Taurus 6.41
Moon Leo 5.59 II Gemini 6.59
Mercury Aquarius 13.37 III Cancer 0.10
Venus Capricorn 11.52 IV Cancer 22.16
Mars Aquarius 16.25 V Leo 17.42
Jupiter Libra 10.22 VI Virgo 21.47
Saturn Libra 9.47 R VII Scorpio 6.41
Uranus Scorpio 29.17 VIII Sagittarius 6.59
Neptune Sagittarius 23.45 IX Capricorn 0.10
Pluto Libra 24.21 Midheaven Capricorn 22.16
Lilith Scorpio 2.28 XI Aquarius 17.42
Asc node Leo 10.53 XII Pisces 21.47



Hers:


Sun Scorpio 21.26 Ascendant Capricorn 25.08
Moon Taurus 29.45 II Pisces 15.05
Mercury Scorpio 23.14 III Aries 25.28
Venus Capricorn 8.23 IV Taurus 22.39
Mars Scorpio 6.28 V Gemini 13.26
Jupiter Cancer 10.27 R VI Cancer 2.42
Saturn Capricorn 10.24 VII Cancer 25.08
Uranus Capricorn 3.02 VIII Virgo 15.05
Neptune Capricorn 10.23 IX Libra 25.28
Pluto Scorpio 15.23 Midheaven Scorpio 22.39
Lilith Scorpio 1.05 XI Sagittarius 13.26
Asc node Aquarius 20.54 XII Capricorn 2.42

Some say aqua, some say cap for me.

No, the whole thing confuses me. haha

lol, yeah.

Posted by Red2recon
lol I didn't mean completely ignore her, just be more disinterested. She says she needs her space, so I am assuming this is what she is wanting.

disinterested... no.

independent... yes. always rely on yourself for your happiness. not your scorpio. and share your happiness with them.

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Posted by Red2recon
lol I didn't mean completely ignore her, just be more disinterested. She says she needs her space, so I am assuming this is what she is wanting.

disinterested... no.

independent... yes. always rely on yourself for your happiness. not your scorpio. and share your happiness with them.

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I have plenty to make me happy... like all of the motorcycles in my garage!

Posted by ellessque
...and you BOTH have scorpio in lilith....DO NOT use sex as a weapon to piss each other off!!! FFS 😄

I have no idea what this means, can you please elaborate?

Posted by ellessque
well, that means that.....

you might have a virgo moon
and
she might have an aries moon

you guys do have a strong connection, that is for sure.

- Yes, a very strong connection. I think it might scare her.

however, I'm going to be a bit candid with you, only because I know you won't get defensive.

something is going on with you that she's not completely happy about....leaving on amicable terms would be easier for her than making it difficult and messy.

venus cap scorpios are pretty solid and typically know exactly what they want.

if she's a taurus moon.....are you having issues on the job front that you haven't figured out how to solve yet? does she feel like she's putting too much into the relationship and getting not much in return? if you are having a difficult time, are you taking it out on her? too much pressure maybe?

- I get moody at times and withdrawn, her and I have figured out a way to get me out of these moods. She gets them too. But yes, there has been stress about work... on both our sides.

if she's an aries moon......what the hell did you do to piss her off? LOL did something happen before her work trip that may have upset her and you didn't allow her to express herself? is that a habit of yours? I noticed your avatar, do you drink to distract your problems?

- No, things were great before her trip. There was some work drama while she was gone. A part of me feels that we may have spent way too much time together. We worked together and practically lived together.

if you have a virgo moon......how does she take your criticism? work long hours? does she feel neglected? your moon and mars are a nice combination because you are pretty accepting and tolerant of others...but you can come across as kind of rude and impatient....even though you are not.

- I really never criticized her as far as I know. She would criticize me and I would take it in stride and fix the issue. She is very insightful and candid with me.

if you have a leo moon......do you like to make her jealous when you are annoyed? need alot of attention from women?

- No, I do not. I receive alot when she is not around me. I make it clear I am not interested. On the same note, she receives alot of attention as well, which plays on my insecurities.

Just throwing some things out there so we can toss them around a bit.

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Posted by ellessque
NO

you go first. 😄

lol, I would never do that. The sex is too good to deny her.

Maybe she is doing that with me though... hmmmm

Damnit!

So I have a feeling that with her and I working together and her staying over here so much that she may have just gotten burned out on me. We are VERY intense when we are together. No drama, yeah we piss each other off at times, but that comes in every relationship.

I figure I just need to give her the space she asked for, and limit the texts to one to two a day. I need to give her the chance to miss me and decide for herself that I am worth it (because I am) lol

She has become my best friend and the confidant of all of my secrets. We started out as friends and that was very important to me. We spent a lot of time together before we started into the relationship. Didn't have sex for a couple of months and even then we fooled around for at least two weeks before that happened. Then it was game on a couple of times a day at least.

That's not really my personality. If the sex isn't good and feels like a chore (like with my ex wife) then I don't want it so much.

But with her it's never a dull moment. 😄

Oh and as for the avatar, that's from a friends wedding. I'm not a super heavy drinker. Even now.

Her on the other hand, she said she drank quite a bit while she was gone and I am sure she is out drinking now since she is back up there.

Oh I know I can be.

As for the job... it's nothing to brag about from what she has told me. Minimum wage. She was making way more here for sure.

So tell me, what is your definition of aloof?

I can be moody and withdrawn, but I'm working on that. lol

Lol, I guess I can be seen as that.

Anyways, thank you for all the insight. I truly appreciate it.

"She went out of town for work recently for a month and began distancing herself. While she was up there she started applying for jobs secretly and looking to move up there. She came home on a Tuesday, and we chatted that night where she said she needed a break, but we were't broken up."

"She says she just needs to come to terms with some things and she has promised to remain celibate while we figure out if we can work or not."

Astrology aside, this to me sounds like the typical female "put guy on back burner while I check out how this other guy could work" thingy.

IMO, if you are as close and tight as you say you are (or think you are), common sense would be, she'd want you involved in this "move", and would NOT hide it. You should just keep those eyes wide open, watch and see how it goes. Listen to her words carefully. Good luck!

Posted by Red2recon

I admit, I have insecurities, I told her about them today before she left so she could better understand that I'm not perfect. I kinda blew up when she pulled away last month, because she had asked me to go see her while she was gone and when I wanted to she changed her mind, so I get that she's hurt about that.

oh boy, this ^^^changes things a tad..

Never mind, I just read through all of this, and my conclusion based off of how condescending you about her, with a slight way of talking down about her..you have no chance in hell. Find a Leo sun female, you might be better matched with that attitude. Again..good luck.

"Her on the other hand, she said she drank quite a bit while she was gone and I am sure she is out drinking now since she is back up there."

"As for the job... it's nothing to brag about from what she has told me. Minimum wage. She was making way more here for sure."

"I have plenty to make me happy... like all of the motorcycles in my garage!"


I'd take a $ 1.00 an hr. if this is what I was stuck with. No offense, just being honest.

So one of my best friends who was seeing a good friend of hers told me last night she was seeing another guy while she was on the trip. When I confronted her about it last night she denied it, and is supposed to come over to my place today to talk about it. With how she has been so distant I am inclined to believe it, as all the signs were there in front of me. I seriously doubt she will even come over now.

Time to move on, I guess.

I would just go with your gut..

She probably still has some feelings for u, but not enough to stay in a relationship with u. Scorpio women are extremely passionate, either we are drowning in the passion of our significant other to the point of obsession or we're not. Hiding stuff means she's not 100% invested in the relationship & once we get to that point, which takes a lot, it's a done deal. I finished my relationship with my Capricorn it was too much push/pulling in the off/on relationship, he always put work first never making us a priority...I dropped him the same way, became more independent in my affairs, he didn't notice til it was too late.