CONFUSED BY A SCORPIO

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by TRUVIRGO99 on Saturday, September 14, 2013 and has 20 replies.
Hey I am a Virgo nuturing and caring and one of my greater flaws very analytical........... I have been intrigued by a Scorpio he is poised,humble, he posses a certain strength that he doesnt show but I can feel. But he is so confusing hmmmmmmmmmmm where do I begin! I met him in december of 2012 a friend told me about him we talked for months I had prior engagements and travel so I told him for his patience I will take him out, we had a great date it lasted 4 hours lol then he started to withdraw I was confused so then he came back around I told him IM not looking for friendship but if I meeta friend along the way thats okay i offered to establish the lines of friendship and he declined he said he knows what I'm looking for and we were on the same page. he behaved with inconsistency but at the same time he did enough to still be in the loop....I sensed something and later on found out tht the younglady who hooked me up with him is apart of a hurt that cut him very deep she actually dealt with him romatically and never shared it with me by then my feelings are invested in this mysterious man, I have been so thoughtful so kind to him and he shows me nothing im honestly intrigued by how guarded he is, he told me he likes me, told me I can tap into him deeper than any other woman said we are extremely compatible but does nothing. its as if he is afraid of me or afraid of what I might make him feel we never slept together we havent kissed yet we cuddle kisses on the forhead massages but I am expecting him to make that first move and he hasent. im lost, he told me he doesnt pursue me aggressively because even though he likes me and sees me as more than a friend he thinks I like him more and because of that he doesnt want to complicate things, the thing is when we are around each other his looks are intense he stares at me he is more affectionate he cant hide it when we see each other but he keeps a wedge in between us...........feel like im unaapreciated or taken for granted example.............his grand mother passed away I made a condolences goodie bag his favorite drink, a card for him a card for his family a letter oif encouragement some funny movies and a bible he smiled and said thanks but he never seems moved by anything I am a virgo as I said caring and giving and this can be misinterpreted as us being all inbut its been 9 months and when we hang its magnetic the convos are becoming a bit repetitive and I feel like its dying down i just think its time to
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I'm curious to see what happens in your situation.
I'm a Virgo who has recently had dealings with a Scorpio. Some similarities to your dynamics with yours. In my case, very long story short, I spent 1.5 years talking to/spending time with him 24/7. His guards were up for a long time. When they came down, I didn't take that for granted. It only made us closer (so I thought). In the end, I told him straight out how strongly I felt about him.. I guess his "defense mechanism" kicked in because his response was "I let you too far in, see ya".. And haven't talked to him since (it's been 2 months).
I *could* say be patient and put the time in but, I'm jaded now b/c even if you do, he might still crush your soul without warning or a logical reason.
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TRUVIRGO99 if you are feeling curious or need an explanation for this sort of behavior.. i would just say don't push him much coz it might be that he needs some alone time.. typical scorpio.. and if he loves you he will be back.. coz scorpio comes back for true love...(if deep inside he feels this) and i hope the things work out for you too... smilekeep calm...
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Yes I hope so too I mean honestly I'm not clingy I don't have time to be but I'm like confused deeply
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@TrueVirgo99, don't contact him anymore. If he ever contacts you again, don't respond. If he wants to talk to you now (after all), see how much effort he is willing to give. If it isn't much, and I don't mean a few texts or maybe a sporadic phone call every now and then. What is it going to take for a man to win (back) your heart? Do you want a man any other way?
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Posted by Herself
I told him straight out how strongly I felt about him.. his response was "I let you too far in, see ya".. And haven't talked to him since (it's been 2 months).

He said that to you? "see ya?" I would never ever talk to him again if I were you. The nerve. Yes, no one put a gun to your head to put yourself out there, but you did and his rejection was so Nasty! Move on, Herself, without any regrets. I would be as cold as ice and if he ever tried to get in my face again after that, I'd spray Mace in his face.
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@pathfinder I agree totally he got some what offended when I told him recently lets go a few weeks without talking.......... we had a huge hurdle to overcome the girl who hooked me up with him told me he was deeply in love with a woman she got pregnant for him twice and lost both children he was talking to another woman as well and got caught up in between both of them they found out about each other and the side piece left and the main girlfriend stayed but she could never trust him so eventually she too left now she is married with 3 kids of her own and the side piece is married now too the big deal in this story is that the girl who hooked me up with him is the side piece im referring too he always tried to keep me at a distance because of what he once had with her but I never knew that.....she kept it from me and so did he but he told me eventually because I likes me in her defense I met her in October and she introduced me in December so of course she wouldnt give me her life story so I guess she didnt see it being neccessary considering it happened about 7 years ago he is a tru scorpio he once said only 3 girls are worth marrying two of them are married then there's you however none of those women care about him anymore the side piece cut him off because he didnt get her a wedding gift im like whoa
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@pathfinder we talk everyday but seeing each other is the big deal when we are around each otherits magnetic we never slept together or anything honestly I think thats the element thats missing but I wont give in at all nope not doing it
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@Neurotoxin I am 28 well I just turned on 09/09 and he will be 31 october 27th
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Posted by TRUVIRGO99
...im lost, he told me he doesnt pursue me aggressively because even though he likes me and sees me as more than a friend he thinks I like him more and because of that he doesnt want to complicate things...

TV99, you know, I don't know this man, but I've dated a few scorpios (and married to one) and believe me, if they like you, they are going to make a move, it's how they show you how they feel, and it doesn't take 9 months of seeing someone to do it either. They may love to talk and laugh to help you relax if needed, but he will get physical and I don't mean nuzzling. No kissing? If your friend hasn't done that and he KNOWS you like him more than he likes you, I would just back off and be a friend to him. You are probably better off. Seriously. Those other women who were romantically involved with him are not in as good a position as you probably are (friendship).
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Wait. Maybe my above post is wrong...
Posted by TRUVIRGO99
we are around each otherits magnetic we never slept together or anything honestly I think thats the element thats missing but I wont give in at all nope not doing it


Ok, so has he tried to sleep with you?
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@pathfinder wehn we are around each other he is affectionate kisses on the forehead hugs cuddling massages when i touch him he is aroused when he gets close to me he is aroused i havent been with a man in almost 4 years my experiences are with women he knows he seems very patient with me but i think he is protecting his own feelings i wrapped his arms around me one night and caressed his arms and he fell asleep in like 2 minutes he seems very comfortable when we are together not sure if that scares him he touches my lips and smiles but he never leans in to kiss me his moves are calculated we talk everyday via text messages or phone calls he tells me im an amazing woman when he looks at me its intense maybe its himself he is truly trying to protect
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Posted by TRUVIRGO99
when i touch him he is aroused when he gets close to me he is aroused i havent been with a man in almost 4 years my experiences are with women he knows he seems very patient with me

TV99, that's alot of heavy petting. What are you doing, where is this going?
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@pathfinder thats my confusion and frustration we have it but we are not exploring it to its highest capacity...........he has to be afraid or he is hiding something another young lady asked him for a relationship and he told her no i dont want to start with you i am already building with someone else and that someone else is me he agreed with me we should spend more time together im not sure whats going on like thats why I am confused I told him lets not talk for the next 2 weeks since we plan on seeing each other in the next two weeks lets break he brushed it off with a lol and I said deal and he still didnt respond then I responded with about 10 question marks then he said ok kool he wasnt fond of the idea but the reservations are wearing on me honestly and I need to just regroup
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Posted by pathfinder
Posted by Herself
I told him straight out how strongly I felt about him.. his response was "I let you too far in, see ya".. And haven't talked to him since (it's been 2 months).

He said that to you? "see ya?" I would never ever talk to him again if I were you. The nerve. Yes, no one put a gun to your head to put yourself out there, but you did and his rejection was so Nasty! Move on, Herself, without any regrets. I would be as cold as ice and if he ever tried to get in my face again after that, I'd spray Mace in his face.
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There were other things said like "if by me not responding you feel you have to say good bye then nows the time". "See ya" was just the last thing he said.. But for the sake of keeping it short I didn't want to go into it.
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Ok, you told him essentially you needed some space. Yes, this was for good reason, so you could regroup. In my exp., scorpio does not want you to regroup. He likes keeping you a bit off kilter as he works his magic. Your being "off" is the effect he is looking for because by the time you realize what is happening, he will already have you! If you think about a thing too long, you may figure out how it works. If you two don't stay in contact over the next two weeks as you have been, don't be surprised if acts a bit "distant" upon your return. I think if you need time away from certain scorpio men, don't tell them, just do it. If they know what you are up to and they don't like it, they could use this later to prove their point.
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@pathfinder I agree but honeslty it is what it is ;
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man the Scorpios are pretty limited in here when it comes to advising no other opinions
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Also. Please use punctuation. We have things like commas and periods and paragraphs for a reason. :/


No Problem! I would agree the eyes of a scorpio is extremely intense,however thats the thing he pierces me with them. He says things like "your so different from everyone else" or "you always remain the same" or things like "no one has ever read me like you can". He is afraid of me I Can sense it, he is holding back some explosive intense emotions. I feel him in a way thats beyond description he challenges me and its intriguing................I'm in awe of the beauty I see in him that he tries to heard no to unveil!!!
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*so hard
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