Constant Relationship Failure
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by dward417 on Tuesday, November 21, 2006 and has 46 replies.
How you you deal with it?
Try and analyze where the relationship went sour. Learn from the mistakes/issues that broke the relationship apart. Give yourself time to heal, then, try again.
from every experience you learn.
just like momma roz mentioned above, reflect on the experience and try to evaluate yourself as objectively as possible (the more time you give yourself the easier this is). try to understand your motives and the sometimes hidden reasons for your behavior and feelings, and give yourself adequate time to recover. when you're ready to try again, you'll know. is if you're a scorpio, listen to that scorpio intuition that allows you to be true to yourself. in my experience, its best not to involve yourself with someone until you've managed to put past fears and hurts behind for good, otherwise it interferes with the quality of the next relationship.
just like momma roz mentioned above, reflect on the experience and try to evaluate yourself as objectively as possible (the more time you give yourself the easier this is). try to understand your motives and the sometimes hidden reasons for your behavior and feelings, and give yourself adequate time to recover. when you're ready to try again, you'll know. is if you're a scorpio, listen to that scorpio intuition that allows you to be true to yourself. in my experience, its best not to involve yourself with someone until you've managed to put past fears and hurts behind for good, otherwise it interferes with the quality of the next relationship.
What do you define as failure?
Every one seems to be looking for that longterm relationship, but so few people find it these days. So does that mean that every other kind of relationship has no validity?
Get in as many relationships as you can -- friends, flirtations, having kids (LOL!) -- and give as much love as you can. Give to the other person what they need, not what you want to give.
That will change you, and you'll learn how to be a good lover...of all kinds of people.
Eaglegirl
Every one seems to be looking for that longterm relationship, but so few people find it these days. So does that mean that every other kind of relationship has no validity?
Get in as many relationships as you can -- friends, flirtations, having kids (LOL!) -- and give as much love as you can. Give to the other person what they need, not what you want to give.
That will change you, and you'll learn how to be a good lover...of all kinds of people.
Eaglegirl
i dont know..i feel like I am lost in a world of trying to make everybody happy but everybody is making me sad. Then I start doubting who I am...I am not a cruel person and cannot treat people bad...but some people can be so heartless. They take my kindness for weakness. I cant be cruel to people...maybe thats my problem...im too nice
did that bring you a successful relationship? Or does it make you more acceptable to being by yourself?
You have to be yourself...some people will accept you for who you are, whilst others will try and change you..If you haven't got a nasty streak in you, why force yourself. Your only going to wind up more frustrated...
Be who you are and say what you feel, cos those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind.
I was born with a mean streak so it comes naturally...
Be who you are and say what you feel, cos those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind.
I was born with a mean streak so it comes naturally...
im just so lonely right now..i wish I wasnt but I am. Kinda crazy huh?
Nope..your not alone Dward..Always remember theres someone far worse off than you somewhere in tbe world..not much of a consulation but hey ho..am feeling a bit shit too lately..but heck..just get on with things..what can ya do..
Awww...that monkey is soooo cute...definitely a mischevious grin there..
"maybe put laxatives in their tea ????"...Hahahaha..Hmmm..
"maybe put laxatives in their tea ????"...Hahahaha..Hmmm..
i always seem to feel this way around the holidays...but thats for trying to make me feel better guys...thats why i like this forum so much...
Hows Mr Scorpman?
Blame November.
Yep I blame November..I actually blame September and October too...
so if you were constantly failing at relationships...would you just stop dating for a while.
missmorals...he is such a meanie. We still talked but we have absolutely nothing in common. So i decided to just keep it on a friendly level. I want a little more then hes willing to offer right now.
Watz with failing relationships dward ?
I had one failed....And still have the dagger drawn
I had one failed....And still have the dagger drawn
"Yep I blame November..I actually blame September and October too..."
Only einstein cud understand why ?
Only einstein cud understand why ?
i dont know...my mother told me i fall in love too hard too quickly...
Well if it was getting me down, yes I would..just to have some "me" me...reflection and introspection...You don't need company to feel confident within yourself..you need to establish that in your own skin first..Whats causing you to have this negative view of relationships?
"i dont know...my mother told me i fall in love too hard too quickly..."
We take nursery lessons too seriously. Or maybe we never graduate.
We take nursery lessons too seriously. Or maybe we never graduate.
"me" me = Me time
"You don't need company to feel confident within yourself..you need to establish that in your own skin first"
Wherez the potion ?
Wherez the potion ?
waaaaa...ive had enough of me time...i need some "we" time
LOL.. ..Dward ...R U working ?
Lol @ potion...Its true..you have to be at one with yourself first...before you start loving others. I can't stand the word love...It pains me..
Dward: just go buy yourself "I don't need a man" single by Pussycat Dolls..Its quite catchy..
Dward: just go buy yourself "I don't need a man" single by Pussycat Dolls..Its quite catchy..
do you mean am I at work now?
dont you wish your girlfriend was hot like me...okay missmorals..Im already feeling better..LOL
Dward: "ive had enough of me time" - But I bet you any money, during this supposed "me" time, you've only thought about who to date or just guys in general in some way or other...
So in theory it really hasn't been you time at all...
So in theory it really hasn't been you time at all...
"I can't stand the word love...It pains me.."
So whoz the one U still love ?
So whoz the one U still love ?
Don't cha wish your girlfriend was rawwwwwwwwww like me...don't cha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me....Don't cha...
Where do U work dward ?...Do U keep sufficiently busy ?....Thatz one way out actually.
"So whoz the one U still love ?"
::shrugs::
::shrugs::
missmorals you are soooo right??? I mean but how do you change that?
"Don't cha wish your girlfriend was rawwwwwwwwww like me...don't cha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me....Don't cha... "
Death wish.
Death wish.
yes I work...i exercise everyday...I really get weak when Im at the gym...surrounded by fine ass men Whew!
You have to hang out with your friends more, take up sport, take up some kind of hobby..I don't know..just clean your mind of male thoughts..LOL..It can be done..the more you rely on a man to make you complete or happy...the less chance of you actually being complete and happy...
Yes they are a nice bonus (the right one)..but all is not lost if you just have the basic salary..
Yes they are a nice bonus (the right one)..but all is not lost if you just have the basic salary..
LOL....work on Ur knees.
oooh thats terrible
G: "Death wish."
Ooooh you meanie..you don't mean that at all..say you love me
Ooooh you meanie..you don't mean that at all..say you love me
Another brick in the wall.
Its a tough job..but someones gotta do it..
Anyways I am off to bed...
Have fun
Anyways I am off to bed...
Have fun
Sweet dreamz Mizz....Save some love for morrow.
I think I didn't read enough these messages here lately.. but why do I have a feeling that GA has a thing on missy..
Virtually ...Yeah.
Somebody who you can have a great conversation with is always a plus in my book...
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