Curious About Scorpio Males...

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by meticulousmind on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 and has 32 replies.
I'm not sure if this is the correct way to post a question, but here goes. I have noticed that I am drawn to Scorpio men. Is there anyone out there that is a Virgo, and has dated a scorpio man? Or even better is there a Scorpio man out there that I can speak with whose dated a Virgo? I have a lot of questions.
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my mom is virgo my dad is scorp- run for your life just run!
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I am a Venus in Virgo and almost all my past relationships have been with Scorpio.
On the good side: devoted, mysterious, sexy, passionate
On the down side: possessive, patronizing, controlling
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Not me but there is male scorpios here ask the questions already and one may answer them.
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Thank you for all the feedback. I've dated a Scorpio before briefly, and it was disasterous. Nonetheless, I'm very drawn to them. I've met a new one. He seems fairly calm, but I know that is a mask. We hung out for the first time today, pretty much all day, it was nice. I guess what I would really like to know, is how you can tell if they really like you or not. Or if it's merely a sexual attraction.
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dear bird,
you're insights are quite enlightening. i am enjoying your expression of things. i was wondering if you have any insights into cap women with scorp men? i'm not sure of all our chartings right now, but i know i am a cap/taurus moon/scorp venus. i know he is a scorp/scorp venus. not sure of his moon at the moment. i have been infected by both his affections and lack of. i try to use my intuition to guide me to either keep trying or walk away. it continually changes. anything you can enlighten me with would be appreciated. i am a cap. it is hard for me to express how deep these feelings are.
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Thank you "Bird of Flame". The information you provided was extremely helpful. I'm fascinated with this young man I've met, he asked me a lot of questions today, I felt as though he was feeling me out. We are such similar, yet different creatures...I try not to read too much into anything, but being a Virgo, that is extremely difficult. I will be looking out for those subtle cues. Thank you again, I'll keep you posted.
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Bird of Flame!
Love The Name!!
Haha, just saying Hi.
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Bird of flame, good insights! You're def. an analytical ScorpWinking
Hi there.
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Hello "Bird of Flame"...not feelin the Scorpio. I get the impression that he is more interested in getting into my pants, rather than getting to know me. He's been giving me the cold shoulder, I guess that's because when we spent the other day together he realized that getting me into bed would not be an easy task. Nonetheless, I am a Virgo, and am not into playing games. Perhaps he's just not interested, that's cool. I can take a hint. I don't make people a priority in my life if they can't make me one in theirs. Thank you for the insight though.
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Hi again "Bird of Flame"...I do see your point. And it could very well be my impatience and lack of understanding that has me trying to reach some final conclusion. This young man does have me somewhat confused, and confusion is something I try to avoid in life. I actually decided to do a little investigative work with him, just to see what his reaction would be.
The other day that we spent together was so nice, we got along very well, talked about any and everything. I could sense he was attracted to me, but at the same time kept away, it was strange. One minute he would have his arm around me, next minute he would be on the other side of the room. I think that has something to do with the fact that he got no reaction from me. Anyway, I talked to him the other day and asked him what he was up too, he told me he was working, I said ok and left it at that, but he proceeded to explain what he was working on and why he couldn't hang out. I accepted his reasoning, and did not disturb him for the rest of the day/evening.
The next day, I did not talk to him at all till late in the evening. I had already written him off in my mind as I felt he was looking for a polite way to "exit stage left". But something in me wanted to know why, why he may feel that way, we got along so well. So I sent him a text msg asking if he wanted to get together for a bit to eat. I got no response, so I figured there was my answer. But then he did respond. And ended up calling me. Once again he said he really had work to do and wanted to get to bed early, by then it was already after 10pm. I said ok and proceeded to tell him how strange his behaviour has been, he told me it was nothing personal, this is just how he is...he is always working.
He seems like a very nice young man. I really do enjoy his company. He does confuse me at times. But for whatever reason, I'm still very drawn to him. It doesn't make any sense, cause we have only hung out once and talked a handful of times. I want to believe that everything he says to me is the truth, but the Virgo in me always has doubts.
I'm not going to write him off just yet. I'll see what happens over the next couple of weeks. I should mention, I'm the type of female that would prefer to send a text msg rather than call anyone, he's asked why I don't just call. I don't want to seem to eager (but I can't bring myself to tell him that). I feel like I do all the work. I initiate conversation, the idea of us getting together again(let me correct myself, the initial meeting was his idea, but anything after that has been my doing)...and he initiates intimacy. Although, once I start the conversation, I leave dead air for him to continue it. He's pretty good at that.
As for him just wanting sex, I shouldn't have said that cause I know better. Sex isn't just sex to a scorpio. I think I was just a bit upset by the fact that his behaviour did not coincide with his actions. I just want him to let or allow me to get to know him...but I know with both of us not being very trusting that is going to take some time. One thing I hope he realizes though, is that I don't give up that easy.
I wonder what decisions he's made about me already. The first night we hung out he wanted me to spend the night, but that's not my style .
And the "cold shoulder" comment. I just thought that after we met and hung out he might actually start a conversation with me. Or perhaps call once and a while. I'm always starting conversations with him, although I'm starting to cut back. When I look at it, it appears that his behaviour is still the same, nothing has changed. He didn't start conversation before we met, and he doesn't start them now. I suppose that is where the "fixed" nature fits in.
I'm going to stop typing now, I didn't anticipate typing so much, sorry...lol. I just wanted to try and paint a more detailed picture for yo
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"BUT here's something else you have to understand about scorps. We can make profound, definative, irrevocable decisions in a split second. About the big things. We're often called 'unpredictable' and that's why. We can make these desicions about career, home, etc., but especially about people. In the blink of an eye. When a scorp wants to have sex with someone they've just met, it's probably because he's made one of those split-second BIG decisions that this is a person he has a special connection with. While most other signs might ask for justification or more evidence or whatever, we are content to know what we know when we know it, and leave it at that. We definately believe in love at first sight. In fact, we expect it. We're more wary of the idea that you can build love. In our minds, it's something that's awakened or discovered, but not worked at or achieved."
RIGHT ON, BIRD OF FLAME...RIGHT ON!!!!!!!!!!!! FINALLY SOMEONE GETS IT!
LUV YA!
crackpot fellow scorpio, Kafka
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"Bird of Flame", you are hilarious, lol, : )
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Ooooo Bird of Flame hahah! Hell yes.
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Kudos
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Finally, a break through. My Scorpio speaks "Bird of Flame". He actually initiated conversation, after 2 days of nothing. I chose to see how long it would take him to say a few words. 2 whole days, it drove me mad, but I was determined to wait and see. I had to coerce him though, subtly and nonverbally. And it worked. The conversation wasn't long (cause he had work to do), but at least I see a tiny glimmer of hope, lol. An EXTREMELY tiny glimmer.
I wonder why it took him so long to speak? Or maybe 2 days isn't long at all.
Maybe you could shed a little light on this "Bird of Flame"? I dislike the fact that I'm a "need to know everything" kind of person. But I need to know. I don't really "get" him. The scientist inside of me wants to do little experiments to test his reactions, but the analytical/logical side is saying "he makes no sense...next!"
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Please tell me you are joking "Bird of Flame", you can't possibly leave me hanging like that, lol. While I do find my Scorpio mysterious and all that hoo haa, he is so hard to comprehend. All I can see, is he works very hard, is extremely focused, and doesn't "seem" to have the time of day for me.
He's always polite and friendly though.
Every now and then he throws me off (the other day for example when he spoke). Dare I say I am fond of him, I'm not really sure...part of me definitely is, but there is still another side that questions his "true" intentions.
I keep hearing that a Virgo/Scorpio mix is a "slow to start" kind of friendship/relationship, ain't that the truth. I just don't get him, but I want to. I'd like the opportunity to get to know him, if he would only let me.
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Hello everyone I have really enjoyed the readings that I read. It's very enlightening to read the true insight of a Scorpio. I'm a CAP of course and married to a Scorp. we've been together for 13 years. I also have a 13 year old Scorp daughter. Our house is a silent challenge everyday of the week. As many of you have read and even experienced, Scorp are very possesive, manipulating (so are CAPS), and can be controlling individuals if you let them. I think the only sign that can challenge and also break these "Scorp down fall" traits would be CAPS. And its a struggle and a long battle to the point where its draining. Almost Everywhere you read you will find it written that Scorps and CAPS are made for each other in the LOVE zone. From my experience I find that they should enjoy the friend zone and SHOULD run away from the love zone. Scorps and CAPS are very common for relationships and I believe that its because we're naturally competitive species so in the beginning of the relationship it keeps the drive going. But years later it may be the relationship crashing point. Scorps and Capricorns are so much alike its unbelievable and can be scary. Scorps and CAPS are always gathering information on each other to find a trust zone and when we gather the information we need we can't handle it. Example my husband is always asking me if I dated a specific person but when I volunteer information on a pass relationship he tells me that he doesn't want to hear about any of my boyfriends. Another thing common for scorpios, they want they're women to be so called "no-limit" women in bed but they don't want to think of you performing any of these acts before you met them. ioned topic is where Meticulous Mind believed that the Scorp was trying to get into her pants. That may be true. My husband and I made love after being together for only 5 days and 13 years later its still going strong.
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I apologize I let this comment go before I made a correction to it...... I also wanted to advise that there are always differences based on pass relationships. Not only with love relationships but relationships between family and friends. My husband was raised in a family where trust was not valued. So that makes it hard for anyone to have a trusting relationship if that's where you come from. Through the years we both have grown so if you're willing to put in the time go for it!
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Hello "Cap-licious". After reading what you have said, you have me wondering about a few things. Seeing as you have read my prior writings, maybe you could also shed some light on my somewhat perplexing situation. I can't help but wonder if this Scorp I am trying to get to know is playing games with me or not. On one note he says he wants to see me again, but then again, we rarely talk. It's odd. As a Virgo, I'm accustomed to constant communication and I don't get that from him. He just pops up every now and then. I'm not really sure what is going on. Perhaps you can shed a little light. Or more light that has been shed already.
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Thank you for responding "Bird of Flame". I understand what you are saying. But honestly, this guy is wearing me out. He's too unpredictable. I can't stand being caught of guard, and that is what is happening. Sometimes he talks, and sometimes he doesn't. I must say though, we are communicating more than usual right now. He's even started texting me more (only a little itsy bitsy bit, lol), and has asked why I'm online late at night. Could be a slight bit of possessiveness or just plain curiousity, who knows. But I can usually tell when someone likes or is fond of me. And I don't really get that from him. I feel like he tells me just enough, or says certain things just to keep me here. But what he doesn't realize is that that sort of manipulation or mind stuff does not work with me. In fact it turns me off, pisses me off and eventually I disappear. I don't know, maybe it's just me. Over analytical. But that's who I am. And I think that when you are in a relationship or starting one or friendship...the constant wondering about the nature or extent of things is too mentally draining. I thought I liked mystery...I don't know now. Looks like a lot of unnecessary work.
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my mother is a virgo & a life with her/I is WWIII everyday. I cannot imagine a virgo woman & a scorp guy being together. Sounds very interesting!!
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youth has nothing to do with it, as I'm almost 30. It's everytime we're together. When you're an adult, that doesnt mean to stop existing.
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bird of flame, I thank you for the interesting scorpio stories...I have Moon and Sun in the 8th house of scorpio and in many ways I think and feel like a true scorpio; and also this helps me to understand myself...
All my life ( I'm not in fact that old...:-) I've been dangerously attracted to scorpio males, God knows why! It seems like I have a built-in scorpio-detector and although my relationship with them are very painful I still go for it like hypnotized! I like to be in control and with them I never am, always on moving sands...
I 've come to find out that the man ( scopio, of course:-) I 've been in love with for the past 6 years is going to get married! I'm crushed! We had a long , full of hick-ups stormy relationship, we are madly in love with each other, we think we can not be toghther beacause we are too afraid of the outcome, too afraid that it will ruin our normal-people lives! He is just doing it to feel secure and also because he has no hope to live for in what regards me! We have never trusted each other, always suspected that we were playing with each other hearts, in short:a total mass!
And now I don't know what to do: I would really want to get in contact with him and have a final explanation, but am too afraid of been rejected like in the past;and too proud! I know pride has nothing to do with love, but...
Is it worth trying something? what do you think? I've always had this feeling that he is the love of my life,he is the only man I've thought about every day for the past 6 years, but it seems that we can not be toghether!Sad
I could just suffer in silence, but the thought that I would miss the love of my life out of stupid pride is killing me!
Please, a word of advice from a scorpio soul? Thank you!
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Hello everyone, it has been a while. "Bird of Flame", I'd like you to know that I took everything you said into consideration, and just tried to relax and just see where things go (SO NOT ME). Anyway, I decided to take a break from my Scorpio, I didn't talk to him for a week, just to clear my thoughts and relax for a bit. When we resumed talking a week later, it was cool, he asked how I was, what I have been up too, and when we were going to get together again (to my surprise). We hung out, it was REALLY nice smile. But something had me a little puzzled. I'm a single mother, and he asked to take my child and myself out one evening. That totally caught me off guard (he is very good at doing that). The invitation was proceeded by "I'm not trying to be your baby daddy, I just think it would be fun". I said that might be nice, but was still perplexed as to what I was just asked after such a short period of time. Either way, I'm just wondering if you could perhaps shed some light on that.
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are you a homosexy?
it's cool if you are...I used to live in a prominent gay community...
*accepts you with love*
coming out can be tough...
but dxp? BRILLIANT! no better place to start...just get yer feet wet on public message boards for now and tell ma an pa later
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this is an old post
I don't think meticulous is going to come back...
Sad
*sigh*
why do I bother...
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Bird of Flame, I like that name too. And you have my opposites (scorp/virgo), I am virgo/scorp. Haha. Keep the advise coming, I am seeing a scorp too! He always likes to know where I am. He wouldn't ask if he didn't care!!
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US are you bird of flame ??? if so I can't believe it. coz BOF was so different.
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do you mean to say that you are "a_bird_of_flame" and not "bird of flame" ?
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If so, then have you seen the thread I started long time back under the title " bird of flame" ?

bird of flame by itself is so beautiful a name. Why change it ?
and isn't your moon in capricorn and ascendant in virgo ?
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yes ascendant and rising are the same.
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