Desperately need advice
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Bunny83 on Tuesday, December 25, 2018 and has 10 replies.
Hi, I'm a virgo gal in need of some advice. For a few months I've been dating a scorpio man, we had a wonderful time, laughed talked etc. He opened up to me so much. However, I was always hesitant, I didn't want to meet right a way, but he always kept on. When we finally met, sparks flew. It was magic, we laughed as if we knew each other for years. After sometime, we started sleeping together. It was amazing, he was everything I could've imagined. After a while he got a little distant, that was OK he is going through some personal stuff, which he has confined into me. Our paths and time in life grew difficult for us to have a relationship, so we both agreed to fwb. At first I was OK, we told each other not to fall in love, but I did. Last week we had plans to go out, and be together. But he called it off, and I was fine. He had an explanation, and we talked for a while he confined in me about his ex, and his situation with his kids. How she was, etc. He mumbled something that sounded like he loved me. So, we made plans for us to go out the next night. We'll, that came and he never texted me all day. Around 7pm I finally texted, no go? He said sorry, he was helping his son. Ok, fine I was cool with that, but I got mad because he never told me. He said it was last minute, I said fine, still could've told me. So, the next day I told him this wasn't going to work. I'm not fwb material, and I can't do this. He was like, OK if you want ill stop texting you, best of luck. A few days latter, I broke down in tears because I felt as if I lost him. I fell deeply in love and texted him that. I said I have never felt this way before, and I have never loved anyone as much as I did him and always will. After that, I heard nothing. Did I blow it big-time? It's been almost a week since we broke up, and he has made no effort to contact me. Is it over
As a scorpio, it's hard for us to ghost people so expect a response. It's eating him up inside having to ignore you but he probably thinks this is good for you both. Like I said, he'll come around and contact you.
As for you, grow. That's the best advice I can give. Grow in any area of your choosing, but take some time to grow.
& you sending that "I love you" text was a great idea! Don't think you blew it. Scorpios need reassurance in love. From the looks of it, your boy is going through something difficult and he wants to protect you by keeping you out of it. He probably has some dark emotions he doesn't want you to see.
You Gucci lil mama, stay positive!
As for you, grow. That's the best advice I can give. Grow in any area of your choosing, but take some time to grow.
& you sending that "I love you" text was a great idea! Don't think you blew it. Scorpios need reassurance in love. From the looks of it, your boy is going through something difficult and he wants to protect you by keeping you out of it. He probably has some dark emotions he doesn't want you to see.
You Gucci lil mama, stay positive!
Thank you all for the advice. When I broke it off with him, he said he wouldn't contact me and delete my number if that's what I wanted. I said it maybe best, because I'm going to hurt him. I wasn't ready to jump into anything serious, but it seemed like it was going to be. That was before the love confess. Since then I hadn't heard anything, I'm not the type that will text him endlessly either, I don't want to be a stalker, lol. I just wish he would contact me and say it is over, instead of leaving me in the dark. He's not a bad guy at all, I think our lives are just to complicated for us to be together right now. I feel that in my gut. I almost texted him last night and said I missed him, but I didn't want to seem desperate. Are these good signs he is ignoring me, or should I just forget it all?
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Posted by Bunny83
Hi, I'm a virgo gal in need of some advice. For a few months I've been dating a scorpio man, we had a wonderful time, laughed talked etc. He opened up to me so much. However, I was always hesitant, I didn't want to meet right a way, but he always kept on. When we finally met, sparks flew. It was magic, we laughed as if we knew each other for years. After sometime, we started sleeping together. It was amazing, he was everything I could've imagined. After a while he got a little distant, that was OK he is going through some personal stuff, which he has confined into me. Our paths and time in life grew difficult for us to have a relationship, so we both agreed to fwb. At first I was OK, we told each other not to fall in love, but I did. Last week we had plans to go out, and be together. But he called it off, and I was fine. He had an explanation, and we talked for a while he confined in me about his ex, and his situation with his kids. How she was, etc. He mumbled something that sounded like he loved me. So, we made plans for us to go out the next night. We'll, that came and he never texted me all day. Around 7pm I finally texted, no go? He said sorry, he was helping his son. Ok, fine I was cool with that, but I got mad because he never told me. He said it was last minute, I said fine, still could've told me. So, the next day I told him this wasn't going to work. I'm not fwb material, and I can't do this. He was like, OK if you want ill stop texting you, best of luck. A few days latter, I broke down in tears because I felt as if I lost him. I fell deeply in love and texted him that. I said I have never felt this way before, and I have never loved anyone as much as I did him and always will. After that, I heard nothing. Did I blow it big-time? It's been almost a week since we broke up, and he has made no effort to contact me. Is it over
No you didn't blow it. You probably did yourself a favour. It doesn't sound like he's in a place to be with anyone, so why are you willing to settle for less than what you want? Before reading your entire post I already knew you would not be happy with a "fwb" relationship given how you described your encounter and who began to shift their focus first. I am not sure why you agreed to it. When you don't listen to and honour what you're truly thinking from the start, well....this happens.
The second version of the Scorp you encountered is the man he is. I am not suggesting he is a bad person, simply the distant, distracted, poor communicator is the Scorp he is right now, not the patient, magical, wonderful person you you fell for so you will have to ask yourself if that is enough. I am distinguishing between the two because I notice female Virgos seem to have difficulty letting go of the version of Scorps they create for themselves. I am curious though, did the conversation ending the fwb go exactly as you presented it? What was said by you and him exactly?
Posted by Bunny83
Thank you all for the advice. When I broke it off with him, he said he wouldn't contact me and delete my number if that's what I wanted. I said it maybe best, because I'm going to hurt him. I wasn't ready to jump into anything serious, but it seemed like it was going to be. That was before the love confess. Since then I hadn't heard anything...
Okay, you're all over the place. So you didn't want anything serious, then when you began to feel something decided to end things rather than talk to him about it?
Posted by Bunny83
I just wish he would contact me and say it is over, instead of leaving me in the dark.
Why would that be necessary when you just stated you ended things? How could you possibly be left in the dark?
Posted by Bunny83
Are these good signs he is ignoring me, or should I just forget it all?click to expand
I'm lost on the logic you're applying here. When is someone ignoring you ever a "good" sign? It either reflects "bugger off" or "I'm immature and don't know how to be in a healthy relationship".
As a Scorp, if I ignore you it means the former.
Thanks all for the help. I appreciate it very much. I texted a merry Christmas to him but no response silly me. Now that I'm thinking clearly and with all the responses I got, no this is not the type of person I want to settle for. I'm all over the place because I was upset and confused. I'm still going through my 7 stages of grief of the break up, but I'll be fine. I don't know why I went for an fwb relationship, at the time it seemed right. But, that's not how I am wired. Once I sleep with a man that is how I show love, because I'm not good with words to express my love. I need to cut that out and get to know the man first. Thank you all again, and happy holidays.
How long will I know if it is over if he keeps ignoring me? I want to text him in a few days, that I miss him so much.
Posted by ImpulsvOK, I texted him and told. Him I missed him and said I was sorry for the way I ended it. He texted. Back and said merry Christmas. Do I text back and say hi, or wait?Posted by Bunny83
Thanks all for the help. I appreciate it very much. I texted a merry Christmas to him but no response silly me. Now that I'm thinking clearly and with all the responses I got, no this is not the type of person I want to settle for. I'm all over the place because I was upset and confused. I'm still going through my 7 stages of grief of the break up, but I'll be fine. I don't know why I went for an fwb relationship, at the time it seemed right. But, that's not how I am wired. Once I sleep with a man that is how I show love, because I'm not good with words to express my love. I need to cut that out and get to know the man first. Thank you all again, and happy holidays.
It’s good you discovered this now
N it’s good he’s not responding
I was in similar situations but he responded
Made things worse as was string along
For that I can’t forgive I would have rather he do what your Scorpio is doing
It’s good for both to endclick to expand
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