Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
I am a Scorpio Woman dating a Scorpio Man for a couple of months and he keeps hinting around how he likes to be dominated in the bedroom. I am totally willing to play around with this and it actually intriques me, but I have never done anything like this before and I'm not sure how far I should go with it on the first time. I'm not into pain and humiliation at all, just playful domination roleplay and bossing him around. I don't want to freak him out and I'm a little shy about it. What should I do to test the waters on how far I should take it? Should I start by playfully tieing him up? Should I just wear something a little sexy instead of going all out with Leather? He has mentioned a couple of times that he thinks I would look great with red lipstick. I Know I should just ask him what he wants, but I feel it would put too much pressure on me and just ruin the surprise.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
YES! But they'll switch off, too. Tying him up and blindfolding him would be a good start. Any sexy lingerie would work great, and if you're not quite ready for the whip, use a feather and work your way up to the whip later. Ice cubes are fun too...as well as candle wax...but you might want to check into that one first. Not everyone is into it cause...well..it hurts and leaves marks. Good luck!
Signed Up: Feb 08, 2008 Comments: 0 · Posts: 1048 · Topics: 11
gslove...sex is an individual thing. One size doesnt fit all. This is something personal that you need to discuss with him. This is one of those cases where understanding each other without saying a word just doesnt work. You need to get vocal with him..then and only then will you not make a fool of yourself and learn how to please him...doing things that HE likes...not things random people have suggested.
Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
Good advice newbie!! The other thing I'm worried about is introducing this all too soon into the relationship. Should I wait until the sex needs spicing up! Maybe I shouldn't spoil him so much yet.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
"Should I wait until the sex needs spicing up! Maybe I shouldn't spoil him so much yet. " Naw...he's already voiced what he wants to you. He's not going to be freaked out by being tied up and blindfolded. That's light. Trust your intuition. You'll know what he wants before he even has to ask for it.
Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
Actually, being a Scorpio woman it kind of turns me on to dominate him in the bedroom. I just hope he doesn't like to be humiliated. I would be a little freaked out by someone who would want to be completely humiliated like that. I'm glad he doesn't want to dominate me though. I'm definitely not into that. In or out of the bedroom.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
He probably doesn't wanna take it that far. After your first session...just ask him if that's what he had in mind. He'll tell you, in detail. Scorp men love talking about sex second only to actually doing it...
Signed Up: Feb 08, 2008 Comments: 0 · Posts: 1048 · Topics: 11
"The other thing I'm worried about is introducing this all too soon into the relationship. Should I wait until the sex needs spicing up! Maybe I shouldn't spoil him so much yet. " Let the sex progress with the relationship. As you get to know him better, you'll get more comfortable with him...and then you'll find it easier to reveal your raunchy self. You're still too early in the relationship...the more you progress and the more he becomes a friend and a lover..the easier it becomes for you to share your intimate sex secrets with him and he with you. Then you both feel less embarrassed and the sex gets taken to another level...together with the closeness. However, if closeness is not what you're after and you're just looking to show him your skills, feel free to dive right in. Although...cuz it's still so early in the relationship, he'll probably raise an eyebrow...and being a scorp, he'll start wondering how many guys you've done this with. What you're trying to do is allow it to progress with HIM so he feels that you are doing this with him and only him.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
He will ask for it, gs, after you do it once. As far as every time, everyone is different. If he's gotten turned on previously without it, then that won't change. He's just sharing his desires with you. You should share one of yours too, and spend an evening playing them both out.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
"The only way to find out is communication with your partner." Yeah, it sounds like she hasn't done this before, which makes it tough as she'll be the one doing the dominating. For the one who wants to be the sub, though, half the appeal is the element of mystery. If he tells her exactly what he wants her to do, how and when, it will lessen his enjoyment. GS, if you're not at the point in the relationship where you feel comfortable enough to just let loose and have some fun in bedroom, then wait a bit, ask him if he could go into specifics.
Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
Sea Siren!! I agree with you. I don't want to take out the element of mystery and no I have not done this before, but I do think I will like it, but only with the right person. He makes me feel very sexy and very comfortable and I trust him completely.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
Then, what are you waitin' for, girl? Get your DOM on! Trust is the biggest factor in this type of scenario. He'll love it, and so will you. You'll be in your element! What scorp lady doesn't love being in control? Have fun
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
"I'm going to go order my Dominatrix starter kit right now!" Don't lose the key if you decide on handcuffs! But, you could always SAY you did...just to see the look on his face.
Signed Up: May 21, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
Submissive men come in all varieties. This isnt a sun sign thing its personal to him. You should really discuss his likes and wants with him on BDSM. He can be only a surface level sub or full on dominance and torture. Its really a matter of personal taste.
Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
I'm not sure I want to know if he is into full on dominance and torture :-) Now I'm getting nervous. Haha!! I won't do anything that I'm not comfortable with. I really don't think he is into all that though. I guess I will find out soon enough. He does seem to be really into just normal loving sex so I'm sure there is nothing to worry about.
Signed Up: Aug 11, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
Find out what is his favorite sexual thing and perfect it and spice it up everytime. No scorp man wants to be humiliated but they like for you to take charge more in the action than verbally. Coming from a scorp woman who has been there with a scorp man. That damn scorp on scorp action can be intoxicating in the bedroom!!!
Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
Queenscorp, This is my first experience with another scorpio and it is definitely fireworks. I'm finding myself thinking about the sex constantly. No just the sex either. He spends hours stroking me and actually talking up a storm and cuddling after our hot steamy sex. I have never had a guy who has so much energy after sex. Usually it's the opposite. They just fall asleep. He is completely spoiling me which is why I want to do everything I can to make sure he is happy. If I keep him happy I have no doubt that he will keep me happy.
Signed Up: Oct 18, 2007 Comments: 0 · Posts: 2502 · Topics: 29
"This question has been asked a few times, but yes, a lot of Scorpio men are secretly submissive in bed and desire to be dominated. Also, I've learned a lot of them are bi-sexual." Because this is scientifically based on the zero scorp men you've slept with. Or maybe you just pulled this one out of your ass... as usual.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
"Maybe its just me, but talking about techniques takes the fun out of it." Yeah, I'm with you. Sometimes it's good to just let loose and have some fun instead of taking everything so friggin' seriously. I doubt I would want to go to bed with someone at all if everything had to be discussed beforehand like a military mission. Just goooo with the floooow.
Signed Up: Feb 19, 2005 Comments: 1 · Posts: 4444 · Topics: 44
Yeah, I've ever gotten anything but praise in that area, so I won't be changing it up. lol Lady M, for the heavy stuff, and if that is the main reason you are coming together, I absolutely agree with you. But just light stuff in the bedroom with someone you're in a relationship with..it's just a different vibe. If he's just been hinting, and he thinks red lipstick is kinky, I seriously doubt being tied up is going to cross his boundaries.
Signed Up: May 21, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
Oh yeah for sure. Im sure many people dont know the first thing about true kink, lol. I agree she should start light and go with the flow. I personally have no problem discussing these things with anyone, but then again Im blunt like that.
Signed Up: Jan 29, 2006 Comments: 0 · Posts: 835 · Topics: 31
I've decided that I'm just going to start with leaving him a note on the door that tells him to come in and take his clothes off and put on the blindfold and then sit patiently on the sofa. Then I will just come out and make him stand up so that I can inspect his body and just ask him questions like "Who does your body belong to?" while lightly touching and teasing him. Then I'm going to make him get on his knees and do some things to me after I get him all worked up. We will see how he likes that first before I start putting the handcuffs on him and making him call me Mistress. Haha!!