Emotional Unavailable Aries with Scorpio Woman!!

Well... I have been dating this Aries for 7 months now. I met him through an associate of mine a little over a year ago. At first, I was not interested in him. Well, overtime, him and I start to converse more. We start dating in January, and everything seems amazing... Dinners, outings, playoff games.. you name it! However, one night when we were talking, he mentioned that he and his ex (Leo) broke up the actual day him and I met, and how they were together for three years. Then he would begin telling me how she would contact him, yet he would ignore the calls... He would say that he was "indifferent" to her, yet always seem to have this anger against her. On top of this, he was finding it difficult to find a job, and he was going through a lot financially and socially with his surrounding friends...

But then things began to move too fast and we ended up getting caught up in our infatuations. I ended up meeting his parents 4 months into our relationship, and then I would begin seeing him everyday!!

Eventually after 5 months, he put the breaks on the out of control train, saying that "we should take it slower so we can really enjoy what it happening instead of rushing everything"... Then he mentioned "although I'm over my ex, I still need to make sure I can place the feelings correctly before moving on with you..." and ultimately said, "although i don't want to be with her, i cant be with you either until i know i can be that man 110% that i can be for you.. and right now i'm not there"... He has his moments but for the most part.. but I can still feel the emotional strain and because of this, it causes emotional disconnect within me as well..It sucks because he is such a good man...

So now this leaves me in an awkward position...It's been 7 months, and I am dating an emotionally unavailable man... We still go out, hang with mutual friends, his mother still calls to check on me... My parents are still there for him... but yet... he is emotionally unavailable because of financial issues, his horrible job, and romantic emotional disconnect ...What to do?

What I think it is is a combo of him not being ready and me dealing with new found family issues that are affecting my perceptions on relationships. The break is now teaching me how to be patient. I guess I just feel that even if two ppl are going through things, that they can go through things together...

His natal chart

Rising Sign is in 22 Degrees Cancer
Sun is in 10 Degrees Aries
Moon is in 10 Degrees Virgo
Mercury is in 21 Degrees Pisces
Venus is in 26 Degrees Taurus
Mars is in 25 Degrees Capricorn
Jupiter is in 04 Degrees Taurus
Saturn is in 02 Degrees Capricorn
Uranus is in 01 Degrees Capricorn
Neptune is in 10 Degrees Capricorn
Pluto is in 12 Degrees Scorpio
N. Node is in 23 Degrees Pisces.

Mine:

Rising Sign is in 14 Degrees Capricorn
Sun is in 09 Degrees Scorpio.
Moon is in 01 Degrees Aries.
Mercury is in 28 Degrees Libra.
Venus is in 28 Degrees Scorpio.
Mars is in 16 Degrees Libra.
Jupiter is in 22 Degrees Aries.
Saturn is in 18 Degrees Sagittarius.
Uranus is in 24 Degrees Sagittarius.
Neptune is in 05 Degrees Capricorn.
Pluto is in 09 Degrees Scorpio.
N. Node is in 01 Degrees Aries

Well.... about him and his anger toward his ex. My Aries use to do that whenever the topic of ex's got brought up. He had alot of anger toward her. I fianlly called him out on it and told him it sounded like he was still really hurt about it. He admitted that he was and yes he cared for her alot but he'd been burned badly and it pissed him off. After that conversation he's not said a word about it.

At least he's being honest with you rather then stringing you along and leaving you wondering. Now you have to decide if you want to give him his space and wait it out or move on.


I have to agree that Aries ARE the best 🙂

Oh yes, I have been giving him space... It just gets hard sometimes, esp. because he wishes he wasn't going through what he is going through. He continues to call and wants to still see me when possible. It isn't a cut buddy situation either; I was in those for 3 years.. so yup, I'm sure of it!! Space is just so hard when you are attracted to someone so much. I went to the Venus Files site and it was AMAZING in terms of compatibility...

But yes... I don't believe in "waiting"... I just believe in chilling and enjoying the moment. Whats the rush?

I waited out my Aries while he dealt with some issues too. Sometimes I think I had more patience for him then I should have. He pushed me too my limit more then once but it worked out. We're engaged now 🙂

It's all on your shoulders and knowing what you are willing to deal with and decided if you want to move on. Sometimes it does suck though 😢

Posted by emeraldgem
"we should take it slower so we can really enjoy what it happening instead of rushing everything"... This has to be the most classic crap line ever.

::waves red flag::

lol I thought so too.