Falling for a married Scorpio man, and he is interested in me too

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by AmberV on Thursday, December 17, 2015 and has 57 replies.
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I am a 29 year old Cancerian woman who works with a married Scorpio man. We have become quite friendly of late and have developed what some might call an 'emotional affair' as we text each other quite a lot out of work (but nothing sordid), and he has taken me out for lunch a few times too. We are a bit flirtatious but nothing over the top. Nothing physical has happened between us, it is more like we have developed a close connection/friendship, however I know he finds me attractive as he has made the comment quite a few times.

I am a bit confused as to what is going on in the Scorpio's man mind and what he wants from the situation, but obviously I am not going to ask him.
I have never been in this situation before, and would never go for a married man, but from the moment I met Scorpio three years ago there has been heaps of chemistry between us and I just can't ignore it. I haven't had this type of connection with anyone before and I almost feel like I am falling in LOVE with him! He even said that we probably shouldn't be hanging out outside of work, but he can't seem to help himself as it hasnt stopped him contacting me and wanting to see me.

What is going on in Scorpios mind? Is it possible he is developing strong feelings for me too or is it purely sexual? What will happen if this continues?
I don't want him to leave his wife for me as I am actually a bit of a commitment phobic and find it hard to see anything long term, but I can never seen us ending this 'flirtation' either as we both seem to be a bit attached.
What does it matter what's going on in the Scorpios mind if you like you claim, would "never go for a married man"? This seems like a consistant thing with Cancer women, either side of the fence they're on.
Sorry I will rephrase, I never THOUGHT I would go for a married man, but I can't stop spending time with him............
Just imagine for a second how would u feel if u was his wife and he'd flirt and do shit with a co worker chick. Have some respect and dont be selfish just because you feel some kind of "magic connection". There are other men out there.

Another advice to think about " if he cheats with you on his wife he'll do it also on you one day"
You are both right... What is happening here is very wrong. I should put an end to it but I don't know how. We have to work together and he is very high up in the company I work for. I feel I have already got too deep into it Sad
hmmm
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Affairs... Usually, never end well.

That is coming from experience..
Can we continue to have a friendship????????
Posted by AmberV
Sorry I will rephrase, I never THOUGHT I would go for a married man, but I can't stop spending time with him............

*massive eye roll*

Translation: I never THOUGHT I'd be tempted to participate in homewrecking..........
Posted by AmberV
Can we continue to have a friendship????????

Logic says nope.
I can tell you how wrong entertaining a married man is til I'm blue in the face, but from reading the OP I don't think you're ready to cut this emotional affair off for good. Instead you're trying to analyze his thoughts... what he wants...

I just hope whatever decision you make, it doesn't come back to bite you.
OP that's pretty clear that you really don't want to end this relationship. You came here just to confirm that he has strong feelings for you. I would say just avoid him and try to distance yourself from him he is a married man just leave him alone and Respect yourself. And you can never be just friends with a one you have feelings for. try to leave this job if possible if not then make it very clear to him that you are not interested in any kind of relationship with him(Which you obviously won't do).
Man, I'm sorry but at this stage in life I'm really starting to believe that men aren't valued or wanted by women unless they are attached to somebody...and that's really tragic
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I've got this feral single mom after my husband.

She's missing a few teeth.

He's a scorpio too.

Ha. Wait a tic. She's missing them *now*?

Yep. Looks like too much meth.

3 kids different daddies.

Whenever my husband is out mowing the lawn he's got his shirt off.

She comes out and starts chatting.

Whenever i come out to work in my veggie patch, she walks away.

She's even made him cookies.

He threw them out in case they were laced with meth and cockroaches.



Was my way of jokingly asking if you'd helped her out with that. Not in any way saying you hafta fight for your fella, but you come off as hella scrappy. Big Grin
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Laughing totally caught that. You funnny.
OP -I hope you get hit by a bus. I hate women like you.
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.
Posted by Greentea
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Yep.
My advice would be that u start to distance urself little by little. That way u avoid problems at work. Make excuses or whatever but start steering away from that situation. If u have the guts than straight up tell him that its not in ur interest to cause any problems with his marriage etc. He'll understand. Trust me, if u REALLY want to cut someone off then u'll find a way. Be sincere and everything will be good
You were "woman" enough to get yourself into this mess, be "woman" enough to get yourself out of it. Wtf do you think this is , a soap opera. You're ruining a fucking marriage, skank.
one one can ruin his marriage if he doesn't allow it.

he is the bitch not her. she is not committed to his marriage.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Man, I'm sorry but at this stage in life I'm really starting to believe that men aren't valued or wanted by women unless they are attached to somebody...and that's really tragic

nope. not this lady
Posted by Greentea
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Married men need to held to a higher degree. always steppin out.
Posted by AmberV
You are both right... What is happening here is very wrong. I should put an end to it but I don't know how. We have to work together and he is very high up in the company I work for. I feel I have already got too deep into it Sad

Quit.

The precedent has already been

set here at DXP.




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I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Because Capricorns never cheat, right? -_-



It has nothing to do with me being Capricorn. It just so happens this scandalous wench is a Cancer. Which she is, a cancer to this man and his marriage.
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To which he is utterly complicit.


:/
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Posted by Greentea
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Married men need to held to a higher degree. always steppin out.
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Oh I agree, that man isn't great either, but it's skanks like her that bring a motivation for these married men to step out on the loyal wife. They think they're better than the wife, which in reality they're just scandalous bitches knowingly messing with taken men. Skank = loyal wife...there is no competition.
Her character is flawed.

I feel bad for the wife, not these two hoes.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Man, I'm sorry but at this stage in life I'm really starting to believe that men aren't valued or wanted by women unless they are attached to somebody...and that's really tragic


No that's not true, it's just bitches like the OP think they're special, and better than the man's wife, when in reality the man is just getting a kick out of stupid kid that falls for their seductive bullshit because it's fun and new because it's a double life for them.
Posted by Arielle83
Have you guys heard of Gerard Baden clay?

Sept 9, 1970

And how he had multiple affairs on his cancer wife July 1, 1969.

He eventually murdered her and tossed her in the creek.

His mistress Toni mchugh is one hideous muppet and his wife was a beauty queen.

Anyways the mistress thought they could all be together like a big happy family while the beauty queen succumbs to depression and murder by the man who brought her depression.

Ya good luck amber!


I need to Google that story.

Some people are just pieces of work.
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Posted by Greentea
Posted by Arielle83
Have you guys heard of Gerard Baden clay?

Sept 9, 1970

And how he had multiple affairs on his cancer wife July 1, 1969.

He eventually murdered her and tossed her in the creek.

His mistress Toni mchugh is one hideous muppet and his wife was a beauty queen.

Anyways the mistress thought they could all be together like a big happy family while the beauty queen succumbs to depression and murder by the man who brought her depression.

Ya good luck amber!


I need to Google that story.

Some people are just pieces of work.

They reduced his charge from murder to manslaughter. So he'll be out soon.

All cuz they couldn't prove intent or accident.

His multiple affairs prove intent. Plus the life insurance policy.
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Poor wife. She got the shitty end of the deal.


I'm hoping CC doesn't find this out, I know she'd have.something to say bease he's virgo.
What's the wife's sign?
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I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Married men need to held to a higher degree. always steppin out.


Oh I agree, that man isn't great either, but it's skanks like her that bring a motivation for these married men to step out on the loyal wife. They think they're better than the wife, which in reality they're just scandalous bitches knowingly messing with taken men. Skank = loyal wife...there is no competition.
Her character is flawed.

I feel bad for the wife, not these two hoes.

Who says the wife is loyal? Sorry....love playing Devils advocate.....but...she could be cheating too.
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Ya but this isn't about her, and she.could be sitting at home thinking the love of her life is a devoted husband. Stop making excuses for sluts.


Are you one?
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Posted by Greentea
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Married men need to held to a higher degree. always steppin out.


Oh I agree, that man isn't great either, but it's skanks like her that bring a motivation for these married men to step out on the loyal wife. They think they're better than the wife, which in reality they're just scandalous bitches knowingly messing with taken men. Skank = loyal wife...there is no competition.
Her character is flawed.

I feel bad for the wife, not these two hoes.

Who says the wife is loyal? Sorry....love playing Devils advocate.....but...she could be cheating too.
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Very true! I don't condone affairs, but there's more to the story that we, as outsiders, aren't aware of.
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I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Married men need to held to a higher degree. always steppin out.


Oh I agree, that man isn't great either, but it's skanks like her that bring a motivation for these married men to step out on the loyal wife. They think they're better than the wife, which in reality they're just scandalous bitches knowingly messing with taken men. Skank = loyal wife...there is no competition.
Her character is flawed.

I feel bad for the wife, not these two hoes.

Who says the wife is loyal? Sorry....love playing Devils advocate.....but...she could be cheating too.


Ya but this isn't about her, and she.could be sitting at home thinking the love of her life is a devoted husband. Stop making excuses for sluts.


Are you one?
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And another thing for those of you that are that fecking glib...is that when a man wants to fuck you, they will make their wife look like the devil. That's how it works. It's not rocket science, but somehow women who get involved with these jackasses will make up any excuse.
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Have you guys heard of Gerard Baden clay?

Sept 9, 1970

And how he had multiple affairs on his cancer wife July 1, 1969.

He eventually murdered her and tossed her in the creek.

His mistress Toni mchugh is one hideous muppet and his wife was a beauty queen.

Anyways the mistress thought they could all be together like a big happy family while the beauty queen succumbs to depression and murder by the man who brought her depression.

Ya good luck amber!


I need to Google that story.

Some people are just pieces of work.

They reduced his charge from murder to manslaughter. So he'll be out soon.

All cuz they couldn't prove intent or accident.

His multiple affairs prove intent. Plus the life insurance policy.



Poor wife. She got the shitty end of the deal.


I'm hoping CC doesn't find this out, I know she'd have.something to say bease he's virgo.

That's fuked up why didn't he just divorce her? Was the ugly chick a Taurus?

Lol Virgos are shady! I bet him married her because he could use her unfortunately he was trash and attracted to trash so he got his kicks in the side.

Virgo men are very good actors! Sociopaths really
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LOL! I knew it wouldn't take long for you to show up.

I dont know the woman he was having an affair with bday, tried looking for it.
I dont know but if you have any common sense, don't go for a married men. Some women may say go for it because you insist that he likes you but what if it was the other way around and the husband you love had a mistress? you gotta think about if the situation was reversed and how it would feel in the other persons shoes no matter if the relationship between him and his wife maybe a mess, DO NOT EVER GET IN BETWEEN A MARRIED COUPLE, EVER!
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Posted by Arielle83
Have you guys heard of Gerard Baden clay?

Sept 9, 1970

And how he had multiple affairs on his cancer wife July 1, 1969.

He eventually murdered her and tossed her in the creek.

His mistress Toni mchugh is one hideous muppet and his wife was a beauty queen.

Anyways the mistress thought they could all be together like a big happy family while the beauty queen succumbs to depression and murder by the man who brought her depression.

Ya good luck amber!


I need to Google that story.

Some people are just pieces of work.

They reduced his charge from murder to manslaughter. So he'll be out soon.

All cuz they couldn't prove intent or accident.

His multiple affairs prove intent. Plus the life insurance policy.



Poor wife. She got the shitty end of the deal.


I'm hoping CC doesn't find this out, I know she'd have.something to say bease he's virgo.

That's fuked up why didn't he just divorce her? Was the ugly chick a Taurus?

Lol Virgos are shady! I bet him married her because he could use her unfortunately he was trash and attracted to trash so he got his kicks in the side.

Virgo men are very good actors! Sociopaths really


LOL! I knew it wouldn't take long for you to show up.

I dont know the woman he was having an affair with bday, tried looking for it.

It doesn't matter it scares me and is a warning! Virgos really take advantage of crabs purity
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But I thought virgos were supposed to be the pure ones doe.
Posted by Alpha
It's very easy to be judgemental and on the other hand, extremely difficult to understand emotions. But this is an online thread, so who cares, eh?


Do you think she's the only one who's felt attraction for a taken man?... no, however you have a choice to do what's right or to do what's wrong. What prize do you get in the end...an unfaithful man no doubt, amd what does he get, a woman who's brazen enough to get in between a marriage. What does that say about them...

Do they think that people will support their happily ever after.
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Posted by AmberV
I am a 29 year old Cancerian woman who works with a married Scorpio man. We have become quite friendly of late and have developed what some might call an 'emotional affair' as we text each other quite a lot out of work (but nothing sordid), and he has taken me out for lunch a few times too. We are a bit flirtatious but nothing over the top. Nothing physical has happened between us, it is more like we have developed a close connection/friendship, however I know he finds me attractive as he has made the comment quite a few times.

I am a bit confused as to what is going on in the Scorpio's man mind and what he wants from the situation, but obviously I am not going to ask him.
I have never been in this situation before, and would never go for a married man, but from the moment I met Scorpio three years ago there has been heaps of chemistry between us and I just can't ignore it. I haven't had this type of connection with anyone before and I almost feel like I am falling in LOVE with him! He even said that we probably shouldn't be hanging out outside of work, but he can't seem to help himself as it hasnt stopped him contacting me and wanting to see me.

What is going on in Scorpios mind? Is it possible he is developing strong feelings for me too or is it purely sexual? What will happen if this continues?
I don't want him to leave his wife for me as I am actually a bit of a commitment phobic and find it hard to see anything long term, but I can never seen us ending this 'flirtation' either as we both seem to be a bit attached.

You're 29 years old? And you're asking yourself if he leaves his wife for you it might not work cause you're a commitment phobe? Do you live in Neverland?

You can't be this delusional and call yourself a crab!

I'm officially taking away your crab card!

You're not welcome. You can't sit with us!

Forget the homewrecking your planning, what's worse is how stupid and delusional you are and you're 29. Wtf! You can't be this dumb! You're old!
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I noticed that first paragraph you wrote and was going to comment on it but got sidetracked, she's Def delusional. Very immature for someone of her age.
Posted by backtokemet
I believe that chemistry is called forbidden fruit chemistry !
don't be a CANCER to his marriage (even if many people don't really take marriage seriously these days)




Marriage is supposed to be sacred..and it's women like her don't help.
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Why is the OP posting this what exactly does she expect people to say?

As far as I can tell, she definitely doesn't expect you to post another comment in this thread. You're all over the place.


Just in the one place. It doesn't really matter anyway. But it's what most people are thinking.

She is naive and throwing herself onto a knife in a house that's on fire. She shouldn't even be there. She doesn't have to be there. She is being selfish and self destructive. This a mess.

It's not going to bring her happiness even.



Agreed. But can't we politely explain it to her so that she can actually understand where she is wrong and the msg we're trying to convey?
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I don't agree with being nice to women who try or are strategically trying to get themselves involved with married men...I don't think she's naive at all, she's just fucked up.
Posted by WhiteChocolate
Let's not absolve him of responsibility either.


He is in no way a good, loyal husband, however she has the vagina that he wants to access, she dictates where this relationship goes, not him.

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Posted by AmberV
Can we continue to have a friendship????????

Oh good lord you are so so naive. Why would you want to be friends with such a bastard?
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She doesn't want a friendship....what she meant is can I continue sticking my tits and vag in his face, I still want to make his dick hard with our "emotional" affair. I just want to feck his mind, if i.can't feck his dik.

She's a piece of work I tell ya.
We don't even know if this asshole has kids, not just a wife.
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Let's not absolve him of responsibility either.


He is in no way a good, loyal husband, however she has the vagina that he wants to access, she dictates where this relationship goes, not him.



Well what is he even doing?

He chats to her and goes out to lunch.

She reckons they are both flirting.

He's a scorpio, they flirt. Maybe it's all in her head.
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He's telling her they shouldn't hang out outside of work, but he can't help himself and contacts her to see her. Friends or coworkers that just want to flirt don't say that stuff if they're just "innocently flirting. I've seen that kind of flirting and it's usually just in jest. This is different, guy is looking to get in amd she's enjoying it to the point that she's considering having an affair with this guy because she's getting emotionally involved, when she shouldn't have.

I get how these things can happen, I just don't respect people who allow their emotions get the better of their judgement/logic, and use emotions as an excuse. It's just selfish.
Posted by FrostAndBite
He most likely won't leave his wife. Fixed signs rarely do over having affairs because a rush of temporary new love or new sex just can't trump the consistency and stability they have with their partner. So count that out.

You say your commitment phobic anyways so that probably makes him more attractive to you, since you know he won't want anything more than a subsidized relationship.

But you're already starting to have feelings and you two haven't kissed or had sex. So don't do that.

You can shut this down early and prevent (anymore) damage or a terrible fallout. Just tell him you think it's best to only communicate at work. Decline any offers for lunch unless it's with other coworkers. Just continually say you prefer to work at work. Don't talk about why or feelings of anything cause that'll just turn into emotional baiting. Keep it short and to the point and he'll get the picture.

Actually has a lot of truth to it from my experience
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Posted by Greentea
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.

She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.

Married men need to held to a higher degree. always steppin out.


Oh I agree, that man isn't great either, but it's skanks like her that bring a motivation for these married men to step out on the loyal wife. They think they're better than the wife, which in reality they're just scandalous bitches knowingly messing with taken men. Skank = loyal wife...there is no competition.
Her character is flawed.

I feel bad for the wife, not these two hoes.
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In fairness slutty man had intentions to go elsewhere for whatever reason.
Posted by BlackMamba
If his wife a Virgo if so go for it

If his wife is a Virgo she will go crazy af . Honestly if she is any sign including Libra she will go crazy AF.
Posted by backtokemet
I believe that chemistry is called forbidden fruit chemistry !
don't be a CANCER to his marriage (even if many people don't really take marriage seriously these days)


Don't be a CANCER to his marriage awwww refreshingly Punny. Yeah Punny.
Well this certainly cost me 30 mins + of sleep reading basically every one's post. I'll just give an overview.

1. No one really mentioned the fact that he is the boss or higher up in the company much. That just goes to show even more that you are an obvious side piece or as we say in 2015 a side dish.

2. You are 29 use your brain and have some professional and moral integrity.

3. OP u got slaughtered in this thread. This is shit is fun to read. Almost everyone who uses DXP is married or knows people who are.

4. Like I tell everyone who seeks help or asks what to do. You have to force the issue and say hey we shouldn't be doing this and I think I am getting to close to you. I might even have feelings and that is not right.

5. If you have/ had sex with him it will be ugly. You said you two spend time together outside of work. Doing what? Is his wife really that lame come on? I feel like this is an example of an accomplished man who wants to "enjoy new fruits of his labor." Unfortunately you are just s fruit in front of his face. There are other fruit and he will pursue them too, probably while he is having an emotional bond with you. Isn't that cute two water signs having an emotional relationship?

Be a grown up and professional. He has too much power(Don't Scorpios enjoy power more than most?) This will only ruin everyone's life who is involved and make your company look bad--think of that.

Be a professional adult and fix this shit. Don't let him over power or manipulate you. I would make the bastard lose his job. I love with others get their "proper" justice.
Cap City.
Wow this post has sure attracted many responses....

I value all your feedback which is why I have posted on a public forum (well not so much the people trying to cast spells on me)
Please remember that we have not done any cheating, and he has been the one pursuing me.

I am trying to take stock of the situation. This has happened as we have worked closely together and got along well, it was a natural occurence and not something I pursued. As I said, I never thought I would have an affair, and I still don't believe I would, although now I can see how they can happy. I have realised that this has gone into dangerous territory as it could lead somewhere, and will try and absolve myself of the situation as delicately and maturely as I can.
and thank you to those few that actually wrote kind posts :-)
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