I am a 29 year old Cancerian woman who works with a married Scorpio man. We have become quite friendly of late and have developed what some might call an 'emotional affair' as we text each other quite a lot out of work (but nothing sordid), and he has taken me out for lunch a few times too. We are a bit flirtatious but nothing over the top. Nothing physical has happened between us, it is more like we have developed a close connection/friendship, however I know he finds me attractive as he has made the comment quite a few times.
I am a bit confused as to what is going on in the Scorpio's man mind and what he wants from the situation, but obviously I am not going to ask him.
I have never been in this situation before, and would never go for a married man, but from the moment I met Scorpio three years ago there has been heaps of chemistry between us and I just can't ignore it. I haven't had this type of connection with anyone before and I almost feel like I am falling in LOVE with him! He even said that we probably shouldn't be hanging out outside of work, but he can't seem to help himself as it hasnt stopped him contacting me and wanting to see me.
What is going on in Scorpios mind? Is it possible he is developing strong feelings for me too or is it purely sexual? What will happen if this continues?
I don't want him to leave his wife for me as I am actually a bit of a commitment phobic and find it hard to see anything long term, but I can never seen us ending this 'flirtation' either as we both seem to be a bit attached.
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Sep 20, 2008Comments: 1470 · Posts: 13777 · Topics: 204
What does it matter what's going on in the Scorpios mind if you like you claim, would "never go for a married man"? This seems like a consistant thing with Cancer women, either side of the fence they're on.
Sorry I will rephrase, I never THOUGHT I would go for a married man, but I can't stop spending time with him............
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Feb 08, 2015Comments: 88 · Posts: 2780 · Topics: 55
Just imagine for a second how would u feel if u was his wife and he'd flirt and do shit with a co worker chick. Have some respect and dont be selfish just because you feel some kind of "magic connection". There are other men out there.
Another advice to think about " if he cheats with you on his wife he'll do it also on you one day"
Affairs... Usually, never end well.
That is coming from experience..
Can we continue to have a friendship????????
I can tell you how wrong entertaining a married man is til I'm blue in the face, but from reading the OP I don't think you're ready to cut this emotional affair off for good. Instead you're trying to analyze his thoughts... what he wants...
I just hope whatever decision you make, it doesn't come back to bite you.
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Oct 21, 2014Comments: 4 · Posts: 717 · Topics: 76
OP that's pretty clear that you really don't want to end this relationship. You came here just to confirm that he has strong feelings for you. I would say just avoid him and try to distance yourself from him he is a married man just leave him alone and Respect yourself. And you can never be just friends with a one you have feelings for. try to leave this job if possible if not then make it very clear to him that you are not interested in any kind of relationship with him(Which you obviously won't do).
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May 25, 2012Comments: 122 · Posts: 5590 · Topics: 41
Man, I'm sorry but at this stage in life I'm really starting to believe that men aren't valued or wanted by women unless they are attached to somebody...and that's really tragic
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Dec 01, 2015Comments: 1 · Posts: 3848 · Topics: 46
OP -I hope you get hit by a bus. I hate women like you.
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Dec 01, 2015Comments: 1 · Posts: 3848 · Topics: 46
I just hate married people messing around and the sluts who accommodate that kind of behavior from men. I don't even give af about their feelings and their whorish ways.
She's nothing but a scandalous bitch to me.
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Feb 08, 2015Comments: 88 · Posts: 2780 · Topics: 55
My advice would be that u start to distance urself little by little. That way u avoid problems at work. Make excuses or whatever but start steering away from that situation. If u have the guts than straight up tell him that its not in ur interest to cause any problems with his marriage etc. He'll understand. Trust me, if u REALLY want to cut someone off then u'll find a way. Be sincere and everything will be good
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Dec 01, 2015Comments: 1 · Posts: 3848 · Topics: 46
You were "woman" enough to get yourself into this mess, be "woman" enough to get yourself out of it. Wtf do you think this is , a soap opera. You're ruining a fucking marriage, skank.
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Jun 07, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 1931 · Topics: 2
one one can ruin his marriage if he doesn't allow it.
he is the bitch not her. she is not committed to his marriage.
I dont know but if you have any common sense, don't go for a married men. Some women may say go for it because you insist that he likes you but what if it was the other way around and the husband you love had a mistress? you gotta think about if the situation was reversed and how it would feel in the other persons shoes no matter if the relationship between him and his wife maybe a mess, DO NOT EVER GET IN BETWEEN A MARRIED COUPLE, EVER!
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Dec 01, 2015Comments: 1 · Posts: 3848 · Topics: 46
We don't even know if this asshole has kids, not just a wife.
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Jun 19, 2014Comments: 161 · Posts: 1869 · Topics: 31
Well this certainly cost me 30 mins + of sleep reading basically every one's post. I'll just give an overview.
1. No one really mentioned the fact that he is the boss or higher up in the company much. That just goes to show even more that you are an obvious side piece or as we say in 2015 a side dish.
2. You are 29 use your brain and have some professional and moral integrity.
3. OP u got slaughtered in this thread. This is shit is fun to read. Almost everyone who uses DXP is married or knows people who are.
4. Like I tell everyone who seeks help or asks what to do. You have to force the issue and say hey we shouldn't be doing this and I think I am getting to close to you. I might even have feelings and that is not right.
5. If you have/ had sex with him it will be ugly. You said you two spend time together outside of work. Doing what? Is his wife really that lame come on? I feel like this is an example of an accomplished man who wants to "enjoy new fruits of his labor." Unfortunately you are just s fruit in front of his face. There are other fruit and he will pursue them too, probably while he is having an emotional bond with you. Isn't that cute two water signs having an emotional relationship?
Be a grown up and professional. He has too much power(Don't Scorpios enjoy power more than most?) This will only ruin everyone's life who is involved and make your company look bad--think of that.
Be a professional adult and fix this shit. Don't let him over power or manipulate you. I would make the bastard lose his job. I love with others get their "proper" justice.
Cap City.
Wow this post has sure attracted many responses....
I value all your feedback which is why I have posted on a public forum (well not so much the people trying to cast spells on me)
Please remember that we have not done any cheating, and he has been the one pursuing me.
I am trying to take stock of the situation. This has happened as we have worked closely together and got along well, it was a natural occurence and not something I pursued. As I said, I never thought I would have an affair, and I still don't believe I would, although now I can see how they can happy. I have realised that this has gone into dangerous territory as it could lead somewhere, and will try and absolve myself of the situation as delicately and maturely as I can.
and thank you to those few that actually wrote kind posts :-)