Fought with Scorpio mate

I'm an Aries, but born almost on the cusp (April 19) and I have a ton of earth placements, little water and even less fire. I loathe arguing. I grew up in a volatile, abusive household and the best way to survive was to keep your head down and mouth shut. So I tend to sidestep conflict and concede arguments to avoid a blowup, even though inside, I feel like I'm going against my nature.

I've been dating a Scorpio for about 6 months now. I love him, and over Valentine's weekend, he confessed that I had "cracked" his shell an that he loved me. Well, yesterday, we got into a small argument. He promised to do something that he later said he didn't remember saying which prompted me to do some things based on my belief that he was going to do this thing. When I realized he hadn't done it, I tried to be diplomatic about it and explain my feelings and he decided the conversation was over and said "I'm not talking about this anymore." So I hung up on him. He called back a little later, but I was out taking a walk to clear my head. Then I called back and he didn't pick up, so I left a message where I told him I was not fucking playing and it wasn't on him to decide to shut down the conversation. I told him I meant what I said on Valentine's Day and he said he loved me so he needed to fucking act like it, then I hung up. He called again, but I was too steamed to pick up. Then he came to my apartment and apologized (!) for his behavior. He has never done that. He was so contrite and he said he promised to be more sensitive in future. I was floored. But now I feel guilty. Getting in someone's ass is not my nature and I feel awful that we fought in the first place. But yelling at him had an effect that all my patience and turning the other cheek stuff has never had. I am conflicted.

"But now I feel guilty."


No no no! They love being called on their bs. It's a pain in the ass, but you'll get used to it.

Thanks, all. It's just very strange to me. I remember screaming at my Pisces ex one time he acted like a true asshole, and he actually got aroused from that! My Scorpio is being amazingly sweet, he texted sweet things all today and he just called me after work, which he rarely does. I guess it is true that a Scorpio doesn't like a wimpy, soggy pushover.

You dramatic Arian woman you 😉

My cousin is April 20. You are an Aries/Taurus cusp.

i dunno. i think scorps can do bad things or appear inconsiderate without really meaning to and when they get called on it, that's when they realise what they've done - or haven't done as the case may be and then the apology will be made.

hi MD!!! how are you girl? that little one of yours is soooooo gorgeous!!! cutie wootie chubby chops she's got 🙂

"dunno. i think scorps can do bad things or appear inconsiderate without really meaning to and when they get called on it, that's when they realise what they've done - or haven't done as the case may be and then the apology will be made."

I concur

perhaps being overly apologetic is a possibility but personally, i like to apologise and move on pretty rapidly. what i hate more than anything is a lecture about where i went wrong although i accept it's better for people to communicate these things than to just swallow disappointment. that leads to resentment or bitterness and ultimately kills relationships.

hi sagi!!! i hope you're well 🙂

"i dunno. i think scorps can do bad things or appear inconsiderate without really meaning to and when they get called on it, that's when they realise what they've done - or haven't done as the case may be and then the apology will be made."

True as well...there's a certain amount of mindlessness with scorps in their forward thinking nature. I like it though because i thoroughly enjoy putting people in their place. And I just so happen to be rather good at it. It's kind of how caps are perceived as "cold and distant" when really we're just deep thinkers and have no time or interest in small talk, but still, we accidentally hurt peoples feelings a lot.

hi MD!!! how are you girl? that little one of yours is soooooo gorgeous!!! cutie wootie chubby chops she's got


Awwwwww thanks. I am doing great. My baby is doing great too. She's already 8 months. Almost gonna be 1 on June 15.

She has a bad little temper though LOL.

Bottom line. Scorp men respect strong women who are not push overs. He will love that about you more and more. Never not call him on his shit or he will lose some respect for you. Trust me I know. Always call him on his shit and you have to get ugly with them sometime for them to stop and consider the damage and they actually have good hearts and will feel bad about it.