Gemini figuring out scorp's intentions
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by nats on Monday, August 30, 2010 and has 11 replies.
Okay sorry if it gets long, I tend to get carried away typing! Anyway so we met through facebook. We live in the same area and know the same people have mutual friends etc. We have seen each other out and about around the area but never spoke. Anyway, he added me on facebook and said it was a random add. So i replied back and I said thats fine i've seen you around and anyway, conversation continued from then on. In that conversation we had about him adding me and seeing each other around the area etc he dropped his mobile number and I told him, gee you work fast dont you? and he replied saying something like, that he wants to introduce himself in person so when im out next so ring or text him and we'll meet up so i was like yea we'll see. Anyway I didnt save the number and the next few days he kept writing on my wall. Just silly things like leaving a smiley face or asking how my day was going etc just chit chat. So i've been a bit bored lately in the men department and thought I'd give the scorp a try.
So I text him last thursday night late like 12am lol (i couldnt sleep) and i didnt tell him who I was just kept him guessing you could say I was playing with his head and then a day later I finally revealed it was me - the midnight texter lol. So we text all day friday and he asked what I was up to on the wknd, I told him I was staying home all weekend to catch up on needed rest. His really nice over his texts and polite etc a real gentleman. I've seen all his fotos on facebook and he genuinley seems like a good guy. He asked me if i knew his friend (which i went to highschool with) and yea I told him I did and I know all the boys he hangs out with because I basically grew up with them.
So he text me last night (sunday) about 9ish and I was already in bed awake, but i decided not to reply. I got back to him this morning and he took for ever to reply and then text back apologising saying that he found out a friend he went to school with passed away today and then proceeded to tell me that his dad has also passed away a few years ago and it was really hard dealing with it etc. I then felt I should share some personal info and told him I know what losing someone u love and care about is like, i also lost my mum a few years ago etc etc. Anyway told him that we barely know each other but sometimes its easier to talk 2 a stranger rather than a friend and if he needed to talk to let me know. So he replied saying thank you, i know we bare
So I text him last thursday night late like 12am lol (i couldnt sleep) and i didnt tell him who I was just kept him guessing you could say I was playing with his head and then a day later I finally revealed it was me - the midnight texter lol. So we text all day friday and he asked what I was up to on the wknd, I told him I was staying home all weekend to catch up on needed rest. His really nice over his texts and polite etc a real gentleman. I've seen all his fotos on facebook and he genuinley seems like a good guy. He asked me if i knew his friend (which i went to highschool with) and yea I told him I did and I know all the boys he hangs out with because I basically grew up with them.
So he text me last night (sunday) about 9ish and I was already in bed awake, but i decided not to reply. I got back to him this morning and he took for ever to reply and then text back apologising saying that he found out a friend he went to school with passed away today and then proceeded to tell me that his dad has also passed away a few years ago and it was really hard dealing with it etc. I then felt I should share some personal info and told him I know what losing someone u love and care about is like, i also lost my mum a few years ago etc etc. Anyway told him that we barely know each other but sometimes its easier to talk 2 a stranger rather than a friend and if he needed to talk to let me know. So he replied saying thank you, i know we bare
*** continued..
i know we barely know each other but i think your cool!. So anyway we kept texting etc and then he asked when r u going out next?. I told him not sure prob another 2wks, no clue to be honest. And he replied "well as long as you like it im happy (he was referrring to soemthing he had sent me a foto of)etc etc. Well when u heading out u should let me know still gotta introduce myself properly!"
and i replied going "and u can only introduce yourself when were both out?"
his reply "We dont have to be out out, but im not sure how u would react if i asked u to coffee or dinner so i thought id just wait till were both out?"
and I havent replied. Yet.
So, so far from what i've writen, is he after some booty or is genuinely interested in getting to know me etc. And i was reading and came across something about scorpios and fear of rejection.. the way he said what he said "im not sure how you would react" tells me, that yes he feared rejection but also maybe lacking a bit of confidence..??
i know we barely know each other but i think your cool!. So anyway we kept texting etc and then he asked when r u going out next?. I told him not sure prob another 2wks, no clue to be honest. And he replied "well as long as you like it im happy (he was referrring to soemthing he had sent me a foto of)etc etc. Well when u heading out u should let me know still gotta introduce myself properly!"
and i replied going "and u can only introduce yourself when were both out?"
his reply "We dont have to be out out, but im not sure how u would react if i asked u to coffee or dinner so i thought id just wait till were both out?"
and I havent replied. Yet.
So, so far from what i've writen, is he after some booty or is genuinely interested in getting to know me etc. And i was reading and came across something about scorpios and fear of rejection.. the way he said what he said "im not sure how you would react" tells me, that yes he feared rejection but also maybe lacking a bit of confidence..??
You obviously don't like him and your screwing with his head. Leave him be for both of your benefit.
Posted by Eris
You obviously don't like him and your screwing with his head. Leave him be for both of your benefit.
How is she screwing with his head? He wont even directly ask her out. He keeps hinting around, but it is too scared for fear of rejection. Which is one of the red alerts for emotional baggage. I do agree with leaving him alone. Because he cant directly communicate what he wants. That is a problem.
Leave him alone?!?!?!?!? For God's sake why?
You say he seems like a genuinely good guy. You say he opened up to you about some life events. He's been constantly keeping up contact with you and flirting in a passive way (smileys on your wall and such). He's been nothing but polite. Just because he's a little shy about asking you out you should ditch a guy? Heck no!
Are you secure enough to ask him out and IF he turns you down accept that and move on? If so, go for it! If you're fragile and only if you're fragile would I advise against it.
I'd suggest something fun. An easy breezy text back. Something like, "Let's knock out two pins with one throw? Fun. Finally meeting. Bowling? You. Me." If you aren't comfortable with being that forward, I certainly suggest saying something to let him know you wouldn't be opposed to being asked out by him. Maybe, "I do enjoy good conversation and good coffee." Sometimes the shyer guys need a little reassurance.... nothing wrong with that.
I don't think the guy is after booty alone, although ultimately they DO all want a little meet and greet in the sheets. However, if he was all about the booty he would have had text messages that were rauchy.... some of the "what are you wearing" and "what would you do to me if we finally meet" variety.
Go forth and prosper nats and make sure to update us!
You say he seems like a genuinely good guy. You say he opened up to you about some life events. He's been constantly keeping up contact with you and flirting in a passive way (smileys on your wall and such). He's been nothing but polite. Just because he's a little shy about asking you out you should ditch a guy? Heck no!
Are you secure enough to ask him out and IF he turns you down accept that and move on? If so, go for it! If you're fragile and only if you're fragile would I advise against it.
I'd suggest something fun. An easy breezy text back. Something like, "Let's knock out two pins with one throw? Fun. Finally meeting. Bowling? You. Me." If you aren't comfortable with being that forward, I certainly suggest saying something to let him know you wouldn't be opposed to being asked out by him. Maybe, "I do enjoy good conversation and good coffee." Sometimes the shyer guys need a little reassurance.... nothing wrong with that.
I don't think the guy is after booty alone, although ultimately they DO all want a little meet and greet in the sheets. However, if he was all about the booty he would have had text messages that were rauchy.... some of the "what are you wearing" and "what would you do to me if we finally meet" variety.
Go forth and prosper nats and make sure to update us!
Posted by LovelyScorpPosted by Eris
You obviously don't like him and your screwing with his head. Leave him be for both of your benefit.
I agree with Eris.click to expand
Lay-days! Explain....?
Because she seemed a little less than interested and jumping for joy in the very beginning?
I'll explain::
"So i've been a bit bored lately in the men department and thought I'd give the scorp a try."
Nice fucking way to start off a relationship.
"So he text me last night (sunday) about 9ish and I was already in bed awake, but i decided not to reply. I got back to him this morning and he took for ever to reply "
So when you ignore his texts it's OK but when he does it then that's no bueno?
What the fuck ever
"So i've been a bit bored lately in the men department and thought I'd give the scorp a try."
Nice fucking way to start off a relationship.
"So he text me last night (sunday) about 9ish and I was already in bed awake, but i decided not to reply. I got back to him this morning and he took for ever to reply "
So when you ignore his texts it's OK but when he does it then that's no bueno?
What the fuck ever
Posted by SamIam
I'll explain::
"So i've been a bit bored lately in the men department and thought I'd give the scorp a try."
Nice fucking way to start off a relationship.
"So he text me last night (sunday) about 9ish and I was already in bed awake, but i decided not to reply. I got back to him this morning and he took for ever to reply "
So when you ignore his texts it's OK but when he does it then that's no bueno?
What the fuck ever
Exactly.
You should leave him alone. He doesnt have enough balls to ask you out anyways. And as far as answering his text, he did not ask a question, therefore there is not anything to answer. He just hinted around to see if there would be a response. Lame.
When he couldve just asked you outright and get his answer.
Why are you girls getting so worked up over this?? lol. RELAX.
Alrite probably being a gemini and all im very casual about relationships and when I first meet guys etc. Im not like OMGGGG I JUST MET A GUY!!! and start thinking of my wedding wiht him and our future relationship etc. No. I meet them, if im interested i'll keep talking to them and see what happens.
GemsRaGals you and i seem very alike.
So anyway, I did end up texting him back like 2 hours later. I said:
"lol thats cute 'not sure how u would react' how did u imagine id react? Its up 2u really. Who knows when i'll be out next so let me know wat u wanna do"
and NO reply. Havent heard from him since and this was on Monday. Im not fussed just a tad bit confused since he seemed eager. But anyway, my plan of action is to text later on today and just send him something friendly then be straight to the point and tell him that if his free this weekend I want to see him.
GemsRaGals, at this point im not affraid of rejection or anything of the sort. I barely know the guy so I dont have any emotions tied to the situation whatsoever so I wouldnt get hurt if he rejected me which he somewhat did by not replying to my last text but anyway, I like to chase until I get a yes or a no.
Alrite probably being a gemini and all im very casual about relationships and when I first meet guys etc. Im not like OMGGGG I JUST MET A GUY!!! and start thinking of my wedding wiht him and our future relationship etc. No. I meet them, if im interested i'll keep talking to them and see what happens.
GemsRaGals you and i seem very alike.
So anyway, I did end up texting him back like 2 hours later. I said:
"lol thats cute 'not sure how u would react' how did u imagine id react? Its up 2u really. Who knows when i'll be out next so let me know wat u wanna do"
and NO reply. Havent heard from him since and this was on Monday. Im not fussed just a tad bit confused since he seemed eager. But anyway, my plan of action is to text later on today and just send him something friendly then be straight to the point and tell him that if his free this weekend I want to see him.
GemsRaGals, at this point im not affraid of rejection or anything of the sort. I barely know the guy so I dont have any emotions tied to the situation whatsoever so I wouldnt get hurt if he rejected me which he somewhat did by not replying to my last text but anyway, I like to chase until I get a yes or a no.
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