Giving Scorpios too much the benefit of the doubt?

I have been seeing my Scorpio for a year. He confided in me that in his last relationship, his ex wanted him to go to a sex club and watch her fuck other men. He refused but kept seeing her. She cheated on him at that point but he stayed with her because she said she was pregnant by him. She was pregnant, but it turned out to be another man's baby. She left him at that point and now she and the baby's father have married. My Scorpio said it messed him up for awhile and that it made him not trust women for a long time. So I thought that with such a history, it would be good to just go with the flow. I am a Taurus and can be stubborn, but I have a lot of Aquarius in my chart, so I am not really that into clinging or being needy.

But there are problems. I am soft-spoken, though, which seems to irk him. He seems like he wants to goad me into a fight or into saying or doing something that he can then point to as untrustworthy. For example, I mentioned buying a perfume, and he told me that before I tried it out, I should wear it and find a guy to take to my apartment to fuck. I was shocked into speechlessness at the nonsequitir. He then sarcastically remarked "What? Nothing to say to that?" I really didn't have anything to say to that. I've never cheated on any boyfriend in my life. Then he simply hung up on me. About five minutes later, he called and I asked him why he hung up on me, he didn't say anything. Then I asked him what his problem was, that he was the one who had called me and I didn't get his attitude. He then said he didn't have an attitude and asked me why I was angry at him. I told him that when he acted this way out of nowhere, I had no idea what to say to him because I didn't understand, and then he cut me off and told me to "figure it out" and he'd call me later. He then hung up again.

I am not sure what is going on. I wonder if I am "too nice" to him. I thought that maybe because of his trust issues, I should just be patient and do me, without any phoniness or anything like that. But then he tries to pick fights and I don't understand it. He seems committed to me. He tells me he loves me, we've met each other's families - in fact, he is spending T-giving with me and my family, but I don't know how to respond to him. Part of me wants to kick him hard in the ass. Is there something I'm not seeing?

Of course, he could be a "Nutcase"

Either Way - Good Luck 🙂