Hard to figure out. Thoughts?
So I've been seeing this very air dominated Scorpio man since middle of November, we met through friends and he had been...
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I do not like Aries. Too much for my cancer venus/mars
Posted by RabbitPosted by GetMisted
Did she just say "Facebook Official"?
..I'm done here. Goodluck with this one Rabbit. Me no patient enough.
What? Isn't that important to you?
Back in my day it was "Blew a Load On The Face" official...
j/k
Or am I?
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Diamonds and Pearls official?
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the fact that he tells other people that you are together means something and it means nothing in the same sentence.
ive been dealing with a scorpio for over 2 years. he is constantly telling people behind my back that were an item, but were not. he will pull that shit in front of me just to piss on a tree. true, he really likes me even borderline loves me but the fact of the matter are his actions at the end of the day. sometimes he even does it to make the sex better.
scorpio men have a gift of making a girl believe that you are #1 when you could really be #7 in his rotation.
gotta be mindful. a 38 year old PUA knows a few tricks.
ive been dealing with a scorpio for over 2 years. he is constantly telling people behind my back that were an item, but were not. he will pull that shit in front of me just to piss on a tree. true, he really likes me even borderline loves me but the fact of the matter are his actions at the end of the day. sometimes he even does it to make the sex better.
scorpio men have a gift of making a girl believe that you are #1 when you could really be #7 in his rotation.
gotta be mindful. a 38 year old PUA knows a few tricks.
Posted by RabbitPosted by GetMisted
Did she just say "Facebook Official"?
..I'm done here. Goodluck with this one Rabbit. Me no patient enough.
What? Isn't that important to you?
Back in my day it was "Blew a Load On The Face" official...
j/k
Or am I?
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your so not kidding! i think that was a past blog of mine
Posted by Agentgem24
I guess because it would make it more official, I've been big on that but he's not usually been the type. Even past serious gfs he never saw the point to Facebook official. I can't put his name on my Facebook because of some of the events he puts on while interviewing with police, but he says he wouldn't be opposed to it when I'm finished...could be up to a year though.
You say he's not mine but he chose me, he has so many options but I'm the one that is with him constantly. He hardly does anything social without me. He says he's not interested in other girls, he's not hanging out with female friends one on one etc.
He took me to a Bon fire and one of his exes from 6 years ago was there and gave me advise. She says he's very quirky and if I want something I need to tell him. He likes strong and independent women, he's not the type to think of romantic stuff on his own. She says he just wants to be happy so long as it fits into his routine, which is very scheduled. She said he would only bring a girl to the bonfire that he was serious about. I had gotten grass all over my jacket and he came running at me to sweep me off. She said those gestures aren't especially common for him, and that was VERY sweet for him, it shows he cares. She was the one that thought maybe he has a form of aspergers with how scheduled he can be and sometimes doesn't recognize human emotion or what to do at certain times (comfort etc)
Oh yay! Bonfires are big fun.
You don't feel like you're overthinking all of this? I mean, c'mon, you're taking advice from his ex? You've been seeing this guy for a short while, exclusive for barely a month. Why not just enjoy his good company and be satisfied?
Ehh I want to be a criminal profile, I analyze everything...sometimes too much. He knows I did a background check on him(who could blame me with the industry he is in/some of the events he puts on, and my career?) and analyze everything. I'm overly analytical at times and read too much into what is and not said, he says that is dangerous.
He will make jokes with me and say, "you have all of these questions planned out for me but you are smart...you don't ask them all at once, you pick different days to ask me something etc"
Yes I tell my friends about him and he knows that, most have known him longer than me. He talks about me too, a lot. I'll be in the room and he will be going on over the phone about me. Sometimes he will discuss sexual stuff we've done in a funny way but it doesn't bother me because I'm very open. But with a Scorpio, I'm not used to that. The Leo Virgo venus I dated was very non talkative about sexual stuff and relations, and the last Scorpio I dated HATED it.
Honestly the more I think about it, it has really only been going on 7 weeks since we've been exclusive. Dating since before November. I don't know why I'm pushing it so much, I always do this! My feelings are constantly changing, he knows how incredibly fickle and hot and cold I am, sometimes when I explain something I will just give me a look.
The only person that it ever worked with when I rushed was my longterm Leo ex. We had the title within days and just got lucky to last 4 years. But we were both 18 and very inexperienced. Anyone before and after, it hasn't gone well when I rush it. I really need to chill out, but sometimes it's so hard.
He will make jokes with me and say, "you have all of these questions planned out for me but you are smart...you don't ask them all at once, you pick different days to ask me something etc"
Yes I tell my friends about him and he knows that, most have known him longer than me. He talks about me too, a lot. I'll be in the room and he will be going on over the phone about me. Sometimes he will discuss sexual stuff we've done in a funny way but it doesn't bother me because I'm very open. But with a Scorpio, I'm not used to that. The Leo Virgo venus I dated was very non talkative about sexual stuff and relations, and the last Scorpio I dated HATED it.
Honestly the more I think about it, it has really only been going on 7 weeks since we've been exclusive. Dating since before November. I don't know why I'm pushing it so much, I always do this! My feelings are constantly changing, he knows how incredibly fickle and hot and cold I am, sometimes when I explain something I will just give me a look.
The only person that it ever worked with when I rushed was my longterm Leo ex. We had the title within days and just got lucky to last 4 years. But we were both 18 and very inexperienced. Anyone before and after, it hasn't gone well when I rush it. I really need to chill out, but sometimes it's so hard.
Posted by Agentgem24
Well everything has been going great, we've been exclusive since the beginning of December. Then I asked about a "title" tonight. Stupid of me as I am not even sure I'm ready for it! I just wanted to see what he would say.
^^as far as I got. Entitlement, insecurity & immaturity issues.
Same old daddy syndrome shit..
Also it seems that the people that were obsessed with him before we started dating are now obsessed with US and our relationship. Always trying to talk to me and find stuff out. He said one girl found out I was dating him, and that's the sole reason she added me
Posted by LetltBPosted by Agentgem24
Well everything has been going great, we've been exclusive since the beginning of December. Then I asked about a "title" tonight. Stupid of me as I am not even sure I'm ready for it! I just wanted to see what he would say.
^^as far as I got. Entitlement, insecurity & immaturity issues.
Same old daddy syndrome shit..click to expand
Working on this, but it's def not old daddy syndrome. Sure I have dated older but def not all. My dad is 60, they are hardly close in age. Also, when all your friends are 30s-50s, it's understandable you would date older. Most friends my age they are in our subculture are dating or married to 8-15 years older, it's very common,
I have friends my age, those I've had since middle school etc, just the majority is older. My room mates are 32 and 40, plus married. They are good friends of mine.
I've dated my age, I've dated up to 20 years older (would not go past 15 again) I've dated younger, it depends entirely on the person. Age isn't a big deal to me in terms of dating
I've dated my age, I've dated up to 20 years older (would not go past 15 again) I've dated younger, it depends entirely on the person. Age isn't a big deal to me in terms of dating
Filling in those who hadn't. Sorry to repeat.
That last Scorpio was also younger than me slightly and he didn't like any of my kind of my classic music, culture, and didn't fit in with my social circle. Friends opinions isn't everything but it is important to be with someone that I can also be around my friends with and them be able to tolerate them. The few friends he did meet, he greatly offended.
Posted by Agentgem24
Working on this, but it's def not old daddy syndrome. Sure I have dated older but def not all. My dad is 60, they are hardly close in age. Also, when all your friends are 30s-50s, it's understandable you would date older. Most friends my age they are in our subculture are dating or married to 8-15 years older, it's very common,
smh...look up the meaning of daddy syndrome and get back to me. Has nothing to do with age hun.Posted by IrresistableScorp
I'm pretty sure we already heard all these stories with the last Scorp...
lol stop
Important influences for me currently are:
Pluto conjunction Neptune (inward transformation)
Neptune sextile mercury (realistic idealism)
Pluto conjuction saturn (breaking through)
Pluto conjunction Neptune (inward transformation)
Neptune sextile mercury (realistic idealism)
Pluto conjuction saturn (breaking through)
Also I don't want a dad or parent as a bf, that's my mom. I want an equal and a lover. Someone I can be my real, strange self around. All of it
Posted by Agentgem24
Also it seems that the people that were obsessed with him before we started dating are now obsessed with US and our relationship. Always trying to talk to me and find stuff out. He said one girl found out I was dating him, and that's the sole reason she added me
You are seriously imagining shit.
May the clue bird shit on your shoulder...because if it's up to you and your judgement, you'll be lost forever.
Posted by Rabbit
You should try the following:
1) Rummage through his stuff, find his journal, read it, then ask him about the things you read in it.
2) Have a friend or sister create a fake Facebook account and pose as some some hot model chick. Ask him to send pics of his wang.
That should clear things up.
Nooo!
And I'm not making up the stuff about the girl adding me because of him, he even told me this. She's been asking people who he's dated for months and she was a big time stalker awhile back. Even made a fake Facebook account to pretend to be a girl and initiate dates only to stand him up. There is a lot of crazy in our scene
Posted by Agentgem24
Ehh I want to be a criminal profile, I analyze everything...sometimes too much. He knows I did a background check on him(who could blame me with the industry he is in/some of the events he puts on, and my career?) and analyze everything. I'm overly analytical at times and read too much into what is and not said, he says that is dangerous.
Terrific, so be a criminal profiler. A good one. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. But I'm not certain how being a criminal profiler figures into being a good date or a good girlfriend.
I'm bad about overanalyzing things, too, but I'm also a great believer in enjoying pleasure. Good friends, pleasant company, positive atmosphere...These are simple things that have very little potential to cause harm. Why not let yourself enjoy them without sabotaging your enjoyment with worries like, "I want a title." It needn't be perfect, simply pleasant.
Also, IMHO, an ex of six years isn't the most reliable source for information. I'm confident YOU are not the exact same person you were six years ago, I doubt your boyfriend is either.
Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by Agentgem24
Ehh I want to be a criminal profile, I analyze everything...sometimes too much. He knows I did a background check on him(who could blame me with the industry he is in/some of the events he puts on, and my career?) and analyze everything. I'm overly analytical at times and read too much into what is and not said, he says that is dangerous.
Terrific, so be a criminal profiler. A good one. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. But I'm not certain how being a criminal profiler figures into being a good date or a good girlfriend.
I'm bad about overanalyzing things, too, but I'm also a great believer in enjoying pleasure. Good friends, pleasant company, positive atmosphere...These are simple things that have very little potential to cause harm. Why not let yourself enjoy them without sabotaging your enjoyment with worries like, "I want a title." It needn't be perfect, simply pleasant.
Also, IMHO, an ex of six years isn't the most reliable source for information. I'm confident YOU are not the exact same person you were six years ago, I doubt your boyfriend is either.click to expand
Oh I agree, I was taking what she said with a grain of salt. I'm just saying the criminal profiler interest has a lot to do with my personality, my police goals. Extremely inquisitive and prying, this guy says I def already act like a cop.
And yes true, I need to just go with the flow and breathe. I don't know why I have to always see flaws in my environment and relationship? I think if it's going too good (with anything, job etc) something is bound to fuck up sooner or later. It must be my hard saturn aspect, haaate it.
Posted by AksMirror
AgentGem,
I have been here for almost 6 months and i think most of the guys here are of firm belief that scorp and geminis can't have successful relationship irrespective of other placements, and i don't think anyone even as gemini as a friend.
Better you go to gemini board ,there you may find someone having experience similar to you and may understand your problem.
Very untrue and foolish to think that it has 100% to do with astrology. I know a handful of gem/Scorpio couples that are together and doing fine, one happily married of 20 years.
My best friend couples are Pisces and Aquarius and Pisces and Gemini. Solid.
I am a very watery gem, he is a very airy Scorp. Plus our same moon and mars placements.
Ok, I read as much as could since I last posted.
Gem, it sounds like he is saying his work is more important than people. At that early of hanging with someone I would personally take that as I'm probably always going to come second or this is as far as it'll go.
But like, you never know what it'll happen. I think you decide if you're willing to wait it out or be ok with this level of commitment or see what else is out there.
Gem, it sounds like he is saying his work is more important than people. At that early of hanging with someone I would personally take that as I'm probably always going to come second or this is as far as it'll go.
But like, you never know what it'll happen. I think you decide if you're willing to wait it out or be ok with this level of commitment or see what else is out there.
Also gem, on a personal development maybe find something to help you manage your anxiety a bit.
I am a very watery gem, he is a very airy Scorp. Plus our same moon and mars placements.
I agree with you both rabbit and sag
^
"For one thing, Virgo women have opinions. Mercury's connection with the sign seems to come out in a need to communicate, to talk, sometimes to simply gossip and chat. Many Virgo women talk endlessly. Sometimes it can make you cover your ears and begin screaming, just to make the sound stop. It may not be the traditional Virgo criticism, either. It may be all about the latest book she read, or the film she saw, or the person she's lately been taking apart and analyzing psychologically. Virgos love to talk about other people, in great detail. So if you're after the beautiful, silent type, forget it."
"For one thing, Virgo women have opinions. Mercury's connection with the sign seems to come out in a need to communicate, to talk, sometimes to simply gossip and chat. Many Virgo women talk endlessly. Sometimes it can make you cover your ears and begin screaming, just to make the sound stop. It may not be the traditional Virgo criticism, either. It may be all about the latest book she read, or the film she saw, or the person she's lately been taking apart and analyzing psychologically. Virgos love to talk about other people, in great detail. So if you're after the beautiful, silent type, forget it."
Well we can still damage your hearing though.
Worst superpower ever.
I'm not a snake, I'm a dragon.
Posted by AksMirrorPosted by Damnata
I'm not a snake, I'm a dragon.
Dragon who cant spit fire outside and is burning her own stomach.
Oh god i pity you :pclick to expand
That made me sad.*confused between hugging all the scorpios and backing away slowly*
Posted by GetMistedPosted by AksMirrorPosted by GetMistedPosted by AksMirrorPosted by GetMistedPosted by AksMirror
I am just telling her she may get better answers in Gemini board, she can explore that too
Rest is her choice.
The advice she'll get on the Gem board is to push for a title. Most likely.
Are you a scorp??
Just asking.
Why does it matter?
Just asking.
Be little courteos sir or madam.I first asked .
But then you may be scorp are answering a question with another question, without actually giving answer of my question.
I would say that you have your answer.click to expand
I get around that by saying "yes, now back to my original question" scorpios can be roundabout but I get to the heart! Although I am extremely random etc too
Posted by DMVPosted by RabbitPosted by GetMisted
Did she just say "Facebook Official"?
..I'm done here. Goodluck with this one Rabbit. Me no patient enough.
What? Isn't that important to you?
Back in my day it was "Blew a Load On The Face" official...
j/k
Or am I?
-_-
your so not kidding!click to expand
This. Lol, frisky fluff ball.
Posted by Agentgem24
Honestly the more I think about it, it has really only been going on 7 weeks since we've been exclusive. Dating since before November. I don't know why I'm pushing it so much, I always do this! My feelings are constantly changing, he knows how incredibly fickle and hot and cold I am, sometimes when I explain something I will just give me a look.
I believe you've answered the OP. FTW.
Posted by AksMirror
I am just telling her she may get better answers in Gemini board, she can explore that too
Go to the Gem board to ask why a Scorp is acting a particular way? Lol. She'd get as much help there as I would.
Problem is, she's simply repeating the same thing, ignoring the advice/feedback people are offer--sorry, some people. She gets a response and comes fast and furious with a rebuttal. No processing, not spending any time to take it in, just jumps in with "well he...and I...and he does...and I know....". Having a discussion is all well and good. Even throwing out additional questions after the initial one has been answered is fine too, but the 75+ post marathon stuck on repeat? Yeah....
I think Scorps and Gems can work beautifully, but DXP has yet to prove me right.
Would birth dates help, his and mine? I have times too
Both of us have anxiety, btw. With different things.
Both of us have anxiety, btw. With different things.
Posted by AksMirrorPosted by GetMistedPosted by AksMirrorPosted by GetMistedPosted by AksMirror
I am just telling her she may get better answers in Gemini board, she can explore that too
Rest is her choice.
The advice she'll get on the Gem board is to push for a title. Most likely.
Are you a scorp??
Just asking.
Why does it matter?
Just asking.
Be little courteos sir or madam.I first asked .
But then you may be scorp are answering a question with another question, without actually giving answer of my question.click to expand
THIS Lol!
Posted by May31BabyPosted by AksMirrorPosted by AksMirrorPosted by Agentgem24Posted by AksMirror
AgentGem,
I have been here for almost 6 months and i think most of the guys here are of firm belief that scorp and geminis can't have successful relationship irrespective of other placements, and i don't think anyone even as gemini as a friend.
Better you go to gemini board ,there you may find someone having experience similar to you and may understand your problem.
Very untrue and foolish to think that it has 100% to do with astrology. I know a handful of gem/Scorpio couples that are together and doing fine, one happily married of 20 years.
My best friend couples are Pisces and Aquarius and Pisces and Gemini. Solid.
Read again what i have written, I am saying here at dxp scorp board.
Typical stupid Gemini , collecting all irrelevant butter of world and ignoring important pieces of information.
Wtf is your problem? Why are you speaking for every scorp/gem relationship? Are you basing your opinion on personal experience or did it come straight out your ass? Even i it was personal experience thats YOUR experience. Gem/scorp relationship can be excellent, it comes to the people and their individual attitudes.
And stupid gemini? How bout arrogant asshole scorpio? So just because youre a prick means all scorpio men are? Just because of one gemini you dislike its "typical" for us to be stupid? The fuck...click to expand
Always comes out swinging this one. Lol! MayBa, the firecracker.
Posted by Rabbit
#clevelandgirlswillcutamotherfucker
They keep the blade under their tongues.
Posted by May31Baby
I wasnt trying to derail the thread, or really defend ag. I was just reading along thinking 'damn this girl likes to talk about herself!!' And then BAM stupid gem this and youll never work that... Had to call bullshit.
No offense ag, you seem really nice. But you are very repetitive.
And youre overthinking. Just let it ride
Over thinking and not being able to go with the flow, obsessing, are some of my biggest problems. If anyone has the cure, please let me know! I hate it.
-.-
Posted by Agentgem24Posted by May31Baby
I wasnt trying to derail the thread, or really defend ag. I was just reading along thinking 'damn this girl likes to talk about herself!!' And then BAM stupid gem this and youll never work that... Had to call bullshit.
No offense ag, you seem really nice. But you are very repetitive.
And youre overthinking. Just let it ride
Over thinking and not being able to go with the flow, obsessing, are some of my biggest problems. If anyone has the cure, please let me know! I hate it.click to expand
The problem isn't that you're Gem or that your boyfriend is Scorp, nor is it a result of your own character traits. The problem is you're in a very intimate relationship with this man, but, for whatever reason, you don't feel the relationship is sufficiently "validated" (by the Scorp male BUT also by YOURSELF.) You're asking for a "title" you're not even positive you want.
This is a common problem when couples rush into intimacy (it can be physical or emotional)without taking enough time to really get to know and LIKE each other as individuals and recognize their distinctions beyond mere romantic and/or sexual attraction.
Stop foundering, take some deep breaths and chillax. It's not you. It's not him. It's a timing issue. You can work with that.
Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by Agentgem24Posted by May31Baby
I wasnt trying to derail the thread, or really defend ag. I was just reading along thinking 'damn this girl likes to talk about herself!!' And then BAM stupid gem this and youll never work that... Had to call bullshit.
No offense ag, you seem really nice. But you are very repetitive.
And youre overthinking. Just let it ride
Over thinking and not being able to go with the flow, obsessing, are some of my biggest problems. If anyone has the cure, please let me know! I hate it.
The problem isn't that you're Gem or that your boyfriend is Scorp, nor is it a result of your own character traits. The problem is you're in a very intimate relationship with this man, but, for whatever reason, you don't feel the relationship is sufficiently "validated" (by the Scorp male BUT also by YOURSELF.) You're asking for a "title" you're not even positive you want.
This is a common problem when couples rush into intimacy (it can be physical or emotional)without taking enough time to really get to know and LIKE each other as individuals and recognize their distinctions beyond mere romantic and/or sexual attraction.
Stop foundering, take some deep breaths and chillax. It's not you. It's not him. It's a timing issue. You can work with that.click to expand
This could very well be some of the best advice I've heard, well said. And thank you.
Posted by GetMisted
Only because it doesn't point out your insecurities. Perfect example of how users only hear what validates their own ideas.
She's not asking or advice or insight. She wants validation.
The OP never requested advice. She asked posters to share their thoughts.
Posted by GetMisted
Only because it doesn't point out your insecurities. Perfect example of how users only hear what validates their own ideas.
She's not asking or advice or insight. She wants validation.
No, that I know very well is a personal issues. It's caused ruin to many relations. I just need to try to find a way around it.
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