Hello Scorpios! Need your honest help!
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by cookieromy on Saturday, May 18, 2013 and has 4 replies.
I am a 17 year old Aries female and i am completely head over heels over a 19 year old scorpio male _???. I always find myself attracted to scorpios for some reason and i just can't help it, they are just so perfect i can't handle it. Okay so recently, this scorpio guy found me on tumblr and started talking to me and a day later he said he loved me. I didn't know how to react to that, even though i did like him a lot, he was very sweet and open and supportive and he let me talk about myself without telling me i'm annoying like other guys hahaha. I asked him why did he love me and he said you're smart, funny, beautiful nice and i want you. I honestly do not think i am beautiful like i'm the most insecure person ever. To make a long story short, we talked for a while and skyped. Oh and i forgot to mention he lives far away. So one night i asked him if he really thinks this 'relationship' is worth it. Relationship between two people not like boyfriend and girlfriend. I told him if he wanted this to be real he has to be honest with me and tell me what he wants. Because i don't think a long distance relationship would work since we never met, we don't know that much about each other, we can't really trust each other i mean i want to trust him but just knowing there are girls around him that i can't see or punch, that kills me. So he said he wants to keep talking to me and enjoy the time we have together. I told him one day he's gonna get bored of me since he can't see me every day and all (which is impossible no one can get bored of me hahaha) and he's going to break my heart and he's gonna find someone else whom he can touch and kiss and make love and do everything with. Btw DO YOU GUYS HAVE ANY IDEA HOW SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED HE MAKES ME? Its really unimaginable. He stopped talking to me for a week. I waited for him to talk to me and he did and when i answered he completely ignored me. I know he saw my message cause he was online and then he went offline. Another week has passed and he still did not talk to me. I hate being ignored and i hate waiting. He's really really killing me because i fell in love with him (i fall too hard too fast..) and i can't even eat anymore. I feel so empty when he doesn't talk to me i guess i got attached to him. "Once you're attached you're fucked". I don't know what to do. Should i let go since we might never even meet or should i hold on knowing we might meet some day? Be completely honest and thank you for your time 
First off, please start using a few breaks in your post.... the wall of text--oy!
You seem to have talked yourself out of this thing you had going on with him, so he bailed. Your insecurities pretty much convinced you that he will cheat, that you're not good enough, that long distance wouldn't work...etc. It sounds like he was fairly upfront with you about how he saw you ( smart, funny, beautiful, nice) and what he wants, yet you didn't believe him. We like confident people. We can also be fearful of people bailing on us and when you began to indicate that you had doubts in him and what you could have together, he began to distance himself. Based on his reaction to you I am wondering if you also said something (that you're leaving out of your post) to hurt him as well.
I'll be honest with you, imo I really don't think the long distance thing will work and I'll tell you why. You're both very young. Being a Scorp he is gonna want that physical contact. You should too, you're teenagers!! That is not to suggest Scorps can't be faithful or that we are so sex obsessed that we can't control ourselves (well you know what I mean ). I am just saying this is a time when you want to enjoy everything that young love has to offer. It's already so complicated with all those hormones, expectations and na??vet?, why add distance to the mix? Even if he does come around I don't see this lasting long term unless your living situation changes. Sorry.
How much distance is there between you anyway?
You seem to have talked yourself out of this thing you had going on with him, so he bailed. Your insecurities pretty much convinced you that he will cheat, that you're not good enough, that long distance wouldn't work...etc. It sounds like he was fairly upfront with you about how he saw you ( smart, funny, beautiful, nice) and what he wants, yet you didn't believe him. We like confident people. We can also be fearful of people bailing on us and when you began to indicate that you had doubts in him and what you could have together, he began to distance himself. Based on his reaction to you I am wondering if you also said something (that you're leaving out of your post) to hurt him as well.
I'll be honest with you, imo I really don't think the long distance thing will work and I'll tell you why. You're both very young. Being a Scorp he is gonna want that physical contact. You should too, you're teenagers!! That is not to suggest Scorps can't be faithful or that we are so sex obsessed that we can't control ourselves (well you know what I mean ). I am just saying this is a time when you want to enjoy everything that young love has to offer. It's already so complicated with all those hormones, expectations and na??vet?, why add distance to the mix? Even if he does come around I don't see this lasting long term unless your living situation changes. Sorry.
How much distance is there between you anyway?
See this is one of the many reasons i love scorpios: you guys know me better than i know myself. I can honestly say that i didn't really analyze that my insecurities got the best of me and i talked myself out of it without even realizing it. You're completely right. Don't be sorry, i appreciate your honesty really, and thank you for answering me We're further away than you probably think, like he's half way across the world from me. I know it can be possible that we meet and see each other but only if we both really want to. I really didn't do anything to hurt him that's why i was surprised and hurt when he completely ignored me. Listen, i really wanna fix this. I think i only showed him the insecure and shy part of me. Not the confident and fun part. I can be confident at times and i didn't show it and i know i really regret it cause what if he never talks to me again just because i'm not the person he wants? I want to fix this so badly i don't know what to do, i want to talk to him and apologize for doubting him, as you said, and i just hope he'll understand but at the same time i don't want to talk to him first, i think i would seem needy or something because if he wanted to talk to me, he would have talked to me right?
So basically, i don't really know what to do. I thought about sending him a picture out of the blue like a sexy picture of maybe just me smiling since he said he likes my smile. That would show him a little that i'm confident and not too shy. But i think i should wait another week before doing that. I really wanna fix this, i don't want to lose him he makes me happy and he's so perfect and sweet and i ruined it omg. So what do you think? Btw i used a break hahahahaha. I'm new to this blog sorry but thank you i'm gonna start using breaks from now on since a block of letters is probably uninteresting.
We're further away than you probably think, like he's half way across the world from me. I know it can be possible that we meet and see each other but only if we both really want to. I really didn't do anything to hurt him that's why i was surprised and hurt when he completely ignored me. Listen, i really wanna fix this. I think i only showed him the insecure and shy part of me. Not the confident and fun part. I can be confident at times and i didn't show it and i know i really regret it cause what if he never talks to me again just because i'm not the person he wants? I want to fix this so badly i don't know what to do, i want to talk to him and apologize for doubting him, as you said, and i just hope he'll understand but at the same time i don't want to talk to him first, i think i would seem needy or something because if he wanted to talk to me, he would have talked to me right? So basically, i don't really know what to do. I thought about sending him a picture out of the blue like a sexy picture of maybe just me smiling since he said he likes my smile. That would show him a little that i'm confident and not too shy. But i think i should wait another week before doing that. I really wanna fix this, i don't want to lose him he makes me happy and he's so perfect and sweet and i ruined it omg. So what do you think? Btw i used a break hahahahaha. I'm new to this blog sorry but thank you i'm gonna start using breaks from now on since a block of letters is probably uninteresting.
Okay update: he talked to me as if nothing ever happened and i asked him why he didn't answer me and he said he doesn't know... I decided to give him his space and not say anything and just forget about it like he probably did.
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