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This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by lololala on Saturday, July 12, 2014 and has 19 replies.
Im the one who is not allowed to do anything in life...so I came from a country with traditions and please excuse my english..that a girl shouldnt go anyplace by her self and should not have a boyfriend...so when I was a teenager I had 2 boyfriends because it was the cool thing to do and you ll appear cool infront of other girls..so my mom figured it out and she doesnt trust me anymore..although this was 4 years ago..she still dont let me go anywhere by myself at the sametime no one from my family enjoy going out with me..I have friends but I hate them because they always make me feel im lower than them and they dont enjoy the geeky stuff im into..so in holidays im all alone by myself cant go anywhere outside the flat and I could stay for a month or 2 without going out suffering from depression and sitting lonely...I have no facebook nor twitter or any social site because it waste my time and it turn me to a slut taking pics of herself for attention and I dont trust myself as I turn to a slut very easily so I stay away...the thing is I have so alot boys interests and I cant be with boys or go out with them because my family wont accept such a thing..and I dont enjoy going out with girls im not into their stuff at all..I have 2 boys number..we talked on whatsapp..but 1 doesnt respond when I talk and the other one is always making something to be sad at me..in short,he acts like a bitch...so what do I supposed to do with my fking life ?
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Posted by lololala
Im the one who is not allowed to do anything in life...so I came from a country with traditions and please excuse my english..that a girl shouldnt go anyplace by her self and should not have a boyfriend...so when I was a teenager I had 2 boyfriends because it was the cool thing to do and you ll appear cool infront of other girls..so my mom figured it out and she doesnt trust me anymore..although this was 4 years ago..she still dont let me go anywhere by myself at the sametime no one from my family enjoy going out with me..I have friends but I hate them because they always make me feel im lower than them and they dont enjoy the geeky stuff im into..so in holidays im all alone by myself cant go anywhere outside the flat and I could stay for a month or 2 without going out suffering from depression and sitting lonely...I have no facebook nor twitter or any social site because it waste my time and it turn me to a slut taking pics of herself for attention and I dont trust myself as I turn to a slut very easily so I stay away...the thing is I have so alot boys interests and I cant be with boys or go out with them because my family wont accept such a thing..and I dont enjoy going out with girls im not into their stuff at all..I have 2 boys number..we talked on whatsapp..but 1 doesnt respond when I talk and the other one is always making something to be sad at me..in short,he acts like a bitch...so what do I supposed to do with my fking life ?

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Catholic?
Jewish?
Muslim?
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I am also detecting a young girl. I don't know if you have any disabilities. IF you do, you're special
and have a power non-disabled person could not even dream about.

lola,
I think you should consider not worrying about what others think of you.
Think about things that YOU like. Do you like exploring Nature? Literature? Art? Music?
Do you get along with older people better than those of your age?
Do you love animals?
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Down deep, I choose to see a very
lovely human being.
Don't throw it away in favor of cheap superficiality.
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If you're now in a country where women do have those freedoms you'll have to decide when you want to buck the old system of beliefs and venture out on your own. The hard price to pay is that your family won't like it. I don't think they'll stop loving you, but they won't make this easy. The plus side of it is that you'll sort of "break" them into a new way of thinking once they accept it, and that will pave the way for any younger sisters, nieces, etc. to have a more free life without fighting the family for it. Really think about what you want in your future. You DO have the power to get it if you're willing to go for it. College, work, travel, a social life....whatever it is you want!
I agree with Firebird: don't worry at all what others think of you. Superficial ideals and ideas on what is cool, what is trendy, what is normal, what everyone is doing....these are pointless and will be just as much of a prison for you as living in a place where women have no freedoms.
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Invest in something far more meaningful than those superficial things MOST people deem important and valuable.
The only other thing on top of that list I gave would be looking into matters of the heart and soul.
Spiritual contemplations. Consider the reasons why your parents may have been restrictive. I don't think
it's to hurt you but to protect you. - Young people, especially, don't really know or fathom the
consequences of their choices until after they have made them. Often..., those consequences become
a lifelong companion. - Don't be in a hurry to give your virginity if you haven't done so, already.
You may one day regret doing so with the wrong man. Just sayin'.
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Posted by MrFirebird
I am also detecting a young girl. I don't know if you have any disabilities. IF you do, you're special
and have a power non-disabled person could not even dream about.

lola,
I think you should consider not worrying about what others think of you.
Think about things that YOU like. Do you like exploring Nature? Literature? Art? Music?
Do you get along with older people better than those of your age?
Do you love animals?
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Down deep, I choose to see a very
lovely human being.
Don't throw it away in favor of cheap superficiality.



Im sorry i perfer not to say my religion...
About the disability if you consider crooked nose and a gap between my teeth are disabilities so yeah I have disabilities but im not that ugly..no one want to be with me im 21..if im not at college then im 100% alone..I dont care what others think of me at the same time I dont wanna hear criticism about things I cant change by my girl friends all the time..and the boys I knew doesnt like me like I said they dont respond...I love nature..l love going to different places but im not allowed to go by myself..and I dont have the right company to go with...so summer holiday for me is like solitary
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Posted by MoonArtist
If you're now in a country where women do have those freedoms you'll have to decide when you want to buck the old system of beliefs and venture out on your own. The hard price to pay is that your family won't like it. I don't think they'll stop loving you, but they won't make this easy. The plus side of it is that you'll sort of "break" them into a new way of thinking once they accept it, and that will pave the way for any younger sisters, nieces, etc. to have a more free life without fighting the family for it. Really think about what you want in your future. You DO have the power to get it if you're willing to go for it. College, work, travel, a social life....whatever it is you want!
I agree with Firebird: don't worry at all what others think of you. Superficial ideals and ideas on what is cool, what is trendy, what is normal, what everyone is doing....these are pointless and will be just as much of a prison for you as living in a place where women have no freedoms.


I cant make my mom and dad angry with me aagain.i made them once and I regret it till now.i lost my freedom by not listening to them back then..and I cant risk it again....im not actually looking for having sex or any love relationships im just looking for boys company only the smart geeky one who care about playstation,scientists and other same stuff..see in our traditions woman must stay virgin for the one she will marry......so we dont care or looking for sex..we just want the good company..I find my good company with my cousin..he likes the same stuff I like..he has depression too..but we cant be together because our parents will think we r in love...and you are not allowed to fall in love...at least infront of your parents..they will do anything to stop any affection..althought there wasnt any..iam not in love but I enjoy the company of my cousin..but they wont get that...
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Posted by lololala
Posted by MoonArtist
If you're now in a country where women do have those freedoms you'll have to decide when you want to buck the old system of beliefs and venture out on your own. The hard price to pay is that your family won't like it. I don't think they'll stop loving you, but they won't make this easy. The plus side of it is that you'll sort of "break" them into a new way of thinking once they accept it, and that will pave the way for any younger sisters, nieces, etc. to have a more free life without fighting the family for it. Really think about what you want in your future. You DO have the power to get it if you're willing to go for it. College, work, travel, a social life....whatever it is you want!
I agree with Firebird: don't worry at all what others think of you. Superficial ideals and ideas on what is cool, what is trendy, what is normal, what everyone is doing....these are pointless and will be just as much of a prison for you as living in a place where women have no freedoms.


I cant make my mom and dad angry with me aagain.i made them once and I regret it till now.i lost my freedom by not listening to them back then..and I cant risk it again....im not actually looking for having sex or any love relationships im just looking for boys company only the smart geeky one who care about playstation,scientists and other same stuff..see in our traditions woman must stay virgin for the one she will marry......so we dont care or looking for sex..we just want the good company..I find my good company with my cousin..he likes the same stuff I like..he has depression too..but we cant be together because our parents will think we r in love...and you are not allowed to fall in love...at least infront of your parents..they will do anything to stop any affection..althought there wasnt any..iam not in love but I enjoy the company of my cousin..but they wont get that...
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Posted by lololala
Posted by MrFirebird
I am also detecting a young girl. I don't know if you have any disabilities. IF you do, you're special
and have a power non-disabled person could not even dream about.

lola,
I think you should consider not worrying about what others think of you.
Think about things that YOU like. Do you like exploring Nature? Literature? Art? Music?
Do you get along with older people better than those of your age?
Do you love animals?
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Down deep, I choose to see a very
lovely human being.
Don't throw it away in favor of cheap superficiality.



Im sorry i perfer not to say my religion...
About the disability if you consider crooked nose and a gap between my teeth are disabilities so yeah I have disabilities but im not that ugly..no one want to be with me im 21..if im not at college then im 100% alone..I dont care what others think of me at the same time I dont wanna hear criticism about things I cant change by my girl friends all the time..and the boys I knew doesnt like me like I said they dont respond...I love nature..l love going to different places but im not allowed to go by myself..and I dont have the right company to go with...so summer holiday for me is like solitary
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Sounds to me like you're Muslim, possibly Saudi Arabian. - not that it matters to me, but it would be wise
to maintain your purity and respect your parents. Anyway... just absorb nature as much as you can.
I respectfully and sincerely wish you inner peace and happiness. - remember, outer ugliness is NOT what
you should ever be concerned about. it's the inner appearance that you must guard against - be honest and kind
to those you meet, that you might receive the same, in return. There's where true beauty lies... within.
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Posted by MrFirebird
Sounds to me like you're Muslim, possibly Saudi Arabian. - not that it matters to me, but it would be wise
to maintain your purity and respect your parents. Anyway... just absorb nature as much as you can.
I respectfully and sincerely wish you inner peace and happiness. - remember, outer ugliness is NOT what
you should ever be concerned about. it's the inner appearance that you must guard against - be honest and kind
to those you meet, that you might receive the same, in return. There's where true beauty lies... within.



Im not saudi arabian..they have it way harder than us...im egyptian
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Posted by lololala
Posted by MrFirebird
Sounds to me like you're Muslim, possibly Saudi Arabian. - not that it matters to me, but it would be wise
to maintain your purity and respect your parents. Anyway... just absorb nature as much as you can.
I respectfully and sincerely wish you inner peace and happiness. - remember, outer ugliness is NOT what
you should ever be concerned about. it's the inner appearance that you must guard against - be honest and kind
to those you meet, that you might receive the same, in return. There's where true beauty lies... within.



Im not saudi arabian..they have it way harder than us...im egyptian
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Very well. You are fortunate in that regard. Nevertheless, your religion remains.
Now, I am assuming that you might be in the United States or some other democratic country that
has very lax laws that allow the kind of freedom that you see others enjoying in a culture which
is foreign to your homeland. - Unbridled Freedom has it's price. It isn't pretty. Freedom as practiced
in the US by it's people is nearly synonymous with lawlessness.
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Posted by lololala
...I have no facebook nor twitter or any social site because it waste my time
and it turn me to a slut taking pics of herself for attention
and I dont trust myself as I turn to a slut very easily so I stay away.
if im not at college then im 100% alone.


Doesn't school start back in four weeks, or so?
I mean, if you've already accepted that you're never go to date (I'm assuming arranged marriage is in the future?), then what the heck is four more weeks?
Nothing.
Learn how to read your natal chart-- find out what makes you (and those around you) tick.
It's really interesting and there's a lot of info out there, as well as in here (dxp).


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Posted by lololala
Posted by MrFirebird
Sounds to me like you're Muslim, possibly Saudi Arabian. - not that it matters to me, but it would be wise
to maintain your purity and respect your parents. Anyway... just absorb nature as much as you can.
I respectfully and sincerely wish you inner peace and happiness. - remember, outer ugliness is NOT what
you should ever be concerned about. it's the inner appearance that you must guard against - be honest and kind
to those you meet, that you might receive the same, in return. There's where true beauty lies... within.



Im not saudi arabian..they have it way harder than us...im egyptian


Very well. You are fortunate in that regard. Nevertheless, your religion remains.
Now, I am assuming that you might be in the United States or some other democratic country that
has very lax laws that allow the kind of freedom that you see others enjoying in a culture which
is foreign to your homeland. - Unbridled Freedom has it's price. It isn't pretty. Freedom as practiced
in the US by it's people is nearly synonymous with lawlessness.

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No..I have never traveled..and yeah I see everyone around me open minded..they go out with boys.they date..egypt has become more like america..but listen to this only wealthy open minded parents who let their childern go out with boys..date whatever..they understand..but not my parents im ok with that..I love my parents..all I wanna do is go out,see my country,go to the beach..and they are like no..no..no we r busy..we work for your future..ok mom I will go by myself...no...hey sister wanna come...no...brother?...no...
Ok mom can I go out with my cousin ?...lol If I asked such a thing I would be dead..see I hate girls, I hate boys because in college they only show me either to be his girlfriend or not..no one likes a friendly relationship..but my cousin..he is the most beautiful mind of the whole universe..I actually have never talked to him for more like 2 mins..3 times since I wad born...but my mom always talked about him and how he is like me in everything.thats why I want him to be my friend..and im so afraid to text him or call him..he will think that I am stalking him..and that j
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My heart goes out to you lololala. I was raised with the same traditions. Mine was strict Catholic. I know all about not going out in public places alone, and never to be around boys even male cousins. It did get lonely sometimes i agree. Moving to another country was not easy. It was a challenge. Thanks to my wonderful parents who invested so much of their goodness. One day you will look back and say it was worth it. You might not understand and appreciate it now but you will when you get married. Your parents are not going to be around forever. Cherish them, they mean well. They love and care for you.
You hang on and don't worry about what people say or think of you....I've been there too. You are building a strong and good foundation for yourself and your future.
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Thanks for your support...its good to know im not alone at something..but seriously I miss the street..I miss the nature..I wanna go out !
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Posted by lololala
...I have no facebook nor twitter or any social site because it waste my time
and it turn me to a slut taking pics of herself for attention
and I dont trust myself as I turn to a slut very easily so I stay away.
if im not at college then im 100% alone.


Doesn't school start back in four weeks, or so?
I mean, if you've already accepted that you're never go to date (I'm assuming arranged marriage is in the future?), then what the heck is four more weeks?
Nothing.
Learn how to read your natal chart-- find out what makes you (and those around you) tick.
It's really interesting and there's a lot of info out there, as well as in here (dxp).



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School will start at thr end of September...I wanna go out..I want my cousin to go out with me..I want my parents to accept that cause I hate do something behind their back..cause im a chicken and afraid they will hit me..beside I want to be the good girl in my parents eyes cause they have already suffered from me 4 years ago...I just cant live every holiday with no one to go out with..in my flat..wasting my time on bed for months...wanna live the life before I graduate and have a job and responsibilities and then I ll marry and kids...I wont have time for my self when I grow up..time is running..and I have no stories to tell to my grand children
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Posted by MrFirebird
Posted by lololala
Posted by MrFirebird
Sounds to me like you're Muslim, possibly Saudi Arabian. - not that it matters to me, but it would be wise
to maintain your purity and respect your parents. Anyway... just absorb nature as much as you can.
I respectfully and sincerely wish you inner peace and happiness. - remember, outer ugliness is NOT what
you should ever be concerned about. it's the inner appearance that you must guard against - be honest and kind
to those you meet, that you might receive the same, in return. There's where true beauty lies... within.



Im not saudi arabian..they have it way harder than us...im egyptian


Very well. You are fortunate in that regard. Nevertheless, your religion remains.
Now, I am assuming that you might be in the United States or some other democratic country that
has very lax laws that allow the kind of freedom that you see others enjoying in a culture which
is foreign to your homeland. - Unbridled Freedom has it's price. It isn't pretty. Freedom as practiced
in the US by it's people is nearly synonymous with lawlessness.



No..I have never traveled..and yeah I see everyone around me open minded..they go out with boys.they date..egypt has become more like america..but listen to this only wealthy open minded parents who let their childern go out with boys..date whatever..they understand..but not my parents im ok with that..I love my parents..all I wanna do is go out,see my country,go to the beach..and they are like no..no..no we r busy..we work for your future..ok mom I will go by myself...no...hey sister wanna come...no...brother?...no...
Ok mom can I go out with my cousin ?...lol If I asked such a thing I would be dead..see I hate girls, I hate boys because in college they only show me either to be his girlfriend or not..no one likes a friendly relationship..but my cousin..he is the most beautiful mind of the whole universe..I actually have never talked to him for more like 2 mins..3 times since I wad born...but my mom always talked about him and how he is like me in everything.thats why I want him to be my f
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