Help please!!! What to do with this scorpio behaviour?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by iridessa1980 on Tuesday, October 4, 2016 and has 61 replies.
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Me and my scorpio have been together for 9 months now. It's been the most amazing and intense relationship I ever had and I love him something fierce. I would take on gravity of he needed it be. So there is that.

Last Sunday I left his house after a small disagreement. No slamming doors or anything., I left with a sigh really and as I close the door his daughter walked in and I heard het her call my name. (Awful timing) I didn t think too much of it at the time. In the wat Home I tried calling and texting, no response ofcourse. As an Aries the ignoring is torture and drives me crazy. The more he ignores the more desperate I become. ( no anger though, just crying and pleading)

The next day I went to his house to give him some stuff he needed for a nightdive he had planned. He handed me my belongings at the door said I started drama while his daughter was there and shut the door. Completly mindfucked and nailed to the ground I cried my eyes out pleading for him to please just talk to me. While I cried my eyes out he started filming me on his phone. What the actual fuck?!? I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible. I just stood there crying. But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left. On the way home I cried beyond belief, bombed his phone with voicemails and just repeated how God I didn t understand. At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...


Je had done the "break up thing" before or the silent treatmebt. Have even been blocked on 2 occasions but he always comes back when he realizes he was quick to jump the gun. However. The filming was new.

Some scorpios advise me to tell him how much he means to me, others say give him space. I need to know what to do. This man is my moon. So if anyone has advice or whatever, all is appreciated
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But I didn t start drama in front of his kids. That's my point. His kids were in the other room. And we just talked no raised voices. I was sitting on his lap actually. But I asked him, he turned the convo around so I juist got up and left with a sigh. As I closed the door his daughter walked in. That's it.
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I asked him why he deleted his e-mails on Friday. He was about to go to work and I was staying at his place. But first he needed to delete some mails. Of was odd , but I didn t ask about it till Sunday. I asked him of he had something to hide.

But as I said, during this convo I was seated on his lap and his kids were in the other room. And we never raised voices or anything. But he turned the convo and so I got up and left with a sigh. At the samen time I closed one door, his daughter walked in through another door. That's it.
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So I'm gonna sum this up, he had questionable behavior, you called him out on it and he managed to make you think you did something wrong and you actually threw a full blown tantrum, which actually made him look right and he recorded it, so he can tell ppl how dangerous and crazy you are? And you're still going back for more?


Wow, he's good....


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Without knowing all the dynamics of the relationship I will tell you, as a Scorpio, just go completely no contact. Don't call, text, email or post on social media. Don't go places where you know that he or his friends may be at.

He's mad right now and every time you come around is another chance for him to punish you. If you disappear from his life he will have time to reflect on the situation. If he still wants to be in a relationship the silence will drive him crazy. He will reach out.
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Scorpios deleting emails.Laughing ahem... yeah no contact and let the dude calm down.
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Well 6 months ago he was caught by me on a datingsite yes. But that is in our first month 2 months. After that he never did anything that I know of. That's why I found it odd last Friday.

Don't know why he recorded. At that moment he did make it sound like I was the bad guy yes. But I know he knows better. He does have a tendency to challenge me that's a fact. I usually just ignore it or call his bluff. He hates that smile I'm still an Aries, don't challenge Me!!

But this just seems unreasonable. Not seems, is!!

On the one hand I should just walk away and never look back. But our connection is soooooo intense.It has been from day 1. Soulmate connection as he calls it. I do to by the way.


I figure he's mad bc of his daughter walking in. But it was not intentional and prior to my question I had already hugged and kissed his kids goodbye. They adore me and I love them as my own. So will he really be that drastic knowing his kids will suffer from this as well. A scorpio setting his kids up for pain? No way, never!!!

So no contact completly? I'll try. It's hard. I miss him deeply
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I have no words, thats really weird behavior, pretty extreme. I'm a scorpio and I can't imagine doing that to someone i love. But I could imagine being that sadistic t someone I don't love anymore. Is there anything your not telling us…from your side? Were you hiding anything that he might have found?
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holding a knife?
Holy cats, what kind of fights do you have? ????
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I really don't get why he has to film you on his phone.
He wanted to capture the moments when she was down on her knees. You get what I mean?
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So true I think. I just stood there crying for 10 minutes before giving him the finger. My 2 second immaturity will bite me in the als later for sure. I asked him in my mail wat he would do of I were to film him during a wrak moment or him lading out. I know he reads my mails, he can't help hijzelf. Zo he must be pondering his own action...I guess. Or maybe that's just my optimistic Aries self speaking/wishfulthinking
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holding a knife?
Holy cats, what kind of fights do you have? ????
I've been known to pick up women from the hospital for the criminally insane.
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Have we dated? ?
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I have no words, thats really weird behavior, pretty extreme. I'm a scorpio and I can't imagine doing that to someone i love. But I could imagine being that sadistic t someone I don't love anymore. Is there anything your not telling us…from your side? Were you hiding anything that he might have found?
No. And when I read your response. I even wish I was. I never throw tantrums, always try to remain calm and understanding. I went to bring him stuff he asked for and that he needed.

The only thing i can think of is that I asked him during his silent treatment to treat me with respect. But that's the "worst" thing I said.

I admit the ignoring drives me crazy and I tell him rhks AFTER. But I never go ape in front of him. I just cry and look desperate.
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No slamming doors or anything.


I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible.


But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left.


At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...

I'm sensing some anger issues along with a strong state of denial.

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On my behalf you mean? No honestly, no slamming doors or anything. I don't fight like that. I usually just walk away. Of I'm really mad I will stamp my feet though. But that wasnt the case.

The repeating I did was after I left. I just told myself as of saying it to him. I knew I didn t start drama in front of his kids but he claimed I did before the shutting the door. I was just completly mindfucked bc it made no sense
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I don't believe you're giving us the full story..


But if you really are, ignore him and move on.


What full story? I went to his house on Friday spent time with him and the kids. He went to take a shower, came to the living room, deleted his entire mailbox, sat with me till he left for the nightshift. Saturday we spent the dat together, just is two. He was silent yes, but he always his after the nightshift. Sunday he picked up his kids, another day spent playing and watching movies. The mail thing bothered me so I asked him about it. That's it.

Full 9 month story? He was very jealous and insecure. But I gave him whatever he needed to trust me. (His ex cheated on him big time) I spent most of my days with him, he had acces to my phone and other stuff, so no secrets. He could get paranoid when I was out, I love hiking alone or with Friends. But other then that I just filled my days with working, my son and spending time with him.

He could get mad over nothing yes. But I "blame" that on his insecurities so I would show him all the love I had. Would I stick up for myself? Ofcourse!! But I never blew him off. Never!!

I once asked him to go to counseling doe his trust issues. I know he didn t like that and that was our biggest "fight" where he did blow up in a nasty way. But other then that I never cheated or anything. He always knew where I was and who I was with.

A month ago I did tell him he should be more careful about driving around with weed in his car bc I wouldn't want anything to happen to him. He was mad for me medling ? but no major issues during out relationship. Just small stuff that yes indeed dus bug me from time to time. But I a. Kept that to myself or told him in a loving informative manner .
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It doesn't make sense because he is overacting to deflect on the issues he's hiding something in the email.




That's what I think to. He told me he deleted adds ??? I just gave him a blank stare on that remark and then he turned the convo around to als me who I was texting that day . I gave him my phone to check, he refused for whatever reason and I left with a sigh
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How do you know he deleted his entire mailbox? And why wait 2 days before bringing it up?


I was in the coach, he at his desk which is next to coach. I was hij delete mailbox, sent mails and trash. Didnt say anything at that moment bc he had to leave for work. Next day I tried but as if he knew he said that if I ever had questions I schuld ask and he would tell me whatever I wanted to know. So Sunday I took him up on his offer.
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Couch sorry
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I have no words, thats really weird behavior, pretty extreme. I'm a scorpio and I can't imagine doing that to someone i love. But I could imagine being that sadistic t someone I don't love anymore. Is there anything your not telling us…from your side? Were you hiding anything that he might have found?
No. And when I read your response. I even wish I was. I never throw tantrums, always try to remain calm and understanding. I went to bring him stuff he asked for and that he needed.

The only thing i can think of is that I asked him during his silent treatment to treat me with respect. But that's the "worst" thing I said.

I admit the ignoring drives me crazy and I tell him rhks AFTER. But I never go ape in front of him. I just cry and look desperate.
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You know what…now that i think about it...I had a pretty sadistic scorpio exboyfriend who I could imagine doing this to me. He was VERY manipulative and controlling when he felt disrespected or really wanted to get his way. He's probably thinking he's teaching you an extreme lesson so you don't do this again…or something…but that's so not right. If he comes back around, and you want to make it work…please ASSERT yourself, don't cry and look desperate, that's weakness and that only fuels people, especially if they are in control; be stern and sincere. Make sure you both understand that you can never return to such an unhealthy level of dramatics and mean it. Scorpios can go between dominant/submissive very easily. If you play the weak roll we'll step up and take charge, but if you are assertive we will listen and humbly comply. Just don't look weak, ok. Let your emotions come out as strength.
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How do you know he deleted his entire mailbox? And why wait 2 days before bringing it up?


I was in the coach, he at his desk which is next to coach. I was hij delete mailbox, sent mails and trash. Didnt say anything at that moment bc he had to leave for work. Next day I tried but as if he knew he said that if I ever had questions I schuld ask and he would tell me whatever I wanted to know. So Sunday I took him up on his offer.
So he was checking his email and you happened to be watching him?


You figured him deleted his mail and emptying his trash was suspicious?


What do you think he was trying to hide from you? Do you have access to his email account?

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Why select certain mails in your inbox and empty your sent mails and trash? I don't want or need acces to his e-mailaccount. But yes I did find that strange. Could be Me, but I asked him months ago to delete a certain woman from his fb which he met on a datingsite. He did, but he kept talking to her through Messenger. So he blocked her after I asked. But deleting mails or selecties just certain mails did make me question if he was mailing her maybe. I could juist ask her via fb. But I don't want to be that woman either.
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Couch sorry


yes, that's the part that is not understanble comparing to I was hij delete mailbox Big Grin




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Lol sorry. But lots of Dutch on my phone. My mom is Flemish. It should've read I saw him deleting...
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You seem to like making mountains out of mole hills. Would you agree?
That's often true yes ? not always. But I can be impulsive in my way of thinking. But he already lied about talking to her once. So yes, it is possible I am wrong on this. But the other option is also still there. That he still e-mails her and didnt want me to find out.

So me questioning his honesty could have been what started this? I can go with that. But why film me or hand my stuff over just that?!? Sorry but that doesn't add up imo
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You seem to like making mountains out of mole hills. Would you agree?
But why film me or hand my stuff over just that?!? Sorry but that doesn't add up imo
I can only assume that you've gone somewhat nuts in the past.


If not.. then I suggest you move on from this relationship.


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Well I haven't. I would leave the room yes. But never throw a tantrum. He does this though. I always just stand in place and ask him to please talk to me. If he leaves my house I don't run after him, only dus this once. But that was before I knew you should never chase a scorpio. I will stand my ground yes. But not in a bad way. I always remain calm besides from tears and a shaken voice.

But you do make a good point. Not in acting physically crazy, but he will react impulsive in things I say after. Never damaging or spiteful, but just stupid stuff. I once said someone was worse then Hitler but I was hurt badly in that moment. But will I throw stuff or things like that? Nope.
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You seem to like making mountains out of mole hills. Would you agree?
But why film me or hand my stuff over just that?!? Sorry but that doesn't add up imo
I can only assume that you've gone somewhat nuts in the past.


If not.. then I suggest you move on from this relationship.


Well I haven't. I would leave the room yes. But never throw a tantrum. He does this though. I always just stand in place and ask him to please talk to me. If he leaves my house I don't run after him, only dus this once. But that was before I knew you should never chase a scorpio. I will stand my ground yes. But not in a bad way. I always remain calm besides from tears and a shaken voice.

But you do make a good point. Not in acting physically crazy, but he will react impulsive in things I say after. Never damaging or spiteful, but just stupid stuff. I once said someone was worse then Hitler but I was hurt badly in that moment. But will I throw stuff or things like that? Nope.
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* I will


Sorry for the Dutch btw. It's my phone, not me. I'm a writer. I know how to write ?
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Aries and Scorpio


Just no
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Aries and Scorpio


Just no
You can't just assume that. His ex was an Aries they we're together for a decade. They split up once bc she cheated. But they have 2 kids together. If you try to understand each other everything is possible. One of my best friends is scorpio. We've been Friends for over 20 yrs and only had a "fight" once. A drunk fight which we resolved the next day. Living with a scorpio is different yes. But nothing is ever "Just NO"
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Many traits of scorpio and narcisisst are very a like. I once asked myself if I was dealing with a narc. But no. Too many traits he has that are impossible for a narc to do.

Too many to adress here, but I wouldn't be lying if I said I believed this at one point.
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Many traits of scorpio and narcisisst are very a like. I once asked myself if I was dealing with a narc. But no. Too many traits he has that are impossible for a narc to do.

Too many to adress here, but I wouldn't be lying if I said I believed this at one point.
NPD is a spectrum. Everyone has some narcissistic traits, especially in our current image-obsessed culture.
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I know it' s a spectrum. I worked for years with kids and adults and various spectrum.


But the charme, jealousy, distence, hot n cold, deflecting responsibility, verbal outbursts, etc... are similar traits.
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He has cheated on others in the past not on me that I know of. And yes he deleted his account . But several months later he was still paying for services on that site. So safe to assume he lied here wouldn't ja think ? The woman he deleted he met on there 3 months ago and lied about it. Told me she was a collegue. So I asked him to defriend her . Still talked through Messenger and then blocked her on my request.so yes I question the mails!!!


I know what I've been through you don't. So don't assume things please. You don't know me nor how I am in relationships.


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I didn' t force him either. I asked him, huge difference. And she wasn' t a Friend. It was someone he met on a datingsite. I would never ask someone to delete or stay away from friends.

Don't fit the story to meet your narrative. I have my reasons to question the e-mails.
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You seem to like making mountains out of mole hills. Would you agree?
But why film me or hand my stuff over just that?!? Sorry but that doesn't add up imo
I can only assume that you've gone somewhat nuts in the past.


If not.. then I suggest you move on from this relationship.


He should understand he broke trust n she might question it for a bit. If he was remorseful he could understand her why

But instead he is being dramatic when he caused her distrust n should attempt to appease her concerns.

Instead he's acting like a guilty man

Who rather not deal cuz already has side chick
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Not sure about the sidechick as in actual sleeping with her. But flirting and checking, yes. Well at least before.

I think he got upset bc I questionend him. But as a scorpio he does nothing but. Not always but he has. So I would give him my phone and passwords to reassure him I had nothing to hide. I even suggested he'd hang on to my phone for a week.

I trust him on anything else. But when it comes to strange women I just can't and that's bc he gave me reason to .


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I mentioned he lied about still talking to her and meeting her on a site couple of months ago.

I have no reason to lie nor leave out my part. I questionend him and left his house bc he turned the convo around. The next day I just brought him stuff he asked for. I cried, he filmed and I gave him the finger.

I haven't gone crazy before in my reactions. I usually just cry and don't understand what he's mad about. But no tantrums or throwing things. I am a very positive and extremly patient person. But when I'm hurt I walk away or in this case give the finger. That's how far my acting out goes. When he is mad or upset I try reasoning or just stay still in the hopes he takes over my calmness. If he walks out I left him go and wait a few hours till he comes around.


I don't get mad over small things. If I see or feel something I don't like I express how I feel. Making things bigger then they are, yes. But mostly just in my mind, after I express my thoughts I let it go.
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Posted by dolluxe
Trust is one of the foundations of a good relationship. And him doing all of that crap is not because he's a Scorpio but because he's a narcissist. The lies, drama and filming your breakdown on his phone? This guy is toxic. Walk away now.
Drama is his middle name!! He can get upset over really small stuff and then when I get tired of it and speak my mind he will say I start drama. But I always ignore this bc I know better. This time was different bc nothing really happend except for me leaving with a sigh.

I don't think the filming was his idea. My gut tells me someone whisperd this into his ear. But that's gut not fact. And I trust my gut on this one big time.

I have thought once he was a narc. But there are too many contradictions. Stuff he does that a fullblown narc is incapable of. Does he have many narc traits? Different story. I think he's just a first totem scorpio and these are nasty little creatures as well. But he has a beautiful soul and will help whoever needs him at and time. Doesn't fit the narc either.

I don't mean to defend him in a big way. I am fully award he does stuff that are indeed toxic. But I also see the other side.

Blame me and my optimism but I believe he his a transitionning scorpio.
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Second psychotic scorp post I've seen in a few days.


Why the bloody fuck do these women tolerate this shit? I'd be out the door in the first instance of this fucknut behavior. All this silly bitch bullshit of "well he gave me the silent treatment before.."


Get a goddamned grip. You're a fucking Aries. What the hell is wrong with you?
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Maybe. I know his ex doesn't see him as a narc though and they we're together for 10 years. Or maybe she is the same or doesn't want to speak ill of her baby daddy.

I know he does things that are not ok. But I'm careful with labels like that. I used to work with adults and children with true personality disorders, I've seen dark things and am aware hoe quick people want to put labels on others. Not always justified.

I see the bad ofcourse I do. But I see other things as well and many many lang of these things are impossible for a narc to do.

If turns out I am wrong I will have a long way of recovery ahead. But I have a gutfeeling he is not a narc. Rather just a very troubled person due to prior experiences. Doesn't excuse his lying. But does excuse his jealousy and possessiveness.
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He has cheated on others in the past not on me that I know of. And yes he deleted his account . But several months later he was still paying for services on that site. So safe to assume he lied here wouldn't ja think ? The woman he deleted he met on there 3 months ago and lied about it. Told me she was a collegue. So I asked him to defriend her . Still talked through Messenger and then blocked her on my request.so yes I question the mails!!!


I know what I've been through you don't. So don't assume things please. You don't know me nor how I am in relationships.


"He didn't cheat on me, that I know of."


*proceeds to tell tale of dude basically attempting to cheat*


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Trust is one of the foundations of a good relationship. And him doing all of that crap is not because he's a Scorpio but because he's a narcissist. The lies, drama and filming your breakdown on his phone? This guy is toxic. Walk away now.
Drama is his middle name!! He can get upset over really small stuff and then when I get tired of it and sprak my mind he will say I start drama. But I always ignore this bc I know better. This time was different bc nothing really happend except for me leasing with a sigh.

I don't think the filming was his idea. My gut tells me someone whisperd this into his ear. But that's gut not fact.

I have thought once he was a narc. But there are too many contradictions. Stuff he does that a fullblown narc is incapable of. Does he have many narc traits? Different story. I think he's just a first totem scorpio and these are nasty little creatures as well. But he had a beautiful soul and will help whoever needs him at and time. Doesn't fit the narc either.

I don't mean to defend him in a big way. I am fully award he does stuff that are indeed toxic. But I also see the other side.

Blame me and my optimism but I believe he his a transitionning scorpio.
I think you're in denial.
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She is. She also saw red flags early on and still stuck with him.


Put the dick down. It is not worth putting your well being at risk.


I repeat, put the dick down.


...and run away. Quickly.
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Maybe. I know his ex doesn't see him as a narc though and they we're together for 10 years. Or maybe she is the same or doesn't want to speak ill of her baby daddy.

I know he does things that are not ok. But I'm careful with labels like that. I used to work with adults and children with true personality disorders, I've seen dark things and am aware hoe quick people want to put labels on others. Not always justified.

I see the bad ofcourse I do. But I see other things as well and many many lang of these things are impossible for a narc to do.

If turns out I am wrong I will have a long way of recovery ahead. But I have a gutfeeling he is not a narc. Rather just a very troubled person due to prior experiences. Doesn't excuse his lying. But does excuse his jealousy and possessiveness.
So what excuses your stupidity in this situation?


What excuses your desperation?


What excuses you blatantly ignoring the dude trying to cheat on you early on and sticking around?


I'll wait.
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He has cheated on others in the past not on me that I know of. And yes he deleted his account . But several months later he was still paying for services on that site. So safe to assume he lied here wouldn't ja think ? The woman he deleted he met on there 3 months ago and lied about it. Told me she was a collegue. So I asked him to defriend her . Still talked through Messenger and then blocked her on my request.so yes I question the mails!!!


I know what I've been through you don't. So don't assume things please. You don't know me nor how I am in relationships.


"He didn't cheat on me, that I know of."


*proceeds to tell tale of dude basically attempting to cheat*


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I hear what you mean. But we we're together everyday besides from work or him going diving or me gone walking while he was with his kids. I don't see when and where he would have time.
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Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?


All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy
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He has cheated on others in the past not on me that I know of. And yes he deleted his account . But several months later he was still paying for services on that site. So safe to assume he lied here wouldn't ja think ? The woman he deleted he met on there 3 months ago and lied about it. Told me she was a collegue. So I asked him to defriend her . Still talked through Messenger and then blocked her on my request.so yes I question the mails!!!


I know what I've been through you don't. So don't assume things please. You don't know me nor how I am in relationships.


"He didn't cheat on me, that I know of."


*proceeds to tell tale of dude basically attempting to cheat*


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I hear what you mean. But we we're together everyday besides from work or him going diving or me gone walking while he was with his kids. I don't see when and where he would have time.
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....Do you have a learning disability?
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Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?


All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy
...were you touched inappropriately by an uncle when you were a child?


You remind me of this fucknut neighbor of mine that moved in. She's an Aries and he's a Scorp.


She is dumb and fucking insane. I pick up the vibe it's a relationship like the one you're describing because she acts like some beaten wife at times, all freaking out if she dare upset her Scorp husband.


It's sad. ...and annoying. I was this close to putting out a restraining order on the chick to stop contacting me incessantly because it was becoming borderline harassment. :/


...you remind me of her situation. You should be ashamed, tbh.
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Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?


All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy
Love is complicated but if there's no trust, it's not real love.


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That's pretty black and white don't you think.? We all have baggage from previous experiences. Me e.g I have abandonment issues. He has trust issues.


You work on them yes. But these things don't disapppear overnight. Especiallly if the damage was severe to begin with. All you can do is be understanding and do what helps to show you can be trusted...
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Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?


All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy
Love is complicated but if there's no trust, it's not real love.


That's pretty black and white don't you think.? We all have baggage from previous experiences. Me e.g I have abandonment issues. He has trust issues.


You work on them yes. But these things don't disapppear overnight. Especiallly if the damage was severe to begin with. All you can do is be understanding and do what helps to show you can be trusted...
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Ah, so that's why you're clinging on to this.


There's no helping you. Have fun being a statistic.
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Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?


All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy



...you remind me of her situation. You should be ashamed, tbh.
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Why? Because I believe in the good of people? Or because I don't run when I face a problem?

Don't judge Me, you don't know me. I don't give up on people. That's a strength and a flaw. I know this. But I have nothing to be ashamed of
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-You came here asking for help


-You gave us bits and pieces of your issue


-You got interrogated by Misted for you to reveal the whole story


-People see how this guy was a total asswipe and either give you advice on how to deal or leave


-You defend your dude



Why are you here? For advice? You already got them but you continuously defend him.


This thread is pointless.


I came here for advice yes. And I do consider all the comments/advies given. More then you realize. I told the story from the get go. How many details do you need? We ate Fries that day, I wore jeans,boots and a shirt....

I see the bad stuff. What makes you assume I don't? Because I also see further then that? I spent 9 months with him almost daily. How many did you? So yes I will defend him. Imagine someone just focussing on your bad traits, using ONLY those as a reason to write you off and ignore everything that's good about you and which make you a good person?


I don't to that to people. No one.

If that makes me stupid, hand me the crown and I will wear it!!! I read people and if I see a certain thing I don't just walk away. You never know what someone has been through or is going through. I was taught to leave no man behind. And yes that hurts sometimes but in the end it has always worked out for the good and people appreciate my patience and understanding. So no, I will not go lightly over walking away from a person. I only do zo when I am positive it will be a deadend street. And I don't feel that way with this person.
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Posted by iridessa1980
Me and my scorpio have been together for 9 months now. It's been the most amazing and intense relationship I ever had and I love him something fierce. I would take on gravity of he needed it be. So there is that.

Last Sunday I left his house after a small disagreement. No slamming doors or anything., I left with a sigh really and as I close the door his daughter walked in and I heard het her call my name. (Awful timing) I didn t think too much of it at the time. In the wat Home I tried calling and texting, no response ofcourse. As an Aries the ignoring is torture and drives me crazy. The more he ignores the more desperate I become. ( no anger though, just crying and pleading)

The next day I went to his house to give him some stuff he needed for a nightdive he had planned. He handed me my belongings at the door said I started drama while his daughter was there and shut the door. Completly mindfucked and nailed to the ground I cried my eyes out pleading for him to please just talk to me. While I cried my eyes out he started filming me on his phone. What the actual fuck?!? I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible. I just stood there crying. But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left. On the way home I cried beyond belief, bombed his phone with voicemails and just repeated how God I didn t understand. At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...


Je had done the "break up thing" before or the silent treatmebt. Have even been blocked on 2 occasions but he always comes back when he realizes he was quick to jump the gun. However. The filming was new.

Some scorpios advise me to tell him how much he means to me, others say give him space. I need to know what to do. This man is my moon. So if anyone has advice or whatever, all is appreciated


You found yourself a sociopath.


Leave at once.
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this.


you both have a very unhealthy relationship. it's very damaging to you and him. i'm sorry to hear about your past, but if you haven't healed from your past, I don't see how being in a relationship with someone will do any good. it sounds like you are damaging eachother.

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Posted by Reincarnation
Posted by iridessa1980
Me and my scorpio have been together for 9 months now. It's been the most amazing and intense relationship I ever had and I love him something fierce. I would take on gravity of he needed it be. So there is that.

Last Sunday I left his house after a small disagreement. No slamming doors or anything., I left with a sigh really and as I close the door his daughter walked in and I heard het her call my name. (Awful timing) I didn t think too much of it at the time. In the wat Home I tried calling and texting, no response ofcourse. As an Aries the ignoring is torture and drives me crazy. The more he ignores the more desperate I become. ( no anger though, just crying and pleading)

The next day I went to his house to give him some stuff he needed for a nightdive he had planned. He handed me my belongings at the door said I started drama while his daughter was there and shut the door. Completly mindfucked and nailed to the ground I cried my eyes out pleading for him to please just talk to me. While I cried my eyes out he started filming me on his phone. What the actual fuck?!? I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible. I just stood there crying. But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left. On the way home I cried beyond belief, bombed his phone with voicemails and just repeated how God I didn t understand. At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...


Je had done the "break up thing" before or the silent treatmebt. Have even been blocked on 2 occasions but he always comes back when he realizes he was quick to jump the gun. However. The filming was new.

Some scorpios advise me to tell him how much he means to me, others say give him space. I need to know what to do. This man is my moon. So if anyone has advice or whatever, all is appreciated


You found yourself a sociopath.


Leave at once.


this.


you both have a very unhealthy relationship. it's very damaging to you and him. i'm sorry to hear about your past, but if you haven't healed from your past, I don't see how being in a relationship with someone will do any good. it sounds like you are damaging eachother.

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After my previous relationship I stayed singel for 4 years to heal. I have been working on my abondonment issues for 10 years. Do I still fear sometimes? Yep. But not in a manner of which it is damaging to me or others. I write stories or paint till the fear passes. Nobody is ever bothered with my fears and I don't run around expecting things to happen like I used to in the past.



With my scorpio I try to understand his issues and be patient. I'll be the first to admit that I do not believe he has healed from what his ex did to him. And other stuff he went through have scarred him and made him very dark and twisty at times.


Perhaps I am an enabler for staying. I should consider that. But bc I communicate my feelings and desires I have seen changes in him for the good. So not sure if I really am enabling.

He inspires me to overcome my fears (water, shyness,...) and to be more assertive towards others and him as well. Zo we help more then We damage I think.


We just have fallouts that are based on nothing in retrospect. He is insecure so he will question many things. But like I said, I remain patient and read between the lines. It is very exhausting, very!!! But no to an extent that I can't take it. If I can't take it I go. Always have always will.


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maybe go to counseling together then? I don't actually believe in bailing out, so leaving at once agreement above was my initial response and horror that you both are going through. but when you sit and think this through, and you love eachother very much, and he's willing and you're willing, go together to a few times a week for a couple hours a day talking to other professionals about your problems. it'll take time but I believe this is one of the best avenues. what the outcome is, is for both of you to see and be patient as you both can heal.
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Posted by iridessa1980
Me and my scorpio have been together for 9 months now. It's been the most amazing and intense relationship I ever had and I love him something fierce. I would take on gravity of he needed it be. So there is that.

Last Sunday I left his house after a small disagreement. No slamming doors or anything., I left with a sigh really and as I close the door his daughter walked in and I heard het her call my name. (Awful timing) I didn t think too much of it at the time. In the wat Home I tried calling and texting, no response ofcourse. As an Aries the ignoring is torture and drives me crazy. The more he ignores the more desperate I become. ( no anger though, just crying and pleading)

The next day I went to his house to give him some stuff he needed for a nightdive he had planned. He handed me my belongings at the door said I started drama while his daughter was there and shut the door. Completly mindfucked and nailed to the ground I cried my eyes out pleading for him to please just talk to me. While I cried my eyes out he started filming me on his phone. What the actual fuck?!? I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible. I just stood there crying. But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left. On the way home I cried beyond belief, bombed his phone with voicemails and just repeated how God I didn t understand. At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...


Je had done the "break up thing" before or the silent treatmebt. Have even been blocked on 2 occasions but he always comes back when he realizes he was quick to jump the gun. However. The filming was new.

Some scorpios advise me to tell him how much he means to me, others say give him space. I need to know what to do. This man is my moon. So if anyone has advice or whatever, all is appreciated
sweetheart that's a disgrace to aries! no girlfriend deserves to be handled like this, humiliated and filmed?! shut the door on the bastard's face, flip the bird if you see him and don't let this psycho creep film you and stuff who knows what other weird shit he's capable of! hold it together, pretend he never existed and wait it out until he's come begging to you later ( I know many many scorps) at that point you can teach him why he deserves no love from you. it's called survival you don't let anyone take a piece of you.
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Posted by iridessa1980
Me and my scorpio have been together for 9 months now. It's been the most amazing and intense relationship I ever had and I love him something fierce. I would take on gravity of he needed it be. So there is that.

Last Sunday I left his house after a small disagreement. No slamming doors or anything., I left with a sigh really and as I close the door his daughter walked in and I heard het her call my name. (Awful timing) I didn t think too much of it at the time. In the wat Home I tried calling and texting, no response ofcourse. As an Aries the ignoring is torture and drives me crazy. The more he ignores the more desperate I become. ( no anger though, just crying and pleading)

The next day I went to his house to give him some stuff he needed for a nightdive he had planned. He handed me my belongings at the door said I started drama while his daughter was there and shut the door. Completly mindfucked and nailed to the ground I cried my eyes out pleading for him to please just talk to me. While I cried my eyes out he started filming me on his phone. What the actual fuck?!? I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible. I just stood there crying. But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left. On the way home I cried beyond belief, bombed his phone with voicemails and just repeated how God I didn t understand. At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...


Je had done the "break up thing" before or the silent treatmebt. Have even been blocked on 2 occasions but he always comes back when he realizes he was quick to jump the gun. However. The filming was new.

Some scorpios advise me to tell him how much he means to me, others say give him space. I need to know what to do. This man is my moon. So if anyone has advice or whatever, all is appreciated
sweetheart that's a disgrace to aries! no girlfriend deserves to be handled like this, humiliated and filmed?! shut the door on the bastard's face, flip the bird if you see him and don't let this psycho creep film you and stuff who knows what other weird shit he's capable of! hold it together, pretend he never existed and wait it out until he's come begging to you later ( I know many many scorps) at that point you can teach him why he deserves no love from you. it's called survival you don't let anyone take a piece of you.
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Wow!! I don't know why but the word "humiliated" never crossed my mind till now. And now that I say it out loud it rings louder each time I repeat it.

Sadistic and vengeful sure. But why didnt I come up with humiliation? For some reason that was the word I needed to open my eyes. So thanks.

When I read your post I got instant flashbacks to me standing there on his doorstep, crying and sobbing with a plastic bag in my hand holding my belongings while he just filmed me. No explanation, no goodbye not even worth a fight. Tears are running down my cheeks now. Not sure if they're from relief or hurt at this point. But yes. I see myself standing there and it was just cruelty. I feel bad for the woman who stood there, she is me but without the word humiliation.

So thank you.
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