NMNR
NMNR
I met her 2 weeks ago, she went to my place, common friend invited her. My friend knew I had a crush on this scorpio girl so she kept giving hints to the group, asking me to pass the drink to her, or get SG something. At fist, I was just laughing and just trying to coolly shrug off my friends teasing. Eventually, I got a bit buzzed by drinking, so I started making them all laugh, and went out of my way to make sure SG knew I had a crush on her, I kept glancing at her and stuff. It came to a point wherein the whole group would talk about how she should give me a chance, they said I was funny and I knew how to cook (I cooked for them when they came), and that I was thoughtful for hosting a last minute drinking sesh. They wound up asking about my ex from the same office we work in, they even searched her through FB. I saw her like whisper or mumble to her friend next to her to show her what my ex looked like. And then that friend said, "Hey, you look just like her!!!" Then we all just laughed cause it was true, but she's prettier 😊 And they said I had a "type", but I know I don't, it's just a coincidence. The night ended with her semi-hugging me before she left and thanking me for a fun night.
Sooo, I see her at the office sometimes. We smoke outside, sometimes just the 2 of us, sometimes with our friends. But we never talk about meeting up or something. We had another drinking sesh a week after. She brought her boyfriend with her (yeah, she has a bf. She got broken up with by someone else last Feb 2018, and she started seeing this new dude around April I think. It obvs looks like a rebound, even my friend thinks so). Anyway, she kept looking at me the whole time. I tried my best to ignore her. I just kept cracking jokes with everyone and was a bit of a life of the party, and she was sitting in front if me, next to her bf, and she kept laughing so loudly at my jokes but I just went on without looking at her so much whenever I was being funny.
And so at the office just this afternoon, I dunno, our friend kind of pushed her to me cause a car was gonna pass so we had to like get near the wall to make room. I was facing them, they were facing me, and our friend pushed her to me. I just tensed up and I can literally feel her breasts on me. I was surprised she didn't tense up, she even placed her arm on my shoulder. I didn't know what to do anymore so I was trying to think of something funny to say but they were already laughing. She remained so chill the whole time and I don't know what to think of it. She's a Scorpio, I'm a Cancer. Our friends know I like her, and I think she knows I like her cause of the way I kept joking about it with everyone. Even my friends who were there at the party kind of sensed that she was also giving signals that she was fond of me, to put it very lightly.
I just don't know how to approach this woman. I've had one scorpio ex, but this one's much closer to my age. I get the vibe she's game. But she has a bf. But she talks more about her ex than her bf so I don't know. What do you guys think? I'm so sorry this was a long post. Thank you in advance to whoever reads it all. 😊
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Nov 09, 2018Comments: 111 · Posts: 293 · Topics: 1
Seems like she's the office cocktease.
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Aug 01, 2018Comments: 84 · Posts: 1361 · Topics: 0
Dude if not married then she's single. Hooking up with a coworker should be an easy lay but last resort scenario. Scorps can sense weakness a mile away so being funny only takes you so far. I hope your outcome improve.
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May 14, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 798 · Topics: 55
Hmmz get real here, you like her. Don’t say you are beginning to like her. The problem is your intention, what is it? You lack of intention shows your lack of confidence, this is unattractive.
Not saying you need to ask her out, you are right in that if you disrespect her relationship, it makes it seem like you think it’s ok to see other people when you already have a relationship, again unattractive. You can ask her “so things are pretty serious with your boyfriend then, huh?” Or something of that nature, it shows you are asking about it, but still respectful. But then don’t direct her attention on her boyfriend, or you, draw it to herself, show you are an encourager, that you are good at listening, encourage her to talk about herself, casually.
I see a lot of emphasis on trying to be the funny guy, funny guys do not win women, women laugh at men they find attractive, remember this, I will say again, women laugh at men they find attractive, ever seen a women laugh at a dumb joke just cos they think the guy is hot? Happens all the time.
And you may see this as you get older, the clown does the work, but she doesn’t go home with the clown, she goes with the guy who shows confidence, like he doesn’t try to win her approval so much by overdoing it, that guy with confidence shows higher value.
Except, when we are attracted to someone, and something funny happens in a group, who is the first person you look at? It is usually and should be the one you are attracted you, so if something funny does happen in a group, look at her, see if she’s looking at you, and laugh together (ie with her, not the group, hope that makes sense, eye contact with each other, then laugh). Preferablly there should be another guy in the group, and you are laughing at him, together, secretively.
I think it feels too much about your friends, you need to distract them from you, not encourage it, the last thing a guy wants when he’s talking to a girl he likes, is a pack of stupid hyenas giggleing in the background. So discourage your friends as quick as possible. It needs to be about you and her. Don’t make it a running joke for your friends when they are drunk, it’s not attractive.
Be clear about your intention, your next goal (ie your intention) is to get her on a one to one, without your friends there. Focus on this objective, no nerves, just confidence. Show confidence and she will come to you.
@Uglygirlnextdoor, you're right. I haven't really made a big move yet, and I guess one of the biggest factors holding me back is that she's in a relationship. I'm usually kinda straightforward with these things. I wouldn't wanna be in that guys position if she's really entertaining me, when, ironically, that's exactly what I'm trying to work on, to be in his position, as her bf. I dunno. This is making me nuts.
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Jun 27, 2016Comments: 975 · Posts: 5791 · Topics: 44
But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.
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Jun 27, 2016Comments: 975 · Posts: 5791 · Topics: 44
But she’s had a bf since April. And she brought him to hang out. She drew the line in the sand.
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May 14, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 798 · Topics: 55
If it is a test, she talks about her boyfriend, then the way to pass it is to tell her to be with her boyfriend...
first women do the opposite of what guys tell them to do, second if she’s testing your interest level then it makes her wonder about it more, third you are happy for her (whatever she chooses) which is what she wants, fourth women want the guy they can’t have, five you are in control, you’re placing the obstacle for her (not the other way round) six you show you are not so easily controlled, seven it shows you would be loyal if you had a relationship, eight shows you are higher value, nine supposing you ask her to leave her boyfriend, you will end up looking like you are “waiting” for her to leave, never look like you are waiting for her, ten she already knows “the right thing” to do, she’s testing to see if you know (just cos it’s the right thing doesn’t mean she will do it)...
basically dude on all levels tell her to be with her boyfriend and then try to move to the next conversation topic. And then still act like you’re interested, it’s her choice, like I know people can say don’t try it on with a taken woman, but you’re single, and she has a brain, she can decide what’s best for her, might not even be serious with her guy, might be a test. Personally I wouldn’t sleep with a taken woman though (not knowingly), that seems too far.
But also, be careful, she could just be wanting attention. Her boyfriend doesn’t give her enough attention, she looks for attention wherever she can get it, from other guys, but at the end, she gets into bed with her boyfriend. hopefully you will notice if she’s doing this.
Try to meet other women though, you might end up meeting someone you like more and who is available.
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Jun 29, 2018Comments: 1 · Posts: 298 · Topics: 24
she probably knows that you're into her and scorp women like it when men are interested in them whether they're ugly or not it doesnt matter they enjoy being liked by men, if she really likes her boyfriend she wont cheat on him, she will lead you on so that you will continue to like her but she wont ever actually give you what u want, she likes the attention, easy