how do you deal
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by schoenetanz on Sunday, June 18, 2006 and has 14 replies.
with a cancerian for any extended period of time
and stay sane
is there a special language I should use when I speak to crabby?
...they really seem to have this whole way of communicating
THAT NO ONE ELSE UNDERSTANDS!!!
*not you stardance
and stay sane
is there a special language I should use when I speak to crabby?
...they really seem to have this whole way of communicating
THAT NO ONE ELSE UNDERSTANDS!!!
*not you stardance
Hey sugar, no offense taken, I'm just sorry he's got you all twisted up. I suppose I can't answer how a scorpius would best comm w/a cancer male...but I know communication has been difficult for me in the past and to a small extent still challenges me.
For me if I'm in a difficult situation I need a little time to sort things out and then gentle respectful questions seem to get it all out of me in a calm way. I think the high emotions of cancerians interfere too much to allow confrontational or immediate logical communication.
Cancerians are also very instinctive and get frustrated when the ones they are with don't "get it" instinctively as well. But leaves their friends missing critical information and hence confused and frustrated. So I can totally empathize with you on that note babe. I have learned to think more logically and communicate with less emotion, but it has taken a lot of effort and self-reflection on my part.
I hope you feel better sweets...he totally better shape up, or I'll show him my crabby kung fu fung shwai....Yeeeee aaah!
For me if I'm in a difficult situation I need a little time to sort things out and then gentle respectful questions seem to get it all out of me in a calm way. I think the high emotions of cancerians interfere too much to allow confrontational or immediate logical communication.
Cancerians are also very instinctive and get frustrated when the ones they are with don't "get it" instinctively as well. But leaves their friends missing critical information and hence confused and frustrated. So I can totally empathize with you on that note babe. I have learned to think more logically and communicate with less emotion, but it has taken a lot of effort and self-reflection on my part.
I hope you feel better sweets...he totally better shape up, or I'll show him my crabby kung fu fung shwai....Yeeeee aaah!
kris...go directly to hell
DO NOT PASS GO
DO NOT COLLECT $ 100..............
Sorry babe, never had a case of the crabs. Good luck!!!!!
P.S. I miss you!!!!!!
Sorry babe, never had a case of the crabs. Good luck!!!!!
P.S. I miss you!!!!!!
I don't like them so I won't deal with them..
Yeah I wont deal w'em either...hummmph....bunch 'o emotional, irrational, crabbies anyways.
Oh yeah and way too freakin sensitive too....who needs'em anyways....
Lol @ stardance..no offence!..
"Yeah I wont deal w'em either...hummmph....bunch 'o emotional, irrational, crabbies anyways."
"Oh yeah and way too freakin sensitive too....who needs'em anyways...."
** Cancers get this rep all the time but a lot of them are actually not all that sensitive or emotional. My crab, for example is VERY emotionally stable... and definitely NOT sensitive! Muah ha ha ha.
No kidding, he has taught >this< bull to 'put things in perspective' He's so freaken rational and logical... it's sickening! If anything, I'm the irrational, emotional AND extreme one in the relationship, okay so maybe I act impulsively summmmtimes (very few times cuz I'm quite calm myself) but he is, other than tolerant, understanding of how I feel. In the years I've known him I have yet to see his emotions get the best of him, I doubt that is possible in all honesty. Yet I know he feels deeply because I still remember a conversation we had about how we were feeling... although he never shows negative emotion he explained how he felt which was exactly how I felt so I understood... kinda felt bad cuz I never knew he felt that way. Here he is being 'my rock' but not thinking that maybe I'd been wrapped up in myself and not thinking about him. He must have a shit-load of Earth in his chart or something b/c I just don't know how he does it. Interestingly both him and another crab ex have had the burden of family also... practically supporting lazy bros and sisters... I DON'T GET IT cuz I would have kicked them in the ass by now. They are known to be very family oriented and THAT I do find to be very true. Except my last crab WAS sensitive and emotional. Not irrational or moody though.
Anywho, my point being that there is a lot that aren't emotional. Actually, very cool and detached male crabs are something to watch out for... cuz they're jerks. I've met a couple and my friend dated one, cold ass bastard. They make the COLDEST players.
""is there a special language I should use when I speak to crabby?
...they really seem to have this whole way of communicating
THAT NO ONE ELSE UNDERSTANDS!!!""
*This sounds like he *doesn't want to* communicate. The beating around the bush sorta thing. You gotta give him time, wait until he's in a good mood and catch him by surprise... start by talking calmly and if you sense he won't listen (right away) do something to catch him offguard like yelling all of a sudden. If he gets scared or jumps and you think he might get mad start crying.
"Oh yeah and way too freakin sensitive too....who needs'em anyways...."
** Cancers get this rep all the time but a lot of them are actually not all that sensitive or emotional. My crab, for example is VERY emotionally stable... and definitely NOT sensitive! Muah ha ha ha.
No kidding, he has taught >this< bull to 'put things in perspective' He's so freaken rational and logical... it's sickening! If anything, I'm the irrational, emotional AND extreme one in the relationship, okay so maybe I act impulsively summmmtimes (very few times cuz I'm quite calm myself) but he is, other than tolerant, understanding of how I feel. In the years I've known him I have yet to see his emotions get the best of him, I doubt that is possible in all honesty. Yet I know he feels deeply because I still remember a conversation we had about how we were feeling... although he never shows negative emotion he explained how he felt which was exactly how I felt so I understood... kinda felt bad cuz I never knew he felt that way. Here he is being 'my rock' but not thinking that maybe I'd been wrapped up in myself and not thinking about him. He must have a shit-load of Earth in his chart or something b/c I just don't know how he does it. Interestingly both him and another crab ex have had the burden of family also... practically supporting lazy bros and sisters... I DON'T GET IT cuz I would have kicked them in the ass by now. They are known to be very family oriented and THAT I do find to be very true. Except my last crab WAS sensitive and emotional. Not irrational or moody though.
Anywho, my point being that there is a lot that aren't emotional. Actually, very cool and detached male crabs are something to watch out for... cuz they're jerks. I've met a couple and my friend dated one, cold ass bastard. They make the COLDEST players.
""is there a special language I should use when I speak to crabby?
...they really seem to have this whole way of communicating
THAT NO ONE ELSE UNDERSTANDS!!!""
*This sounds like he *doesn't want to* communicate. The beating around the bush sorta thing. You gotta give him time, wait until he's in a good mood and catch him by surprise... start by talking calmly and if you sense he won't listen (right away) do something to catch him offguard like yelling all of a sudden. If he gets scared or jumps and you think he might get mad start crying.
tauruschic...very well put...I know we get that rap a lot so I decided to agree for the sake of not blowing my own horn...I actually dated two cancers and wow...no thanks, they were just as you said "cold ass bastard"s. I do believe there must be the good ones out there as well, but they may also need lot's of training, maybe pick up an older used model that has learned a few things along the way. teeheehe!
Cancers get alot of Badd Press...
If he gets scared or jumps and you think he might get mad start crying.
lol...but this doesn't work if HE'S already crying!!!!
lol...but this doesn't work if HE'S already crying!!!!
hmm
*considering advice*
thanks for the advice cream
I will apply it aptly to all the crab-infected areas
*considering advice*
thanks for the advice cream
I will apply it aptly to all the crab-infected areas
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