How do you let go of unintentional hurt?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by DoThatSaggie on Monday, October 29, 2012 and has 6 replies.
If someone hurt you not intentional really bad but you never told them and they truly had no idea and you finally express that hurt as well as your own contribution to the cause that lead to falling out of love although you still love the person, what is your healing process to let the hurt go and move forward with the person with a new start/connection, who obviously loves you deeply and you also love deeply? Men answers preferred.
last time i checked i wasn't a man BUT.....i think the answer is open and honest communication.
to let go of anything you have to drag it from inside you and put it out there. it's a process that can take time but often, if it's a love situation where that love is deep that time can help you remember where that love came from
to let go of anything you have to drag it from inside you and put it out there. it's a process that can take time but often, if it's a love situation where that love is deep that time can help you remember where that love came from
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
last time i checked i wasn't a man BUT.....i think the answer is open and honest communication.
to let go of anything you have to drag it from inside you and put it out there. it's a process that can take time but often, if it's a love situation where that love is deep that time can help you remember where that love came from
So acknowledgement is ideal? How about when it's clear the hurt caused wasn't with bad intent and you forgive but the idea or image is still there. What are ways to heal from the illusions?
you mean to heal from the feelings associated with the memories? they're not illusions, they're very real. it's like when you catch a smell from something or have a deja-vu experience and it takes you back to a specific memory and you find yourself feeling the way you felt then.
it fades with time. no-one can ever say how long. it depends on the nature of whatever it was that caused the pain.
i think when it's someone close you has unintentionally hurt, the fact that you 'didn't mean it' is neither here nor there. in some respects it's worse that you did it unintentionally cos it means you failed to understand him well enough to KNOW if it was gonna hurt him.
it's a toughie but i don't know what happened...i'm only basing what i say on what you tell us.
it fades with time. no-one can ever say how long. it depends on the nature of whatever it was that caused the pain.
i think when it's someone close you has unintentionally hurt, the fact that you 'didn't mean it' is neither here nor there. in some respects it's worse that you did it unintentionally cos it means you failed to understand him well enough to KNOW if it was gonna hurt him.
it's a toughie but i don't know what happened...i'm only basing what i say on what you tell us.
oh my gawd...i'm actually wearing my glasses and there are still typos all over the place!!!!
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
you mean to heal from the feelings associated with the memories? they're not illusions, they're very real. it's like when you catch a smell from something or have a deja-vu experience and it takes you back to a specific memory and you find yourself feeling the way you felt then.
it fades with time. no-one can ever say how long. it depends on the nature of whatever it was that caused the pain.
i think when it's someone close you has unintentionally hurt, the fact that you 'didn't mean it' is neither here nor there. in some respects it's worse that you did it unintentionally cos it means you failed to understand him well enough to KNOW if it was gonna hurt him.
it's a toughie but i don't know what happened...i'm only basing what i say on what you tell us.
Oh I see. It could also mean he doesn't know me well enough to take offense, knowing I never want to hurt him. You know like if someone says a comment, you take it the wrong way and in that moment decide if that's what the person meant. You think of who the person is and realize, it's not them, it's you because you choose your reaction. in that moment decide that person never hurt you before and has always wanted what was best for you.
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