How long does someone have to wait?

Aimed at those with strong Scorpio influence....

Is it possible for someone with hella Scorpio in his chart to see someone for YEARS and still not be in love?? I mean, his actions show he cares. But I am trying to get him to move in. I want it all. Shouldn't that be a Scorpio trait too? All or nothing? Yet, he seems to be in between and torn. I understand him for the most part. It's just the indecision over something that should have been established a LONG time ago. All I get is "I know we belong together"


Excuse me you guys. I am a little toasted. We haven't spoken in 2 weeks. He calls but I have had it. And am currently trying to kill this off (again).

I can't ever feel for anyone the way I feel for him. Never. I have confronted him and asked and asked and the same evasive answer. I have known him since I was a kid. I know there are posts regarding Scorpio evasiveness. And I should know him by now. But this one particular thing has me all knotted up. How can someone NOT know after 15 years what they want? He has a SAG moon btw. I blame THIS.

DB..

Do you have any idea how awesome you are?? And I was hoping you would answer. ::this is sincere:::


...How long is long enough—...

I don't know. But I have this voice in my head that keeps saying "HOLD ON". I know it is hard for Leos to let go. But I have "let go" of others easily. Not him.


....If it's taken him 15 years purrrfect, I can only assume he will figure it out when he realizes what he can lose you...

I did this. For 5 years. I came back and he was happy about it. I wrote him this very emotional letter about a month ago telling him everything. How I felt, what I love about him, what I want. All of a sudden, he starts making all these plans with me (in half a second) but no other answer than "I know that would be nice and I know we belong together) tells me to stop writing him these "crackhead" letters" lol I guess I wanted an immediate, straight ANSWER.



He will always feel comfortable around me. This is what kills me. My initial reaction was, "YES OR NO?? don't ever say I didn't give you TIME"




I am saying he doesn't love you...you can love someone and not get married or even live together

I know. I can feel he loves me. And he IS attentive. But after so long, am I asking for too much?



I've been fried by the sun...I'm a bit dehydrated...don't know if this is making sense or not...

Yes, I get it.

...How long do you have to wait? Does a lifetime count—..

Knowing me and how much I feel for him. A lifetime probably does count. Do you think I need help? Like.....REAL help?? lmao

:::already hungover::: lol


...HE may be very pessimistic and thinks this is too good to be true...and he is expecting something bad to happen...

This sounds EXACTLY like him. Throw in Virgo rising and you have an extra dose of pessimism.

...there is nothing wrong with waiting your whole life...

DB, something tells me I will. And he has this same attitude. "If you love me then it shouldn't matter when" ....I am just having a moment. Because I am selfish. I want to see his face every day.


Nobody has ever agreed with that before. Because for the most part I feel the same. I know that no matter what, if the feelings are real, there is no amount of time not worth it. I am just really frustrated right now. And he keeps calling. He is showing me some determination. Something I've always done for him but am now demanding it back.

...But...really, next time he stops by, handcuff him to the bed...

lmao!! You've said this before. I can still see the look of confusion on his face when the dominance shifts in my favor. HA! I think he would be frightened.

Thank you. 🙂

"Throw in Virgo rising and you have an extra dose of pessimism."

I've read quite a few times that Virgo Rising folk are actually far more critical of themselves than their surroundings because somehow the pessimistic tendecies all turn inward.

tendencies*


No big deal, I just wonder if that's right or not about him, but if he really is overly pessimistic, then I might be wrong.

Elliot,

Yes, that's true. Rising sign is self and to have Virgo there can make someone self critical. And this is true with him. I noticed some of it leaks into his surroundings and people he cares about too. Not overly pessimistic about everything everyday. But it happens.

Especially when making a decision like the one I've asked him to make. He will see the little details of the downside.

I have a virgo rising and yes I am extremely self critical..but have calmed down a lot!
You've waited 15 years? Jesus christ you must have the patience of a saint!!!!

missmorals,

So must HE lol

It's just harder right now because we live so far away from each other. And I feel it's TIME.

We really do have a lot of Virgo risers here. Don't we? Someone had mentioned that before. How health conscious are you?

"How long does someone have to wait?"

** Could very well be a life time like DB said... but what about YOU?

SHOULD YOU wait? It's about whether you WANT to wait. If you want to it's because you're okay with it and it makes you happy. If it doesn't then you need to find your happiness. You should give him an ultimatum (it's 15yrs!) if he can't give you a straight answer, then I wouldn't be so sure that he cared enough. On another note, its been a long time... he might just be glad that someone got to the bottom of all this indecisiveness lol

??

Goodluck!

I am not that health conscious to be honest..
so you both live in different countries? still..15 years is a long time for both of you..damn..I think you both deserve each other after all this time..

My step-dad is a Scorpio. I remember when he and my mom were just dating. He took YEARS to tell her that he loved her. It really upset her at times. He was and still is a very caring, gentle person, it just seemed like he was scared to say those words to her.

He also dated my mom for about 10 years before they finally got married. He waited until his oldest child graduated high school.

Personally, I don't know all the details of thier relationship, but I do know that there's no way in hell I would spend years with someone without some acknowledgment of love, future, that sort of thing. They love each other very much, get along great, and never fight.

Guess you just need to figure where you fit into his life, and take it from there. Good Luck.

Hi tc,

... but what about YOU?.....

This is what I am going through right now. I did this with the real intent for change. I just don't know. Really. I don't. We both have a lot to think about. Thank you for responding tc. You know I am at the end of my rope.

... he might just be glad that someone got to the bottom of all this indecisiveness...

Exactly what I was banking on. That he might be happy if I just decided for us both. It's not working. He calls. I wasn't expecting that. I have a feeling he is going to show up here soon.

missmorals,

We live in the same state. There are over 100 miles between us. Not that bad but it's wearing. We both have work and a kid a piece. There are a lot of things to consider. It's more convenient for him to make the move. We do deserve each other!



ScorpioChick,

I like hearing success stories. (your parents)

And we also get along great although we do have our moments. Another reason this kills me lol But I am still human, and YES....waiting for an actual life together is a pain in the ASS. You have no idea.


You know what you guys? Thank you much for listening to this. I know the advice topics get to be a lot. But it was my turn dammit!! lol!! (joking)

Don't let me whine anymore than I already have. Thanks you guys 🙂