How to get back Scorpio ex?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Taurus91 on Friday, May 24, 2019 and has 34 replies.
I have been with this Scorpio man for 7 years. He is 32, I'm 29.

Our core problem is that I was not ready for his dream: get marriage and have children. I graduated 3 years ago, wanted to work and savings more. 3 months ago I got a promotion so I feel safe enough to settle down. We started talking about the future but it was not a detail plan so he may feel that I'm not really serious...

1 month ago he met this Cancer woman, fell in love within 1 week, then broke up with me: "I love her, she knows nothing about me but willing to bear my child".

When I lost him, I realized that I only work hard to catch up with his success, to get his compliments... Now I have no passion at work anymore. I started doing housework and cooking for him, telling him that I want to have a family with him... After few days, he said: "Why didn't you being this sweet 2 months ago?", "Why now? When I already have someone else?"...

We still hanging out, eating with his family, have sex few times. But yesterday he said we have to cut out the sex. He hates feeling guilty, it makes him sugarcoat and cannot be himself around his current girlfriend.

They are now in a long distance relationship but he wants to move in to take care of her (she has genetic disease). He gave up his master degree, and is also considering to quit his 2 jobs. I can tell this love changed him a lots...

Sometimes he told me to wait for 1 year/ 6 months. Sometimes he told me to move on. Is there any chance for me?
Think of this from his perspective.

He waited years to have a family with you and you kept saying no. He was patient. Extremely patient. Men usually have no problem not settling. Women typically settle.

Then he meets someone who wants the same things he wants.

You only want the same things he wants because you're coming from a place of fear and holding on to a dying situation.

Someone needs to move out so you can grieve the relationship in peace.
he's got a girlfriend and you had sex with him?

can't trust taurus hoes
We have been together for 7 years but I just graduated 3 years ago. I wanted work more before getting married.

When I lost him, I realized that I only work hard to catch up with his success, to get his compliments...



I really want to have a family with him. I have my engagement ring 3 years ago. We agreed to settle down this year...talk to my parents on May... wedding on Novemver - his birthday...
Posted by virgoOPPP

he's got a girlfriend and you had sex with him?

can't trust taurus hoes
no. he was with her for 7 years and he found someone while he was in a relationship. so if anything he's the hoe
Posted by leooox

Posted by virgoOPPP

he's got a girlfriend and you had sex with him?

can't trust taurus hoes
no. he was with her for 7 years and he found someone while he was in a relationship. so if anything he's the hoe
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both hoes i say
Posted by MareInfame

I missed this post/update, sorry. So, he broke up with his Cancer?

Of course he still loves you. But, how can you trust him now?!?! He CHEATED on his partner.

How long has he been in a relationship with the Cancer?



No he is still with his Cancer. That is just our plan before he met her.

He met this Cancer on this April, fell in love within 1 week. They haven been together for 1 month.
Posted by Taurus91



I missed this post/update, sorry. So, he broke up with his Cancer?

Of course he still loves you. But, how can you trust him now?!?! He CHEATED on his partner.

How long has he been in a relationship with the Cancer?



No he is still with his Cancer. That is just our plan before he met her.

He met this Cancer on this April, fell in love within 1 week. They haven been together for 1 month.
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you should just let him go. he's in the infatuation stage with the new girl. show him your authentic self and he'll back if he was the one. waiting that long to get married was definitely not what he wanted, so if he comes back you should decide is that what you really want or what extent you will go to to keep this man in your life
Posted by Impulsv

He is as screwed as you are

He waited 7 year why not two more



He’s screwed because even though he’ll marry another he’ll be as haunted as you

There will be no peace

And why are you so non chalannt about it you should be furious about his behavior

We have been together for 7 years, I know he loves me. He is just being like this for 1 month, since he met her.
Posted by leooox

you should just let him go. he's in the infatuation stage with the new girl. show him your authentic self and he'll back if he was the one. waiting that long to get married was definitely not what he wanted, so if he comes back you should decide is that what you really want or what extent you will go to to keep this man in your life
3 months ago I got a promotion. It makes me feel like: I got enough at work, now I want to settle down. So we have been talking about marriage, but I'm still worry about having children. I said something like "Maybe next year, we should have health check to ensure our baby is healthy..."

It's not that I don't want it, I'm just want to take it slow.

And 1 month ago he met that Cancer...

I think I will just wait for him... When he get married, I can move on.
Posted by Alexina

This is such a shitty situation to be in...

That Scorpio man should've broke up with the Cancer woman before engaging again with you again... What an asshole...

Besides, have some self-respect... How could you blindly accept that man again in your life when he already cheated on you once? I wouldn't be surprised if he cheated on you again...

The best thing to do is cut him out of your life and move on... Never look back sis... It's hard to do that initially but you'll reap the rewards later on by gaining a better life without him in it... Focus on your self, your ambitions and your priorities... You'll just be surprised that you have already accomplish things one by one because you dedicated your time and effort on them than elsewhere... Who knows you might end up with a better man along your journey...
He loves me for 7 years, always treats me so well. I cannot think of him as a bad guy due to this situation...
Posted by DMV

Think of this from his perspective.

He waited years to have a family with you and you kept saying no. He was patient. Extremely patient. Men usually have no problem not settling. Women typically settle.

Then he meets someone who wants the same things he wants.

You only want the same things he wants because you're coming from a place of fear and holding on to a dying situation.

Someone needs to move out so you can grieve the relationship in peace.
I graduated 3 years ago, I wanted to get little archivement before getting married.

3 months ago I got a promotion, higher salary... I started thinking about marriage. We talked about taking wedding photo this June, getting wedding on November this year...

He met this Cancer one month ago.

Maybe because all we did are just talking, not a detail plan, he feel like I'm still not ready. But it's really what I want, I'm just slower than

him...

Posted by Alexina

I understand... But you're living in the past sis... The relationship is over regardless if he was kind to you for the last 7 years... It is very difficult to let go, but you gotta re-direct the love back to yourself because we cannot control things from happening and force things to our desired outcome... If he is meant for you, fate itself will make circumstances to happen according to your favor... However, as for now, live your life for YOU... dedicate your dreams to yourself and not to please others... You're not selfish for pursuing your career and living your life unapologetically... If he loves you, he'll be happy for you on your endeavor... There's no use pining for someone who made up their mind about leaving you... Accept what happen and start the process of moving forward, even with baby steps...
You're right, I love the guy who loved me for 7 years. He is not that person anymore... Thank you.
Posted by Erzsebet_Bathory

As a ex Scorpio girlfriend who is still in love with him...continue his life without him. Now is not the time to force things. Just be you and let it go. Who knows what will happen...
Thank you. It's hard to continue my life without him. I feel like it's not only him but I also lost his family... They are like my family.
Posted by gemNi

Gurl your too good for the Scorpio prostitute.

Seriously get some restitution from that waste of a L

toss him in the tr ass🗑️h
But I still love him.
Posted by MareInfame

When did he break up with you?

He cheated on the Cancer, and he did so with you. He obviously still loves you and you still have power over him... but that doesn’t guarantee anything. He might go two ways:

1. Feel so guilty that it will eat at him and he will reject everything that brought him to that behavior that he despises... including you.

2. After some thought of his behavior, realize he still really loves you.

BUT... he doesn’t trust your intentions. He might believe the ONLY reason you want him is because he is with another. And that’s not good enough.

It’s sad because him sleeping with you, sabotaged his happiness. He felt happy and in love with the Cancer but now that union is tainted.

And because he tainted it with you, it also tainted his union with you.

At some point, he might reject both of you.

It may be best for you to just start disconnecting from him and seeing other people and potential love interests.

If you decide to wait for him until he decides to marry (as you mentioned in your thread), that is on you. He might decide to be with you... but be rest assured that he will create hell for the actions taken recently between you two and the damage it has caused.
Thank you. Your possible outcomes make sense! It seems like what he would do. I do think that if he break up with that Cancer because she find out that he's cheating, he will take revenge on me.
Posted by AE88

Ship already sailed even if you still love em. He met someone new yeah.. but they’ve matched on a frequency that you didn’t connect with him on. Hopen the best for you. Good lesson to learn here. Value what you have right the first time before it’s gone
Yeah

Lesson learned. Thank you.
Posted by MareInfame

Did you seduce, entice or force him?

You might see his actions as revenge, but the reality is that his actions sabotaged something that could have been great for him.

If he loses it, he will hate himself and you. As a result, you might feel that he has stung/poisoned you and the potential of you two being together. But in reality, he has also stung/poisoned himself and the feeling of attaining something that made him happy. It will just be a hate fest.

His inner world sucks right now...
You're right. I forced him to do it, we always enjoy it but we feel bad later... He feel guitly with her, I feel sad...

He is staying with her right now, with be there for one week.

After reading to all the comments and advices, I have mixed feelings. I still love him and want to rebuilt our relationship, but sometimes I feel angry... How could he forget me?/ betray me?/ being so cold now?
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Posted by DMV

Think of this from his perspective.

He waited years to have a family with you and you kept saying no. He was patient. Extremely patient. Men usually have no problem not settling. Women typically settle.

Then he meets someone who wants the same things he wants.

You only want the same things he wants because you're coming from a place of fear and holding on to a dying situation.

Someone needs to move out so you can grieve the relationship in peace.
I graduated 3 years ago, I wanted to get little archivement before getting married.

3 months ago I got a promotion, higher salary... I started thinking about marriage. We talked about taking wedding photo this June, getting wedding on November this year...

He met this Cancer one month ago.

Maybe because all we did are just talking, not a detail plan, he feel like I'm still not ready. But it's really what I want, I'm just slower than

him...

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Way slower.

Nothing wrong with that tho.

Maybe in just 1 month the compatibility was so intense and quicker than the 7 years he spent with you. It was something he hungered for. Maybe he even hungered for some control.

I know there exists power struggles between scorpios and Taurus.

Maybe he felt the surge of being in power and in a controlling position with the Cancer.

Do you feel like your relationship could have been one sided? You only gave one example where the ball was In your court for 7 years.
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Posted by MareInfame

Did you seduce, entice or force him?

You might see his actions as revenge, but the reality is that his actions sabotaged something that could have been great for him.

If he loses it, he will hate himself and you. As a result, you might feel that he has stung/poisoned you and the potential of you two being together. But in reality, he has also stung/poisoned himself and the feeling of attaining something that made him happy. It will just be a hate fest.

His inner world sucks right now...
You're right. I forced him to do it, we always enjoy it but we feel bad later... He feel guitly with her, I feel sad...

He is staying with her right now, with be there for one week.

After reading to all the comments and advices, I have mixed feelings. I still love him and want to rebuilt our relationship, but sometimes I feel angry... How could he forget me?/ betray me?/ being so cold now?
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It is in fact a betrayal and you should be angry.

Maybe he wants you to fight for him.
Posted by Foxy777

Good lord no.
Thank you.
Posted by Arielle83

He’s creepy.

He doesn’t love her.

He just wants a breeder.

You left him because he’s only about his needs.
They are so in love now.

I regret not giving him what he needs...
Posted by DMV

Way slower.

Nothing wrong with that tho.

Maybe in just 1 month the compatibility was so intense and quicker than the 7 years he spent with you. It was something he hungered for. Maybe he even hungered for some control.

I know there exists power struggles between scorpios and Taurus.

Maybe he felt the surge of being in power and in a controlling position with the Cancer.

Do you feel like your relationship could have been one sided? You only gave one example where the ball was In your court for 7 years.
We had fights but always make up within 1 week. Actually just 1 week before meeting her, we were still lovey-dovey. But now he said that he wasn't really happy...
Posted by Foxy777

My advice to you is to stop thinking about him.

You are young there will be other men.

7 yrs is long enough to waste.
Thank you for the advice.

I don't think of those years as a waste. I got many good memory and I still love him...

Posted by MareInfame

So, he surprised you one day and just said “hey, I found someone new, I’m in love and want to break up”?!?! Is that how it happened?

Or was there a break up period and he found someone during that period?

I completely understand your anger. You have every right to feel that way. It sounds like it all happened so quickly and I’m curious as to HOW he met the Cancer. Something sounds a bit shady to me...

There seems to have been a disconnect between you two and he started searching elsewhere. Perhaps too much time apart, lack in communication and the obvious - different core goals.

Scorpios can be extremists and obsessive. Many other sun signs misinterpret this as expecting Scorpios to be obsessive and extreme (intense) about love only. But it can be for anything, really.


It sounds like for him, he was extreme and obsessive about having children at a specific age and wanted his partner to feel the same intensity about the matter. It was THAT important to him. You might have underestimated the importance of it because it was a subject that wasn’t important to you at the time - nothing wrong with that in general, but it was a HUGE red flag for him.

What he was lacking, he must have found in the Cancer. But he underestimated the repercussions of such a quick change and forgot to take into consideration the LOVE and HABITS he had with you. Hence.... why he caved into your advances so quickly and now he is mad at himself for falling for you in your presence.

I agree with you - he forgot you. His dream was bigger and more important than you. But you reminded him...

He betrayed you - because you two were engaged!!! Apparently he doesn’t do well with promises or contracts?!?? Sounds like you two didn’t communicate enough either.

He is cold right now because he is determined to get what he wants. Children and a partner that is as excited about it as he is...

But knowing his recent actions, he might have sabotaged it all...



We had a fight two months before the break up, but we made up within one week, still lovey-dovey until he met her... Now he said that he wasn't really happy and that we've broke up since that fight...

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Posted by Taurus91

Posted by Arielle83

He’s creepy.

He doesn’t love her.

He just wants a breeder.

You left him because he’s only about his needs.
They are so in love now.

I regret not giving him what he needs...
Watch it fall apart when they aren’t ldr and it’s real. It’s all fantasy because she’s agreeing to his terms. It’s not real.

What disease does she have? Has he considered her long term health?
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She has a benign tumor in her breast and a genetic disease called Milroy which causes pain and edema on one of her leg.

Once I asked him if he consider that she smokes, he got angry.
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Posted by Taurus91

Posted by Arielle83

He’s creepy.

He doesn’t love her.

He just wants a breeder.

You left him because he’s only about his needs.
They are so in love now.

I regret not giving him what he needs...
Watch it fall apart when they aren’t ldr and it’s real. It’s all fantasy because she’s agreeing to his terms. It’s not real.

What disease does she have? Has he considered her long term health?
She has a benign tumor in her breast and a genetic disease called Milroy which causes pain and edema on one of her leg.

Once I asked him if he consider that she smokes, he got angry.
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😲😲😲😧😧😧
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Posted by leooox

you should just let him go. he's in the infatuation stage with the new girl. show him your authentic self and he'll back if he was the one. waiting that long to get married was definitely not what he wanted, so if he comes back you should decide is that what you really want or what extent you will go to to keep this man in your life
3 months ago I got a promotion. It makes me feel like: I got enough at work, now I want to settle down. So we have been talking about marriage, but I'm still worry about having children. I said something like "Maybe next year, we should have health check to ensure our baby is healthy..."

It's not that I don't want it, I'm just want to take it slow.

And 1 month ago he met that Cancer...

I think I will just wait for him... When he get married, I can move on.
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You were improving yourself career-wise, he should respect that instead of making you feel pressured to start a family. Don't ever be with a man that doesn't encourage you to better yourself, shame on him!
Posted by Silverado

Just stop. Get rid of this man and move on, right fucking now.

7 years and he didn't put a ring on it? That was five years too long of a wait.
Waaaait! What ring? She wasn’t ready! She clearly thought he can be taken for granted and ONLY when he slipped away she started to be a woman!

Also WTF is about sex and family gathering? Man clearly out of her life but being a man with needs he continuing dipping because she let him!!!

Why is everybody on his ass when she is clearly the one at fault here? 🤷‍♀️
Posted by ClairDeLune

If you knew he moved on to someone else, why were you ok sleeping with him still? I agree with him as to why are you changing your priorities now that he took someone else who sees the same goals he wants.

Leave him be, if you are not truly interested in having a family. Dont agree to a commitment involving innocent lives aka your children and agreeing to tie the knot because you want to tie him down. Scorps can sense
...and he is apparently moving on with someone else...good for him!

If he had been waiting - he could be dead before her first meal she was willing to cook! 🤦‍♀️
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Posted by Kittens

Why Scorpio men loves Cancer woman so much??
Lol they dont
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Kitten is never on with a program...Taurus, Cancer are same to him...lol
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Posted by Impulsv

He is as screwed as you are

He waited 7 year why not two more



He’s screwed because even though he’ll marry another he’ll be as haunted as you

There will be no peace

And why are you so non chalannt about it you should be furious about his behavior

We have been together for 7 years, I know he loves me. He is just being like this for 1 month, since he met her.
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People fall out of love as quick as they fall in love. He got tired of your bullshit! Now bite your elbows if you can reach it!
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Posted by Silverado

Just stop. Get rid of this man and move on, right fucking now.

7 years and he didn't put a ring on it? That was five years too long of a wait.
Waaaait! What ring? She wasn’t ready! She clearly thought he can be taken for granted and ONLY when he slipped away she started to be a woman!

Also WTF is about sex and family gathering? Man clearly out of her life but being a man with needs he continuing dipping because she let him!!!

Why is everybody on his ass when she is clearly the one at fault here? 🤷‍♀️
The truth is always somewhere in the middle. I would argue that both people are at fault in their own way. The key is: even though things are fucked up right now, have you learned from it?

If yes, good - less mistakes in the future. If no, it's time to look inside and figure out why objectively.
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Learning from mistakes is good if you’ll have similar situation in future.

If you’ll have a different one - guess what? 🤦‍♀️

Imagine next man will want no children...if she will push having some going by ‘knowledge’ learned from the past...no good!

It’s just a common sense. And it’s clearly is absent here. Unfortunately...
I kind of agree with what Marlenflame said.....

If he had broken up with you...Then I don't think you should have been sleeping with him afterwards if he told you he was with someone. Hanging together and being around family...fine....but you lowered yourself because you want things to work out, He slept with you, cheated on her and now saying he can't do that anymore with you because he is with her.

You should have put up a fine line between you and him, let him know you in fact want to settle down but he has moved on and you respect that. Then wait and see if he comes back. I just don't like that he looks at you different now or its tainted because you slept with him but you let that happen and it sounds like you said you forced him to sleep with you or seduced maybe because you knew he would give in.

Did you give back the ring or did he ask for it back?

I like the fact that you wanted to make sure both of you were set up for a family and even healthy too so that you could have healthy children. He should respect you for that.

But like others have said something ain't right...this other person has all kind of health issues and he is so desperate for kids that he would let her have them. I am not judging her I do feel bad about her conditions....its just you can tell he wanted to have kids bad then and that this was really big for him. He probably has some type of connections with her. 1 month is too early. He must have know her to make this drastic decision.

He must really love her because I don't see how in 1 month he can be so sure this is the person to have his kids, settle down with ect. Seems he didn't care so much about your career wanted to be the man of the home and take care of you. I don't know.

I'm sorry your going through this. Step back from him completely let him have her. How do you know so much about her.?Forgive me if I misread anything or missed any information but how is he so comfortably talking to you about another woman after he put a ring on your finger and been together 7 years. You maybe should run because now he is over there with Cancer and here you are high and dry.....You had your priorities and he had his.... Sad