How to proceed with this Scorp/Taur saga?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by TrueTaur57 on Monday, November 2, 2015 and has 13 replies.
I am a Taurus, I found my best friend in a Scorpio guy in 2011 
We both are intense people but we have one difference. He is always very cheerful but I am mostly sad because of hardships of life. Nevertheless, he always cheered me up and made me achieve and be successful. Of course, I love him. Its been 3 years since I first felt a feeling for him.
I told him about my feelings in 2013 but he told me clearly that he does not love me. He also said I am very close to him so he does not want me to go away. Lots of fights happened, lots! We have hurt each other very bad and this continued till 2014 end when I thought maybe letting him go and not talking would make me move on. (Nothing like that happened) We did not talk till July 2015, I told him I graduated and got a high pay job, interestingly he was very very happy for me and I we talked for long time.
He knows I am in that kind of love for him which will always be there,, the one which cannot be just friends. But we still talk. He said we will talk but until it becomes awkward. I think he loves someone but we never talk about relationships.
Oct 30 was his bday and I wished him late so that he should not feel awkward that I am still making him special. But he was angry that I wished him late. He asked me to stop thinking about awkwardness and be free from the past. We were laughing, chatting, talking about families but suddenly he asked me why I still live a sad life (he always gets me like this, even through texts he can always guess what is going on with me) anyway I tried to avoid the topic as I know that I am majorly sad because I am not able to move on and I still love him the same. He was telling me about his future plans a little but in all, he was talking to me in a very friendly way, and he knows very very well that I am in mad love with him.
Sometimes I think I should just not talk to him at all but then he is my best friend first and I need him. He is the only person who can cheer me up and who get happiest for me. And I know that he has always cherished our friendship and has loved me as his girl best friend. He is exceptionally sweet, whenever we fought, he was calm and only tried to make me understand that he does not feel anything for me and its neither's fault that we are fighting. I am the only person to whom he has said sorry in his life. He is the kind of man who makes other's say sorry even if its his fault but I was getting too much hurt and twice he shouted at me to understand about feelings and later on he apologized for being rude.
I don't know what should I do? He asks me to forget the past and be with him as his best friend again but is it even possible?
How should I proceed from here?
We both are intense people but we have one difference. He is always very cheerful but I am mostly sad because of hardships of life. Nevertheless, he always cheered me up and made me achieve and be successful. Of course, I love him. Its been 3 years since I first felt a feeling for him. I told him about my feelings in 2013 but he told me clearly that he does not love me. He also said I am very close to him so he does not want me to go away. Lots of fights happened, lots! We have hurt each other very bad and this continued till 2014 end when I thought maybe letting him go and not talking would make me move on. (Nothing like that happened) We did not talk till July 2015, I told him I graduated and got a high pay job, interestingly he was very very happy for me and I we talked for long time.
He knows I am in that kind of love for him which will always be there,, the one which cannot be just friends. But we still talk. He said we will talk but until it becomes awkward. I think he loves someone but we never talk about relationships.
Oct 30 was his bday and I wished him late so that he should not feel awkward that I am still making him special. But he was angry that I wished him late. He asked me to stop thinking about awkwardness and be free from the past. We were laughing, chatting, talking about families but suddenly he asked me why I still live a sad life (he always gets me like this, even through texts he can always guess what is going on with me) anyway I tried to avoid the topic as I know that I am majorly sad because I am not able to move on and I still love him the same. He was telling me about his future plans a little but in all, he was talking to me in a very friendly way, and he knows very very well that I am in mad love with him.
Sometimes I think I should just not talk to him at all but then he is my best friend first and I need him. He is the only person who can cheer me up and who get happiest for me. And I know that he has always cherished our friendship and has loved me as his girl best friend. He is exceptionally sweet, whenever we fought, he was calm and only tried to make me understand that he does not feel anything for me and its neither's fault that we are fighting. I am the only person to whom he has said sorry in his life. He is the kind of man who makes other's say sorry even if its his fault but I was getting too much hurt and twice he shouted at me to understand about feelings and later on he apologized for being rude.
I don't know what should I do? He asks me to forget the past and be with him as his best friend again but is it even possible?
How should I proceed from here?
Signed Up: Oct 29, 2014
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Some people pick up on vibes like that.. I think you should move on. This guy knows everything and doesn't want you like you want to..
So what you do is take advice since he is a friend and go do you by yourself. Focus on you. Stay strong and single, work at your new job, take a breathe and meditation works and think about how to change from your childhood or teenage life on way you are sad. And and then try to compromise in your self. And yoga works too. Then in a few months start again with someone new ..
Good luck.
So what you do is take advice since he is a friend and go do you by yourself. Focus on you. Stay strong and single, work at your new job, take a breathe and meditation works and think about how to change from your childhood or teenage life on way you are sad. And and then try to compromise in your self. And yoga works too. Then in a few months start again with someone new ..
Good luck.
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Not way, but Why are you sad? typo.
Posted by Impulsv
What is best for you?
I cannot live without him. I don't know if I still need him romantically but I need him. And I love him. He knows that very well that I truly madly love him. He is the source of my strength apart from my family. I have lived 6 months without him and I was becoming hopeless. He has became my weakness
Posted by YellowSubmarine
What do you mean he asks you to “forget the past†– did something romantic happen between you two in the past?
No never but we had pretty bad fights and arguments. I have gone extremely beyond his level of expectation as a friend for him thrice which irked him to the core, as I was spending lots of precious money and time on him which he never wanted. Lots of surprises which I planned exclusively for him went extremely wrong we only fought. Pretty rough time. I am way too stubborn, wasn't seeing that he loves me as a friend only. He shouted at me twice but immediately said sorry. He was never violent. He has broken my heart lots of time as I was expecting a lot from him and he was not reverting back. I have even talked to his family, his roomies indirectly and he knows that.
This is our rough past.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Some people pick up on vibes like that.. I think you should move on. This guy knows everything and doesn't want you like you want to..
So what you do is take advice since he is a friend and go do you by yourself. Focus on you. Stay strong and single, work at your new job, take a breathe and meditation works and think about how to change from your childhood or teenage life on way you are sad. And and then try to compromise in your self. And yoga works too. Then in a few months start again with someone new ..
Good luck.
That's the problem! I am not able to move on. I am focusing on myself, my work, health, yoga, family responsibilities, but he is also important to me. I tried to start with someone else, a Cap man, when me and Scorp friend did not talk for 6 months but I found out that I am in a cage where I just can't love anyone else romantically.
Yesterday when me and my Scorp friend were talking, he was very smooth, pretty relaxed, and was saying one thing, that it hurts him to see me still sad and I should only be happy in life. He asked me why still to which I said we should meet instead talking about these sensitive issues over text. He said soon but asked me to promise him for now I must stop being sad and be awesome instead, he was telling me how much success I can still achieve in life and I should be more frequent with my family visits. He still takes care of me.
I didn't know how true this is till I saw it for myself.." You can never be just friends with someone you love" I understand what you're going through.When it did happen to me n when I thought there's no future, I just left before it could get any awkward. I never wanted to read too much into it either.I know feeding those thoughts wasn't healthy for me.It's definitely not easy..but that's just easier than the other way.He's kinda mean to let you go through this even after he knows.Is he stringing you along by any chance??Keeping you as an option or something?
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Ummm ok what if he moves on, then you have to right? . You're just friends.
Hm Taurus stick through good and bad. But right now you can't change a Scorpio's mind as he just wants to be friends and be more uplifting..
Hm idk where is Agent and ScorpioHarmony. They should be able to assist you better... I am a Taurus. So giving advice for Taurus people..you...
Take care.
Hm Taurus stick through good and bad. But right now you can't change a Scorpio's mind as he just wants to be friends and be more uplifting..
Hm idk where is Agent and ScorpioHarmony. They should be able to assist you better... I am a Taurus. So giving advice for Taurus people..you...
Take care.
Posted by Teena
I didn't know how true this is till I saw it for myself.." You can never be just friends with someone you love" I understand what you're going through.When it did happen to me n when I thought there's no future, I just left before it could get any awkward. I never wanted to read too much into it either.I know feeding those thoughts wasn't healthy for me.It's definitely not easy..but that's just easier than the other way.He's kinda mean to let you go through this even after he knows.Is he stringing you along by any chance??Keeping you as an option or something?
Yes, You can never be just friends with someone you love. I have tried to live without him but that was miserable. I know we are not going to end up together, but still we are good friends. Maybe that's why this relationship won't end. Me in love with him and he seeing his friend. Yeah he made me hurt because I hurt him pretty bad. Scorpio sting. I don't know if he is keeping me as an option. But for now, he is behaving with me the same way as he used to do before it all started, when were close friends.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Ummm ok what if he moves on, then you have to right? . You're just friends.
Hm Taurus stick through good and bad. But right now you can't change a Scorpio's mind as he just wants to be friends and be more uplifting..
Hm idk where is Agent and ScorpioHarmony. They should be able to assist you better... I am a Taurus. So giving advice for Taurus people..you...
Take care.
Yes, yes, yes! I really need to move on, that's why I said, I don't know if I want him now as a romantic partner or not. But before all that, he was my friend, who gives me super confidence to achieve in this life, and I have done that. He was always always there for me, good or bad.
I see.. alright well, despite all that, he still wants you in his life, so..
Is it possible? Only YOU know that.. can you be his friend while simultaneously being in love with him? Will you get enough out of a friendship in order to keep you satisfied, or will you constantly want more from him?
Listen man, I understand. My roommate (heavily Taurus influenced) has been doing the same dance with a guy for almost 4 years.. so I’ve seen this kind of relationship play out first-hand. She basically tortures herself by keeping this guy in her life because the level of detachment required for the friendship to function just doesn’t come naturally to her.
More than anything else, you need accept that he wants only friendship – that’s the first step, before anything else. It sounds like he genuinely values (and probably relates) to your sensitivity.. you basically need to decide which will hurt more – not having him in your life at all, or having him as a friend and nothing more.
He wants me as his good friend.
Not for romance. He did say that he never liked whatever happened in the past but he said he wants to remove all the awkwardness and will try everything possible which he can do to achieve that! Having him anyway works for me. It's ok, if he does not love me back but I still get his precious time and love as a friend. Maybe this time I should not be greedy and have him as what nature is giving Posted by flowingwater
This sounds like my life story.. seven years of a Scorpio and feelings still haven't changed. Honestly moving on never worked for me.. It just made it worse.
I'm sorry for what you're going through, I know your pain I feel it. It's hard to not be loved by someone your whole heart belongs too, it kills you. Please take time to discover you, what make you happy, and how to grow from this.. I can't say the feelings will change with time. Mine never did, and they still haven't.
I totally understand you!
He is still talking to me! Its been 3 days we are talking, but casually, generally like old friends. I hope there is nothing hidden in this gesture and I should trust him completely.
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