I (a cancer man) rejected a Scorpio!

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we went out a couple times with some friends. we get along great! I wanted to date. she wanted to be friends. I told her I wasn't gay. blabla she's making up excuses when I did ask her out again. I then told her to quit wasting my time and I defriended her on my facebook.

There comes a point when a man needs to be a man and notice the signs of rejection and be the first to do the rejecting. she messaged me back.. I didn't reply...

I was starting to like her but I didn't want to be stuck in the friends zone.
I think she likes me too because she has been giving me the eye flirting attention for over a year and just last month started hanging out and giving her a try. She keeps saying im hot and cute and all the good things a cancer man LOVES to hear but she just wants to be friends nothing more. I don't understan! in my head im like.. FUK That!

I think I hurt her feelings... moving on. I'll miss her.. 😢
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Forgot to add that there is this other guy that pretty much follows her around. she knows this guy likes her. she invited this fool to also hang out with me her and her friend.. I took over that night 😉 I can tell that he was jealous. It was my idea to hang out that weekend and it was GOING to be my night! screw him he wasnt invited. 😛

I think your right about her liking more the one person. But us cancers dont play that BS.

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I'm pretty sure she did like me a lot, but she probably didn't have any relationship before. It was a bit complicated too. I really didn't feel like being cautious with her, she was that awesome. I could have waited or played by her rules if she had wanted to, but communication was way too difficult, she was worse than a crab in its shell. I'm starting to think that Scorpios are more fearful than crabs and fishies, they're afraid to lose dominion and they prefer weaklings that they can easily overpower. I really don't feel like playing weak.

I had never liked a Scorp that much before that, they're too phony, sometimes, or pathetic drama queens. She was a very special bug.
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Posted by shishno
Forgot to add that there is this other guy that pretty much follows her around. she knows this guy likes her. she invited this fool to also hang out with me her and her friend.. I took over that night 😉 I can tell that he was jealous. It was my idea to hang out that weekend and it was GOING to be my night! screw him he wasnt invited. 😛

I think your right about her liking more the one person. But us cancers dont play that BS.


I would have liked to be put in such a situation, I can be so funny and nasty at the same time. You lucky bastard.
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Mr. Cabby... you may have something there about them liking the weaker dudes.... cause this chicks ex look like mr. Winky from south park. my ego cannot be contained in normal sized facilities. kinda odd for a cancer right? but non the less I am a cancer. I hide my emotions well but when I show it, it explodes.

Tho let me just put this out there... With each rejection only makes us stronger. eventually you will know the signs of early rejection to save yourself the time and be the one to reject first >:]
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LOL you fucking pwn3d me there, Chic! LOLZ

I should start giving women what they think that they want instead of being myself. I'll try that. Women want security and obedience, it's simple. I just have to fake docility until I find someone else I'd rather fuck. Why women would be asking for that remains a mystery.

One honeymoon followed by disappointment. Repeat. Isn't that a wonderful way of life?
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Posted by shishno
we went out a couple times with some friends. we get along great! I wanted to date. she wanted to be friends. I told her I wasn't gay. blabla she's making up excuses when I did ask her out again. I then told her to quit wasting my time and I defriended her on my facebook.

There comes a point when a man needs to be a man and notice the signs of rejection and be the first to do the rejecting. she messaged me back.. I didn't reply...

I was starting to like her but I didn't want to be stuck in the friends zone.
I think she likes me too because she has been giving me the eye flirting attention for over a year and just last month started hanging out and giving her a try. She keeps saying im hot and cute and all the good things a cancer man LOVES to hear but she just wants to be friends nothing more. I don't understan! in my head im like.. FUK That!

I think I hurt her feelings... moving on. I'll miss her.. 😢

Congratulations you've just ocmpleted your first requirement to join the scorpio regime. Although you have many other steps to complete.
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Nope this is a different scorpio. my ex boss was the type of scorpio that stings for no reason.. this new scorpio is way NICE but underneath all that niceness I know she's a bit evil...

I've learned from my past rejections. I'm pretty good at spoting the signs. If she cuts me out forever oh well.. Life moves on she's not the only chick in the world. I started having feelings for her and I knew it wasnt going to work out so I cut her off before that escalated. she is just a memorie and experiance to fuel my ego. Tho I do feel bad for being an ass... She was really nice. I know what I want, she wouldn't give me it. "Friends" I will not be put in that situation again. I have a name for them.. The Love Fool. why stick around and have one chick hurt you for those years or months getting your hopes up that someday she will date you! Waste of my time.

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FYI: A mans ego and his looks have absolutely nothing to do with your strength.

Just because he looked like Mr Winky doesn't mean he was a pushover, and just because you have a big ego doesn't mean you're the strong type. I don't know you, so I am not saying that you're one way or another... But scorpios are so misunderstood. We DESPISE the weak, pushover types. And looks do not always matter to us.. Imagine that. For as much shit people talk about scorpios, we're not as shallow as most.



From my experience with the scorp I dated years ago, this ring's truth.

I'm TOTALLY an average looking guy but she mentioned one of the things that first attracted her to me was the way I lead our team, my presence, and the fact that the whole team was completely receptive to having me at point.

Confidence and charm go a long way when it comes to women.


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"Confidence and charm go a long way when it comes to women." Your absolutely right! Tho some of us (like me) also have the looks. Some guys are lucky enough to be at the right place at the right time and at the right moment! Tho because I am who I am I get myself introuble because I think to much of myself. After all I'm sagittarius rising. My ego is my downfall. I should not think that I am better. Cause I'm not! we are all equal. tho now the question is.. Does she really wanna splice genes with this Fug? Humans stop evolving when economic value came into play. So we are no longer getting rid of the weak/bad gene in human DNA... If I have offended anyone, i'm sorry i'm just curious. :/ after all that's the ugly truth.
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Yes leadership and power is very attractive to us. Numerous times I've been attracted to my bosses, even if they were older. Of course I rarely acted on it, (maybe once or twice lol) but the attraction was there and it wasn't about their looks. It was about the confidence & strength behind doing what they do.. leading. We like to be lead, contrary to popular belief, we do not wanna be able to control a man. That is such a turn-off. Nor do we want someone to control us, besides in the sheets.. LOL But that's a whole other thread. 🙂

Also personality & sense of humor come first & foremost for me. My ex was an overweight guy, his face wasn't very attractive either, but he was a great leader at our job. When he spoke to the big wigs, he never seemed to doubt himself or get 'nervous' like all the other supervisors did when the big wigs came in. AND he made me & everyone else in the office laugh. He would pick on me, not in an insulting way but in a cute way. He wasn't trying to be over-the-top 'suave'.. he was just being himself.
He pursued me for 6 long months and my attraction grew for him, slowly but surely. Eventually it turned into a physical attraction too, then eventually it turned to love.

But the son of a bitch was living double lives... but that too, is a whole other thread. LMAO 🙂



Oh I think I remember this one. It was the really sweaty guy, ya?
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Posted by shishno
Mr. Cabby... you may have something there about them liking the weaker dudes.... cause this chicks ex look like mr. Winky from south park. my ego cannot be contained in normal sized facilities. kinda odd for a cancer right? but non the less I am a cancer. I hide my emotions well but when I show it, it explodes.

For as much shit people talk about scorpios, we're not as shallow as most.
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Mr. Cabby... you may have something there about them liking the weaker dudes.... cause this chicks ex look like mr. Winky from south park. my ego cannot be contained in normal sized facilities. kinda odd for a cancer right? but non the less I am a cancer. I hide my emotions well but when I show it, it explodes.

Tho let me just put this out there... With each rejection only makes us stronger. eventually you will know the signs of early rejection to save yourself the time and be the one to reject first >:]



FYI: A mans ego and his looks have absolutely nothing to do with your strength.

Just because he looked like Mr Winky doesn't mean he was a pushover, and just because you have a big ego doesn't mean you're the strong type. I don't know you, so I am not saying that you're one way or another... But scorpios are so misunderstood. We DESPISE the weak, pushover types. And looks do not always matter to us.. Imagine that. For as much shit people talk about scorpios, we're not as shallow as most.
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O there are shallow scorpios out there cuz i know plenty in my hometown but u did say not always and not as shallow i will take that into account
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It's so amusing to see someone so arrogant and who finds himself so 'knowledgeable' about scorpios. Really you seem more like a lost puppy trying to find your way. Stop trying to figure out the scorpio female, you are too far gone. Even if you had a good scorpio woman in your life you wouldn't know what to do with her and it'd be a waste of your time as well as hers.



There isn't much to figure out when it comes to a Scorpio female. Their routine is so steadfast and utterly routine and boring that the possibility they would stray from it, or be interesting enough to have an idea of their own, is actually smaller than the chance that I would actually be attracted to one on any level other than the superficial.

They do have some redeeming qualities though, such as their sex drive, which can be convenient at times. Although the lack of imagination in that department is disappointing as well, only second to that of the Sagittarius woman who's attitude in sexual matters is more utilitarian and blunt than a club wielding Cro-Magnon, insisting upon skipping foreplay of any variety in order to satiate her need to quickly complete the task. While not much more evolved than her Sagittarius counterpart, the supposed frisky Scorpio lacks the ability to connect on a deeper level despite the supposed reputation for empathy (although her intuition is fantastic but rarely used effectively), instead she relies on gimmicky bedroom parlor tricks that I could only surmise would work on the most unevolved men imaginable but nothing more.

So, there you have her, the Scorpio woman. I can't think of a worse match for Cancer, a complete waste of time, as you said. I definitely think it's best that these two never stray beyond the boundaries of friendship.

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It's so amusing to see someone so arrogant and who finds himself so 'knowledgeable' about scorpios. Really you seem more like a lost puppy trying to find your way. Stop trying to figure out the scorpio female, you are too far gone. Even if you had a good scorpio woman in your life you wouldn't know what to do with her and it'd be a waste of your time as well as hers.


Your obsession with the idea of what a Scorpio woman is supposed to be like is astounding. By your comments, you show how much of a typical boring by-the-numbers woman who's attracted to power and to anyone who will make her feel wanted. You're just playing a game, and that has nothing to do with being a Scorp. For such a woman, the sun sign doesn't really matter anyway.

You can't be happy if you think a man exists to make you feel special. You have to be special on your own for someone to appreciate you. It seems like you're looking for external validation rather than assessing your own worth yourself. See? Typical weak woman from before feminism.

I don't understand why it would be amusing to make fun of me, so lost and pathetic. Is that what you do? Make people feel bad? Trying to fill a void, aren't we?

I have to go cry a bit now, an online psycho was mean to me. Not you, another one.
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So, there you have her, the Scorpio woman. I can't think of a worse match for Cancer, a complete waste of time, as you said. I definitely think it's best that these two never stray beyond the boundaries of friendship.

Hey there, I would have agreed with you before, I never understood what was the big deal with Scorps, average looking, not very tall, very immature, scared. But the one who rejected me actually will be much nicer eventually, she was just too young at that point. Too bad for me.

I ain't jumping on the next one, though, that's for sure.
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Mr. Crabby and the other Cancer guy, if you consider Scorpio women so average, immature, and boring, then why do you even bothered—??

How contradicting?



I don't bother. In fact, I only jumped in the thread because I saw it on the front page.



Which begs the question: Why bother jumping in?
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Quite simply, because I felt like it. Is that suitable enough for you?
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hello guys/gals.. I'm new here.. =)

since the title is "Cancer rejecting Scorpio", I hope someone can enlighten me what's the best thing to do.. (sorry for the sudden change of topic in the thread)

here's my story..

the cancer man and I dated for 6 months.. i made a huge mistake and broke his heart.. i told him I'll wait for his forgiveness.. (this was sept 2009).. things were shaky for the next couple of months.. "push and pull game" as some of the people in here would call it.. he would contact me only to disappear for the next 2-3 weeks.... then call me again to say he missed me..

One day, he again contacted me.. a little different.. more sweet.. more caring.. he even told me he wanted me back in his life! i was so happy.. i told him I wanted him back as well... he agreed to work on our relationship.. (i was the happiest person alive)

One week has passed since that conversation. i still haven't heard from him..i texted him.. saying i missed him.. no reply.. so, i let him be.. i didn't call to ask where or why.....

now, my dilemma is this.. i don't know if it's worth the wait..I do love him.. but I'm getting tired..some friends told me a person who cares and love me won't do what he's doing to me..but reading the threads from this website made me realize that it's probably a "cancer personality" to be this way.. what do you think is the best thing to do? his birthday is next month (end of june).. i don't know if should even bother greeting or giving him a present..

any advice fellow Scorpios? cancer friends? please do help..

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Posted by aquilascorpiusfemina
Mr. Crabby and the other Cancer guy, if you consider Scorpio women so average, immature, and boring, then why do you even bothered—??

How contradicting?


There's one I loved deeply, but other than her, I've never understood the Crab-Scorp alleged deep connection. Even SHE was playing the almighty powerful thing that HAD to say no to keep face, but I guess she was worth it. I can't say the same for most bugs.

I think these two signs trigger something when they're close, like a "merge or destroy everything" aura. It's just too strong and violent for most people to make it work properly.
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Posted by shishno
we went out a couple times with some friends. we get along great! I wanted to date. she wanted to be friends. I told her I wasn't gay. blabla she's making up excuses when I did ask her out again. I then told her to quit wasting my time and I defriended her on my facebook.

There comes a point when a man needs to be a man and notice the signs of rejection and be the first to do the rejecting. she messaged me back.. I didn't reply...

I was starting to like her but I didn't want to be stuck in the friends zone.
I think she likes me too because she has been giving me the eye flirting attention for over a year and just last month started hanging out and giving her a try. She keeps saying im hot and cute and all the good things a cancer man LOVES to hear but she just wants to be friends nothing more. I don't understan! in my head im like.. FUK That!

I think I hurt her feelings... moving on. I'll miss her.. 😢




Hmmmm...sounds to me like she rejected you first!
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hello guys/gals.. I'm new here.. =)

since the title is "Cancer rejecting Scorpio", I hope someone can enlighten me what's the best thing to do.. (sorry for the sudden change of topic in the thread)

here's my story..

the cancer man and I dated for 6 months.. i made a huge mistake and broke his heart.. i told him I'll wait for his forgiveness.. (this was sept 2009).. things were shaky for the next couple of months.. "push and pull game" as some of the people in here would call it.. he would contact me only to disappear for the next 2-3 weeks.... then call me again to say he missed me..

One day, he again contacted me.. a little different.. more sweet.. more caring.. he even told me he wanted me back in his life! i was so happy.. i told him I wanted him back as well... he agreed to work on our relationship.. (i was the happiest person alive)

One week has passed since that conversation. i still haven't heard from him..i texted him.. saying i missed him.. no reply.. so, i let him be.. i didn't call to ask where or why.....

now, my dilemma is this.. i don't know if it's worth the wait..I do love him.. but I'm getting tired..some friends told me a person who cares and love me won't do what he's doing to me..but reading the threads from this website made me realize that it's probably a "cancer personality" to be this way.. what do you think is the best thing to do? his birthday is next month (end of june).. i don't know if should even bother greeting or giving him a present..

any advice fellow Scorpios? cancer friends? please do help..



You exemplify the very reason why this combination just doesn't work. You break his heart (major rejection), you get impatient (failing the trust test), and now you're planning on ignoring his birthday while at the same time saying you "love" the guy but don't know if he's worth the wait (more rejection). You couldn't be any worse for him.

Do him a favor, and leave him alone for good. Let him find somebody who fits him, you're simply not her.

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You exemplify the very reason why this combination just doesn't work. You break his heart (major rejection), you get impatient (failing the trust test), and now you're planning on ignoring his birthday while at the same time saying you "love" the guy but don't know if he's worth the wait (more rejection). You couldn't be any worse for him.

Do him a favor, and leave him alone for good. Let him find somebody who fits him, you're simply not her.




ouch.. (>.
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hello guys/gals.. I'm new here.. =)

since the title is "Cancer rejecting Scorpio", I hope someone can enlighten me what's the best thing to do.. (sorry for the sudden change of topic in the thread)

here's my story..

the cancer man and I dated for 6 months.. i made a huge mistake and broke his heart.. i told him I'll wait for his forgiveness.. (this was sept 2009).. things were shaky for the next couple of months.. "push and pull game" as some of the people in here would call it.. he would contact me only to disappear for the next 2-3 weeks.... then call me again to say he missed me..

One day, he again contacted me.. a little different.. more sweet.. more caring.. he even told me he wanted me back in his life! i was so happy.. i told him I wanted him back as well... he agreed to work on our relationship.. (i was the happiest person alive)

One week has passed since that conversation. i still haven't heard from him..i texted him.. saying i missed him.. no reply.. so, i let him be.. i didn't call to ask where or why.....

now, my dilemma is this.. i don't know if it's worth the wait..I do love him.. but I'm getting tired..some friends told me a person who cares and love me won't do what he's doing to me..but reading the threads from this website made me realize that it's probably a "cancer personality" to be this way.. what do you think is the best thing to do? his birthday is next month (end of june).. i don't know if should even bother greeting or giving him a present..

any advice fellow Scorpios? cancer friends? please do help..



I'm doing this right now to the Scorpio??_ We cancer??s are so afraid of rejection that we sometimes do this to the girl that we like. We start thinking that maybe there trying to play with our heads. Once we get rejected or be the one who rejected. We will be cautious??_ Tho we still love you. I defriended the Scorpio chick out of selfishness and in the moment of emotional weakness. I saw the first signs of rejection so I took action first. In all reality I didn't want to do that.. Now I can't just friend her and pretend I didn't hurt her feelings. —Cause if I do that I'm thinking, she would say something hurtful or do nothing to reply to my friendship invitation. Tho then again it was my fault so why do I deserve another chance? Cancers think to much because we don't want to g
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Shisho I remember you started a thread about this girl a long time ago (if it was the same chick) and I remember reading it and coming to the conclusion I have the same problem with a Cancer dude. Well, I did have that problem. Got to let them go eventually.



No its not the same chick.. The last one was a pure bitch but I liked her 😛
This new scorpio is Nice! She is soo nice to me and I was an ass because of what I have experianced in the past.
When she wanted to JUST be "friends" I pretty much said, fuck you and defriended her... Tho I did not do it with pride.
It's weird because everytime we hang out she would be so close around me and we would talk forever! until her guy friend started to cock block. btw he is completly in the "friends" zone. I don't wanna be that guy...

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the only reason I said I want to ignore his birthday is because I feel like he's playing with my heart to get even.

I feel that way because he said he wanted me back in his life, yet right after that conversation, I never heard from him again. I do want to wait for him.. but the situation he's putting me into makes me feel dubious about his " trust test" whether it's truly a "test" or just an act of revenge.

cancers are vengeful indeed.. 😢



I agree somewhat with what shishno said. I don't think he's playing with your heart, as you say. Generally we don't do that sort of thing. We can be vengeful, but it's hardly ever towards a love interest, past or present. It sounds like he's unsure of what you're going to do, and he left an opening for you to make an effort to track him down. He told you he wants you in his life, and vanished because he probably wants you to come to him to prove you want the same. You're missing the point of what he's doing, and failing miserably. He's put his neck out for you twice already, and you're in the midst of rejecting him a second time. If you actually like the guy, you better start putting forth an effort to find him, to take an active interest in calling him a lot more often and trying to see him. I think a Cancerian likes to be chased when they're unsure, or feel rejected, and this is something that Scorpio women, from my experience, don't seem get, or their intuition fails them by making them suspicious and guarded when they should be going forward and outgoing.

Of course, if I'm all wrong about this, so what? Just let him go and get on with your life. Of course, I don't know why he would say he wants you in his life if he didn't, it just doesn't sound like something a Cancerian would say.

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Hi cancer men,

Tired of rejection? Become a Summer Scorpio today. IT just takes three easy steps

Step 1: Listen to me

Step 2:

Step 3: Realize that that is your destination anyway.

Being a summer scorpio is a lot of fun. You can grow at your own pace and still keep the things that make you you. Beware however there will be many "other" offers along the way, but thats why rule number 1 is in place. In the end, being a summer scorpio is what you will need, so don't say I didn't warn you.

Once you become a summer scorpio you can do things like:

1) Slowly but graudually take over the world

2) Keep a job

3) Become a member of society and be ok with it

4) Be on time

5) Make friends

6) Keep your temper

Once you get a few of these things, you will have what you may have heard of; its called "a life". This is the commodity you will need if you want to "have love". So why not, the only thing worse than looking back on the past is not having a past to look back to. So become a Summer Scorpio today.

To enroll, just try to find the psychic frequency that my thoughts are being played on and you will be on your way. (thats when step 2 will come into play)


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I agree somewhat with what shishno said. I don't think he's playing with your heart, as you say. Generally we don't do that sort of thing. We can be vengeful, but it's hardly ever towards a love interest, past or present. It sounds like he's unsure of what you're going to do, and he left an opening for you to make an effort to track him down. He told you he wants you in his life, and vanished because he probably wants you to come to him to prove you want the same. You're missing the point of what he's doing, and failing miserably. He's put his neck out for you twice already, and you're in the midst of rejecting him a second time. If you actually like the guy, you better start putting forth an effort to find him, to take an active interest in calling him a lot more often and trying to see him. I think a Cancerian likes to be chased when they're unsure, or feel rejected, and this is something that Scorpio women, from my experience, don't seem get, or their intuition fails them by making them suspicious and guarded when they should be going forward and outgoing.

Of course, if I'm all wrong about this, so what? Just let him go and get on with your life. Of course, I don't know why he would say he wants you in his life if he didn't, it just doesn't sound like something a Cancerian would say.
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Thanks cancerguy for your advice..

I think he knows where I stand when it comes to that.. when he told me he wanted me back in his life.. I told him, yes! and I want him back,too! that's what i said.. what can be any more clearer than that? So I deem he does know where I am coming from... (thus the thought: "hmm, maybe he's playing with me, he wants to lead me on so he can get even")

my greatest fear is.. while i sit and wait for him.. he's already been trying to move on behind my back.. and one day, he'll find someone new and be happy.. while, I'm stuck fighting a lost battle he abandoned long before I could realize he's gone.

If only I could get a reassurance from the cancer that he's loyalty is with me.. then I sure will give him the patience, the devotion and the loyalty he deserves to have. (should I ask the cancer that? or is that too aggressive?)