I chased a Scoprio man and he backed off

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by sexyleo83 on Friday, September 20, 2013 and has 22 replies.
Hi everyone, I have been reading the forums for a while but this is my first post. I would really appreciate your Scorpion input and opinions on whether i still have a chance or I ruined it.I'm a leo ( July 29)met a younger Scorpio man( Nov 8) online about 2 weeks ago. I messaged him randomly not really expecting a response. I was about to cancel my account and he messaged right before I did. HE said he was in the middle of canceling as Well as I messaged him. We exchanged numbers and for days we text all day until 1 it 2 am. We found out we had alot in common and similar personalities. He purchased a house a few blocks from my apartment complex and is moving near me in a few weeks. It's also ironic he has a friend who lives in the same complex I moved from last year.
We had a date planned to finally meet last Sunday, but he got called into work. He text me the entire time he was on shift. He kept telling me he's was so interested in meeting me, How beautiful and gorgeous I was, and how he couldn't wait to see me.
We set another date to meet Thursday. Monday he was very busy with work and could barely text but still text a fair amount. Tuesday he tapered off to 1 message. Wednesday I ignored my untution to let him contact me (i know i should have listened) but text him anyway to see if we were still meeting up the following day and he never responded.
If he pulls away what are the the odds . he will start contacting me again now that I have backed off? I know if we met in person we would really guy it off. I just hope I didn't ruin that chance.
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I don't think you did anything wrong by keeping in touch and it doesn't sound like you were sending him millions of texts. I can get like that when the meeting gets closer, I want to run away, but I don't think that's the case here, sexyleo.
I think you may hear from him again, but do text him Tuesday latest that you think the meeting for Thursday is on.
If he doesn't reply, then he is an ass and it may as well he doesn't get to meet you.
That's what the online dating is for... to meet and date and hopefully click.
Not to worry, though, you have not done anything wrong from what I can tell.
Good luck smile
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Thank you FUN for your quick response. Our date was actually supposed to be last night. He never responded to my Wednesday text and never contacted me yesterday. I really hope I hear from him again. I did send a few text Tuesday to his 1 response so I'm thinking he might think I'm chasing him a lil too much so I stopped texting Wednesday
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Posted by sexyleo83
Thank you FUN for your quick response. Our date was actually supposed to be last night. He never responded to my Wednesday text and never contacted me yesterday. I really hope I hear from him again. I did send a few text Tuesday to his 1 response so I'm thinking he might think I'm chasing him a lil too much so I stopped texting Wednesday

I would back off. He has already broken TWO dates with you and the last one he didn't call you nor bother to answer your call/text. Have some self-esteem. He'll probably contact you if stop being so eager (and I mean that kindly, you like him, but calm down, k?)
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'd let him go. He cancelled *strike one* (what was the reason?) then he's a no show *strike two*...I??m not impressed and no longer interested. I'm done. But, since you asked I'll address the OP.
Posted by FUM
I don't think you did anything wrong by keeping in touch and it doesn't sound like you were sending him millions of texts.


"it doesn't sound like" being the most important issue here.....I??m guessing that??s not entirely true.
Posted by sexyleo83
We set another date to meet Thursday. Monday he was very busy with work and could barely text but still text a fair amount. Tuesday he tapered off to 1 message. Wednesday I ignored my untution to let him contact me (i know i should have listened) but text him anyway to see if we were still meeting up the following day and he never responded.


Did he initiate the text on Monday and Tuesday?
Posted by sexyleo83
I did send a few text Tuesday to his 1 response so I'm thinking he might think I'm chasing him a lil too much...
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You Lions can be quite assertive and direct when it comes to claiming what you want, which is a definite plus in my book. I personally respond really well to men that are like that. I do not know if male Scorps feel the same. I will say the one thing we do have in common is the fact that we don't like to be overwhelmed by someone. In the beginning be careful not to do too much, too fast, too aggressively. "Too much" could be something as simple as texting me every. single. day. I personally do not like texting. I will do it to an extent, but don't send me something every day, especially when I have told you I am busy. I'll begin to think you don??t have anything else going on and will be bored before we even lay eyes on each other. Let me miss you, wonder what you're doing, why you haven't texted me.
I guess the nice thing about text messages is the fact that you can read over what was written and see if there is a clue there. The devil is in the details.
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Superseven,
You make a good point with the house purchase. Didn't really give it thought .And my screen name is sexy for a reasonWinking
PATHFINDER,
Thanks for your honesty . It is greatly appreciated Bc I could have been perceived as too eager. I hand backed off. I just wonder how long to give it before I know he's definitely not interested. Is it normal for scorpios to just ignore someone out of No where when they have lost interest ? Do you lose interest easily?
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Posted by sexyleo83
Superseven,
You make a good point with the house purchase. Didn't really give it thought .And my screen name is sexy for a reasonWinking
PATHFINDER,
Thanks for your honesty . It is greatly appreciated Bc I could have been perceived as too eager. I hand backed off. I just wonder how long to give it before I know he's definitely not interested. Is it normal for scorpios to just ignore someone out of No where when they have lost interest ? Do you lose interest easily?

Let him come to you. And when he does, be cool, don't drool smile sorry, couldn't resist that. Don't answer the phone on the first ring. Don't text back till the next day or so -- at least a DAY. Be busy. Have things to do. Make no excuses. Give no explanations.
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Pheonixrising,
You got me. I'm very assertive and direct. when it comes to something I want. I think games are dumb and a waste of my time. I do like to be pursued but I also like to pursue it's more fun when u catch them. Lol. I did intimate texts with days. My intuition definitely screamed not to but the Leo impulse prevailed.

Superseven,
He is 25 and I am 30 . But I get told I look 22.smile.He was in a 3 year relationship that ended 7 months ago. I asked if he was over it and moved on ( No baggage) he said totally. I just want him to chase me again: /
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Pathfinder,
That's the plan. I'm doing my best to stick with it and hope he comes to me. How long should I wait before I think he's moved on? I was thinking a few weeks.
Superseven,
I'll let it be an intriguing mystery.I get told I am very exotic and attractive alot. I'm definitely far from conceided just proving a point
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Posted by Superseven
Your thread reminds me of one of my sag buds that would lie about his age and a bunch of other stuff just to bang older chicks he met online and when they would want to meet he always made up an excuse not to go if he coludnt deliver what he lied about. Soooo maybe....

LOL sags...
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It's not that I'm that interested it's that I am picky and have been out with a lot of guys that that haven't really sparked my interest.they're very attractive what kind of boring. Heseemed to b fun and attractuve and i wanted to see for myself
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Posted by sexyleo83
I messaged him randomly not really expecting a response. I was about to cancel my account and he messaged right before I did.
He purchased a house a few blocks from my apartment complex and is moving near me in a few weeks. It's also ironic he has a friend who lives in the same complex I moved from last year.
He kept telling me he's was so interested in meeting me, How beautiful and gorgeous I was, and how he couldn't wait to see me.

@Sexy, you see this, right? If he is moving that close to you, and he wants to see you, you will hear from him. There is one thing I learned about scorpio men, it's best if you let them do the pursuing. I know you reached out to him, so now you gotta go with his timetable now. I have no idea how long that will be, but it may not be that long if you just go on with your life and don't obsess over him. Ok? Ok. Matter fact, date other men! Get back on that website! Keep your dating skills sharp so that when he shows up, you are in control of your self and not appear like a groupie. I can understand your enthusiasm because you are so optimistic, but stay cool about it.
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Posted by Neurotoxin
Maybe he found someone hotter.

aww, come on. don't be mean.
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Posted by Superseven
Of course she's convinced herself that he represents a possibility he may or may not be, what man or woman doesn't do that when they've passed the attraction phase?
I know what you're doing...no matter what her reply is you're going to make her think that shes too into him, which is true cause if WE can tell that she's way too into him at this point I bet my chicken burrito that the scorpio picked up on this too.
Theres no music without silence,
The silence is part of the seduction.
We all know how this is going to end any ways so let's just give her the usual generic comments we feed people that we know are heading in the wrong direction, but because they're so eager to get to where their going, we keep a straight and say something nice.


I swear you are cracking me up on this thread! You just want her for yourself lol
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Posted by Superseven
Boooo, I don't like mystery's I like "action" flicks.
Any way, he's playing the oldest trick in the book. Ignore the chick long enough for her to be so overwhelmed with the thought of you that shes driven to go online to ask random strangers for advice. Oldest trick in the book.



Lol. Seriously, to what end ? How effective is this game plan? I'm genuinely interested.
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^^^^
*read the rest of the thread*

Oooo--kay. Never mind.
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First, it didn't make sense to me why you would post on a Friday about the Thursday -- that is past!
He has not responded for your Thursday meeting either! I think you missed mentioning that, because I thought.. perhaps it is the next Thursday you were going to meet.
So he basically didn't respond to you the second time and you are wondering if he is interested or not?

I'd think "Fuck you!".. don't even allow him back if that douche comes back and contacts you again.
On to the next -->
Good luck in your Scorp hunt.
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Ok now.. anybody who wrote he is "busy" ... come on guys.. technology takes only what? 5 seconds saying "yes or no"??
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Posted by Superseven
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by Superseven
Boooo, I don't like mystery's I like "action" flicks.
Any way, he's playing the oldest trick in the book. Ignore the chick long enough for her to be so overwhelmed with the thought of you that shes driven to go online to ask random strangers for advice. Oldest trick in the book.



Lol. Seriously, to what end ? How effective is this game plan? I'm genuinely interested.


To what end? I guarantee you she's gonna give it up to that dude on the first date. Why? Cause shes gonna want to keep he's attention.
It's the build up...
He's already captured her imagination cause I know she thinks about him all the time now, she might even be in love with him already.
In a week or two, scorpionman is going to be diving in that pink sea like Phelps in the Olympics.
It's physics. Doesn't work with every chick though, it only works on the thirsty ones that show a lot of interest in the beginning.
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LMAO! I swear, you Gems get me every time with your sense of humour. Alright. Without being insulting, what do you suggest that she should do, since you already know what she is thinking/feeling?
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
....or
He's just busy and isn't focused on said sexy Leo. It's only been two weeks. Big Grin


Different circumstances I would agree with you, but I'm not buying the "busy" thing because
1) He wouldn't have made plans knowing he would be too busy to follow through
2) If he did suddenly become busy and he was truly feeling it, he would have sent a quick text apologizing or rescheduled because he wouldn't want to offend her/or turn her off.
I say, it's all in the text/conversations they had. Something was done (too much) or written that turned the Scorp off. We only have the cliff notes version of what actually transpired. Filtered through a very eager and excited Lioness. Perhaps too excited to actually slow down and take in what was happening with this Scorp. His text were becoming less and less, but rather than see that for what it was, she pumped the gas and pushed harder.
I recall cutting a man off because I caught him in a lie after a few weeks of conversations and text. I didn't make a fuss about it, just pointed out the inconsistency in something he said (that a long with a statement about honesty that he made). His explanation was BS, I pointed this out as well and then I just stopped talking to him. He didn't understand what happened..."but things were going so well..."
It doesn't take much to turn off a Scorp, no matter how interested we may be in you.
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Posted by Superseven
And I don't know what she's thinking or feeling, I just read between the lines.


Understood. However, you did write:
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He's already captured her imagination cause I know she thinks about him all the time now, she might even be in love with him already.

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That was why I ask Qui???Gon Jinn.
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Posted by Superseven
Hi Mel, with the new age devices at our disposal the brain can still process things as if it's something that was experienced in real life.
What I described isn't a theory but the process everyone goes through when they experience so- called attraction or love.
Obviously, the structure of something so subjective does not lend itself to precise formula but instead leads to models of how these things work.
She said a lot in her OP that told me that these models were at work. She gives irrelevant info about her friend living in the same building that the Scorpio lives
In and she lived in that part of town as if she was trying to convince herself that it was destiny they met.
"we were going to delete at the
Same time but faith brought us together"...
Oh...you are good
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