I dont get it!
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by honeygirl on Wednesday, January 21, 2009 and has 45 replies.
I don't get it... This scorpio I used to date is tryin real hard to get me to sleep with him again... He has a new girlfriend they been together 6 months and..he begged for my friendship back for months and we have been just cool friends and now he is tryin to jump in the bed... I wouldn't talk to him for a while because I felt as though he chose this other girl over me when he keeps saying that he couldn't see is going any further than what we were because I hurt him in the past and he couldn't get over it... Now he has this girlfriend she is very pretty can actually are them as a good couple but yet he is still trying to sleep with me he keeps saying one last time for old times sake... What of a scorpio nature would bring him to do this..0him holding on to the past... Is he trying to compare the sex? Is he just maybe missing me... Wtf... I don't like it!
Honeygirl you my girl but dayum you need to get it together! Stop entertaining nonsense, this man is a disrespectful clown, he's attempting to USE you....Did you really think he came back around to be JUST friends?
He's a pig
I dont plan on sleepin with him Tikki it just gets me that he made his choice yet still tryin to hold on to me... We have been friends 3 years now... And most of it was not a sexual relationship... We were truely friends for a long time but now its like i'm his friend but don't want to be because of this! And everytime I cut him off he comes back sayin he misses his friend... I'm just irritated!
Shut up whore, quit whining about your relationship problems here and go on Oprah or something.
You don't get it?
He wants to sleep with you because he thinks he can.
What's so difficult to understand about that?
He wants to sleep with you because he thinks he can.
What's so difficult to understand about that?
I wouldn't talk to him for a while because I felt as though he chose this other girl over me when he keeps saying that he couldn't see is going any further than what we were because I hurt him in the past and he couldn't get over it
lol - he's a scorp with mars drive and a fixed sign that very much hate to lose...
he wants to win you again... hang up on his trophy board... his friendship card was the way in...
human nature wants to win...
do you need the friendship? I sure you're fine without the BS, no?
lol - he's a scorp with mars drive and a fixed sign that very much hate to lose...
he wants to win you again... hang up on his trophy board... his friendship card was the way in...
human nature wants to win...
do you need the friendship? I sure you're fine without the BS, no?
You are all takin it the wrong way...
This isn't really a relationship problem I put it on the board because I was annoyed and wanted to vent about it... And it turns into a let's bash honeygirl session like his actions are my fault... Nice you guys!
Ms. Pieces I am the type to wear my heart on my shoulder and often struggle with opinions of my heart verses opinions in my mind... But as far as being an easy lay if that was what you are refering to no... The other part that might make a guy think I'm easy or may find me more attractive and want to jump in the bed with me so damn bad might be the fact that I am an exotic model and one might find themselves beatin off to my pictures on occasion! So coming from him who really in my eyes has been a true friend for the past few years I don't like it... We patched up our friendship after the 6 months of seeing eachother on a non friendship level based on that true friendship we had prior! So no I don't like it and its irritating. We have both been through eachothers shit!
I have already made it clear to him that its not happening and that I would be degrading myself by stooping to that level... But ofcourse he is a man and wouldn't see it that way!
Its like this for me in this situation... When you think you know someone... You really don't know them at all! I just wouldn't think he would cheat on his girlfriend which makes me think to myself that I'm glad it didn't go anywhere with him and I, because I could be that girl getting cheated on right now!
This isn't really a relationship problem I put it on the board because I was annoyed and wanted to vent about it... And it turns into a let's bash honeygirl session like his actions are my fault... Nice you guys!
Ms. Pieces I am the type to wear my heart on my shoulder and often struggle with opinions of my heart verses opinions in my mind... But as far as being an easy lay if that was what you are refering to no... The other part that might make a guy think I'm easy or may find me more attractive and want to jump in the bed with me so damn bad might be the fact that I am an exotic model and one might find themselves beatin off to my pictures on occasion! So coming from him who really in my eyes has been a true friend for the past few years I don't like it... We patched up our friendship after the 6 months of seeing eachother on a non friendship level based on that true friendship we had prior! So no I don't like it and its irritating. We have both been through eachothers shit!
I have already made it clear to him that its not happening and that I would be degrading myself by stooping to that level... But ofcourse he is a man and wouldn't see it that way!
Its like this for me in this situation... When you think you know someone... You really don't know them at all! I just wouldn't think he would cheat on his girlfriend which makes me think to myself that I'm glad it didn't go anywhere with him and I, because I could be that girl getting cheated on right now!
phsss... lol... he'll be persistent so watch out --- I want juice 
Hey whatthe...
Who is ya'll?
And Zenalchemy...
You always want the juice that's why you are here!
Who is ya'll?
And Zenalchemy...
You always want the juice that's why you are here!
I think she means honeygirl, ex-scorp and his gf...
lol - yea, juice is the best
lol - yea, juice is the best
honeygirl, just keep telling him no. You don't want F/W/B. I don't know if you ever slept with him without being his girlfriend. So if you ever did, that's probably why he is trying to get you to do it again.
"You are all takin it the wrong way..."
Honeygirl. It is only one way to take it. He wants to have sex with you, he didn't say anything about being in a relationship or anything serious with you, hence he has chosen someone else (his current gf) so no, he doesn't love you or even want you as a significant person in his life he just wants to sleep with you like he said, for old time sake. You are basically a booty call to him. Friends don't disrespect eachother like that.
"The other part that might make a guy think I'm easy or may find me more attractive and want to jump in the bed with me so damn bad might be the fact that I am an exotic model and one might find themselves beatin off to my pictures on occasion!"
Or, they just want to have sex with you like the scorp said. Simple!
Honeygirl. It is only one way to take it. He wants to have sex with you, he didn't say anything about being in a relationship or anything serious with you, hence he has chosen someone else (his current gf) so no, he doesn't love you or even want you as a significant person in his life he just wants to sleep with you like he said, for old time sake. You are basically a booty call to him. Friends don't disrespect eachother like that.
"The other part that might make a guy think I'm easy or may find me more attractive and want to jump in the bed with me so damn bad might be the fact that I am an exotic model and one might find themselves beatin off to my pictures on occasion!"
Or, they just want to have sex with you like the scorp said. Simple!
There are super models all over the world. Men who "want you" want more than sex.
Queenie girl...
I don't think that the man wants me... I never implied that... I been there done that with him! The obvious is that of course he wants to just have sex with with me duh! Did you read anything I wrote...
And your right friends don't disrespect eachother like that and that is one of the reasons why I'm so annoyed!
I don't think that the man wants me... I never implied that... I been there done that with him! The obvious is that of course he wants to just have sex with with me duh! Did you read anything I wrote...
And your right friends don't disrespect eachother like that and that is one of the reasons why I'm so annoyed!
Honeygirl, I don't think you are as annoyed as you are hurt that he is treating you like a w*ore.
That hurts, it doesn't exactly make you angry, does it?
Your pride may tell you you're angry, but really his behavior has deeply hurt your feelings. It sort of tells you that he really dosn't care about you like he used to. And if he doesn't care about you, I don't know if you like that feeling yet. It's ok, though, really.
That hurts, it doesn't exactly make you angry, does it?
Your pride may tell you you're angry, but really his behavior has deeply hurt your feelings. It sort of tells you that he really dosn't care about you like he used to. And if he doesn't care about you, I don't know if you like that feeling yet. It's ok, though, really.
You and he were once in a romantic relationship. You loved each other. But there was a breakup (for whatever reason). The fact that he hasn't reconciled with you but instead chose another woman to "commit" to is disppointing to you. Because you may not be totally "ready" to let him go completey, you try to be his friend. He uses this to possibly get back at you for your hurting him. You say you're an erotic model? Mm-kay. I'm not sure what that means exactly, but perception is everything, and he may be unfairly perverting his image of you as something he doesn't have to respect, and as such, he's acting on that perception.
"He wants sex, not a relationship."
Hehe..
I think that was pretty clear for all of us already, including honeygirl.. Anyone has anything new to add to this thread??? lol..
Hehe..
I think that was pretty clear for all of us already, including honeygirl.. Anyone has anything new to add to this thread??? lol.. CORRECTION *something* he doesn't have to respect... = *Someone*
Jesus! Pathfinder types fast! In 24 seconds all this:
"You and he were once in a romantic relationship. You loved each other. But there was a breakup (for whatever reason). The fact that he hasn't reconciled with you but instead chose another woman to "commit" to is disppointing to you. Because you may not be totally "ready" to let him go completey, you try to be his friend. He uses this to possibly get back at you for your hurting him. You say you're an erotic model? Mm-kay. I'm not sure what that means exactly, but perception is everything, and he may be unfairly perverting his image of you as something he doesn't have to respect, and as such, he's acting on that perception."
Well.. I know how you did that.. I was just surprised to see another one from you so fast.. lol..
"You and he were once in a romantic relationship. You loved each other. But there was a breakup (for whatever reason). The fact that he hasn't reconciled with you but instead chose another woman to "commit" to is disppointing to you. Because you may not be totally "ready" to let him go completey, you try to be his friend. He uses this to possibly get back at you for your hurting him. You say you're an erotic model? Mm-kay. I'm not sure what that means exactly, but perception is everything, and he may be unfairly perverting his image of you as something he doesn't have to respect, and as such, he's acting on that perception."
Well.. I know how you did that.. I was just surprised to see another one from you so fast.. lol..
"I don't think that the man wants me... I never implied that... I been there done that with him! The obvious is that of course he wants to just have sex with with me duh! Did you read anything I wrote..."
If you were clear then you wouldn't be making statements like: "You are all takin it the wrong way..."
So you are on this board again because?
If you were clear then you wouldn't be making statements like: "You are all takin it the wrong way..."
So you are on this board again because?
^^^ I think this is more of a trust issue...
like when you find out someone who's a really good friend was only using you? right honeygirl? or am I completely off
like when you find out someone who's a really good friend was only using you? right honeygirl? or am I completely off
It sounds to me as though you want him back ... you are holding onto the past ... and by him making these suggestions, it's fucking you up because you are correlating it with him wanting to be with you.
Why else would you start this off asking these questions .... why is he holding on, is he missing me
Why else would you start this off asking these questions .... why is he holding on, is he missing me
By me asking if he's missing me I may be trying to sugarcoat the fact that I don't want to except him treating me this way or making excuses...
We initially started dating 3 years ago and never slept together we never started a relationship because I was still trying to get over someone who is now the father of my child so there is where I hurt him in his eyes I walked away from him... I moved back to Boston and had a baby he had a baby on the way when we first met but never told me till I was actually due to have one... Through the past few years we have stayed in contact hung out when I was in town called eachother for emotional support in our relationships we know a lot about eachother! When I moved back in February we started hangin out again! We always have had this vibe between us when ever we get together in a room sparks fly all over the place... We started dating again and he didn't want to commit to a relationship because he wanted to get back on his feet!saying he has nothing to offe and so on... So he says... so here I am with the feelings building and he tells me everytime he thinks of being in love with me he thinks of me hurting him because back then he saw himself falling in love with me! Since our relationship seemed to not be able to go anywhere and he kept wanting to get his life back in order he wanted to wait and do him... I walked away and told him that I wasn't going to put myself on the line to get hurt so when he got his things together and I got mine (I was trying to move in my own place and buy a car) we could start over again! During that time he kept texting me saying he wanted his friend back and I refused! I seriously was not going to put my heart out there to get broken... One day he texts me and tells me he slept with someone else and we got in a huge fight because I felt like he was just trying to be evil by telling me something like that... And took it as him moving on... I moved on as well... He still would hit me up out of the blue trying to be my friend and saying how we were friends all these years befor this happened and so on... He misses being able to talk to me about anything... And after going back and forth about 5 times around Christmas I got soft and decided to be his friend again... And now its come to this... So I'm not really appreciating his actions right now! He has a girlfriend and I'm cool with it at this point! We were all supposed to actually hang out on New Years together! That is how our friends
We initially started dating 3 years ago and never slept together we never started a relationship because I was still trying to get over someone who is now the father of my child so there is where I hurt him in his eyes I walked away from him... I moved back to Boston and had a baby he had a baby on the way when we first met but never told me till I was actually due to have one... Through the past few years we have stayed in contact hung out when I was in town called eachother for emotional support in our relationships we know a lot about eachother! When I moved back in February we started hangin out again! We always have had this vibe between us when ever we get together in a room sparks fly all over the place... We started dating again and he didn't want to commit to a relationship because he wanted to get back on his feet!saying he has nothing to offe and so on... So he says... so here I am with the feelings building and he tells me everytime he thinks of being in love with me he thinks of me hurting him because back then he saw himself falling in love with me! Since our relationship seemed to not be able to go anywhere and he kept wanting to get his life back in order he wanted to wait and do him... I walked away and told him that I wasn't going to put myself on the line to get hurt so when he got his things together and I got mine (I was trying to move in my own place and buy a car) we could start over again! During that time he kept texting me saying he wanted his friend back and I refused! I seriously was not going to put my heart out there to get broken... One day he texts me and tells me he slept with someone else and we got in a huge fight because I felt like he was just trying to be evil by telling me something like that... And took it as him moving on... I moved on as well... He still would hit me up out of the blue trying to be my friend and saying how we were friends all these years befor this happened and so on... He misses being able to talk to me about anything... And after going back and forth about 5 times around Christmas I got soft and decided to be his friend again... And now its come to this... So I'm not really appreciating his actions right now! He has a girlfriend and I'm cool with it at this point! We were all supposed to actually hang out on New Years together! That is how our friends
Ship is... So yeah this does hurt that someone who claims to be this true friend woud treat me this way... Its shady! And it does make me angry!
key word: claims
Honeygirl, a person can claim anything .. that doesn't make it truth.
Truth is what you already know from years of experiencing with him .... and that is .... he uses you as his emotional rescue for himself, without providing an emotional safety net back for you.
I don't understand how you can KNOW, and still not know ... in fact, I don't know how anybody does this.
Read what you just wrote for what it's actually saying without involving your feelings .. pretend like someone else said it, then I'd bet you you can see exactly what it's saying and will stop this confusion.
Honeygirl, a person can claim anything .. that doesn't make it truth.
Truth is what you already know from years of experiencing with him .... and that is .... he uses you as his emotional rescue for himself, without providing an emotional safety net back for you.
I don't understand how you can KNOW, and still not know ... in fact, I don't know how anybody does this.
Read what you just wrote for what it's actually saying without involving your feelings .. pretend like someone else said it, then I'd bet you you can see exactly what it's saying and will stop this confusion.
It all sounds shady really. He is with someone else so that is where he should stay. You are right, he doesn't think anything of your friendship to ask for some ass. Low standards he has for you. You know this so leave him alone or lower your standards.
Wow, you all are so mean. Have you ever had to deal with a scorpio? Not easy. Sounds like the possessive tendencies and the revenge are coming to surface here. When you have a history with a scorpio it doesn't go away easily, no matter how hard you try. And saying "no" is the biggest aphrodisiac to a scorpio. I don't have any suggestions or recommendations, just an opion based on my experiences. I hope the best for you Honey. Maybe if you vent to him and tell him your prespective he'll respect you a little more?
@AMW: No problem at all.. lol.. I knew you didn't read that, I was just kidding with you
Yup it's been dead meat for some time now..
Yup it's been dead meat for some time now..
"Wow, you all are so mean" Nothing I said was mean.
" Have you ever had to deal with a scorpio" My husband is a scorpio man.
" tell him your prespective ..." You're repeating me. This is what I said in my last post.
" Have you ever had to deal with a scorpio" My husband is a scorpio man.
" tell him your prespective ..." You're repeating me. This is what I said in my last post.
honeygirl, if I were in your shoes and someone I thought cared about me was deliberately mistreating me, I would let them know. If they change and apologize, then the acquaintance can continue. If they don't, then I would cut the cord. Just because someone was in your life for a period of time, doesn't mean they are to remain there permanently.
Just my two cents.
Just my two cents.
A nutjob scorpio won't take no for an answer..a reasonable one will understand and go away. In fact once a reasonable one has ended things, he won't come back at all!..
My first boyfriend was a scorpio..following our reunion after 10 years, he will occasionaly rear his stupid ass head every now and then despite me being verbually abusive to him and asking him to disappear he doesn't..he will for a bit but then sends a stupid message like "when are we going on holiday"..he's so vile..can't stand him..things really DO happen for a reason..and usually it's a good one..I am glad he's not in my life..don't have the time of day for people of that sort.
So this dude you are dealing with, sounds life one of them..STAY AWAY!
My first boyfriend was a scorpio..following our reunion after 10 years, he will occasionaly rear his stupid ass head every now and then despite me being verbually abusive to him and asking him to disappear he doesn't..he will for a bit but then sends a stupid message like "when are we going on holiday"..he's so vile..can't stand him..things really DO happen for a reason..and usually it's a good one..I am glad he's not in my life..don't have the time of day for people of that sort.
So this dude you are dealing with, sounds life one of them..STAY AWAY!
Verbually = verbally
Life = like
Dear oh dear..
Pathfinder, I can't remember what star sign you are?
Life = like
Dear oh dear..
Pathfinder, I can't remember what star sign you are?
Sorry not asking him to...TELLING him to..the moron just doesn't get it..I think he's several cells short of a half a brain.
LOL..Sounds like a great one for you!..
pathfinder: My apologies. I really liked what you had to say and I agree but my mind is spinning by all the bitterness on here and how people think you can just throw a problem out the window like a cigarette butt. Litterbugs, all of you! (except pathfinder and miss morals).
arian: True, but we are talking about astrology here.
arian: True, but we are talking about astrology here.
You can get rid of anyone if you want to. It takes two to stay involved.
Not bitterness just reality. We all know scorp men are stalkers and it is hard for them to let go. Even when they actually love you. However he can't stay involved with you when you aren't involved with him.
"What of a scorpio nature would bring him to do this"
he likes sex and he's attracted to you
"him holding on to the past"
Easier to cheat with someone you already know/have slept with. Then he doesn't have to lie/make excuses about his personal life cause you already know the deal
"Is he trying to compare the sex?"
No, he probably just likes sex with you and is bored/unfufilled in some way w/his current gf.
"Is he just maybe missing me"
He misses the sex for sure :p
he likes sex and he's attracted to you
"him holding on to the past"
Easier to cheat with someone you already know/have slept with. Then he doesn't have to lie/make excuses about his personal life cause you already know the deal
"Is he trying to compare the sex?"
No, he probably just likes sex with you and is bored/unfufilled in some way w/his current gf.
"Is he just maybe missing me"
He misses the sex for sure :p
even when they actually love you, they're stalkers? *gets down on knees to pray never to be loved by scorp*
Have you ever had to deal with a scorpio? Not easy
lol - you're right here... and she's a Cancer, she'll crab around her main point in a caring subtle manner, confusing the other person even more before hitting the point...
Have you ever had to deal with a scorpio? Not easy
lol - you're right here... and she's a Cancer, she'll crab around her main point in a caring subtle manner, confusing the other person even more before hitting the point...
*gets down on knees to pray never to be loved by scorp*
Oh, but it can all be worth it! LOL!!!
Oh, but it can all be worth it! LOL!!!
"No, he probably just likes sex with you and is bored/unfufilled in some way w/his current gf."
Yeah, you must do some type of special tongue trick or something, otherwise I think he'd probably get the message and leave you alone.
Yeah, you must do some type of special tongue trick or something, otherwise I think he'd probably get the message and leave you alone.
lol@ tongue trick
I really don't think its has anything to do with "sex" with HG. It seems to me, he's just not serious about either one of them -- HG or his new g/f. IMO, he's using both of these women because of how he perceives his situation (his perception).
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