Hello Everyone!
I have a question for the Scorpio ladies
Im trying to figure out this beautiful scorpio woman but shes hard to get a grasp of. so heres a little back story i was her brothers friend about ten or so years ago so we knew each other through her brothers and i friendship. but we never really talked because she was 3 or 4 years younger then i was. so anyway, fast forward ten years later(i havent seen or talked to her for 7 of those 10 years) i reached out to her on social media and we started talking. it went on for about two weeks, one or two messages, back and forth everyday. then she asked me for my phone number so we could set up a time to hang out at my house because we talked about getting up with each other a couple days later.
so we end up meeting up and hit it off pretty good. she had a lot to talk about and i had a lot of questions to ask, we had a lot of laughs, we had a very good time. We continued to communicate through text as the days went on. but heres the kicker, I would be the only one initiating the conversations, but nine times out of 10 she would immediately respond back to me. which i was thinking, its better than nothing.
so i invited her back over about a week later to come hang out with me and she did. then again, we had a really good connection. Even found out we have more in common With each other And also starting to understand our sense of humors better. (understanding each other's indirect jokes). again, we had, what i felt like was a good time together. But, there was really no touching, no hugging when she left, or any attempt to try to get closer. so, i backed off for a day and didnt say anything to her. the next day after, i asked her to go out to lunch with me in which she but couldn't do it the day that I asked and asked me if I could do it the next day. Which I didn't mind it off so we schedule it for the next day,
so, we had lunch, a lot of smiling at each other, a lot of laughing. another really good day. finding More things in common about each other. but still not alot if any physically touching.
so my question, does it seem like she likes me or putting me in the friend zone? should i hold back until she tries to talk/text me before I initiate another conversation?
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Sep 29, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 1419 · Topics: 92
You hurt her she will make you pay for it, do you realize what you are getting involved in? You might be better off walking away now while you still can, I bet she's gathering info on you to use against you if she needs too.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
Yes, astrological planet placements in your birth chart. Just out of interest really. Rising, moon, Venus, Mars, Merc. I was curious if you had any Scorp placements. I have a gem sun guy friend and we understand each other well. Absolutely nothing beyond friendship, it's just not like that. He has Scorp moon plus some Taurus placements. It calms down his gem sun. My mother is gem sun and Venus with sag moon and we don't get on. Well we do but she's just like an alien, we don't really connect as we are very different.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
I think your intentions seem quite honourable and perhaps you are over thinking this situation a bit. You've been out on four dates which is good and you've discovered you like her a bit more than a casual friend. I'd hold off on the 'being the one' bit though as that might just be a bit much right now but hey if you feel that then so be it.
What I would recommend for you to do first, if you haven't already, is to think about:
What you would like from her or with her? I assume you're looking for a relationship.
How you would like to go about that? I assume seeing more of each other so you can slowly get to know each other as friends and then progress onto an exclusive relationship without rushing into things such as sex and building on the four dates you already have.
I don't mean to answer the above for you but it would be helpful for you to be clear in your head about the above. My assumptions are also my recommendations.
I'd be yourself but be direct with her and open and honest and just state your case.
It will go one of two ways. Either she doesn't want the same thing as you and she just wants to be friends or she does like you enough to consider being with you. It's either a yes or a no. There's no much grey with a Scorp unless we are unsure. If she's unsure then ask what she's concerned about and you two can maybe address any worries.
For me, I prefer the direct approach. A Scorp likes a man with confidence and a pair of balls. There's no need to be aggressive or perfect etc. Just be you. Chances are she likes you. You wouldn't have had four dates unless she liked you so this is good.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
^^^ agree. Too much texting or conducting a getting to know you session or relationship via text is annoying. It seems to be the in thing these days. Plus the constant 'good morning' texts of the 'how are you?' texts when you only stopped contact two hours earlier. Nothing else happened in two hours... Chill!!!
ok cool ill fall back... But to be quite honest I'm kind of getting contradicting advice. Some say stay consistent, some say stay consistent.
a little confusing
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Jun 25, 2012Comments: 19 · Posts: 19733 · Topics: 48
Stop trying to push this forward. Continue to engage her, but pace yourself when you attempt to engage her. As others have said, physical contact (e.g dates) and actual phone calls is far better than texting. Multiple text are annoying and a horrible way to establish or build anything. This may be why she doesn't initiate. The last time I initiated a text was to tell someone I was running late. This is not because of a lack of interest.
She asked you for your number right? The interest is there, so you're fine. For now anyway.
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Sep 29, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 1419 · Topics: 92
A Scorpio will put a fence around you for sure she will get more and more possessive, you Gemini men think you are ladies men flirting with any woman you see you would be wise to give up that habit or you will pay for it.
Any of the Gemini guys I know are not strong men they may act like one but they really are not my father is one and I know a few others Gemini men don't accept blame they are always trying to pass the buck.
Good luck with you getting involved with a Scorpio lol no I don't hate them when you are a Cancer man it becomes and emotional relationship with Scorpios you can end up in some intense fights. Scorpios can't hide butter around a Cancer we see through it we are one of the most intuitive signs.
So just an update. In the past 5 days I've hung out with her for 3 days. Today we're going hiking. We still get along very good and still discovering commonalities. She says she wants to be more outgoing. Well I'm definitely the guy that can help her do that, being a Gemini. She never turns me down when I ask you to go places with me. I guess that's a good sign.
I'm very attracted to her but I haven't told her yet. I'm assuming she knows because I want to hang out all the time.
I have Pluto and 5 degrees Scorpio. Does that mean anything? If so will somebody tell me
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Jun 25, 2012Comments: 19 · Posts: 19733 · Topics: 48
Gem, do you know what her moon is?
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Lol.. so, I should just tell her, huh? It's hard for some reason. Any other girl I wouldn't care. I want her to say yes but I don't want her to say no. Just a simple case of being afraid of rejection.
I don't know what her moon is. I'll get it today
thanks for the advise! im going to tell her what my intentions are today and we'll see what happenes
Walk away before its too late. I mean that in the most genuine way as I possibly can! I'm a Scorpio woman and dated a gemini man for four years. It was hell. He cheated on me every other week and he started doing these things as soon as he knew I fell in love with him. It literally drove me crazy and I took it out on him without knowing it.. Scorpios and Geminis are known to me magnetic but it doesn't mean they're meant to be one always cares more then the other and theyres always a miscommunication about something. But to answer your question she just wants you to make the move, she's definitely interested. Geminis are sexy. Lol
Walk away before its too late. I mean that in the most genuine way as I possibly can! I'm a Scorpio woman and dated a gemini man for four years. It was hell. He cheated on me every other week and he started doing these things as soon as he knew I fell in love with him. It literally drove me crazy and I took it out on him without knowing it.. Scorpios and Geminis are known to me magnetic but it doesn't mean they're meant to be one always cares more then the other and theyres always a miscommunication about something. But to answer your question she just wants you to make the move, she's definitely interested. Geminis are sexy. Lol
I'm honestly scared for her... Don't get her to fall for you if you aren't going to be serious. Scorpios are very intense and passionate and they need emotion also, Geminis are known to run away from emotion. Just be careful and take things slow.
She's not interested. I tried. Maybe next time