I'm an Aries Man Dating A Scorpio Woman Who's Afraid Of Commitment, Advice?

This topic was created in the Aries and Scorpio Compatibility forum by NB408 on Thursday, June 28, 2018 and has 17 replies.
We've been dating for a few months now and we talked about where we are both at. She feels like she will lose her freedom if she gets into a relationship again. It's something she's willing to do when she knows who she gives it to will Steward it well. She basically wants me to make the first move in letting her in and making her comfortable giving herself into a relationship. I told her I don't understand why she feels like she loses her freedom by getting into a relationship because I don't see it that way. I don't know if this is common with Scorpios or due to her past relationships..

How should I move forward with this? If I completely let go I will fall in love with her. Then if she doesn't feel the same, it would hurt.. Should I be patient and wait for her to come to a decision? Is there anything I should do differently?
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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
If she feels she’ll lose her freedom with you, then she’s not sure about you.
I’ve learned this the hard way
If he/she isn’t sure—you can wait forever and they’ll never change their minds
Walk away, let her go
The moment she meets someone she’s sure about—she won’t think twice about jumping into a relationship with him

Thats my worst fear, and that's why I can't completely open up to her. I know Scorpios in general are very loyal and choose there partners wisely. Which usually takes time. I would hate to walk away feeling like I didn't give it everything I got because I think she's worth it. But I'm also terrified of getting hurt. Could it be a time thing? Everyone she's ever dated she's known for years before then and me she's only known for 3 months
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Are you the jealous type? Jealous isn’t possessive.

Possessive is you are mine and I am yours. Jealous is I don’t trust other men around you and you around other men.

Be honest with yourself.

If your truly not the jealous type then offer her that assurance.
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End of the day all that being in a relationship means is that you see a future with that person.

Loss of personal freedom doesn’t go hand in hand with a relationship title.

I feel her tho. I’ve dated guys who thought it was ‘so cool’ how dedicated to my career I am. Then they want me to give it up and play house instead. Like woah bro. Way to falsely advertise your intentions.
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Posted by NB408
We've been dating for a few months now and we talked about where we are both at. She feels like she will lose her freedom if she gets into a relationship again. It's something she's willing to do when she knows who she gives it to will Steward it well. She basically wants me to make the first move in letting her in and making her comfortable giving herself into a relationship. I told her I don't understand why she feels like she loses her freedom by getting into a relationship because I don't see it that way. I don't know if this is common with Scorpios or due to her past relationships..
How should I move forward with this? If I completely let go I will fall in love with her. Then if she doesn't feel the same, it would hurt.. Should I be patient and wait for her to come to a decision? Is there anything I should do differently?
sounds like a dominant Uranus Scorpio, or 11th house scorpio lol

giving up her freedom xd


well if she is not into u that much...she wont want to give up her freedom at all.
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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
Posted by NB408
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
If she feels she’ll lose her freedom with you, then she’s not sure about you.
I’ve learned this the hard way
If he/she isn’t sure—you can wait forever and they’ll never change their minds
Walk away, let her go
The moment she meets someone she’s sure about—she won’t think twice about jumping into a relationship with him

Thats my worst fear, and that's why I can't completely open up to her. I know Scorpios in general are very loyal and choose there partners wisely. Which usually takes time. I would hate to walk away feeling like I didn't give it everything I got because I think she's worth it. But I'm also terrified of getting hurt. Could it be a time thing? Everyone she's ever dated she's known for years before then and me she's only known for 3 months


Did she say she wants you to open up first or something?
Can you handle being friends with her first for awhile and then dating?
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We skipped the friends thing so we can't really go back. She's definitely the jealous type, I'm kind of jealous. But yea she told me she wants me to open up to create a safe place for her to open up
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Posted by NB408
We've been dating for a few months now and we talked about where we are both at. She feels like she will lose her freedom if she gets into a relationship again. It's something she's willing to do when she knows who she gives it to will Steward it well. She basically wants me to make the first move in letting her in and making her comfortable giving herself into a relationship. I told her I don't understand why she feels like she loses her freedom by getting into a relationship because I don't see it that way. I don't know if this is common with Scorpios or due to her past relationships..
How should I move forward with this? If I completely let go I will fall in love with her. Then if she doesn't feel the same, it would hurt.. Should I be patient and wait for her to come to a decision? Is there anything I should do differently?


sounds like a dominant Uranus Scorpio, or 11th house scorpio lol
giving up her freedom xd

well if she is not into u that much...she wont want to give up her freedom at all.
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She's the one who initiates texts with me and she tells me she misses me all the time. I'm pretty sure she's into me but in the back of my mind I'm wondering if she's playing me. Like I just make her feel good and that's it. We hold hands in public kiss in public, do everything a couple would do but I'm still unsure about it
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Posted by LadyNeptune
End of the day all that being in a relationship means is that you see a future with that person.
Loss of personal freedom doesn’t go hand in hand with a relationship title.
I feel her tho. I’ve dated guys who thought it was ‘so cool’ how dedicated to my career I am. Then they want me to give it up and play house instead. Like woah bro. Way to falsely advertise your intentions.
I like hvis. That a relationship means a future. Wonder what it is about some people then, where most people just don't see them as something in the future.
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Let that shit go. It really doesn’t matter the excuse but when someone is into you, you will know. When they give excuses they aren’t into you.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
End of the day all that being in a relationship means is that you see a future with that person.
Loss of personal freedom doesn’t go hand in hand with a relationship title.
I feel her tho. I’ve dated guys who thought it was ‘so cool’ how dedicated to my career I am. Then they want me to give it up and play house instead. Like woah bro. Way to falsely advertise your intentions.


I like hvis. That a relationship means a future. Wonder what it is about some people then, where most people just don't see them as something in the future.
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Ewww, yeah. People that use others/relationships as placeholders. Hard pass.

So many time wasters out there. Gotta wade through a sea of shit to find something worthwhile.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by starlord
Posted by LadyNeptune
End of the day all that being in a relationship means is that you see a future with that person.
Loss of personal freedom doesn’t go hand in hand with a relationship title.
I feel her tho. I’ve dated guys who thought it was ‘so cool’ how dedicated to my career I am. Then they want me to give it up and play house instead. Like woah bro. Way to falsely advertise your intentions.


I like hvis. That a relationship means a future. Wonder what it is about some people then, where most people just don't see them as something in the future.


Ewww, yeah. People that use others/relationships as placeholders. Hard pass.
So many time wasters out there. Gotta wade through a sea of butter to find something worthwhile.

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Does the fact that she's a Scorpio and was in a long term relationship before make a difference? I feel like she just needs to really get to know someone before letting them in. Although deep down I fear that you are correct. Her words say soo differently though
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Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by NB408
We've been dating for a few months now and we talked about where we are both at. She feels like she will lose her freedom if she gets into a relationship again. It's something she's willing to do when she knows who she gives it to will Steward it well. She basically wants me to make the first move in letting her in and making her comfortable giving herself into a relationship. I told her I don't understand why she feels like she loses her freedom by getting into a relationship because I don't see it that way. I don't know if this is common with Scorpios or due to her past relationships..
How should I move forward with this? If I completely let go I will fall in love with her. Then if she doesn't feel the same, it would hurt.. Should I be patient and wait for her to come to a decision? Is there anything I should do differently?


sounds like a dominant Uranus Scorpio, or 11th house scorpio lol
giving up her freedom xd

well if she is not into u that much...she wont want to give up her freedom at all.


Lol.
Nope she won't.
She might even cheat.
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lol if she's forced into things she dont want she might take some kind of revenge ;p

so its best to make OP's lady happy xd
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by starlord
Posted by LadyNeptune
End of the day all that being in a relationship means is that you see a future with that person.
Loss of personal freedom doesn’t go hand in hand with a relationship title.
I feel her tho. I’ve dated guys who thought it was ‘so cool’ how dedicated to my career I am. Then they want me to give it up and play house instead. Like woah bro. Way to falsely advertise your intentions.


I like hvis. That a relationship means a future. Wonder what it is about some people then, where most people just don't see them as something in the future.


Ewww, yeah. People that use others/relationships as placeholders. Hard pass.
So many time wasters out there. Gotta wade through a sea of butter to find something worthwhile.


Does the fact that she's a Scorpio and was in a long term relationship before make a difference? I feel like she just needs to really get to know someone before letting them in. Although deep down I fear that you are correct. Her words say soo differently though
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The month she was born in says very little about who she is as a person and her motivation. You’ll have more luck understanding her if you talk straight to her. Instead of a bunch of random strangers giving their warped and biased perspective about scorp women... Js.
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Posted by LaMadrina
You don't see it that way so she shouldn't either? Nope. Doomed. Already without trying, you display controlling behavior. Aries and Scorpio are only good as friends. You truly will try to hone in on her freedom, because you are already set in your thinking. Unless you can back down and see things her way sometimes, nope. Aries want to rule, even if they don't know it. Scorpio holds firm the belief better to reign in hell than serve in heaven. We have our own feelings and minds. The fact that you argue against her feelings because you don't see it that way is a red flag. We have rights to not be tied down when we don't want to be, no matter what the next person thinks.

I didn't argue with her I just simply said I don't understand. It's simply not the way I think. So I just communicated to her how I felt about it and tried to understand her with no judgment. I also give her much space and I basically told her I'm ready whenever she's ready. I know it takes a lot of time for Scorpios to let people in so I'm giving her that space. We both agree that we're dating but I'm not going to rush things if she's not ready
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Posted by NB408
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by starlord
Posted by LadyNeptune
End of the day all that being in a relationship means is that you see a future with that person.
Loss of personal freedom doesn’t go hand in hand with a relationship title.
I feel her tho. I’ve dated guys who thought it was ‘so cool’ how dedicated to my career I am. Then they want me to give it up and play house instead. Like woah bro. Way to falsely advertise your intentions.


I like hvis. That a relationship means a future. Wonder what it is about some people then, where most people just don't see them as something in the future.


Ewww, yeah. People that use others/relationships as placeholders. Hard pass.
So many time wasters out there. Gotta wade through a sea of butter to find something worthwhile.


Does the fact that she's a Scorpio and was in a long term relationship before make a difference? I feel like she just needs to really get to know someone before letting them in. Although deep down I fear that you are correct. Her words say soo differently though


The month she was born in says very little about who she is as a person and her motivation. You’ll have more luck understanding her if you talk straight to her. Instead of a bunch of random strangers giving their warped and biased perspective about scorp women... Js.
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The thing about her having known her other boyfriends than you says a lot, this is a new different situation, so she probably feels uncertain about it.

Ask what she sees freedom as. Can be a billion different things.
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Posted by LaMadrina
You don't see it that way so she shouldn't either? Nope. Doomed. Already without trying, you display controlling behavior. Aries and Scorpio are only good as friends. You truly will try to hone in on her freedom, because you are already set in your thinking. Unless you can back down and see things her way sometimes, nope. Aries want to rule, even if they don't know it. Scorpio holds firm the belief better to reign in hell than serve in heaven. We have our own feelings and minds. The fact that you argue against her feelings because you don't see it that way is a red flag. We have rights to not be tied down when we don't want to be, no matter what the next person thinks.

I didn't argue with her I just simply said I don't understand. It's simply not the way I think. So I just communicated to her how I felt about it and tried to understand her with no judgment. I also give her much space and I basically told her I'm ready whenever she's ready. I know it takes a lot of time for Scorpios to let people in so I'm giving her that space. We both agree that we're dating but I'm not going to rush things if she's not ready
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you've done all you can do but she isn't sure yet so either you give it time and take the risk or walk away - it's really that simple - personally I think they take longer than Taurus to make up their minds because it was exasperating for me with the Scorpio dude I dated a few years ago. In the end I was glad though because he turned out to definitely not be the one - and you may find that as well. It takes TIME to really get to know someone
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It’s you, Dude. You are trying to lock someone in who is already loyal to you. Chill out. Seriously. This is why Aries and Scorpio have such a bumpy road. You can’t make us act the way you like. It’s not just your relationship and your life. It’s hers too. Respect that. If you like her? Don’t force stuff. Because that is EXACTLY what she is talking about when she says she is worried about losing her freedom. She doesn’t want everything your way. She isn’t you and she isn’t an extension of you. Beware of trying to force her into that situation. Learn some care and compromise with this woman or risk her total resentment.
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