im confused

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by sarahscorpiolovaaa on Tuesday, September 23, 2014 and has 8 replies.
so im dating this scorpio (im also a scorpio) for a few months now and its long distance, 1.45 min away from each other so we usually see each other every weekend or so. its usually good when were with each other but sometimes he acts distant with me. and when were apart hes definatly distant. like since we go a week in between seeing each other you would think thats enough space that he needs but he never tells me he misses me or says anything affectionate like he used to. despite all this i am so crazy about him, we get along wonderfully. at the very begining of our relationship he took everything wayy too fast and it freaked me out. asked me out way too soon then took it back and confessed his affection for me alll the time and made me not like him that much lol. but after time he definatly grew on me and as soon as i wanted to hear all that stuff again it stopped. he used to slip out "i love you" totally on accident when i was just being my goofy self and freak out and say well you know what i mean! i thought that was adorable. now, im dying to tell him i love him, but my communication skills are at a 0 and im terrifyed at how he will react. i know he cares about me, but i just have this feeling he wont say it back.
Posted by tiziani
Maybe try and get to that space where you feel you need to say things for the sake of your own personal freedom rather than focusing on the reply.


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That's good stuff, tiz. smile
I use to tell my ex friend that all the time and never pressured him to say it back nor did I care if he did or didn't . I said it because it's what I felt at the time. He would say it back sometimes(very rarely ) then he would make sure I knew "but not like that" I knew he only was convincing himself .

My point is if that's how you feel say it .. f what he says back he probably needs the damn love anyway. Just make sure to save some love for you.
i dont wanna scare him off tho if i say it. i know he kinda said it at the begining of the relationship but then it stopped. i feel like he stopped feeling that way or maybe came to the conclusion that was he was feeling wasnt entirely real. so if i say it now i dont wanna mess things up even more.
a while ago he also said he didnt see our relationship really going anywhere because of the distance, even tho in the begining he said he wanted to make it work. so naturally i freaked out saying if u dont see it going anywhere why would we continue to see eachother? he then replyed well i want to still see you and hang out with you i just dont see how our relationship can grow when we see eachother only on the weekends. i cryed and thought we were breaking up and blah blah blah then he said maybe once i can start driving again he would see the situation in a different light. (i couldnt drive for 3 months from a ddub so it was him always driving to me)
well i drive to his house after work like every fri or sat at 330 in the morning almost 2 hours for his ass all to basically get a cold shoulder alot of the times. yet when were alone in his room away from his roommates hes all cute and cuddley. this man is confusing i tell you.
is this normal scorpio male behavior?
If saying I love you scares him off then you have so way bigger issues that need to be discussed.
I don't go with the stupid rules . So my advice probably would ruin any and all "normal relationships"
If I like/love someone I say it when I feel it..If they get scared then they are probably are Immature . Especially if I'm not expecting them to say it back.

Maybe you should re evaluate you're real intentions.
I made a thread as a result of this thread and so many others just like this one. Maybe it will help you.
Scorps Who Are Not Capable of Being Vulnerable
I think that the Scorp Womenz here this am are being very kind. To me, this is a typical AC story.
My apologies, I didn't mean to leave you out Tiz. Big Grin and you make a great point. It is so important to be genuinely ourselves for our own benefit and not for the sake of others.