I'm pissed!! So.. guys, I need your input here!

I will copy-paste an older message, cause I'm tired and lazy at the moment; as a true Geminian, I'm an insomniac.

So..
I met a guy online on a dating site, and though we were having interesting and funny discussions at the beginning, once the 'relationship' become deeper, he started detaching, playing hide and seek or dissapearing for weeks. Between these long periods of pause, we have again nice, sometimes erotic conversations and witty debates. The guy is smart and has an incredible sense of humor; he is really charming when he wants to. But damn those periods when is says nothing, missing or staying like the crocodile waiting and observing. Anyway, is very difficult to me to imagine what the hell he's doing during these times. I know he is deeply unsatisfied by his job, personal life and just life in general, has long periods of depressions and discouragement but I can't help not torturing myself thinking and trying to understand the situation, due to my analitical and curious nature.

For instance, when I push it a little more into initiating a conversation with him, either he gets laconic or he's exuberant, like eager to talk and pour his grievences out; but sometimes when I refuse to even aknowledge his presence (I'm a very proud person, BTW and I get tired of taking so much bullbutter), he starts sending various signals, like visiting my profile, setting new, too intimate, weird pictures at his profile or like last time, posting a weird, very depressing little videos that include details and aspects that are definitely linked to our discussions. Sooo.. WTF does he wants, cause though I like him a lot, I got sick of this game and I'm definitely not the person to insist when it comes about a man. My pride won't allow it.
Another new feature of this all business is that after stopping paying attention to him, he is online continuously. And I have the feeling that he is not in permanent contact and talking with other women. Anyway, I think is hard for everyone to put up with his temperament and moods, not just for me.

We all know that they are secretive, misterious and hold back a lot, but he didn't have any problem in telling and confessing me a lot of very personal facts: his previous non-successful relationships, his fucked-up life, his deepest fantasies and all that; without me pressing for these kind of details. It is not my style to intrude, though I'm a very curious person, of course.

So, is this 'affair' just in my head? there

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So, is this 'affair' just in my head? there are already 4 months of this game and though he invited himself at the beginning at my place (I refused, of course, because I usually take things slowly), and usually this is a booty call, since the things got hotter and more intimate, he doesn't even mention going out together. But each time we have a long, intimate conversation, he disappears for at least a week. Once he erased his account but he came back after a month.
I'm more and more inclined that I'm a mockery stock for him. But then, why would he do that? Not that I know when I say the good thing or the putting-off one. With these guys you never know. But I refuse to take any bite anymore.

Thank you in advance for any hint you give. 🙂

If it wasn't about the Scorpio stuff, I wouldn't of being waiting and asking and wondering. I usually give the men the high way pretty fast. I take no bullshit.

BTW, I wasn't much into showing that I really like him. though he know I enjoy out discussions and Scorpios know, guess and smell all, isn't it? I'm not like cancer or pisces women to get clingy, intrusive or emotional. Or maybe a sensitive woman is what he's looking? God knows!


Yeah, i guess I will give up on him. too bad, any way.

Posted by Neurotoxin
Scorpio or not, if its not making you happy, then there's no use in keeping it up.

I know, but what I had in mind were all the disappearing episodes and the testing acts.

But we don't know each other that well, and I said little about me, while he divulged a lot and Scorpios rarely go into very personal stuff with strangers. 🙂

I'm not playing the advocate of my favorite cause, here, just that I think I see and take things a bit more rational. I don't like men that show either their carnal passion or that fall in love easily and I remember I told that to him, once.
Anyway, thanks a lot. 🙂

Maybe we think too much, sometimes. Personal I have huge problems with going with the wave and loosing the mental and the overall control. Maybe is due to my Scorpio Mars. At least in the personal/relationship department I have very few Geminian traits. 😛

We tend to think a lot, both sides of an argument and honestly sometimes we doubt our original thought because we come up with a second or third, tenth, billionth, idea and we change our minds. I don't know how many times I do that. It's honestly tiring even for me.

But to GemStel I had this same issue with a Scorpio I was dating he would vanish then reappear however he was pretty strong with how he felt. This guy just doesn't seem too interested.

Neurotoxin - What does your chart look like?

Butthole? LOL!!!

My ex is:

Scorp Sun
Cap Moon
Aries Ascendent
Scorp Mercury
Scorp Venus

He totally had the silent, staring, super intense thing going on. But the Cap moon made him a butthole :\

Posted by GeminiStellium
to be continue..

So, is this 'affair' just in my head? there are already 4 months of this game and though he invited himself at the beginning at my place (I refused, of course, because I usually take things slowly), and usually this is a booty call, since the things got hotter and more intimate, he doesn't even mention going out together. But each time we have a long, intimate conversation, he disappears for at least a week. Once he erased his account but he came back after a month.
I'm more and more inclined that I'm a mockery stock for him. But then, why would he do that? Not that I know when I say the good thing or the putting-off one. With these guys you never know. But I refuse to take any bite anymore.

Thank you in advance for any hint you give. 🙂

Another computer relationship lol...my advice to you is to first make sure that in fact he IS a HE and I dunno, go meet him in person? Then I'll take your questions seriously.

Oh wait they have never met?

Posted by Neurotoxin

Posted by Xin
Butthole? LOL!!!

My ex is:

Scorp Sun
Cap Moon
Aries Ascendent
Scorp Mercury
Scorp Venus

He totally had the silent, staring, super intense thing going on. But the Cap moon made him a butthole :\

My colorscope thingy is a thin brown ring with an entirely black center...hence the gaping butthole.

I guarantee if you knew me in person, "butthole" would be the last thing you'd describe me as.

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Oh that sure of yourself? HUMMMM?!

Posted by GeminiStellium
I will copy-paste an older message, cause I'm tired and lazy at the moment; as a true Geminian, I'm an insomniac.
Sooo.. WTF does he wants,

Do you know with clarity what is it that you want from him/with him?

Posted by Xin
Oh wait they have never met?

Nope. 😛

But I was in another computer-relationship for more one year and a half before it became 'real', though, everything was strong all that time. But was the huge distance keeping us apart.
But in my case, there are just 200 km to speak of.

I already got rid of all the rosy clouds. The thing is that although I'm very rational and correct in my intuitions and analyzing other people's business and I'm able to give good advices, when it comes about me, overthinking is merely confusing me. Maybe it has to do with Neptune in my 7th house. I get all romantic and soapy. 😛

Thanks again, guys. you honestly helped me out. 🙂

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Posted by GeminiStellium
I will copy-paste an older message, cause I'm tired and lazy at the moment; as a true Geminian, I'm an insomniac.
Sooo.. WTF does he wants,

Do you know with clarity what is it that you want from him/with him?

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Yes, I know (though I'm not sure that he would be the right person), but is too complicated to explain.

Posted by GeminiStellium

Posted by Xin
Oh wait they have never met?

Nope. 😛

But I was in another computer-relationship for more one year and a half before it became 'real', though, everything was strong all that time. But was the huge distance keeping us apart.
But in my case, there are just 200 km to speak of.

I already got rid of all the rosy clouds. The thing is that although I'm very rational and correct in my intuitions and analyzing other people's business and I'm able to give good advices, when it comes about me, overthinking is merely confusing me. Maybe it has to do with Neptune in my 7th house. I get all romantic and soapy. 😛

Thanks again, guys. you honestly helped me out. 🙂

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Helped you out with what? Sitting on your ass and caressing your computer? Get a romance novel and read it in the park, or on a treadmill at the gym, at least you'll have the real world instead of the world you are deluding yourself in. The romance novel will help with the withdrawals..😢
What's scarier is people are giving advice on this! Screwed up shit right there.