I'm sick of being so sensitive!

Is anyone else overly sensitive or is it just me?

I seem to want to help anyone who needs it...even if it's something small and insignificant. If someone around me is having a bad day I HAVE to find a way to make them feel better and happier even though how they feel is out of my control or else I will feel like it's my fault their day was bad.

When I'm angry or feel wronged all I can do is cry even though I would prefer to go off and be mad or give someone a piece of my mind. And because I'm crying I get even more angry...which expresses itself as more crying. Only occasionally will I not cry. When that happens I EXPLODE!

If someone doesn't like something I've done, or taken offence to it when I didn't mean for them to, I take it all on and feel really guilty.

I also have heaps of trouble being social. I don't like going anywhere where I might have to meet someone I don't already know. For instance I have my first uni graduation to go to on the 30th (it's actually my first ever graduation because I didn't finish high school); I don't want to go because I took the second semester off and so now I don't know anyone there and I feel too nervous to get my certificate in front of everyone.

I have an unbelievably hard time speaking to people unless I know them really well. I don't do small talk very well...yet if someone wants to talk about their whole life story I suddenly open up!

Is this because of my birth chart or am I just weird?

Sun: Scorpio - 23 degrees
Moon: Cancer - 00 degrees
Rising: Capricorn - 28 degrees
Mercury: Scorpio - 26 degrees
Venus: Capricorn - 10 Degrees
Mars: Scorpio - 7 degrees
Jupiter: Cancer - 10 degrees
Saturn: Capricorn - 10 degrees
Uranus: Capricon - 3 degrees
Neptune: Capricorn - 10 degrees
Pluto: Scorpio - 15 degrees
Midheaven: Libra - 14 degrees
North node: Aquarius - 20 degrees
Chiron: Cancer - 16 degrees

Ooh. I knew the nurturing side of cancer would be coming out in my moon but I didn't realise about the emotional instability. Where do I go to get an astrological refund? 😛 I wonder how all that capricorn in my chart affects me and the way I react to things.

I really do like helping people and caring and all of that..I just don't like how demanding the NEED to do those things are and how horrible it feels if I fail to do them. I'm even studying to be a psychologist! I think that will be easier though because I won't have emotional ties to people I work with in the way I do with friends and family.

It would be nice to have one day a week where I could turn off my emotions and just be numb all by myself. Is there anything you do to kind of 'ground' yourself?

It's good to know it's not just that I'm weird though!

TypicalScorp - Do you come from a divorced family? Or perhaps did you feel the need as a child to have to take care of a parent or siblings? That could also be why you are quick to help someone but also feel guilty if you can't.

Posted by candyapples88
TypicalScorp - Do you come from a divorced family? Or perhaps did you feel the need as a child to have to take care of a parent or siblings? That could also be why you are quick to help someone but also feel guilty if you can't.

Wow, I do come from a divorced family! And I've had to take care of my mother a lot in the past. I'm also the oldest so naturally I've felt the need to take care of my younger siblings. I never ever took those things into consideration; the thought just never crossed my mind. Or maybe that's where those Cappy signs come in and I've just THOUGHT I've needed to do those things... Probably a bit of everything.

That's given me a lot to think about! Thank you for asking that 😄

Posted by Samiamascorpio
I suppose my Leo is a good outlet for my emotions, he is the only one I allow to see me emotionally distraught and he is always understanding and accepting of me.

Yeah, it's always good when you have that someone who you can comfortable having around when things aren't going well. Especially when they're understanding and accepting!!

I asked if you were from a divorced family because children fall into the trap of being 'parentified' as a result of the divorce. Being parentified just means that you start to take on responsibilities of a parent...feeling the need to step up and take care of things that normal children shouldn't have to worry about. As you grow older, these traits seep into relationships you form as an adult. It results in codependent relationships and the person feeling overwhelmed by having to constantly care for other people. This can lead to resentment and a lot of internalizing of ones own needs because you put others before yourself.......which, if you can see the pattern, is something you were basically "taught" to do. This ultimately forms the foundation of how you view or think your relationships should be with others.

I am like you too. Am very quiet and will never budge, and will only talk and budge when I see someone in need, need to be protected and care. Most of the time, I feel like I'm taking care of everyone and wants to care for everyone. I have Moon in Cancer so that's probably it. I have Sun in Gemini.

Posted by bluemoon2
Your rising sign is at the same exact degree of the same sign as mine. You're also very young and as you get older, you'll deal with your sensitivity in different ways. Your sensitive nature is beautiful though and finding outlets to express it will be good. Since Cap is your rising sign, this will put Cap in your 12th house. The 12th house is the house of escapism. I work out at the gym ... sometimes excessively... as my escape. Focus in on an escape from the realities that would ever make you sick of being you.

You are unable to control other people's reactions or responses to what you say. I am an Aries sun with Cap rising... you think it makes it good to not offend others? No way. So stop being hard on yourself (Cap rising) and be good to yourself. Fuck those people ... they are stupid. LOL!

If you have trouble being social.. look to your 11th house. Your 11th house is your social groups house. Sagittarius is most likely there.. and a piece of Scorpio.

Hmm cap seems to only be in my 1st house. Instead of sag being in my 11th it is in my 12th and scorpio is in my 11th. But I think I will have to look more into the meanings of house placements as well. It might give me a better understanding of myself.

I guess I do have outlets but they seem to be in my imagination... For instance getting lost in music especially thrash metal. Bands like Metallica seem to be able to let their pent up emotions out and I've found listening to it helps... and progressive rock is good for taking me completely out of my reality (my imagination is very vivid and almost constantly there). But sometimes I wonder if those may somehow be destructive ways of getting away. Also reading when it's not about real life is good. These things are also anti-social, though, which adds to me wondering if they're not the best things to be using.

Thank you heaps for your positive words and advice!

Is my rising sign something I should be paying a lot of attention to? It seems to me that sun, moon and rising must be very important..instead of just the sun.

Posted by soulfulgem
I am like you too. Am very quiet and will never budge, and will only talk and budge when I see someone in need, need to be protected and care. Most of the time, I feel like I'm taking care of everyone and wants to care for everyone. I have Moon in Cancer so that's probably it. I have Sun in Gemini.

Oh yeah when I see those things my quiet/shyness disappears! I think what bluemoon2 said, about being sensitive is beautiful, is true though and very encouraging. It's just difficult when you've spent all of your energy on other people and it really is time to need a break...and yet it's still impossible not to help people...even just for a short while! 😛

If I already know the person well then I am the opposite of quiet. I almost become extroverted...but not quite! However there are times where I just don't feel like talking no matter how well I know or don't know someone. I love my thinking space!

I also feel (but I could be wrong) that when people see others like us and know we will help whenever they need it...that they will keep coming back for help. I'm not really complaining about that but sometimes it becomes a bit much and I don't know how I could possibly turn them away. I guess it would be a lot easier if they were able to return the amount of nurturing we give. It's funny but I never REALLY expect anyone to give back what I've done for them. I just do it; subconciously knowing they will be gone when they're feeling better.

Do you see this happening to yourself as well?

I find it rather interesting that the moon sign can affect people in such similar ways reguardless of sun sign. I would have thought the sun sign would dull/intensify the moon according to which element it was. And from bluemoon2's post it looks like the rising sign affects people rather similarly reguardless of sun sign, and all the other things, as well.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Youre only 20, youre a scorpio, you have a cancer moon and your chart is full with cancer/capricorn.

All of those ingredients belong in the dish: "I take myself too seriosuly"

That would be a great affirmation to tell myself in the mornings! 😛 Might make it a bit easier to just go with the flow with what ever the world throws at me that day.

I would have never admitted that I 'take myself too seriously' but saying it in the way you did really doesn't give me much room for avoiding! haha 😄

You seem like a typical Scorpio to me.
Nothing strange about you in my books.

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When I feel wronged or angry, I either bottle it up, do my best to swallow it and move on, or I explode.

When my feelings are hurt, I try my best to talk myself out of letting it take over my entire being, but it almost never works, and I'll either walk around pissed off for several days, or put on something that moves me (music or a movie) and cry until I can't see straight. If I do the thing where I'm, trying to be reasonable, I'll usually end up dwelling on whatever hurt me for longer than if I just cry my face off, but if I let myself really, really get sad and have a good tear-fest, I'm basically 100% back to good the next morning.

As a kid, I was painfully shy. I was the child you'd see hiding behind their mother's skirt. And as a teenager, there were times when I'd be so fearful, or anxious, or shy with other people I didn't know that I'd break out into a panicked sweat if anyone spoke to me - not just a glisten either - a full on, dripping, red-faced sweat. As you can imagine, the embarrassment in that made the situation even worse, but I was lucky that it didn't happen very often. There were a couple times when I was feeling so shy and anxious that tears started to well up in my eyes at the start of a simple conversation. Further testament to my craziness is that I actually dropped out of several college courses because I had to find a lab partner, and I was so phobic that I preferred taking the F's to having to ask someone. I'm STILL really shy and quiet with new people, and I'm horrible at making small talk one-on-one (except with men, with whom I feel much more at ease than with women), but I find it easy to jump into a conversation with a group of people, provided I feel like I have something to add.

Now that I'm older, I'm less shy. I speak up when I need to, regardless of how many eyes and ears I know are on me, and I do it without any hesitation. If I need to find a partner for something, I'll do it. If someone makes polite conversation with me, I'll bite...but I still don't really enjoy it, and I'm still not generally the one to initiate it. Once you get me going though, I'm possibly too chatty and I'm a very open book. My emotions stay private, but anything and everything a person could ever want to know about me, I'll offer up easily.

There were certain personality traits that I was born with - some good, and some terrible. As time goes on, I find myself always working to preserve the good qualities, while trying to learn how to deal with the bad ones in ways that make me a better, more agreeable, more RATIONAL person (that's a big one...). Aging seems to look good on Scorps, and I imagine that the older you become, the more stable you'll begin to feel.

I think this is the reason why
many Scorpios become "uncaring narcissists".

I strive for that every day.

Posted by scorpiopics
I think this is the reason why
many Scorpios become "uncaring narcissists".

I strive for that every day.

That's what you aspire to?! I'd much rather be on the other side of the coin, since I think that's one of the most unflattering traits (of the many) that we have. It's my tendency to be that way in certain situations, not something I had to strive for, and I have to remind myself to consider other people and their feelings, and stop thinking about everything only as it relates to myself. It's not that I don't care about other people, it's just that somehow my mind always seems to forget that other people don't always think or feel the same way I do, and I have to try really hard to stop and put myself in others' shoes. If I was even colder than what comes naturally to me during those times, I'd probably have to live in exile in a cave alone somewhere because nobody would put up with me.

Posted by spaggiescorp

Posted by scorpiopics
I think this is the reason why
many Scorpios become "uncaring narcissists".

I strive for that every day.

That's what you aspire to?! I'd much rather be on the other side of the coin, since I think that's one of the most unflattering traits (of the many) that we have. It's my tendency to be that way in certain situations, not something I had to strive for, and I have to remind myself to consider other people and their feelings, and stop thinking about everything only as it relates to myself. It's not that I don't care about other people, it's just that somehow my mind always seems to forget that other people don't always think or feel the same way I do, and I have to try really hard to stop and put myself in others' shoes. If I was even colder than what comes naturally to me during those times, I'd probably have to live in exile in a cave alone somewhere because nobody would put up with me.

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But what I am saying is
I am naturally just the opposite.

I need to WORK to become a narcissist.
( It's coming easier with practice though! )

I am far more peaceful on the inside
now that I have walled-off heart and soul.

"Ignorance ( of others' feelings ) is BLISS"

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Posted by spaggiescorp

Posted by scorpiopics
I think this is the reason why
many Scorpios become "uncaring narcissists".

I strive for that every day.

That's what you aspire to?! I'd much rather be on the other side of the coin, since I think that's one of the most unflattering traits (of the many) that we have. It's my tendency to be that way in certain situations, not something I had to strive for, and I have to remind myself to consider other people and their feelings, and stop thinking about everything only as it relates to myself. It's not that I don't care about other people, it's just that somehow my mind always seems to forget that other people don't always think or feel the same way I do, and I have to try really hard to stop and put myself in others' shoes. If I was even colder than what comes naturally to me during those times, I'd probably have to live in exile in a cave alone somewhere because nobody would put up with me.

But what I am saying is
I am naturally just the opposite.

I need to WORK to become a narcissist.
( It's coming easier with practice though! )

I am far more peaceful on the inside
now that I have walled-off heart and soul.

"Ignorance ( of others' feelings ) is BLISS"

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I know what you're saying. I was just saying that being a cold-hearted narcissist isn't all it's cracked up to be. Ignorance of other people's feelings isn't always so much bliss as it is being an oblivious, self-absorbed asshole. At least, that's how it's been in my case. I'm tired of being a self-absorbed asshole. I want to caarrreee. I'm trying really hard to care. Lol.

Spaggiescorp - thank you so much for sharing that!! You have no idea how much I can relate to all of the things you've said. It feels so good just being able to read that I'm not the only way that feels like this or has gone through things like this. It's also a good feeling to see that there is still hope left that some of these feelings may die down...even if it's just a little.

ScorpioDreamer - I like how you said sometimes it sucks being a scorpio. I was actually going to start a post about how hard it is to be like us but I thought I better check to make sure I wasn't on my own in having these problems haha 😛

Scorpiopics and ellessque - An uncaring narcissist does sound really good about now! I do see what spaggiescorp is saying about it not being as good as we may think it would be though. I guess if we could keep our ability to 'see' others feelings yet not be so affected by them then that would be great.

Being able to say something like "I see you're feeling like crap right now, and that sucks, but so am I so I'm going to look after myself first today." from time to time would be such a major relief! Mind you now I feel guilty for even having written that down haha. But I think you guys get what I'm saying.

Its all the opposition in your chart cancer is the natural ruler of the moon and is a good place for the moon. Capricorn is the opposite of the moon that's why u feel guilty. When u are nurturing some one its opposite of what Capricorn wants to do. You have to balance all the opposite in your chart.

I am a very emotional person as well. Pisces sun, Scorpio moon and Cancer rising. I think that may just speak for itself...lol. I will tell you that even though it can be hard and I would love to make everyone's boo boo's better that I would rather be emotional and caring than unemotional and hard-hearted.
If we didn't have us emotional people in the world I believe our world would be in trouble! People need people to care!
It is not an easy thing to deal with but I agree with the others that have said that you learn to deal with it better with time and that you can even become a little better at managing it and not letting it manage you!
Good luck with it!
🙂