Is it true?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by krysrenee7 on Monday, November 8, 2010 and has 9 replies.
I've heard that Scorpios are relationship type of creatures. Sure, they're always down for a few quick flings or maybe even just friendship BUT I've heard that Scorpios actually prefer commitment more than anything else but that the problem is just in them finding someone worthy of that. Is this true?
To re-word my question: Are Scorpios automatically seeing how you'd fit into their "relationship meter" when they 1st start dating you OR are they like some other signs who are only concerned with friendship and/or casual affairs 1st?
The Scorps I know (especially men) tend to always be in relationships. The 1s I know are rarely ever single. That doesn't mean that the relationships they're in/partners they're with are actually worth a shxt BUT I do notice that they're always taken.
I know there's always going to be the slxt or commitment phobe in every sign but hopefully you guys know what I mean. Generally speaking, are the NORMAL Scorps afraid of commitment/typical commitment phobes?
Yes I would say scorps love to be in relationships, but speaking personally...it takes a whole lot to get me into one. But once committed, I'm in it for the long haul. I'm beyond loyal and would move mountains for the one I love. However, getting me to this point is the problem. When you say..."finding someone worthy"...that definitely nails it on the head. It's not that I think that I'm better than anyone...by no means do I think that. But I know how much work relationships take, and the person just needs to be worth everything I might go thru. If we like you, we'll observe you and pick out things that might be a problem...or things we like about you. There's definitely a pros and cons list going on in our heads. So yes...if we like you, we'll think long term for sure.
I agree with everything candyapples88 has said! For me, though, I fall 'in like' very easily so it doesn't sound like I take as long to get to that point....I also have a hard time figuring out if they truly are as worthy as I first thought because I end up letting emotions get in the way too soon.
In my opinion a relationship is just not worth it if you can't see it going anywhere in the future. It's a waste of time being with someone just for the heck of it. This includes flings and all that other stuff.
It HAS to be committed and if for some reason that can't happen I will settle for friends. A couple of my best friends are people I couldn't have a relationship with but wanted them to stick around anyways. smile
Posted by Samiamascorpio
Yes it is very true most Scorpios want a deep committed relationship. Probably because we are all or nothing people (I am at least), either love you tremendously or not at all.



I have heard this too. Scorps are either all IN or completely out. There is NO grey area; everything is black & white. Either they die-hard love you OR they despise you. Either they're 100% for you OR completely against you.
I just wanted to make sure that the typical Scorp isn't more focused on loving the concept of love vs. moreso the actual person. And I say that b/c as I've said, the Scorps I know tend to always be in relationships. If they experience a break up with someone, yes a part of them will always keep a few scars/wounds BUT they def. don't hesistate to move on & find someone else. To some, them being this way can be seem as them being desperate for love for all the wrong reasons, while to others them being this way is a good thing b/c it shows that they recognize how important love/relationships are.
I'm an Aqua & contrary to popular belief, I'm always down for relationships just like Scorps are. The problem is in actually FINDING someone we feel is worthy enough. We BOTH hate settling & we both fear letting our emotions get in the way & blinding us. It's like, we can find someone that we REALLY really like, BUT we'll eventually pause & take an extra look just to make sure that we get to see the whole picture of that person just to be sure that we're not being impulsive or making a decision out of desperation.
Both Aquas & Scorps have a tremendous craving for companionship; it's just finding that person AND actually trusting ourselves that we're right in the fact that they are right, is the hard part. Both signs can "like" someone all day, BUT the only way to be SURE that the admiration is genuiene is to take a step back & make sure that we're not just imagining things or giving that person more credit than they deserve all just b/c we want love. I think THIS is where Scorps & Aquas can sometimes clash. They BOTH have an intense need to protect their heart/emotions at all time. The feelings/emotions are def. THERE, BUT getting to the point of TRUSTING ourselves with our OWN emotional decisions about another person is the hard part
funny, elle...
I did the same a few years back. Never had one-night stands in my life before but went for the hell of it. Mainly they turned out to be Sagittarius, but once I had a CAP man. They all came back ... one SAGi still in picture and on my facebook... even after 3 years, but I'm not into this kind of relationship anymore.
I wish I would though, as it would make matters so much easier to have a really hot guy giving you loving and nothing more once in a while hah! Big Grin
can't convince myself yet to it...
My Scorp told me a few days ago that he knows fairly quick whether or not someone is worthy of him. He claims that he just "knows," & left it at that. He appears to trust his own instincts & his own gut intuition even if he's made a pre-mature decision before really really getting to know someone.
He's a psychology major so maybe that's also where his keen eye to observe alot comes from. Crazy thing is, Aquas are the same way. We'll observe so much so that the other person won't even realize that we are observing/testing them. And once the results come back (in our minds), we trust those results 100% . Even if someone appears to prove us wrong, we'll still kinda hold on to what we already pre-conceived of them. Weird.
I agree that Scorps believe they are the whole/total package. The question is: Do WE (others) have what it takes?! They are absolutely confidence in themselves that they can be all that you want; problem is, they aren't as confident in others being that total package. But this can become a problem down the road when relationship issues start surfacing. If a Scorp always has their mirrors turned in a way to reflect what the OTHER person could be doing wrong or what the other person's flaws are, they may not ever realize that they too need to turn the mirrors on THEMSELVES every once in a while to make sure that they are "as advertised" OR that they are as good as what they're claiming they are
Sometimes people can get so caught up in this mindset of "Show me what you're made of" that they forget to make sure THEY are the total package too. Sometimes people get so confident in themselves that even when they begin to have/show flaws, they still only continue to focus on what the other person is doing wrong and/or could be doing better. It's not to say that Scorps can't take criticism BUT it seems to be alot easier for them to turn the mirror on others more often than they do on themselves. And that can be a bad thing sometimes. I know b/c Aquas can be the same way.
Posted by krysrenee7
Crazy thing is, Aquas are the same way. We'll observe so much so that the other person won't even realize that we are observing/testing them.


I'm curious, exactly what kind of "tests" do you do?
Posted by krysrenee7
I agree that Scorps believe they are the whole/total package. The question is: Do WE (others) have what it takes?! They are absolutely confidence in themselves that they can be all that you want; problem is, they aren't as confident in others being that total package. But this can become a problem down the road when relationship issues start surfacing. If a Scorp always has their mirrors turned in a way to reflect what the OTHER person could be doing wrong or what the other person's flaws are, they may not ever realize that they too need to turn the mirrors on THEMSELVES every once in a while to make sure that they are "as advertised" OR that they are as good as what they're claiming they are


AMEN, SISTER! I have found this to be 10000000000000% true. The scorpio I know OBVIOUSLY thinks hes some kind of king and that people need to prove themselves to him. Meanwhile, he acts like an asshole. He may very well be fully capable of being a great, sensitive guy (I actually think he is), but he pays NO attention to what he puts out there and how it can make a person feel. So you've got this person (me) who cares about the Scorp running around like a crazy chicken without a head because the Scorp isn't putting anything positive out there, but all he sees is that the person (me) running around like a crazy chicken...not that they may have caused it in some way.

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