is this a scorpio thing, or am i just a wreck?

okay guys, i need some clarity here:

is it typically scorpio to become so obsessed and possessive about one thing that it takes over your entire life, and you eat and breath and sleep that thing? i sometimes feel like a real black sheep, especially in american society, where guys are supposed to "not care" about anything, and here i am going way over the deep end.

also, does this obsessiveness come out often in relationships, too? i notice i am a very hard and fast and intense person when it comes to relationships. it's easy to seduce girls but i get kind of drunk off that power and forget what's going on and then just go crazy, get secretive and moody and possessive which leads to a lot of pain.

any scorps out there know what i'm talking about? thankssss!

I've been there before. It's like something takes over your mind, and all you can think about is that ONE thing.

My obsessivness comes across in relationships as more questioning and getting-all-the facts-straight before I proceed further.

I've read that one thing most Scorpios need to learn is to LET GO. It's very hard to do. But once you do, it's easier to move on. You almost have to WILL yourself to let go sometimes. Especially if, in your heart/mind you know it's what you need to.

Hope that helps.

thanks scorp chick and emerald.

one of the things i find it hard to do is to "let things be." i try to keep everything and everyone under the radar and when something slips by, i totally flip out.

emerald, i use to take that approach to relationships where everything is equal and respectful but frankly, most the girls i've ever dated have messed with me so much i've changed my tactics a lot, so i don't mean to sound like an ass when i talk about girls that way. it's just the way it is.

oh, and emerald! thanks so much for the link. i totally recognize your observations as qualities that i possess. especially when it comes to treating everything equally, i just don't have the gauge to where everything has its own importance...everything is life or death for me. =].

bleh, it's just so incrediby hard to live with so much emotion, i knew the fellow scorps would understand. thanks guys.

Hi Scorpio wreck, I'm not a scorpio, so I can't relate to your dilemna personally, though I have a lot of Scorps in my family. And, I do see this happen from time to time, especially with my son.

However, we want you to know that we are here for you if need someone to talk to about being a wreck, or anything else that seems overwhelming. I found with my son that sometimes just having a safe place to go where people care is enough for him to find strength to pick himself back up. You're strong and have the ability to persevere whatever obstacle lands in your path. You'll be ok.

Smile and warm hugs to you !!!

Wow, what you all said was very insightful! (after posting this I'll go check out your link emerald gem)

I'd definitely say it's a scorpio thing - my boyfriend has the exact same trait. I don't think it's a problem in itself, I mean a lot of the time this is what helps him accomplish so much and as has been pointed out, this inherent intensity is also something others like (love) about scorpios. But yeah, it can be a very difficult thing for them to handle, and also for those who love them because it's the worst to watch them suffer and not be able to help.

With my boyfriend I've found that, more than words, very simple things like hugging him or giving him a massage can help A LOT. The hard thing is when I can't be physically there for him (we don't live in the same town). Then he'll get incredibly tense to the point that now when he feels that way, he prefers not to talk to me on the phone because he's afraid he'll lash out verbally and hurt my feelings, which happened in the past.

This 'tension' comes from repressing/suppressing his feelings all the time I think. He's not even aware he's doing it, it's like second nature or something to him, and when they eventually overwhelm him and he can't ignore them anymore, well he absolutely HATES that because he hates not being in control. Yeah, that control thing. I bet I'm just rehashing stuff you guys all know by heart ^.^

Anyway scorpio_wreck, I hope you don't mind my picking up the tips that were meant mainly for you 😛

hey, thanks a lot guys. it's good to know i can come here for support. =]. haha, it's like AA - astrology anonymous.

You are a true Scorpio. Believe me, I live the excrutiating pain of obsession, passion and deep emotion. I drive my Libra friends crazy. They are air signs and can breeze away at the sign of emotion. Scorpios, as a water sign, plunge to the depth of emotion and stay there. It's our curse.

On the flip side, the passion and emotion can be exciting. We just have to learn to let go of the obsession. :-)

LOL @ Astrology Anonymous..I like that..