Is this scopio behavor?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by phoenixblaze26 on Wednesday, January 9, 2008 and has 18 replies.
So here's the issue and maybe someone can shed some light on the subject. I'm an aires / taurus (born in taurus aires moon), and he is a libra scorp (cusp sign), so we dated for what seemed like a month back in aug-sept 2006 and then everything fell apart. we continued to see each other at concerts and places all of our mutual friends hangout, he messaged me like clock work every 10 days for a year, and i eventually got fed up, told him off, where he continued to recap on why hes sry about our broken relationship and didnt wanna lead me on.... eventualy time passes (still like clock work) and i just stop answering back all together. months go by until he finally calls me saying 'hey i was hopeing u were awake... blah blah', i still dont respond. Now finally its the end of 2007, we meet up n hes leaving his band for the marines. he becomes all cutesy (very usual for him) and con's me into going to the after party. we end up at his house and eventually leave the group, we cuddle and kiss and eventually (in my i dont care about you anymore mode) i say 'your only happi cuz u get to fuck me'.... where he completely stops us and goes on saying 'if thats what you think we need to talk', and im like 'sure why not'.
so heres this guy who cant even remember my birthday, let alone my favorite drink (which he used to continuously pay for) and hes recaping our entire suto-relationship history. in a long rant he goes onto say "your so kool, and so fun, i'm going / I wanna marry you, and i'm joining the marines'. so here i am stunned all i could do is smile, considering i've been dying for him to make some move on our forever back and forth life style . he jokes later in front of friends how i act like im his gf anywayz, so im like 'fine', i walk off and he pulls me close.
long story short, we stay cuddled all night and end up walking to a bagel place all hand in hand (not normal for him again), and eventually come back to fall asleep. i leave eventually and hes been messaging, calling, and even writing on my blog journal every day since. there has not been one day that has gone by that we havent been in some type of contact. Finally friday we were supposed to go on a date, he bails and calls me 'babe' (weird again), and eventually messaged me (completely sober) at 3am, saying hes going through withdrawls about me, and how he really REALLY likes me and has been just really dumb not to say anything.
so heres this guy who cant even remember my birthday, let alone my favorite drink (which he used to continuously pay for) and hes recaping our entire suto-relationship history. in a long rant he goes onto say "your so kool, and so fun, i'm going / I wanna marry you, and i'm joining the marines'. so here i am stunned all i could do is smile, considering i've been dying for him to make some move on our forever back and forth life style . he jokes later in front of friends how i act like im his gf anywayz, so im like 'fine', i walk off and he pulls me close.
long story short, we stay cuddled all night and end up walking to a bagel place all hand in hand (not normal for him again), and eventually come back to fall asleep. i leave eventually and hes been messaging, calling, and even writing on my blog journal every day since. there has not been one day that has gone by that we havent been in some type of contact. Finally friday we were supposed to go on a date, he bails and calls me 'babe' (weird again), and eventually messaged me (completely sober) at 3am, saying hes going through withdrawls about me, and how he really REALLY likes me and has been just really dumb not to say anything.
we offically go to meet up on monday for an 'offical' date, and the first thing he says to me is 'Your late by 17 min'. I completely disregard it (i'm to happi to see him) and grab him into a hug, he asks where i want to go for dinner, i say 'you decide' he says very sharply 'no'. so we go into a taxi ride downtown, we talk a bit, go to the restuarant, we talk and pretty much from the convo you would come to the conclusion that I'm a raging bitch, and hes a straight A student. Not quiet sure why his grade point average would be important to me, but he seemed to make that very clear, that he likes being better than everyone else. I end up in a convo about his ex roomate who i HATED, due to his lack of respect for any woman on this earth. then he brings up last jan... and lets just say i go on another rant about how inconsiderate and completely irresponsible he is. (he disappeared, got hospitalized for alcohol poisoning, while i worried and cried all night looking for him) He asks if im gonna hold his drinking against him and i say 'its not your drinking its the fact that u didnt tell me where u were and i had to find out two months later.
Long story short, we see the movie, he enjoys it a little awkward convo here and there. he asks my opinion on a book he buys and we talk a bit on the train home. otherwise he gets of at his stop cuz he was going to LI and i mope, then he makes a face and my day gets better. i completely believe the date sucked and he said he loved dinner and the movie and was just tired. so havent heard from him, its been a day... i think it might be over.
so did some studying on him, i normally read only his libra side, but i looked online and he has a lot of scorpio habits, so i gotta ask is this typical scoprio behavior, or did i already lose him?
Long story short, we see the movie, he enjoys it a little awkward convo here and there. he asks my opinion on a book he buys and we talk a bit on the train home. otherwise he gets of at his stop cuz he was going to LI and i mope, then he makes a face and my day gets better. i completely believe the date sucked and he said he loved dinner and the movie and was just tired. so havent heard from him, its been a day... i think it might be over.
so did some studying on him, i normally read only his libra side, but i looked online and he has a lot of scorpio habits, so i gotta ask is this typical scoprio behavior, or did i already lose him?
lolz, nice! yea im an overwhelming aires brat, and proud of it. i just dont get how hes all clingy and cute, which he never is anyway. Then he can go completely MIA. I kno it's only been one day, but what did i miss???
lol
Actually, I can't imagine why he does this ... I'd be overjoyed if when I finally got my woman on a date, she spent her time bitching about how she hates everybody.
What's wrong with him, anyway?
Actually, I can't imagine why he does this ... I'd be overjoyed if when I finally got my woman on a date, she spent her time bitching about how she hates everybody.
What's wrong with him, anyway?
Recent update, i decided to stop being a chicken and messaged him a simple "hey whats up, been thinking about you and wondered what u were up to'. My gf's told me that considering hes declaired that he likes me, and aparently wants to marry me, the problem might be that i havent mentioned my feelings what so ever. so i just figured a little 'been thinking about you', might strike his attention and i got a long reply back. but at the same time, i just dont kno how to go about him, hes so... silent. do scorpio's naturally hid everything and watch you like a new experiment?
not for those who are the experiment! It's driving me nuts, he says he really wants to hang out soon, but never says when. also whats up with himn not cuddling / kissin / or holding my hand on a date. last i checked we've gone much farther and normally its not awkward
He didnt call but he did txt me at 3am saturday morning, luckily was still awake and because i was so heavily drunken i jumped into a cab and high tailed it to his house. We ended up falling asleep and having an amazing breakfast the next morning (much better than our previous date). for some reason when we were walking back (i told him i was going straight home) he kept trying to con me into giving him a back massage and saying 'oh, well if you cant i'll get one of my other exs to do it'. wtf? so i just kinda went off and said i had other exs to, but to shut up about it cuz i dont care. and eventualy he tried to give me a really absentee kinda 'o wll this is goodbye', kinda godbye. where i ended up yelling (sorta) at him saying thats not how u say goodbye! so grabed him, made him put his arms fully around me and kissed him til he started laughing. eventually we parted and i called him a jackass ^_^. otherwise nope another long silent steam between us. its been 2 days and back to old habits.
he said he'd call me again to chill this week, but im kinda getting annoied with the distance. why cant he be a normal boy, who mkes normal sense, who doesnt throw ex's in my face, and will just say what he feels instead of watching me twitch and whinne. like honestly it was cute, now its annoying and as much as i adore him, i just wanna punch him in the face and laugh. LOUDLY.
he said he'd call me again to chill this week, but im kinda getting annoied with the distance. why cant he be a normal boy, who mkes normal sense, who doesnt throw ex's in my face, and will just say what he feels instead of watching me twitch and whinne. like honestly it was cute, now its annoying and as much as i adore him, i just wanna punch him in the face and laugh. LOUDLY.
I think by what you have said that 'he's just not that into you'. First of all, I think you are coming on a bit too strong and that would make me back up a few steps. We need time to sort this all out in our minds and to know that we can trust a person.
Secondly, if someone who I was romantically interested in called me a jackass, that would surely kill any special thoughts I had for them.
By what you have described here, it sounds to me as if you do a lot of ragging on the guy. And you wonder why you don't hear from him?
Secondly, if someone who I was romantically interested in called me a jackass, that would surely kill any special thoughts I had for them.
By what you have described here, it sounds to me as if you do a lot of ragging on the guy. And you wonder why you don't hear from him?
"Are ALL Aries this impatient???"
Yes.
As for the original post, I still haven't read it. It's too long and probably full of excessive detail.
Yes.
As for the original post, I still haven't read it. It's too long and probably full of excessive detail.
lolz, yes my original post is FAR TO LONG. probably why i havent gotten many responces. next of all... i honestly have known this guy for a year and a half. he knows my sarcastic tone on everything and we have gone on and on for hours with sarcastic remarks on many different issues refering to each other over the year.
I don't think im comming on to strong, even tho internally i just wanna run-jump-and fly into his arms. ive honestly never put that much effort into him since our 'first encounter' where we spent an entire week with each other. i just stoped jumping at him, because i learned that it'll just as candlz said, it will drive them away.
yes i have called him a jackass, because unlike you scorps i DO NOT appreciate the dry humor in regards to my relationship with the person. he's so distant when i'm as happy as a bird in the sky, then hes far to clingy when i dont wanna deal with his words. then he goes on to talk about being with me forever, when i call him on his BS. it doesnt make sense, i havent spoken to him since sat morning and as usual no call (nothing particularly new) and even tho he'll message me sweet things, he will never call. hes a libra / scorp. so hes flaky, possesive, and always has something to laugh at me about. i like being goofy and care-free and it seems like he doesnt get why i can be.
I don't think im comming on to strong, even tho internally i just wanna run-jump-and fly into his arms. ive honestly never put that much effort into him since our 'first encounter' where we spent an entire week with each other. i just stoped jumping at him, because i learned that it'll just as candlz said, it will drive them away.
yes i have called him a jackass, because unlike you scorps i DO NOT appreciate the dry humor in regards to my relationship with the person. he's so distant when i'm as happy as a bird in the sky, then hes far to clingy when i dont wanna deal with his words. then he goes on to talk about being with me forever, when i call him on his BS. it doesnt make sense, i havent spoken to him since sat morning and as usual no call (nothing particularly new) and even tho he'll message me sweet things, he will never call. hes a libra / scorp. so hes flaky, possesive, and always has something to laugh at me about. i like being goofy and care-free and it seems like he doesnt get why i can be.
"he's so distant when i'm as happy as a bird in the sky, then hes far to clingy when i dont wanna deal with his words."
Those are the infamous mood swings that come with water people. Just the way it is. It's pretty hard for the nine other elements to understand or appreciate because they're not built that way.
Fire-water just really doesn't work. I hate to sound discouraging to all the Aries who love Scorpios, but the odds are just heavily stacked against you. The other lady in the other thread was talking about submitting to a Scorpio... I mean you can do that for a short awhile, but you can't fight who you really are forever.
In my family of five, four people are fire. So I got some experience on this.
Those are the infamous mood swings that come with water people. Just the way it is. It's pretty hard for the nine other elements to understand or appreciate because they're not built that way.
Fire-water just really doesn't work. I hate to sound discouraging to all the Aries who love Scorpios, but the odds are just heavily stacked against you. The other lady in the other thread was talking about submitting to a Scorpio... I mean you can do that for a short awhile, but you can't fight who you really are forever.
In my family of five, four people are fire. So I got some experience on this.
And i was just about to look into contacting you. see im not really a full aries, i'm actually a taurus girl (sun in taurus) and a heavey moon on aries.
So with my curious mind (aries) i went and researched that old posting u mentioned! personally i experience and roar with a lot of aries habits. yes i can be overwhleming even unto myself, but luckily im still 100% a taurus girl, so i end up holding all that back. so all my moods you've read here are more in my head than not. i know im ridiculous, overwhelming, pushy, persistant, and dominering, that i already know.
But i try for the sake of my sanity and not screwing everything up to hold all that back. yea i am addicted to this man, i mean honestly we've been around each other long enough to fall for each other and obviously if it never went away even as much as i'd put my foot down and never call... hes still there and hes still the same guy i'd go home with any given day. he tests me, questions me, and laughs (A LOT) when im in my own little world and making faces at the mirror on how dumb i look today. i just dont know, things work and then they dont. hes an actual cusp sign so most of his personality is very scorp and then he'll come out libra. either way he still watches me and who i talk with. i can tell hes looking at me from cross the room. and YES he will give every guy a 'look' when he finally comes to scoop me away from the party. most would think hes possesive, but i guess by nature i am, but as long as its not invasive its ok
So with my curious mind (aries) i went and researched that old posting u mentioned! personally i experience and roar with a lot of aries habits. yes i can be overwhleming even unto myself, but luckily im still 100% a taurus girl, so i end up holding all that back. so all my moods you've read here are more in my head than not. i know im ridiculous, overwhelming, pushy, persistant, and dominering, that i already know.
But i try for the sake of my sanity and not screwing everything up to hold all that back. yea i am addicted to this man, i mean honestly we've been around each other long enough to fall for each other and obviously if it never went away even as much as i'd put my foot down and never call... hes still there and hes still the same guy i'd go home with any given day. he tests me, questions me, and laughs (A LOT) when im in my own little world and making faces at the mirror on how dumb i look today. i just dont know, things work and then they dont. hes an actual cusp sign so most of his personality is very scorp and then he'll come out libra. either way he still watches me and who i talk with. i can tell hes looking at me from cross the room. and YES he will give every guy a 'look' when he finally comes to scoop me away from the party. most would think hes possesive, but i guess by nature i am, but as long as its not invasive its ok
your probably right on that note. that's why i still havnt called him, if he wants me he knows my number, and knows where to track me down. i think the odds are better if i just leave it alone, i myself recall asking myself while waiting on his stoop 'why am i here again'. ugh i wish i could get the $ 30 cab money back. hes just flighty, and the part that i hate the most is that, what if he doesnt call, then hes shipped off to the marines in march and its long been over b4 it even started. and what if he does text me? how do i get it so that he calls instead?
how do i get it so that he calls instead?
TELL HIM!!!
Why play games? If you can't be adult about this and say what you want, then you are giving away all your self respect to him. If he obliges, then he cares about you and if not, you have your answer!
TELL HIM!!!
Why play games? If you can't be adult about this and say what you want, then you are giving away all your self respect to him. If he obliges, then he cares about you and if not, you have your answer!
It'd make sense to say 'hey stop txting me and just call me', but he'd only call on last resort. It took him 8 months of txting to realize i wouldnt answer and he'd have to call.
I put in half of the effort in this love affair, cuz i know if i didn't he'd still hound me down casually through txt messages. It would make sense to ask him to pay, but i know he never has cash on him. I'm currently occupyling my time with work therefore i wouldnt be tempted to call him.
my main reason for posting was because i dont get how he goes from hot to cold almost in an instant. I don't understand what he's attracted to. Is it the attention i get at every event we both attend? there was a huge party last jan that no one had seen me for almost 4 months, i showed up and felt like a celeb, there was not a person who didnt greet me. the entire night i was showered with attention and then he walked over and he gave out a quick glance (i caught that) and litterally placed his claim. he frequently does that.
i thought our relationship was just physical, i even admitted that to him when i finally met someone else. Then he yells at me, that our relationship is more than that and goes on to explain how he loves being with me and all this other fancy crap. he doesnt stop messaging me for a week and now its on and off. like does he only want me when im finally giving up? Does he just want me as a possesion? hes driving me nuts, but my patience is lighting up. Im about to give up, but i feel like a chump, cuz i actually believed his words. just because he said he wanted to marry me, doesnt mean he will. did he only mean those words, because he didn't wanna lose me?
I put in half of the effort in this love affair, cuz i know if i didn't he'd still hound me down casually through txt messages. It would make sense to ask him to pay, but i know he never has cash on him. I'm currently occupyling my time with work therefore i wouldnt be tempted to call him.
my main reason for posting was because i dont get how he goes from hot to cold almost in an instant. I don't understand what he's attracted to. Is it the attention i get at every event we both attend? there was a huge party last jan that no one had seen me for almost 4 months, i showed up and felt like a celeb, there was not a person who didnt greet me. the entire night i was showered with attention and then he walked over and he gave out a quick glance (i caught that) and litterally placed his claim. he frequently does that.
i thought our relationship was just physical, i even admitted that to him when i finally met someone else. Then he yells at me, that our relationship is more than that and goes on to explain how he loves being with me and all this other fancy crap. he doesnt stop messaging me for a week and now its on and off. like does he only want me when im finally giving up? Does he just want me as a possesion? hes driving me nuts, but my patience is lighting up. Im about to give up, but i feel like a chump, cuz i actually believed his words. just because he said he wanted to marry me, doesnt mean he will. did he only mean those words, because he didn't wanna lose me?
just because he said he wanted to marry me, doesnt mean he will. did he only mean those words, because he didn't wanna lose me?
Probably!!! I have read and re-read everything you have said about this guy and I see lots of red flags.
#1...The drinking. That is one road you don't want to go down...that is a vicious road to travel.
#2...As IrishLibra said, he knows you like him. He can say and do anything he needs to, to make the situation into whatever he wants it to be.
#3...You said you've known him for a long time and also dated before, what didn't you see before this?
#4...you say he only responds positively when you are ready to give up.
#5...you say he never has money on him? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
OK so all of the above are your words. I don't see alot of positives here, IMHO..he is using you.
Probably!!! I have read and re-read everything you have said about this guy and I see lots of red flags.
#1...The drinking. That is one road you don't want to go down...that is a vicious road to travel.
#2...As IrishLibra said, he knows you like him. He can say and do anything he needs to, to make the situation into whatever he wants it to be.
#3...You said you've known him for a long time and also dated before, what didn't you see before this?
#4...you say he only responds positively when you are ready to give up.
#5...you say he never has money on him? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
OK so all of the above are your words. I don't see alot of positives here, IMHO..he is using you.
lolz, yea i've got it, impatience is unattractive. so i stayed patient all week, didnt bother calling, didnt bother messaging. he did, twice, i didnt respond. he finally called and went on for a 4 min voice mail about 'why are you mad at me, what did i do!? and why havent u responded to my messages on ur blog'.
sry side note - libras are not flakey, just really indecisive.
and yea aparently im not allowed to ignore him, hes on aim right now.
and yea aparently im not allowed to ignore him, hes on aim right now.
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