It could go either way now!!

It could go either way now!!

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Whoops hit the button too quickly! I just wanted to tell you guys the story of my confrontation with my Scorp last Saturday night.

I have been dating him for over 3 months now and it has been going really well except that he has been doing a bit of the push pull thing over the last month so my emotions have been all over the place. The first couple of months when everything was new and the adrenaline was pumping he had a ton of energy for me and everything was great, but then over the last month his energy level is just completely gone and I guess I am just getting the real him now.

He started doing this thing where he asked to see me, but then a few hours before he would call and start making excuses of how tired he was and hinting around that he probably isn't going to be much fun and maybe I should make other plans. So basicly he was giving me mixed messages and making me feel bad and I was taking it really personally. Then we would go through this whole dance of me asking him "well do you still want to see me?" and he would say "well we can still go out if you want" and stuff like that so that I felt like I was forcing him to see me. I was to the point where I just really didn't care anymore and about ready to break up with him so I figured I might as well have it out with him about the situation. So on Saturday night he pulled this tired crap again at about 4:00 in the afternoon when I was supposed to see him that night so I was fuming the whole way up to his house mad at myself for even going when he was acting like he didn't even want to see me anyway.

When I got there I pretty much just tore into him and asked him why I was here? I asked him where his sense of urgency is about seeing me? I told him that I am tired from working too, but I still want to see him and I make an effort to see him and that I feel like he just doesn't make an effort and if he was trying to get rid of me then just say the word because if you don't want me to be here then I certainly don't want to be there. I basically lost my cool and acted like a complete whiny bitch ass. I even started crying at the end out of the frustration of it all. He just grabbed me and started hugging me and said of course he wants to see me and don't leave and that he would miss me if we were to stop dating. Then there was all of this ackward silence while he just held me.

Then he went to the restroom for a long time and when he came out he started saying how he still feels like he needs to impress me and be at his best when he is around me and that when he is really stressed and tired from work that he just doesn't want me to see him that way. So I told him that he can't be at his best and impress me forever and I have to eventually get to know the bad side of him too and he said "what if you don't like me anymore?" So anyway so far that talk has completely changed everything. It's only been a week, but he has completely stopped doing the push pull thing and he is back to being so loving with me again. I know a lot of the distance I was feeling was my own doing. Because when he was acting like that it was making me feel rejected and I was pulling away from him which was making him feel like he needed to protect himself so he was pulling away even more. So the moral of the story is that sometimes being a whiny ass psycho bitch and just telling him like it is works . :-)

Warning though!! I would not recommend doing what I did unless you really don't care if it will end your relationship because if you do it and he is looking for a way out he will grab it when you become this beast in front of his eyes. I have done that before and it had the complete opposite effect. I confronted a guy I really liked one time like that and he basically told me that he couldn't handle this kind of emotional drama and just broke up with me right there on the spot. This is what I meant by it can go either way.

I figure this guy must really like me because I even angrily told him "I am a Scorpio and I will not be ignored" He just started laughing. Only another Scorpio could possibly understand me I guess. LOL!!!

gslove

I must commend you on deal with your own kind, I have done that twice and was on the verge or killing them. So I decided that I would never date another scropio. I am so stuck in my ways know I would not have tolorated that shit.

I don't even tolerate my Gem when he gets flighty or become the other twin, that shit is his issue, and my emotional state of calmness is way more important than trying to figure out the emotions of someone else. No to mention I can tell off the back when my Gem is upset or had a bad day etc, he always calls and the tone of his voice tells it all so I just ask him what's wrong, he takes deep breath and he tells me. 🙂

My thing is call me when you feel better other than that I have a life to live and I don't have time for the drama

"I figure this guy must really like me because I even angrily told him "I am a Scorpio and I will not be ignored" He just started laughing. Only another Scorpio could possibly understand me I guess. LOL!!!"

I think you put the fear of GOD in him. 🙂

It was funny, because the next day I saw a speaker, Iyanla Vanzant, and her topic was "Stop making it up and start living it up" and it made me realize that I was making up so much shit in my head about what he was doing to me and how he was feeling about everything. I was creating so much meaning that wasn't there. I almost didn't confront him about this. I almost just broke it off with him because I felt he was being so disrespectful to me and my pride didn't want to let him know that what he was doing bothered me at all. Only to find out that it was all about his own insecurities and the shit that he was making up in his head about how he feels like he needs to entertain me all the time and that he can't be around me if he is tired or stressed. He said that a couple of my friends told him about how I have more energy than anyone else they know and that he was going to have a hard time keeping up with me and it freaked him out and he took that as that he needs to try to keep up with me or that I would get bored and leave him. I have to admit though that sometimes I do wish that I had someone that could keep up with me, but I'm not willing to date a 25 year old just for that reason alone and that's probably the only way I could find someone to match my energy. He says that I make him feel very old. I don't like that I make him feel that way. I do think that he likes that I push him to do more things though and like Kathleen says, I have to be myself and I won't stifle my own energy just to make him feel better.

"I have to be myself and I won't stifle my own energy just to make him feel better."

I feel cuz if I worried about what my Gem is doing I would drive myself crazy. He trust me as I trust him and until I have just cause to complain then I won't. I go atleast 2-3 days not talking to him and I feel no emotional stress what so every. I do however get, "so you can't call" I just don't have nothing to say he is living his life and I am living mines...he jumps on me sometimes cuz I should at least call and say hi. lol 🙂

i think scorpios men have an extreme weakness for tears ..not saying cry all the time cause that weakness will turn to resent... but (and i'm not one for letting people see me cry) I've never seen someone turn sweet as pie so fast..

"So, you know Scorpios must be pretty bad when other Scorpios even admit that they would never date another of their own sign."

FA

I learned that when I was in my mid 30's and just recently when I encountered another scrop that was older than me about 10 months ago dated him for about 2 months and could not do it...

He was a scrop that was just to damn kind and sweet and when I was at his house he basically catered to my every need but I read right through him, he was not good in bed..and I knew if I stayed I would take advantage of him and his kindness and I knew that would not be right.

I did confront on these issues and fucked up his ego telling him that he did not satisfy me but he respect my honesty and we are still friends...he calls me every once and a while but I never call him I just send him funny emails that's about all the communication he is going to get from me.

I never call him or send him a text message first, but I always contact him back immediately if I can so that he feels secure that I want him contacting me a lot. I notice that when I can't contact him back right away that he stops contacting me so much. I know that I would be the same way. If I contacted him and he was really slow about responding I would probably make something up in my head about that and not ever want to do it again.:-)

"I go atleast 2-3 days not talking to him and I feel no emotional stress what so every."

I'm so jealous. I wish I could be that way.

"i think scorpios men have an extreme weakness for tears ..not saying cry all the time cause that weakness will turn to resent... but (and i'm not one for letting people see me cry) I've never seen someone turn sweet as pie so fast.."

I absolutely am mortified at how I cried and let him see my weakness though even if it did work.

The other translation that I got when he told me that he couldn't keep up with me is that he meant in the bedroom, but that just may be another story that I'm making up in my head 😉 but I don't think so. I definitely have a lot more sexual energy than he has. I think that is what he means when he says I make him feel old.

"I go atleast 2-3 days not talking to him and I feel no emotional stress what so every."

It took years of practice, it's called being secure with oneself.

Everytime someone would make me made I was stinging them and being vindictive but then I realized that it really does not solve the problem, I was losing more friends LOL....

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"The other translation that I got when he told me that he couldn't keep up with me is that he meant in the bedroom, but that just may be another story that I'm making up in my head 😉 but I don't think so. I definitely have a lot more sexual energy than he has. I think that is what he means when he says I make him feel old."

And that was the problem with the scrop I was seeing he could not keep up with me so BORING....

I need intensity...and my Gem just gives it all to me....🙂 Hell I think he likes it as much as I do...everytime I tell him I love having intense love making he just giggles and smiles.

"It took years of practice, it's called being secure with oneself."

I do have issues with trust and feeling secure in a relationship that's for sure, especially in the beginning of a relationship. I do get better though the more trust I gain for a person. It just takes me a long time to trust, but once I do I feel very secure unless they do something really drastic to break the trust.

So maybe it's only Scorpio women that are sexual sirens in the bedroom then. I have only met one man in my entire life that could outsex me. He was a Sag. He was only 25 at the time though and was a sex addict and eventually started going to sex and love anonymous classes because of his problems of constant masturbation and infidelity so I don't think he really counts.

Yea thats normal to have issues with trust in the begining. I do believe that we scrops need to feel secure in a relationship.

But my view is why stress over feeling secure, which will cause you to get parinoid and then you start to lose the trust.

That's why I say if I don't have just cause to feel insecure then why feel it.

"So maybe it's only Scorpio women that are sexual sirens in the bedroom then. I have only met one man in my entire life that could outsex me. He was a Sag. He was only 25 at the time though and was a sex addict and eventually started going to sex and love anonymous classes because of his problems of constant masturbation and infidelity so I don't think he really counts."

Thats funny 🙂

I have had a few that not outsex me could keep up with me but of course after we were finish I was full of energy and they had to get some sleep. 🙂

"I have had a few that not outsex me could keep up with me but of course after we were finish I was full of energy and they had to get some sleep."


That is one thing that I must say about my scorp. I have never seen a guy with so much energy after sex. He gets all excited and starts conversations and just keeps massaging me after sex. I'm the one who loses energy after a really good O. What a nice quality. I tell him all the time how I love that about him. I hope that never goes away.

Also gslove,

What reason would you have to feel insecure if you just met the person. I think that's where women make their mistake, hell you don't even know them. I know women get emotionally envolved way before the man.

Is it the need to be love or have a man in your life that in 3 months we think in our mind that we are in a relationship with the guy but in his mind we are not so they continue living there lives why the women are at home wondering why he has not called etc.

For me it is because I go so very long between serious relationships. I don't fall easily for someone. I very rarely feel chemistry for anyone so I think when I feel chemistry it's so real and I get attached to the outcome because I'm afraid it will take another 6 years until I find that again if it doesn't work out. When I fall in love which is rare I fall really fast and really hard and I'm never the one to change my mind and I have no understanding of people who are so fickle and can be in love one day and it's just gone the next. When I feel like that it only ends if they are the one that ends it. I think if I fell easily like a lot of my friends do I wouldn't care so much.

Haha FA!! The good news is that when he is good in the bedroom he is really really good, and we have sex 3 or 4 times but then he needs like a week of downtime afterwards to recover.

LOL that's funny gslove, you be taking all a brotha energy. 🙂

Yes, I guess I'm just what a friend would call an energy vampire.

LOL...that's too much downtime for me. I need him to be ready by the next day or so.

When a men cum it takes a lot of there energy, versus a women would have to have a lot of organsm to actual feel drained.

"LOL...then he needs to take some ginseng or whatever the heck all that stuff is to keep up his stamina, and I don't cum easily."

LMAO, FA you may not cum easily but most women can have up to 10 orgasms in the process before they reach the BIG ONE. that alone can be draining 🙂

"When a men cum it takes a lot of there energy, versus a women would have to have a lot of organsm to actual feel drained."

Especially the older they get. This is why I need a 25 year old.

"When a men cum it takes a lot of there energy, versus a women would have to have a lot of organsm to actual feel drained."

Especially the older they get. This is why I need a 25 year old.

"When a men cum it takes a lot of there energy, versus a women would have to have a lot of organsm to actual feel drained."

Especially the older they get. This is why I need a 25 year old.


LMAO I was just thinking my gem is 48 and the brotha has NO energy afterwards, I guess it must be all the intensity. 🙂

"It feels good, but I just can't orgasm easily. That crazy Scorp friend got me a vibrator, which she claims is one of the best. I haven't opened it or anything, and I actually hid it away. I know it sounds funny, but I'm kinda afraid of those things."

Funny you should mention that, my Aries friend brought me a dark brown 9 1/2 dildo, It was a surprise when I was seeing him FWB for about 3 months I just mentioned to him to buy me one and next thing I had one. I still have it, although I broke it LOL I kept the damn batteries in and it got rusted so I told him and he was like No you should have taken care of it.

"I can't believe your guy friend got you a dildo...wow, that's confidence."

Well if you have read any of my previous post about the Aries that I known for 5 years prior to him approaching me with the FWB and (only lasted 3 months) I did it because I was curious he had so many sex toys and when I would go over there for drinks with other people he would always show his new toys so I got curous and it was a fantasy that I have not fulfill so that is why I went along with it, and he was bold enough to ask me.

"LMAO....How does a dildo get rusted? Was it from battery acid or something from keeping the batteries in?"

LMAO yea I forgot to take the batteries out. I went and brougt all kinds of battiers to see if it would work Everready, Diehard, Dollar store, the bitch did not work, so know it's just sitting in my draw. 🙂

I seen the rabbit very interesting.🙂

"glad you were able to understand your scorp guy."

Well I wouldn't quite say that I understand him yet. LOL!!!

I have a feeling that will be one of many misunderstandings we will have. All part of the lessons I need to learn though. I'm just happy I'm learning to face things head on.