I've met a Scorpio who doesn't add up to one

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by EicalLiag on Monday, December 17, 2012 and has 24 replies.
So initially I was hesitant to go out with Scorpio guy. I am a Gemini, born in the cusp of Taurus, with moon in Taurus. I only know his birthday so I only know his sun sign. I have never known a Scorpio, so for fun I read up. And it scared me! But I brushed it off cause I'm not going to hold his sign against him, it truly could vary. So anyway here's what I know so far
He's always smiling
Super chivalrous. Also insists on paying for everything but I I slip in my share of paying for things cause I just like to.
I couldn't imagine this person having any enemies
He seems to have good friendly relations with exes. Well the most recent one, from years ago. He has been uninvolved romantically for years as have I
He is a musician and relatively free spirited and easy going. He's always agreeing to doing any thing. Inviting me out with his friends lots of time. Apparently they have been
Picking on him saying they didn't believe I was real? Just being jokesters. That made it apparent he has told all his friends about me at one
Point or another. He's friends with very good people and people I have related to and bonded with quickly myself. So far nothing screams this scary overbearing Scorpio.
A little detail i like is neither of us like to sit on our phones calling and texting each other all day. If we need to make a phone call to the other person, we will but we share the same opinion on being glued to our phone stalking to each other when we aren't physically together. If that makes sense. I feel like that's just such a common place for couples these days. We savor our physical time together to learn more and talk lots and share laughs and conversations and emotions together over dinner, over a walk in the city, ect. Neither of us are the type to get all bothered and ticked offa silly text essays doesn't get a response for a few hours.
He's not real secretive thus far. He's been pretty up front and honest about his feelings for me, in such a way that I comend him for his honesty. As a matter of a fact he's more honest than me, where I wouldnt be trying to be secretive, just shy. He has already told me more than once how lucky he feels and how much he likes me and how he's so happy we finally got together and started going out. Idk guys I'm pretty interested. Just looking to discuss. I haven't found much material online about a Scorpio being nothing like a Scorpio. Ill be interested in learning more about his astrological web as I get to know
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thoughtful/considerate + upfront/honest = scorpio/in-love
i think he adds up just fine smile
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Posted by CreepyPants
thoughtful/considerate + upfront/honest = scorpio/in-love
i think he adds up just fine smile


^ this. if I had to make an educated guess. Sounds like he's falling for you!
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My scorpio ex had sun, moon, and ascendent in scorpio, so you think that would cause some of the classic scorpionic traits to be apparent. He was just like you mentioned your guy was, though, nice and veryyyy open with sharing everything. He was never a bad guy and didn't show any of those negative, manipulative (or 'scary') traits, even at the end of it all. So, I think you should be happy with what you have and not worry about those things. : ) Hopefully he'll be consistent and you two will have a great relationship!
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Sun signs are meant to guide, not become the blueprint. Enjoy his company and get to know him. Sounds really nice so far!
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Sounds like a wonderful man...don't let him go!
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I agree with everyone completely. It's really fun reading other outsiders input. Winking
It will definitely be a joy to learn more about him. He turned 24 this November.
The more I dig up on other scorpios, the more pleased and eager I am to keep this up. The type of person I am: flighty, lots of interests, I'm obsessed with one hobby or idea for a given amount of time and it's a cycle. I think this guy.... Whom I'm assuming to be the more passionate Scorpio... Is going to really help me feel passion for the first time, whether it's in my hobbies or in my lover Winking definitely a trait I'd love to know more about: real passion.
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also he was born in 1988. google took me to this... #v=onepage&q=scorpio%" data-url="http://books.google.com/books?id=Z1V6ZRVQRiMC&pg=PA71-IA80&lpg=PA71-IA80&dq=scorpio+born+in+1988&source=bl&ots=c_6fLS9LHU&sig=CUZE8k4gMk5uhzrgZCV_EHuTH6M&hl=en&sa=X&ei=QATQUPjIBILkrAGK-IHACQ&ved=0CD4Q6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=scorpio%" target="_blank">http://books.google.com/books?id=Z1V6ZRVQRiMC&pg=PA71-IA80&lpg=PA71-IA80&dq=scorpio+born+in+1988&source=bl&ots=c_6fLS9LHU&sig=CUZE8k4gMk5uhzrgZCV_EHuTH6M&hl=en&sa=X&ei=QATQUPjIBILkrAGK-IHACQ&ved=0CD4Q6AEwAQ#v=onepage&q=scorpio% 20born% 20in% 201988&f=false
and it seems so spot on in my optimistic little head
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He actually sounds more like a typical scorpio guy. May not start out for some the same way as it did for you, Eical, but Gemini lady, you have his trust right from the beginning.

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JUST A LIL' UPDATE.
Hi guys. I wanted to give a follow-up. this is a BRIEF review of some highlight moments recently.
here's whats been going on. Scorp and I have been really enjoying eachother and having a good time. he was over one night and we were just hanging out and relaxing, it got to be pretty late when he decided he should head out.
gave him a smooch at the door, he was grinning and said.. "im sorry, i feel so goofy, i'll get better and this i promise."
gave him another kiss and let him be on his way.
much later he sent me a message basically saying sorry, he feels giddy about me but has been lonering it for quite some time now and feels stale as hell, "i hope you don't assume im spending this time assuming anything, i'll get better at romance. I promise.

couple days later he came out to join me for a Christmas party. we came back to my place with some friends and we all enjoyed one another's company for a while. friends left. I asked if he wanted to stick around. he said yes. put some good music on the record player and the rest of the night was history. I'll say I made him feel much more comfortable with getting a little romantic.
he left the next morning for christmas vacation. he was over seas so our form of communicating was one long text a day. he is upfront with how crazy he is about me. I really like that. one thing he has said was something like.. " You have my full attention, im ecstatic about how crazy I am about you, Lacie. Iv been abstaining, dry and jaded for almost 3 years waiting for someone like you to come around and i couldn't be happier or more excited about the future. I can't believe my luck!"
after christmas vacation, he got back to town around 9 am and showed up on my doorstep, surprise!! we laughed, caught up, and definitely caught up on some affection as well. he asked if we could make it official.
we're still getting to know one another, and in any other circumstance i would be really freaked out by how fast it all happened. but i don't feel that fear with him one bit. it's very comfortable.
anyways.
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Ok now I need some advice y'all!!
Spent new years together and he left around 4 pm new years day. Said we'd be in touch later that night.
10 pm rolled around web I finally picked my phone up again for the day. No word from him so I naturally just sent something his way. It's 6 pm the next day and no word from him
Is he taking a moment away for himself as I've read is in Scorpio nature wether related r unrelated to me?
Should I give him a ring and acknowledge him or let him be?
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Ok now I need some advice y'all!!
Spent new years together and he left around 4 pm new years day. Said we'd be in touch later that night.
10 pm rolled around web I finally picked my phone up again for the day. No word from him so I naturally just sent something his way. It's 6 pm the next day and no word from him
Is he taking a moment away for himself as I've read is in Scorpio nature wether related r unrelated to me?
Should I give him a ring and acknowledge him or let him be?
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Posted by EicalLiag
Ok now I need some advice y'all!!
Spent new years together and he left around 4 pm new years day. Said we'd be in touch later that night.
10 pm rolled around web I finally picked my phone up again for the day. No word from him so I naturally just sent something his way. It's 6 pm the next day and no word from him
Is he taking a moment away for himself as I've read is in Scorpio nature wether related r unrelated to me?
Should I give him a ring and acknowledge him or let him be?



Give him some time. Don't blow up his spot. Wait a few day then call him and leave a nice message. Don't ask him wheres hes been just stay casual.
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Thanks that was my intuition but I wanted some back up smile
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Posted by Scenic
My scorpio ex had sun, moon, and ascendent in scorpio, so you think that would cause some of the classic scorpionic traits to be apparent. He was just like you mentioned your guy was, though, nice and veryyyy open with sharing everything. He was never a bad guy and didn't show any of those negative, manipulative (or 'scary') traits, even at the end of it all. So, I think you should be happy with what you have and not worry about those things. : ) Hopefully he'll be consistent and you two will have a great relationship!

What went wrong with your Scorp?? Sad
Posted by EicalLiag
JUST A LIL' UPDATE.
" You have my full attention, im ecstatic about how crazy I am about you, Lacie. Iv been abstaining, dry and jaded for almost 3 years waiting for someone like you to come around and i couldn't be happier or more excited about the future. I can't believe my luck!"
after christmas vacation, he got back to town around 9 am and showed up on my doorstep, surprise!! we laughed, caught up, and definitely caught up on some affection as well. he asked if we could make it official.
we're still getting to know one another, and in any other circumstance i would be really freaked out by how fast it all happened. but i don't feel that fear with him one bit. it's very comfortable. anyways.
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AWWW soo sweet. I'd say, you snagged yourself a lovey-dovey Scorp, who has truly, deeply fallen for you. RELISH it...its the BEST. He's determined to get it right, and keep you happy. SN: This Saturn in Scorpio transit is REALLY straightening things out for Scorps when it comes to relationships, more seem to know what they want and act on it! Winking
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Iv never gotten to know a scorpio before. this is my first encounter with this sign/personality type.
im definitely NOT one to cling. i love my own privacy. and i give privacy to others. I'm just feeling confused... that this scorpio who was so eager to make it official with me, i hardly hear from anymore. O.K. granted it's only been since the 1st that i have really heard a peep from him.. but this is unlike any RELATIONSHIP i have been in. we are boyfriend and girlfriend as proposed by him with such eagerness.
what could his "disappearance" be about? Could I have done something/ said something the last time we were together that possibly has suddenly turned him off? Is it even about me at all? could he just be doing his own thing with his friends and it not even cross his mind to give me a shout or ask how i am doing, or about my day?
it's a little confusing. But i definitely want to understand the best i can about this man. he is warm and has a heart of gold. it's just that I have never been pursued by someone so fast and passionately daily and then suddenly evaded. Im used to relationships where we would come to eachother with questions and concerns when we felt them, and work it out whether it was big or small, whether it took one minute, or a few hours. I am not saying I NEED this kind of behavior from a lover... i don't... i like the trait of a scorpio that they will take time for themselves and not expect ME to be at their beckoning call everyday... i too have my other friendships and hobbyie that our relationship allows time for. But when I have access to such a wonderful message board, with people who love to discuss these types of things... why not go for it and ASK! Utilize the tools im so lucky to have :]
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Just chill! Even though it's hard. I'm a Gem married to a Scorpio who sounds just like the one you're describing. When my Scorp is passionate about something, he stays that way. He doesn't disappear without reason, or play mind games, and has amazing integrity. Just breathe and wait and see what happens. Guys need space from time to time, and it doesn't mean it's personal.
BTW, although it may take a while, I promise you that you will eventually see his Scorpio-ness. It's in there, so be prepared to deal with some differences that will be challenging (but not impossible).
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Posted by EicalLiag
I'm just feeling confused... that this scorpio who was so eager to make it official with me, i hardly hear from anymore. O.K. granted it's only been since the 1st that i have really heard a peep from him.. but this is unlike any RELATIONSHIP i have been in. we are boyfriend and girlfriend as proposed by him with such eagerness.
what could his "disappearance" be about? Could I have done something/ said something the last time we were together that possibly has suddenly turned him off? Is it even about me at all? could he just be doing his own thing with his friends and it not even cross his mind to give me a shout or ask how i am doing, or about my day?
it's a little confusing. But i definitely want to understand the best i can about this man. he is warm and has a heart of gold......
i like the trait of a scorpio that they will take time for themselves and not expect ME to be at their beckoning call everyday... i too have my other friendships and hobbyie that our relationship allows time for.

He needs time to recharge and think about things... DON'T take his disapperances personally. While You may think that you are not on his mind, you DEFINITELY are spinning and churning in his mind, like the finest BUTTER. Its just after such a close, intimate and INTENSE time you two spent together on New Years, he sort of wants to just probably replaying, every moment and every word said ..in his mind -without distractions, or interruptions.
Let him be. He'll be back..
..for MORE. Winking
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oi.
I still havn't gotten together with him. hours ago he texted me while i was at work asking "tonight?" @ 6:45pm (a day and a half later he responds) i say "yes." @ 7:00.... then @ 9:00pm i announce i am off the clock and ready. what are we doing!
it's 11pm. no word. it went from gung ho to really lackluster. i just find the loose communication a little ....cruel?... disrepectful? eh.
oh alas. he speaks right now at 11. he's got a splitting headache. ahh, so do i ;]
maybe im just already POed because i started an awful antibiotic for 9 more days with absolutely NO alcohol... unless i want to get violently ill. and NO sex...
fuck yeah, im a little p.o.ed in general.
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Posted by EicalLiag
oi.
I still havn't gotten together with him. hours ago he texted me while i was at work asking "tonight?" @ 6:45pm (a day and a half later he responds) i say "yes." @ 7:00.... then @ 9:00pm i announce i am off the clock and ready. what are we doing!
it's 11pm. no word. it went from gung ho to really lackluster. i just find the loose communication a little ....cruel?... disrepectful? eh.
oh alas. he speaks right now at 11. he's got a splitting headache. ahh, so do i ;]
maybe im just already POed because i started an awful antibiotic for 9 more days with absolutely NO alcohol... unless i want to get violently ill. and NO sex...
fuck yeah, im a little p.o.ed in general.

...I seriously suggest you take a chill pill too.. take care of YOU. no need to get P.O-ed. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Space if OK from time to time.. CHILL.
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Haha. Ok. Chillin'.
A question for you scorps, enlighten me cause it's a little confusing..
If your in a new situation with a new man or woman, then you suddenly retract and not completely disappear but become distant, am I supposed to be distant right back? Naturally... I am! But is that what you'd want from you partner? To be just as distant?
I won't hold it against this Scorpio to have his time to do what it is he does... I get to do what I need to do! But part of a new relationship is getting to know each other more and enjoy each other lots. A relationship is a partnership and I just don't want to feel like the only heart in the game.
Cheers!
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Pardon my grammatical errors. I was typing and driving.... TISK TISK.
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Oh i found something so interesting. it brought along some peace for my active mind.
about scorpios and their disappearances. it's deeply written by many people and i wanted to share! since i seem to be dealing with a ghost-scorp now.
a thread within a thread... within a thread.
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/Understanding-the-scorpio-disappearance-2944702.asp
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With that being said, I ask you this...
"Am I supposed to be distant right back? Naturally... I am! But is that what you'd want from you partner? To be just as distant?"
Do you do this simply because he is? Because if so, You're not doing it for the same reason as your Scorpio. Whereas he is doing it to regain control over, and understand his own emotions... You use it as a manipluation tactic to evoke emotion from him, there by increasing the emotional turmoil he is already feeling.
So yes.. We want you to take the time ("retreat") to make sure you understand your own emotions, but not retreating in the sense that you are trying to give us a taste of our own medicine.
Give him time and he will come back full force with something even greater to offer, a better understanding of how he feels for you.


Thanks for that response, Dazed.
I am not retreating from him in return to manipulate or to get back at him for distancing himself from me. I do it because, i get the hint, so to speak. If he needs to have his space i can acknowledge it with an open mind as best i can. the last thing i would be caught doing no matter what your sign, or relation with me... is blowing that person up, it isn't in my makeup. I cant make rational sense of that reaction. Of course there are possible scenarios that surely involve particular people where this may not be the case. but for me, in general, it is.
However, I have never thought so much about it until I met and became involved with this Scorpio. Before him I had not known a Scorpio before. And after much reading of this sign, I just want to genuinely understand him, and do so with care.
Im having a little trouble expressing myself in writing. I really hope i'm coming off how I intend to. As I always say.. I don't know what I Am saying but I know what I am thinking.
thanks to everyone giving feedback
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