I've Never Seen You Cry

Posted by xMoonMan

Posted by PhoenixRising
I'm not sure if this is the safest place to share something like this, but I thought I'd throw it out there anyway and appreciate any thoughts you want to share

*There seems to be a typo in this sentance though, so I think you should delete this thread and start again

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
"I was wondering if other Scorps either feel the need to hide parts of themselves that make them feel vulnerable (not necessarily crying) from the people they care about."
Yes. All.The.Time.
"If you do, does this give off the wrong impression about you?"
Yes. I don't always get what I need from others. They always think I'm okay, even when I'm not
Which sucks sometimes, because sometimes I just want to show those parts and I go out of my way to hide them, then you just can't because you're afraid you'll scare people away.....because they aren't used to seeing that.
I always end up being okay with a time out away from others and a pep talk.....but it would be nice to have someone there. Just the presence would be nice. That is usually all I need for that moment.
I don't like crying in front of anyone and I always regret it if it happens (which is a very rare sighting). I feel embarrassed and like they see me as 'lesser' than how they seen me before.
I don't have a problem with people crying in front of me. I don't see them any different. I don't know why I feel that way when it comes to me.

Posted by xMoonMan

I like women who have some control over their emotions and don't shed tears at the drop of a hat. This doesn't mean, to me at least, that they are emotionless

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I remember one time, many years ago.....I had gotten a promotion at work. I was in my early twenties and scared shitless that I had bitten off more than I could chew. It was Sunday evening and I was due to start the next day and I was terrified that I would let people down.
I waited for everyone to go to sleep and went into the sitting room, curled up on the sofa with a blanket and quietly sobbed like a damn baby....lol. My SO, at the time, caught me. Scared the crap out of him.....he didn't know what to do or even how to console. He asked me if I was okay, I said yes (totally lying)....and he went off to bed. Just a hug would have helped to make it better, even though I couldn't ask for it....but when you are so 'tough' on the outside, you can inadvertently confuse people and make them uncomfortable when you do show tears or vulnerability.
Of course I pulled up my big girl panties and did a bang up job at my new position.....but that night before was horrible to have to go through alone.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
anyone else, not so close.....would have been given a distraction so they'd forget about the topic

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
it's always hard for me to explain how I 'feel' about something. how I 'think'....no problem.

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
A few months ago when I was in the middle of my existential crisis, I called my mother crying on the phone. She thanked me for trusting her with my emotions about my life. She did that because she very rarely sees me cry. This is my mother--whom I am very close with. I'm in my 40s. You do the math.
Couple thoughts on this subject.
1) I am always the strong one. The sounding board. The go-to person. For the ones I love.
2) Once, I let myself go there with the tears, there is an ocean of tears behind the first one which is why I have learned to not start because I know what's behind the first tear.
3) For me, its not about being vulnerable its mainly about number two ^^^^ up there. Once I start crying, I can go down the proverbial rabbit's hole of dark emotions. I prefer to do this on my own and in my own way.
Random thoughts.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
A few months ago when I was in the middle of my existential crisis, I called my mother crying on the phone. She thanked me for trusting her with my emotions about my life. She did that because she very rarely sees me cry. This is my mother--whom I am very close with. I'm in my 40s. You do the math.
Couple thoughts on this subject.
1) I am always the strong one. The sounding board. The go-to person. For the ones I love.
2) Once, I let myself go there with the tears, there is an ocean of tears behind the first one which is why I have learned to not start because I know what's behind the first tear.
3) For me, its not about being vulnerable its mainly about number two ^^^^ up there. Once I start crying, I can go down the proverbial rabbit's hole of dark emotions. I prefer to do this on my own and in my own way.
Random thoughts.