Losing My Mind over Scorpio male crush
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by thevirgovixen on Saturday, June 28, 2008 and has 15 replies.
Hi all,
I'm a newbie here and I need some advice. The problem is I have an unrequited fixation on this Scorpio male since last summer. I saw him from across the room at this party (last August) and he was looking at me in this piercing way (so Scorpio like) which compelled me to want to talk to him. I just got out of a 5 year relationship so I wasn't even interested in a romantic way but his spirit piqued my interest. Nevertheless he left the party 20 minutes after I initially spotted him so I never got to talk to him.
So I find out a little more about him and then message him on a social networking site (which is really out of my character; I'm kind of standoffish with people I don't know). So I initially told him that I wanted to get to know him but not in a romantic way (my site still stated that I was in a relationship even though I wasn't anymore) and he sent a lovely response back saying he was glad I wrote and to feel free to contact him at any time. So we had a couple more really good interactions but I told him about my undeserved bad reputation in college (based on a direct question that he asked) and then he sort of disappeared leaving me to wonder what was going on (he has a time consuming career and claimed to be busy). So I would sporadically message him from time to time, sometimes he would reply and sometimes he wouldn't. Anyways so over time I became obsessed with him and developed somewhat of a romantic crush (although I always expressed to him that I didn't like him in that way) and have wondered why he is so dismissive of me (at the risk of sounding narcissistic, people are usually drawn to me so him ignoring me was quite shocking).
Complicating matters even more is my admittedly strange behavior on the rare occasions I have seen him in person, I kind of go back to my general standoffish nature and say very little to him (while I'm quite persistent in my online messages to him). Plus on 2 out of the 3 occasions I've seen him, it might appear to him that I have flirted with other guys, which is because I talk to anyone (male or female) who talks to me first but I generally don't make the first move.
So anyways I got him this rare CD from this group that he really liked in February (which is another story because he really didn't want me to get it for him and preferred to get it himself but I did in the end) and gave it to him at this party that I knew he was going to be at. We didn't really talk at that party but he thanke
I'm a newbie here and I need some advice. The problem is I have an unrequited fixation on this Scorpio male since last summer. I saw him from across the room at this party (last August) and he was looking at me in this piercing way (so Scorpio like) which compelled me to want to talk to him. I just got out of a 5 year relationship so I wasn't even interested in a romantic way but his spirit piqued my interest. Nevertheless he left the party 20 minutes after I initially spotted him so I never got to talk to him.
So I find out a little more about him and then message him on a social networking site (which is really out of my character; I'm kind of standoffish with people I don't know). So I initially told him that I wanted to get to know him but not in a romantic way (my site still stated that I was in a relationship even though I wasn't anymore) and he sent a lovely response back saying he was glad I wrote and to feel free to contact him at any time. So we had a couple more really good interactions but I told him about my undeserved bad reputation in college (based on a direct question that he asked) and then he sort of disappeared leaving me to wonder what was going on (he has a time consuming career and claimed to be busy). So I would sporadically message him from time to time, sometimes he would reply and sometimes he wouldn't. Anyways so over time I became obsessed with him and developed somewhat of a romantic crush (although I always expressed to him that I didn't like him in that way) and have wondered why he is so dismissive of me (at the risk of sounding narcissistic, people are usually drawn to me so him ignoring me was quite shocking).
Complicating matters even more is my admittedly strange behavior on the rare occasions I have seen him in person, I kind of go back to my general standoffish nature and say very little to him (while I'm quite persistent in my online messages to him). Plus on 2 out of the 3 occasions I've seen him, it might appear to him that I have flirted with other guys, which is because I talk to anyone (male or female) who talks to me first but I generally don't make the first move.
So anyways I got him this rare CD from this group that he really liked in February (which is another story because he really didn't want me to get it for him and preferred to get it himself but I did in the end) and gave it to him at this party that I knew he was going to be at. We didn't really talk at that party but he thanke
Eeks sorry about that but to continue:
So then he messaged another thank you on the networkign site a couple days later and I asked him a question about the CD which he totally ignored (as I stated earlier, sometimes he just ignores my statements and questions very randomly). So I sent him this crazy email asking him why he sometimes ignores me or not and whether he wanted me to leave him alone back in March to which he has never responded. So I am a person who really hates to be ignored and strangely enough I think I have developed the fixation on him because of the fact that he doesn't seem intersted in me. I really want to know if there is any possible way that I can get him to like me at this point given the fact that he probably has this decidedly negtative opinion of me (I think me always bothering him on the internet, ignoring him in person and ultimately sending him a very lengthy and bizarre email might feel negative towards me).
Since then (March of this year) I have spent a lot of time secretly obsessing over the matter. He is a Scorpio (in fact his Sun, Mercury, Venus, Mars and Uranus is in Scorpio) and I am a Virgo. How can I proceed from here to make him like me, if it is even possible? Thanks in advance for any advice. I do realize how absolutely crazy that I sound because that is really how I feel right now
So then he messaged another thank you on the networkign site a couple days later and I asked him a question about the CD which he totally ignored (as I stated earlier, sometimes he just ignores my statements and questions very randomly). So I sent him this crazy email asking him why he sometimes ignores me or not and whether he wanted me to leave him alone back in March to which he has never responded. So I am a person who really hates to be ignored and strangely enough I think I have developed the fixation on him because of the fact that he doesn't seem intersted in me. I really want to know if there is any possible way that I can get him to like me at this point given the fact that he probably has this decidedly negtative opinion of me (I think me always bothering him on the internet, ignoring him in person and ultimately sending him a very lengthy and bizarre email might feel negative towards me).
Since then (March of this year) I have spent a lot of time secretly obsessing over the matter. He is a Scorpio (in fact his Sun, Mercury, Venus, Mars and Uranus is in Scorpio) and I am a Virgo. How can I proceed from here to make him like me, if it is even possible? Thanks in advance for any advice. I do realize how absolutely crazy that I sound because that is really how I feel right now
"How can I proceed from here to make him like me,"
Stop chasing him. God, you're like a virgin in heat.
"if it is even possible?"
Anything's possible hon...although the scorp male/virgo female connection tends not to make a connection.
Stop chasing him. God, you're like a virgin in heat.
"if it is even possible?"
Anything's possible hon...although the scorp male/virgo female connection tends not to make a connection.
""...although the scorp male/virgo female connection tends not to make a connection.""
- where do you get this stuff?
- where do you get this stuff?
Thank you for your advice newbie. The thing is I have stopped chasing him, as I mentioned before I last contacted him at the beginning of March to which he never responded but I clearly can't get over it. Anyways if anything is possible, how do you think I might go about winning him over?
Well hon, I dont even get that you really like this guy. It's more like you're obsessing cuz he doesnt seem interested in you.
It's like you're just trying to get him so you can win. And then what?
Is it really worth it?
It's like you're just trying to get him so you can win. And then what?
Is it really worth it?
Actually I can say that your assessment has a lot of truth to it. I think had he not just dismissed me like he did, I might have still liked him but definitely not to the extent of fixation. It would be more of a passing fancy. But right now I'm obsessed and it sort of is a winning thing for me, it really is a crush to the ego when you aren't like for seemingly no reason. It would be worth it to me both for my bruised ego and also because he seems like a really great guy when he's not ignorning me (and from what other people tell me).
Unless you know how to read a scorpio this is a game you really dont wanna be playing. The fact that you're on here asking for advice is proof enough that you dont know how to read them.
If your game is to hook him then dump him and you cant even predict what his next move will be, you've already lost...cuz he'll be waaaaaay ahead of you.
Just count this as a loss and move on. You really dont wanna be getting yourself into all that mind game drama.
If your game is to hook him then dump him and you cant even predict what his next move will be, you've already lost...cuz he'll be waaaaaay ahead of you.
Just count this as a loss and move on. You really dont wanna be getting yourself into all that mind game drama.
Maybe it's the Virgo in me, but I am quite persistent and clearly am having a hard time letting this go. Yes I admit that he has one upped me because I'm over here stressing out while he probably doesn't even think about the matter anymore but I don't mind getting involved in mind games. As long as there is something that I can do in order to lure him and get him to express an interest then that would be all I wanted.
This one is a bit comical to me, not to make light of your dilemma but you lost this game right off the bat; you contacted him and bought him a gift; game over if he's a reasonably astute typically traited Scorpio.
Staying in the game is admirable from a never say die point, but I think you will continue to lose and if not careful you'll end up with a special brand of cruelty that will leave you in tears. Just a heads up about game playing with a Scorpio that is true to his nature.
Staying in the game is admirable from a never say die point, but I think you will continue to lose and if not careful you'll end up with a special brand of cruelty that will leave you in tears. Just a heads up about game playing with a Scorpio that is true to his nature.
get over it VV. it's not relevant whether he is interested or not cos your behaviour has sent out some very confusing signals and scorpios don't like weirdness in anyone but themselves i'm afraid. like everyone, including yourself says, you want him cos you think you have to conquer him to get him interested. my guess is that if this happened, and you did attract his interest, that would be the split second you went off the idea totally.
you don't want him and he doesn't want you so why even waste the energy obsessing?
you don't want him and he doesn't want you so why even waste the energy obsessing?
earth + water = mud
what else would you expect anotherscorp? LOL
what else would you expect anotherscorp? LOL
hahahaha, so much negativity ...
Yep, listen to all my experienced students here..i know what i am teaching.
The bottom line is: you have a bigger chance winning him if you don't contact him at all, than going on with this.
Remember what almighty Hypno said.
The bottom line is: you have a bigger chance winning him if you don't contact him at all, than going on with this.
Remember what almighty Hypno said.
Sorry I didn't get back to this sooner but I am really busy throughout the work week. First let me clarify that I did NOT buy him a gift, I found the CD somewhere and purchased it for him (since it wasn't in an easily accessible location for him) and he reimbursed me.
Anyways I took what everyone (especially emeraldgem) said to heart and have decided to give it up. My ego is bruised but, like most inferred, I don't really (know him enough to) like HIM. I just wanted him to be interested in me so badly because it really bothers me to the core when someone isn't interested in me (not trying to sound conceited but honestly this has been my first brush with this kind of disinterest and it really threw me for a loop)...Oh well, thanks again everyone
Anyways I took what everyone (especially emeraldgem) said to heart and have decided to give it up. My ego is bruised but, like most inferred, I don't really (know him enough to) like HIM. I just wanted him to be interested in me so badly because it really bothers me to the core when someone isn't interested in me (not trying to sound conceited but honestly this has been my first brush with this kind of disinterest and it really threw me for a loop)...Oh well, thanks again everyone
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