Move on from Capricorn Man?

Hi guys, so I just recently posted my feelings towards this Capricorn man I've been seeing:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/scorpio-and-capricorn-4331881/

My sun sign is Scorpio, and my Venus is in Capricorn

His sun sign is Capricorn, and his Venus is in Aquarius, according to this website: http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/natal<BR>


Anyways, lately my Cappie has more distant than usual. I left him alone for a week, and when I did hang out with him, it wasn't for very long. We hung out for almost 3 hours, then I dropped him home, only to have one of his friends to take him back out. I have no problem with him hanging out with his friends, but just acknowledge me.

So just the other night we had a serious conversation about how we felt.

He was telling me it wasn't like he didn't have any feelings for me, but he said at the time he didn't feel like he was ready for a serious relationship. He thought by rushing in to it he would be, but he realized he wasn't. He also feels like I'm too good for him, even though I kept reassuring him that wasn't the case. Apparently other outside sources kept telling him that, like people from work, etc.
He also felt a bit pressured about going in to the relationship. People, like my mother (who is his boss) kept asking him questions like, "when are you going to ask her out?" He said he didn't want to make anyone mad or disappoint anyone by not going in to the relationship. So I told him he needs to think about what he wants, not how I'm going to feel or what other people think.

He told me that he never really had a girlfriend any more, and he was so used to being alone. He kept telling me that there wasn't anything wrong with me and that I was a nice person, but he would like to think for a while. He said that I can still call him whenever I want, and he will as well, and even try to call more. Even though it's just been a day, he texted me this morning "morning " (which he never really did before), and called me during the afternoon. All the conversation consisting of was him checking to see if I was alright, and asking if I ate. He also said if I ever needed anything I can always ask him.

Basically my question is, do you all think I should start moving on from this man? Do you think he's done with me? Or do I wait and see what happens?

Seems like a really nice guy...

You have to think about scaling back to create balance or move on to someone whose open and available for a real relationship.

I feel for the guy because he's working for your mom, feeling pressured to be with you because he needs his job and on the other side of him is friends etc telling him not to go there with you.

He's damned if he do and he's damned if he don't.

Have you ever thought about asking your mom to back off, stop pressuring him and you and allow things to fall in place naturally? Or is your mom the type that does not take no for an answer.

Basically you can thank your mom for jacking this up for you. Next time politely tell mom to back off and allow you to develop a relationship without outside influences.

We can't tell you to move on, I can tell you if I where you I'd move on to someone whose ready, it's easier to create a real relationship when both people want the same thing.

He's being friendly with you and even that seems forced. His job is at risk and he does not want to alienate you/hurt you risk losing his job and have to find a new job.

It's sweet of him to assure you but he's really unintentionally leading you on. He should move on and stop being scared of losing his job.

Typical Cap behavior to choose his job over a relationship LOL. Gotta love em.

Moving on is exactly what all the Caps are saying over in the Capricorn forum. 😛

Gotta love this quote by the way;

Posted by ellessque

he *will* keep contacting you.

caps are not like scorps....it's not black and white for them.

if he still sees you as a friend, he will not desert you. you just have to retrain your brain back to friend. any contact he makes is not necessarily an introduction back into relationship status.

I know that's confusing for scorpios. we usually cut things off with surgical precision 😛

Oh wow, it's been a while since I posted here.

Again, thanks for all of your advice a few months back.

Here's an update:

We're back together.

I finally decided to focus on me, after trying to show him I was there for him when he needed a friend. It seemed like he appreciated it. Then being the scorp I am, I decided to let him know I still had feelings for him (after 2 months of us being broken up) and that I wasn't expecting anything from him. He said "I still have feelings but..." and that's it. I had enough at that point, I really just wanted to move on, I didn't want to feel like this anymore.

I stopped talking to him after that, for a week and two days. Then, to my surprise I got a call from him at 1:22am. He said he had something important to say. So ended up picking me up from my house, and we went to a local hotel together (outside, on the beach)

Then he just grabbed me close, not giving me much of an option to refuse him. This happened a day before Christmas.

He spilled everything. "I always did love you, it's just that people made me feel like I wasn't good enough for you, but now I don't care what they have to say." and "You're the only person I want". All this felt like a Christmas miracle honestly. I finally decided to give up and focus on myself, then BAM, he comes right back.

For him tell me all of this, and not even initiate sex.. All he did was hold me close til the sun came up. He told me "I love you", and replied, telling him I loved him too. Then he held me tighter and said "I love you more".

He even got me a Christmas present.

So yeah.. we're back together, I'm more relaxed now, and trying to stop worrying so much. I love the fact he's with me even though he knows how I worry, and my insecurities.

I had a friend of his tell me, "He really cares about you, just give him some time. The reason why he keeps pushing you away the way he does is because he doesn't want to get hurt. Just continue being you. I've never seen him with a girl like this before."