My ex Scorpio

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Sasha31 on Monday, May 1, 2017 and has 4 replies.
So basically I (taurus female) dated a scorpio for three months. Before we started dating we hung out a lot and he was being really close and caring and I could sense that he liked me but at that time I did not share his feelings. We kept hanging out and after getting to know him better I fell for him hard. We got together and those were the most amazing months of my life. During our last week together he started being cold out of a sudden , he was treating others normally except me and I felt horribel , after a week like that I decided to call it quits and he just plainly agreed without saying anything, after a few days I texted him and he said that he did not act like that so I would break up with him but because he needed space. Anyways we did not talk for two months at all and now we casually hang out with some other friends , but he treats me differently than the others , like he is putting a barrier and not letting me close . Why is that?? He keeps saying that we can t be friends as we used to after dating , but I really do miss him as a friend and lover since I am in love with him... what should I do?? He went from " I hope us lasts and you make me happy " to being cold .. I forgot to mention the fact that we never argued and we never had a problem in the relationship,plus he is a year younger than me
Posted by Ellygant
You broke up with him. You severed the connection.
I did but before breaking up with him, one of my friends asked him what was wrong and if he doesn not like me anymore and the only thing he said was that he doesn't know
Posted by Ellygant
So you thought breaking up with him would make him chase you?

That rarely happens. Especially when the person said beforehand they needed space. You have him space. He's taking it.

You sound like you don't want to be with anyone who is unsure anyways. You could send a message saying you jumped the gun, were trying to avoid getting hurt and want to give it another shot. That would make things absolutely clear. But be prepared for getting turned away or ignored.

Regardless, the dynamic has changed. It cannot go backwards.


Thank you for the advice

I like the nice way Ellygant put it.

There's no easy way to deal with the cold shoulder but quite frankly sometimes we just don't want to be touched, spoken to or even like expressive noises made in our general direction. It's nothing personal other than needing personal space. Not distance in a relationship but just room to loosen the necktie off propriety and air out our skin. It's moody but it's also growth, the longer we're exposed to everything, the longer the time in between the spells.