My ex the nutjob

I'm actually still in disbelief as I type this. My ex has seriously lost the plot.

As some of you know I ended it last week because he said he didn't know what he wanted. All fairly civil at that point and no word since. Fine by me.

Saturday night I'm out with friends and we hit the club. Half an hour later I'm informed that my ex has just walked in with his pals. By this point I'm pretty drunk and having a great night, the club is mobbed and tons of my mates are out so I'm thinking it'll be fine just stay away from him pretend he's not there.

So it's all good, I'm having a blast and dancing away quite the thing and forget about my ex. Next thing I know he and his group of friends are right next to us on the dancefloor. I'm like ok whatever - bit put out but fuck it I'm not having my night ruined.

A good while later I'm checking my phone and there's a text from him - even though I asked him to delete my number last week as I did his - going on about me having one of my guy mates deliberately bang into him on the dancefloor. I'm seriously like WTF are you talking about. He's clearly drunk and going on about how he's at home now I know his address send my guy mate round and he'll "take his head clean off" lol. I text back saying look my guy friends don't even know who the fuck you are. Besides you're in a club on the dancefloor, it's mobbed, people are drunk. Get over it.

He then starts his usual pish. Hinting at me coming round, saying I fuck his head up. I just ignore him.

But the whole of yesterday the more I think about it the madder I get. So I text him this morning just saying I don't expect a repeat of saturday night if we ever see each other out again i.e. making wild accusations and booty calling me, which btw I tell him could easily be avoided by him actually deleting my number like I told him to and could he please just do it now and leave me be.

Well I just got a text there saying "leave me alone, I'm with someone else now! And you did get your mate to start on me in the club so don't lie"

This guy is actually deluded. He's with someone else. Yeah that's why I was getting all that crap Saturday night. It's clear to me now that this is being said to hurt me, because he's been hurt by my "rejection" of him Saturday night in refusing his booty call and not taking his crap. The fact that he feels he has to stoop to that level though is beyond me.

I got my mate to bang into him on the dancefloor.

I mean Seriously.

Deluded.

To be honest I was just so baffled when I got it I didn't know what he was talking about.

I have seriously never met anyone so mental in all my life.

I wish he would just let it go and let me move fucking on.

Tell me this.....what kind of a weirdo makes up crap like that anyway just to get a rise out of someone?

It's pathetic.

Sorry not having a go at you I'm just fed up of it all.

I've dated Scorps before and two of my best guy friends were Scorps (although one has now sadly passed) and none of them hit me with this kind of shit.

I'm just sick of it already. Doesn't help that he now lives in the same town as me having moved here just over a month ago so the chances of us bumping into each other regularly are pretty high. I just cannot handle him kicking up some sort of drama every time he's had a drink or he sees me out enjoying myself.

I just find it really stressful because I'm trying to get on with my life and last year was stressful enough with my friend passing away that I just want a quiet life.

I honestly cannot believe that he would take pleasure in doing this.

Sorry guys just needed to vent and this is as good a place as any.

The reason I responded is because at the time I thought maybe someone had started on him and I wanted to know who it was and had it had anything to do with me then clear it up. Not that my mates would do that but I was drunk and had no idea why he would just come out with something like that.

And I did delete his number, it was just obvious it was him. He's the only one who ever sends me crazy drunken texts.

I know what you are saying but I still stand by the fact. To stoop to the level he has. Scorpio or not. He's a fucking nutjob and I am well shot of him.

I don't see how anyone can justify his behaviour.

Just because he knows how to push my buttons doesn't mean he should.

He should have some respect.

That's what I don't understand though he didn't bloody want me!

So what I'm not allowed to go out and enjoy myself he expects me to sit at home like some pathetic little girl sobbing into my pillow over him? I don't think so.

Well according to him he's with someone else now, although I'm pretty sure that's lies once again to get another reaction. I actually hope he has met someone else cos then he can be her problem and not mine.

...but if the thinks he has any kind of chance of getting at you....he'll repeatedly try, try and try harder.

Ellessque, why would he do this? does he still want her? just curious. I know someone with a Scorp/Venus that would act in ways not too dissimilar, especially with a drink or maybe when he can't see her for a week or two....they're not a couple but have a history

Elle if that is really what this is all about then he is a bigger loser than I thought and seriously good luck to him if that's how he's going to behave....he's no longer a man in my eyes and I have lost any respect I may have had for him.

I'm kinda glad now that this has happened because he won't get to do it again. I don't care if he texts me to say he's about to put a noose round his neck I won't be responding.

He disgusts me.

Posted by Mr Nice
Nah I am, scorpio this just aint my style . Just be straight he will stop after a while. Once you find someone else I am sure he will stop. Peace!

See I know others who aren't like this at all.

I mean I know others also who aren't like that Mr Nice.

Seriously, if any of you ladies ever meet a Scorp sun, venus, mercury, libra moon, aquarius rising and capricorn mars I have one word for you.

RUN.

I don't really get on great with Gemini men. My biological dad is one and we're not that close.

Thanks though. 🙂

Posted by ellessque
lol @ pisces moon. love those. 😉

the thing about scorpios that don't know themselves or understand who they are, there are usually two conclusions....

1. They plow thru life, and people, thinking everyone thinks and feels like them. Making no apologies for behaving like an ass.

or

2. They believe they are so abnormal or weird for feeling the way they feel and they retreat into themselves never discovering their true beauty and gifts.

Yeah he's definitely the 1st. Thing is I did always get the feeling he had insecurity issues. But he seems to react to fear with arrogance rather than actually try and address why he feels insecure in the first place.

Posted by MissPirate
Tell me this.....what kind of a weirdo makes up crap like that anyway just to get a rise out of someone?

It's pathetic.

My ex weirdo does. He was my first scorp and it was a very intense relationship. When we were physically in each other's company it was great. He treated me wonderfully. The second we were out of each others sight he wanted to know who was coming up to me. He also accused me of being a slut, after asking me about my online dating experience. I simply had a meet and greet with 2 guys within an hours timeframe. While I was in the mall waiting to meet Guy A, Guy B calls and I innocently say I'm at the mall, when he asked what I was doing. His response..."great! I'm five minutes away, I'll see you soon. I was in a panic. So, to make a long story short after all was said and done I thought the whole ordeal was funny, because I was new to dating and online dating, but it wasn't funny at the time. So, weirdo ex would excuse me of doing sleazy stuff all the time.

If you don't trust me, then why be with me. His lame azz response...I do trust you, but I know other men are trying to hit on you.

I was so glad when he disappeared on his own accord.

Sounds like a scorpio to me 😛 Jealous much?

...and of course he was confused. His emotions were all jumbled up. Which basically means he was getting feelings for you. And you dumped him. Welcome to the stinger.

Your friend bumped into him, and he took offense at your friend and thus you.

YOUR FRIEND BUMPED INTO HIM!

If his friend knocked your friend down, would you just brush it off?

LoL at what part of the day do you start caring, only when you want to?

NICE!

if you want a scorpio to leave you alone. IGNORE them. treat them like a lepor

Posted by heroic_guy
Your friend bumped into him, and he took offense at your friend and thus you.

YOUR FRIEND BUMPED INTO HIM!

If his friend knocked your friend down, would you just brush it off?

LoL at what part of the day do you start caring, only when you want to?

NICE!

No my friend did not bump into him. Someone did and he assumed it was one of my friends.

As I said to him, it's a club, it's busy, you're on the dancefloor, people are drunk and will bump into you.

GET OVER IT.

Posted by DMV
if you want a scorpio to leave you alone. IGNORE them. treat them like a lepor

I know that now and I will.

He just played on the one thing he knew would get me......the need to defend myself. I absolutely hate being accused of something I've not done and will go out of my way to my innocence.

I suppose whatever he accuses me of from now on I need to just ignore and say to myself he can think what he wants I know the truth.

Funny when I think back now he's done this a few times before......and gotten the exact reaction he wants. Me initially incredulous then having to explain myself.

Elle was right, I played right into his hands. What a fucking idiot.

Posted by pigeonpie
All I'm saying is when choose the moment when you show who's really the boss wisely, and with a bit of flair.
"I got someone new before you nya!" ??
That's weeeaaakkkk 😛

My mate reckons that's bullshit anyway and has only been said because I rejected his advances on Saturday night and was jealous of me dancing with other guys (mates I might add not that it's any of his business).

Tries to get me to come and see him and then announces he's with someone else within 24 hours?

Sure.

Posted by Pesca2

Posted by MissPirate
I honestly cannot believe that he would take pleasure in doing this.

he does not know how else to approach you. it's a helpless cry actually. imo: you should have not responded at all. or given him fuel, although i know how tempting it can be to prove one's pov. 😉 but through your reaction he felt confirmed in what he was doing.

the scorpio i wrote about a while ago over here sent me a message a few weeks ago (although i deleted him from facebook) his only comment was "Nothing" - geez.

scorpios, they are one of a kind i must say. 🙂

when they??re good they??re wonderful, but when they??re bad they??re horrid.

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This one is one of a kind that's for sure. This has not been my previous experience with Scorpio men! I split from one about 2 years ago and while it wasn't the best split there was none of this vindictiveness. We both just got on with it and stayed out of each others way. No issues whatsoever.

Posted by heroic_guy
Your friend bumped into him, and he took offense at your friend and thus you.

YOUR FRIEND BUMPED INTO HIM!

If his friend knocked your friend down, would you just brush it off?

LoL at what part of the day do you start caring, only when you want to?

NICE!

Oh and for the record. If his friend (or anyone else) deliberately bumped into me they'd be called on it there and then and be asked what the fuck they thought they were doing. 🙂