Need advice on scorpio woman!

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Sagii08 on Sunday, July 26, 2015 and has 10 replies.
I need some advice. I am a Sagittarius guy and I just recently started talking to a Scorpio woman. So we have known each other from her coming into my former place of work and saying hi. She had a bf and the time so I never got the chance to really pursue her. Although near the end of her relationship, we did go out on a date. It was great for both of us but as I mentioned before her bf kept her from doing anything more. Afterwards, some years go by without much communication. So just recently we got back into contact with each other. We went out on an few dates, I visited her home, everything was good. We used to text everyday and even end the night with phone calls. One day I get mad at her and assumed that she was ignoring me because a few of my texts go unanswered. She doesn't say much about the little incident but now nothing is the same. She told me before she needed time for us, for herself. I stop contacting her and let a few days go by. She sends good morning so I'm assuming she has had some time to think about things. I ask questions about how she feels about us. She responds the next day saying I'm too invasive and nitpicks at everything she says. She only wanted small talk, and somehow It always ended up being about us. She says it's too bad because she likes me and if I would have given her more time it would have been a different outcome but doesn't think it will work out. The next day I text her just to see if she would respond and she did.

My question is should I still pursue her? She hasn't given me the complete scorpio freeze out. We are still friends on Facebook and like I said, she still responded to my text. Or should I just leave it alone? There has been no contact since my last text to see if she would respond.
Posted by PhoenixRising
Hmmm. Tends to be case by case. Depends on the person, the mood, the day of the week..... etc.

In general if I'm paying attention and responding, I am interested.

Posted by Sagii08She responds the next day saying I'm too invasive and nitpicks at everything she says. She only wanted small talk, and somehow It always ended up being about us. She says it's too bad because she likes me and if I would have given her more time it would have been a different outcome but doesn't think it will work out.


She straight out told you what she wants and what she thinks. Respect her honesty, and give her space. If she wants to give you a try again, she will let you know. She didn't freeze you out after telling you what she thought, so ride the friend wave and get to know each other better. At least she thought enough of you and put it on the table.
pluto. lol. double trouble.
Posted by Sagii08
...We went out on an few dates, I visited her home, everything was good. We used to text everyday and even end the night with phone calls. One day I get mad at her and assumed that she was ignoring me because a few of my texts go unanswered. She doesn't say much about the little incident but now nothing is the same. She told me before she needed time for us, for herself. I stop contacting her and let a few days go by. She sends good morning so I'm assuming she has had some time to think about things.

Stop assuming so much. It tends to lead people to making the situation more than it is because you're reacting to whatever you've created in your mind and not "what is".

Posted by Sagii08
... she has had some time to think about things. I ask questions about how she feels about us. She responds the next day saying I'm too invasive and nitpicks at everything she says. She only wanted small talk, and somehow It always ended up being about us. She says it's too bad because she likes me and if I would have given her more time it would have been a different outcome but doesn't think it will work out. The next day I text her just to see if she would respond and she did.

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In other words, she was rubbed the wrong way when you reacted to your assumption and it's made her take a step back. "Take a step back" for her was the "small talk" comment (aka liked get to know you first and take it slow) and you were ready to jump in head first like nothing happened. So she's simply cut it off at the knees.

Trouble is, once a fixed sign had made up their mind about you very little can change it. Never say never though. One of my best relationships started out rocky, meaning it went to sh*t before it even really started. Several month later we finally got together because we grew to be best friends and trusted each other. So my suggestion is no, don't "pursue" her. Slow down and simply be her friend. The more you push the more she'll dig in. She's responding to you now because to some degree she still likes you, but that can change if you become a nuance. Get to know her so she sees a side of you outside of a romantic context and the trust will grow. Be sure to tone down the prying (e.g. "invasive") as she will open up when ready.
Patience is not really a big thing we sagittarius have. I feel like I have waited for years for this woman to be available. I am willing to wait for her more but my 'waiting' would consist of seeing other women. Im not sure how to just be her friend right now when currently we have no contact. Honestly I would stop talking to any other woman I was seeing if she decided she wanted to have something more. I have yet to see the jealous, possessive side of her yet so idk how that would work out but I really like this woman. I have heard many scorpio woman don't like guys to come on too strong initially, which I may have done, but it was reciprocated so everything was all good. I feel like if I completely ignore this woman and do what I do, then she'll come pursuing me. When she is ready for something serious I may just want not want a relationship, just sex because I kinda threw myself in head first which I never normally do. She really had me and I don't think she knew it. So maybe I should just leave the entire situation alone?
*eye roll* clumsy thumbs I hid my last post by mistake:

^^^It requires patience. Something you may need to develop. It works in your favour. As she opens up and begins to trust you she will be telling you indirectly how she feels and you can change gears. Before you do, be sure to talk to her about it to ensure you're both on the same page.

I am only suggesting this approach because she drew her line in the sand. To ignore that probably won't give you the results you desire. It also sounds like her decision to end things was more due to disappointment vs disinterest. Show her the other side of you---the side that wrote this thread, which Sags don't often do enough.
Posted by Sagii08
Patience is not really a big thing we sagittarius have.

Un huh...:

Posted by PhoenixRising
...Something you may need to develop.

It's really is up to you. How has your lack of patience been working out for you so far?

Posted by Sagii08
I feel like I have waited for years for this woman to be available. I am willing to wait for her more but my 'waiting' would consist of seeing other women. Im not sure how to just be her friend right now when currently we have no contact. Honestly I would stop talking to any other woman I was seeing if she decided she wanted to have something more.

1) the fact that you've been waiting for her to be available means absolutely nothing. Relationship do not happen just because you have an agenda and they definitely can't be rushed just because one person has been waiting and clearly building expectations about what it should be.

2) No one suggested you "wait" for anyone. Friendship is not the same as waiting. It's friendship. Period. An opportunity to get to know each other better, develop trust so she no longer feels like you're prying or being intrusive and just opens up. If that something you can't develop then it says a lot.

Date whomever you want. If you end up meeting someone else then so be it. She did end things after all. Besides, you've already stated you can't be her friend, so there really isn't anything else to sort out.

Posted by Sagii08
...I feel like if I completely ignore this woman and do what I do, then she'll come pursuing me. When she is ready for something serious I may just want not want a relationship, just sex because I kinda threw myself in head first which I never normally do. She really had me and I don't think she knew it. So maybe I should just leave the entire situation alone?
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After reading your responses I would agree with leaving it alone.

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Posted by Sagii08

...I feel like if I completely ignore this woman and do what I do, then she'll come pursuing me. When she is ready for something serious I may just want not want a relationship, just sex because I kinda threw myself in head first which I never normally do. She really had me and I don't think she knew it. So maybe I should just leave the entire situation alone?

After reading your responses I would agree with leaving it alone.
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I agree.

She's made up her mind.
I don't think she will pursue you. Maybe a small hello at some point of time. Out of curiocity. Or to check for sex supply (in case she is that kind of girl). But pursue? I don't think so. Scorpio and Capricorn have a high self-control.

You write: "When she is ready for something serious I may just want not want a relationship, just sex"
What is this? Philosphy? Hopelessness? Threat?
What if she had a much higher emotional intelligence and knew you would be discouraged so easily and changed from the the good guy to the demoralized one?
Not that I enthrone her. I don't like it when A tortures B until B shows his true colors. And I don't like it if B becomes demoralized and a mass murderer because somebody tortured him.
You don't have to wait for her. Or pursue her. Or understand her. Or be compatible with her.

Let your feeling for her lead you. Over the time.

You need to keep yourself together no matter what.

Try to clarify for yourself what was that you liked about her. The fact that she did judge you (challenge by provocation)? Her appearance? Her sex drive? Her healer soul? What was it what other girls don't have?