New Virgo to the boards.....
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by SouthernT on Thursday, September 13, 2007 and has 12 replies.
Hey everyone, I'm new around here and I will try to keep this as brief as humanly possible. Met a male scorpio almost a year ago at a group outing at a restaraunt. A couple of days later, he got my number from another girl that was there and started to call me constistently about every other day for almost a month and a half. Turns out, I met him right after he and his fiance broke up. Then out of no where, no contact. Month and a half goes by, he invites me out to another group setting and says to me "the reason I invited you out is because I wanted to apologize to you face-to-face about the way I handled things. My ex and I were stil going through drama and I didnt want you to have to deal with that. And I also did it because I was really starting to like you alot." So, I decided to proceed with him. (but with much caution) All of this took place in January. And every since then, it's been a repeat of him coming on and pulling back. (about every 3 weeks or so.) But each time he comes around, we get just a little closer and closer. A couple of weeks ago, he invited me to his house and it would have been the first time that we would have been alone.(I've been there several times before, but other people were always there) We set a date and time. So I called him at that time, he had his phone turned off. Then he signed on to instant messenger and didnt say a word to me. I text him the next day and his reply was "I am so sorry. I was playing basketball and got hit in the head and it aggravated an old head injury that I have." So, of course i dont buy it, but I simply say to him "well, I'm sorry to hear that, hope you feel better."
Then he calls me out the blue and tells me to get dressed he's coming to get me. In the car, I explain to him that I was hesitant to come over and spend time with him because I didnt understand his intentions with me. His response "I'm a good guy and I have nothing but good intentions". So, he takes me back home and kisses my hand before we get out of the car and says "It was nice spending time with you and I hope I get to see you again real soon". (and also during that time he mentioned that he was very vulnerable right now.)I've noticed several things about him since knowing him in this past year 1) He likes to intiate ALL things and does not respond when I attempt to intiate. (phone calls, outings) 2)he's alot more sensitive then I would have ever imagined. Example: we were joking around one day and he "jokingly" called me an Idiot. so, the next conversation when we were joking around, I jokingly called him "numb-nutts" and he got super quiet and serious out of no where. It just seems like he has to have TOTAL control. And me being a Virgo, I can adapt to that, but only after trust and consistantcy has been established. I have to trust 100% in order to give him that control. So after that entire spill, CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THIS SCOPRIO? And to top it off, we have NOT even had sex yet...
"......Time pass....."
lol....huh?
lol....huh?
"I am so sorry. I was playing basketball and got hit in the head and it aggravated an old head injury that I have." --this sounds like a typical attempt to provoke sympathy from you, he sounds really insecure. Theres a scorpio guy who used to do this to me, he'd ignore me then 'woo' me then insult me then make up stories and excuses about his behaviour. such a typical attempt to confuse me into submission. i think he may be doing that to you.
And going silent and brooding after a joke, i think that is extreme insecurity lurking beneath the surface. uh huh. infact it seems well above the surface lol, my ex was just like that. u should find out what his moon and venus are in.
And going silent and brooding after a joke, i think that is extreme insecurity lurking beneath the surface. uh huh. infact it seems well above the surface lol, my ex was just like that. u should find out what his moon and venus are in.
ummm hey i hope that helps you, SouthernT. You may probably fully disagree, but this is just what i know of the confusing scorpio male. it usually is insecurity.. which is so hard to fix in them...
Are you sure he's not an Aqua? Probably has an Aqua moon. Sounds just like my Aqua.
Thanks soooo much for the responses so far. I know it was pretty long explanation...lol
"don't you just hate games like that?"
See....that's just it.....Virgo's do not entertain mind games.(i.e. give the response that is expected by the original game player) We can not stand mind games, not because we are not smart enough to play along, but because they are simply not necessary and are a waste of idle time. We are MUCH smarter than that. We will sit back and let you "think" that you are running the show and we will simply let you dig yourself in a big hole. But that aplies to life in general. Now in this circumstance, my Scorpio is giving me "mental stimulation", which we Virgo's crave on a daily basis. I guess what irkes me is this: All of his year long "mind game" playing is going to get him the EXACT same result that he would get if he didnt play games. Which is: I would have fallen for him regardless. So why exert all of that energy to arrive back at the same conclusion that was there all along? Scorpios need to realize that "testing" is not necessary with Virgo. And the reason being is because Virgo does not entertain people that we are not interested in, period. If we accept a date from you, then that says ALOT. We are honest people and never have bad intentions.
Now I will admit, the first month when I met him, he threw me off just a little. But after that, I can read him so very clearly. I knew within the first two conversations that he was a sensitive man. Virgo is very intuitive. I just feel that this whole process is taking much longer than it has to. But it doesnt change the fact that he definately has a hold on my heart.....And if his "testing" is giving him the peace of mind that he needs...then so be it. But to Virgo, its not a test to us. We will pass with flying colors with not effort simply because that's just who we are as people. We are good people.
"don't you just hate games like that?"
See....that's just it.....Virgo's do not entertain mind games.(i.e. give the response that is expected by the original game player) We can not stand mind games, not because we are not smart enough to play along, but because they are simply not necessary and are a waste of idle time. We are MUCH smarter than that. We will sit back and let you "think" that you are running the show and we will simply let you dig yourself in a big hole. But that aplies to life in general. Now in this circumstance, my Scorpio is giving me "mental stimulation", which we Virgo's crave on a daily basis. I guess what irkes me is this: All of his year long "mind game" playing is going to get him the EXACT same result that he would get if he didnt play games. Which is: I would have fallen for him regardless. So why exert all of that energy to arrive back at the same conclusion that was there all along? Scorpios need to realize that "testing" is not necessary with Virgo. And the reason being is because Virgo does not entertain people that we are not interested in, period. If we accept a date from you, then that says ALOT. We are honest people and never have bad intentions.
Now I will admit, the first month when I met him, he threw me off just a little. But after that, I can read him so very clearly. I knew within the first two conversations that he was a sensitive man. Virgo is very intuitive. I just feel that this whole process is taking much longer than it has to. But it doesnt change the fact that he definately has a hold on my heart.....And if his "testing" is giving him the peace of mind that he needs...then so be it. But to Virgo, its not a test to us. We will pass with flying colors with not effort simply because that's just who we are as people. We are good people.
"u should find out what his moon and venus are in."
I'm not too familiar with moon/venus. I can tell you that his birthday is on Oct. 27th
I'm not too familiar with moon/venus. I can tell you that his birthday is on Oct. 27th
DROP HIM~ REMEMBER THAT THE ONLY WAY HE GETS TOTAL CONTROL IS WHEN HE HAS IT OVER HIMSELF, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. YOU SHOULD BE THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS TOTAL CONTROL OVER YOURSELF AS WELL. LOTS OF GUYS DO THAT, HAVING NOTHING TO DO WITH THEIR SIGN, PLAY THAT GAME... IT IS A FORM OF CONDITIONING. THE MAN IS TRYING TO CONDITION YOU INTO RESPONDING AND ACCEPTING HIM THE WAY HE WANTS U TOO, INSTEAD OF ALLOWING YOU TO BE THE JUDGE OF WHAT YOU PLAN TO COTROL AND ACCEPT IN YOUR LIFE. SEE I WOULD QUICKLY FLIP THE script AND MAKE IT COMPLETELY ABOUT MYSELF... SEE , THAT MAN IS COMPLETELY MAKING IT ABOUT HIS SELF THATS WHY HE'S NOT SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF. YOU NEED TO MAKE IT ALL ABOUT YOU~ THEN SEE HOW ANY MAN RESPONDS TO THAT. REMEMBER HE'S THE SQURELL TRYING TO GET A NUT, YOU'RE THE JUILE. GIRL I HAVE HAD THAT HAPPEN TO ME AND ENDED UP GETTING CAUGHT THE F**** UP. THINK ABOUT IT , WHY IS IT THAT MEN NEVER GET CAUGHT UP THAT WAY? MEN TRY TO CONDITION US HOW TO BEAT TO THEIR DRUM. WELL, CHEMISTRY IS EVERYTHING , THIRST IS NOTHING,.. !! IMA TELL U ONCE AND FOR ALL, NO WHAT YOU WANT AND STAND UP FOR IT, AND WATCH THE MAN FLOCK TO WHAT YOUR ABOUT, OR FLOCK AWAY~
AND HIS B0DAY IS OCT 27TH, THOSE MOODY ASS OCT SCORPIOS NEVER MAKE SENSE. THERE NOT ALWAYS TRUE SCORPIOS YA KNOW
You're right archer ,he is on hormone replacements, he's a twisted scorpio his self. what type of scorpio says racist things. Most scorpios are understnding of all things in the world, never being narrow minded , but always level headed.
"AND HIS B0DAY IS OCT 27TH, THOSE MOODY ASS OCT SCORPIOS NEVER MAKE SENSE. THERE NOT ALWAYS TRUE SCORPIOS YA KNOW"
He is VERY moody. And I thought females were the only ones allowed to be that moody. But you are probably right about him trying to "condition" me. A couple of days after I started this thread, he asked me to come over. And that was my opp. to let him know exactly what has been on my mind. He asked me to come over and I told him "NO" and he asked why not. So I proceeded to tell him that he wasnt putting forth nearly enough effort and that he is not showing me enough. And he said "you're right, I havent been" I told him that it's not acceptable to me for me and him to hang out and then I dont hear from him for 3 or 4 weeks and that there was no excuse he could give me for that. Again he says "I understand." And then he says "would you like for me to call you everyday?"
And I told him no, everyday is not necessary (because we are still getting to know eachother and I dont want to crowd his space that fast.)But I continued to explain to him that he does not have to call EVERY single day, but 3 weeks of no contact is not acceptable. So I hope that he gets the point and will now start to actually pursue me the way that he should, now that I've spoken my mind about it. What's up with that? Is that just a "GUY" thing or is it a "Scorpio" game? I've always been in a long term relationship and I've never had to actually get out in the dating world until now...
He is VERY moody. And I thought females were the only ones allowed to be that moody. But you are probably right about him trying to "condition" me. A couple of days after I started this thread, he asked me to come over. And that was my opp. to let him know exactly what has been on my mind. He asked me to come over and I told him "NO" and he asked why not. So I proceeded to tell him that he wasnt putting forth nearly enough effort and that he is not showing me enough. And he said "you're right, I havent been" I told him that it's not acceptable to me for me and him to hang out and then I dont hear from him for 3 or 4 weeks and that there was no excuse he could give me for that. Again he says "I understand." And then he says "would you like for me to call you everyday?"
And I told him no, everyday is not necessary (because we are still getting to know eachother and I dont want to crowd his space that fast.)But I continued to explain to him that he does not have to call EVERY single day, but 3 weeks of no contact is not acceptable. So I hope that he gets the point and will now start to actually pursue me the way that he should, now that I've spoken my mind about it. What's up with that? Is that just a "GUY" thing or is it a "Scorpio" game? I've always been in a long term relationship and I've never had to actually get out in the dating world until now...
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