Normal for Male Sun Scorpio to Constantly Brag?
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I have a question about a male Sun Scorpio I work with who consistently brags about how wonderful his marriage and wife is to me. We work for the same company in two different locations and have monthly status meetings. The meetings can last from an hour to an hour and a half depending on what is happening within the company.
However, majority of the time he is talking about his wife (her relatives, her work), what they did as a couple, or what they are going to do. Mind you we've come a long way in our working relationship, we've worked together for about 8 years and only in the last two he has become friendly enough to talk to me. Before, he ignored me as if I didn't exist. He claimed he was an introvert, I always labeled him a stuck up snob. But now he's over-talkative. I understand he loves his wife, but 'geesh'.
Is this normal for a Scorpio? I thought y'all were a secretive bunch.
90% of the meeting is him, 7% work related meeting, 2% general discussion, and 1% me (I'm extroverted but I still don't talk about myself to him--only to very, very, very close friends). He questions me alot wanting to know stuff about me and my family...I feel like I'm in an interrogation.
He's been this way since we got into a disagreement and I told him I was a brutally honest person whatever I think I would say to his face and not behind his back.
He used to always cancel our meetings, and after the blow up and makeup he arranges every meeting and hasn't cancelled one since. Once I had to cancel, and he rearranged his schedule in order for us to meet that month.
I am a single, female, but it just makes me uncomfortable. I have worked alot of male colleagues before who casually mentioned their wives in meetings, but usually it was a joke about something they had done to make her mad or something. Not to the length or extent as this co-worker. It's like he's looking for a reaction from me or wanting me to say something.
As a Gemini Sun / Virgo Rising / Aries Moon, I'm just wondering what the reason and logic is behind it---is that topic his "security blanket" and brings him comfort, is it a braggart mechanism that Scorpios have (I've researched) and can't find that part of the personality though, or something else.
As far as I know, I don't think he does this with any co-worker but me.
Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.
However, majority of the time he is talking about his wife (her relatives, her work), what they did as a couple, or what they are going to do. Mind you we've come a long way in our working relationship, we've worked together for about 8 years and only in the last two he has become friendly enough to talk to me. Before, he ignored me as if I didn't exist. He claimed he was an introvert, I always labeled him a stuck up snob. But now he's over-talkative. I understand he loves his wife, but 'geesh'.
Is this normal for a Scorpio? I thought y'all were a secretive bunch.
90% of the meeting is him, 7% work related meeting, 2% general discussion, and 1% me (I'm extroverted but I still don't talk about myself to him--only to very, very, very close friends). He questions me alot wanting to know stuff about me and my family...I feel like I'm in an interrogation.
He's been this way since we got into a disagreement and I told him I was a brutally honest person whatever I think I would say to his face and not behind his back.
He used to always cancel our meetings, and after the blow up and makeup he arranges every meeting and hasn't cancelled one since. Once I had to cancel, and he rearranged his schedule in order for us to meet that month.
I am a single, female, but it just makes me uncomfortable. I have worked alot of male colleagues before who casually mentioned their wives in meetings, but usually it was a joke about something they had done to make her mad or something. Not to the length or extent as this co-worker. It's like he's looking for a reaction from me or wanting me to say something.
As a Gemini Sun / Virgo Rising / Aries Moon, I'm just wondering what the reason and logic is behind it---is that topic his "security blanket" and brings him comfort, is it a braggart mechanism that Scorpios have (I've researched) and can't find that part of the personality though, or something else.
As far as I know, I don't think he does this with any co-worker but me.
Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.
Can anyone give me advice?
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I know Scorpios are on the forum. No one wants to explain this personality trait or characteristic to me? Is there a secret rule not to talk about it with non-Scorpios? LOL!
He just needs some form of ego boost. Ignore him.
Maybe he loves his wife that much
Remember when we do they are our everything
Thus he enjoys talking about her
But the whole meeting? Isn't that what his guy friends are for---to brag, talk crap and stuff? I'm just a co-worker, just trying to get through a meeting, and move on to the next thing on my to do list.
If the shoe was on the other foot, I would not be telling him about Mr. Right and so forth and so on...I'm just saying. Again, this is just the Gemini inquisitive side asking.
Remember when we do they are our everything
Thus he enjoys talking about her
But the whole meeting? Isn't that what his guy friends are for---to brag, talk crap and stuff? I'm just a co-worker, just trying to get through a meeting, and move on to the next thing on my to do list.
If the shoe was on the other foot, I would not be telling him about Mr. Right and so forth and so on...I'm just saying. Again, this is just the Gemini inquisitive side asking.
Posted by DistilledO...k...that's a whole different perspective on the situation. Hadn't even thought of it from that viewpoint. Glad I asked y'all after all.
He respects you. It's taken years. He's still a human though.
Don't cross the line and become weak.
He may become a true friend.
Don't change yourself.
Thanks!
Posted by gemvirgoariesHe sounds like he's in love with her. What's wrong with that??
Can anyone give me advice?
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Posted by gemvirgoariesThat doesn't sound like bragging to me.
I have a question about a male Sun Scorpio I work with who consistently brags about how wonderful his marriage and wife is to me.
However, majority of the time he is talking about his wife (her relatives, her work), what they did as a couple, or what they are going to do.
"It's like he's looking for a reaction from me".
Not everything is about you. Calm your tits.
Not everything is about you. Calm your tits.
Posted by EtherealTravelerI was thinking this too
He just needs some form of ego boost. Ignore him.
OR
He knows I can go 0 - 60 mph (Aries in Moon), so maybe he was trying to rattle my cage again. It's more perplexing and confusing me (bringing out the Gemini & Virgo wanting to solve the puzzle) than angering me (Aries).
I growled at him once on the phone and he growled back, but immediately changed the subject. The second time was in person, I tried to hold my tongue but I confronted him on something and he immediately worked "the charm" for me to retract my fangs and claws (or so he thought).
Posted by gemvirgoariesJust avoid him like the plague and soon he'll be hurt and lose interest.Posted by EtherealTravelerI was thinking this too
He just needs some form of ego boost. Ignore him.
OR
He knows I can go 0 - 60 mph (Aries in Moon), so maybe he was trying to rattle my cage again. It's more perplexing and confusing me (bringing out the Gemini & Virgo wanting to solve the puzzle) than angering me (Aries).
I growled at him once on the phone and he growled back, but immediately changed the subject. The second time was in person, I tried to hold my tongue but I confronted him on something and he immediately worked "the charm" for me to retract my fangs and claws (or so he thought).click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
"It's like he's looking for a reaction from me".
Not everything is about you. Calm your tits.
So what's is it then, he needs someone to meet with every month to stroke his ego? I don't have time for it...why tell me? Just to hear your own voice? Tell one of your boys, not me, don't you think?
Just avoid him like the plague and soon he'll be hurt and lose interest.
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That's the only problem our bosses are the VPs of the company and require us to meet. But, I am thinking of cancelling this month. I need a break, it grates on your nerves after a while.
You feel like you haven't accomplished anything, or it could have been done by phone or e-mail.
Men (overgrown boys) only brag when they feel intimidated and insecure. You should ask to record him "so that you can send it to his wife". I'm sure she hasn't heard half of it. It's his way of trying to impress you/looking for an ego boost.
Posted by gemvirgoariesHe's making conversation about his life. His life is his wife.Posted by LadyNeptune
"It's like he's looking for a reaction from me".
Not everything is about you. Calm your tits.
So what's is it then, he needs someone to meet with every month to stroke his ego? I don't have time for it...why tell me? Just to hear your own voice? Tell one of your boys, not me, don't you think?click to expand
I don't see the problem here...
Posted by LadyNeptuneSo I'm supposed to spend an hour long meeting with him each month and let him spend the majority of the meeting talking about what he and his wife are doing during their leisure time, while we are supposed to be working on long-term planning strategies for our company, setting departmental goals, resolving work issues, etc.?Posted by gemvirgoariesHe's making conversation about his life. His life is his wife.Posted by LadyNeptune
"It's like he's looking for a reaction from me".
Not everything is about you. Calm your tits.
So what's is it then, he needs someone to meet with every month to stroke his ego? I don't have time for it...why tell me? Just to hear your own voice? Tell one of your boys, not me, don't you think?
I don't see the problem here...click to expand
Instead I could be working productively on another project, returning business phone calls, catching up on emails during that hour that he's wasting my time. Yet you don't see the problem. Hmmm interesting observation.
Posted by gemvirgoariesSo are we to understand that your a passive powerless entity in the conversation?? You can't steer the conversation back to the topic at hand?Posted by LadyNeptuneSo I'm supposed to spend an hour long meeting with him each month and let him spend the majority of the meeting talking about what he and his wife are doing during their leisure time, while we are supposed to be working on long-term planning strategies for our company, setting departmental goals, resolving work issues, etc.?Posted by gemvirgoariesHe's making conversation about his life. His life is his wife.Posted by LadyNeptune
"It's like he's looking for a reaction from me".
Not everything is about you. Calm your tits.
So what's is it then, he needs someone to meet with every month to stroke his ego? I don't have time for it...why tell me? Just to hear your own voice? Tell one of your boys, not me, don't you think?
I don't see the problem here...
Instead I could be working productively on another project, returning business phone calls, catching up on emails during that hour that he's wasting my time. Yet you don't see the problem. Hmmm interesting observation.click to expand
Someone can only waste your time if you let them.
Talk over him incessantly about your husband, boyfriend etc
That should shut him up
Lol
That should shut him up
Lol
So are we to understand that your a passive powerless entity in the conversation?? You can't steer the conversation back to the topic at hand?
Someone can only waste your time if you let them.
I do push the conversation back to agenda, I even printed the printed the agenda, but he always works the conversation back or puts me on the hot seat with nosy questions.
That was the reason I asked the question.
Posted by MyStarsShineOne day being mischievous and part for spite I asked him to be my fairy godfather/matchmaker, and match me up with one of his single friends or relatives. I saw like a flash of anger in him and he said "NO!" so I haven't said anything else.
Talk over him incessantly about your husband, boyfriend etc
That should shut him up
Lol
But he still wants to know what my holiday, vacation plans are, and make suggestions about where I should go in the future.
I assume he just wants to be a friend, and is just a little odd. I'm just going to have to accept his idiosyncrasies. Not sure what will happen when I do get a boyfriend though, should be interesting.
Posted by gemvirgoariesHe sounds controlling and unaware of how boring he comes across?Posted by MyStarsShineOne day being mischievous and part for spite I asked him to be my fairy godfather/matchmaker, and match me up with one of his single friends or relatives. I saw like a flash of anger in him and he said "NO!" so I haven't said anything else.
Talk over him incessantly about your husband, boyfriend etc
That should shut him up
Lol
But he still wants to know what my holiday, vacation plans are, and make suggestions about where I should go in the future.
I assume he just wants to be a friend, and is just a little odd. I'm just going to have to accept his idiosyncrasies. Not sure what will happen when I do get a boyfriend though, should be interesting.click to expand
Does he really think you want to hear about his wife over and over and over again?
Some people seem to be unaware of how they are seeming to others ?
Posted by AliensusedourbogrollO.k. I guess I'm not making myself clear. My boss for over two decades is a Scorpio also. When we have a quarterly meeting, we start with the general etiquette greetings and then we get to the agenda. After we've completed the work, then we talk about family life, general interest, and play catch up with each other. But we get the work done first.
So what is it exactly you're annoyed at? The fact that talks too much instead of working or the subject matter he talks about? Are you wanting him to talk about more than his family? I'm not clear about what's annoying you.
My Scorpio co-worker's predecessor, he had the same work style as me. He would come in and we would work and then we'd shoot the breeze after we got the agenda completed.
Scorpio is all over the place. I can't follow his rhyme or reason, it seems like any comment will trigger a conversation or tangent about his wife and away from work in our meetings. But it is my understanding, he's quite focused in other meetings with other people.
Thinking back on his behavior, I think it's my fault, I think I broke him but not on purpose. Being a very extroverted person--coming from two families that are expressive and huggers, I hug everyone, so when he was promoted I was so happy I hugged him. Since then he's been all rambly and meandering, he wasn't before then--did I screw him up? He's seen me hug other people before in greeting. I don't see why that would be such a big deal.
He is the boss, he is keeping the OP as captive audience. He knows it annoys you so that is why he does it. But why does he enjoy annoying you is the question: is it because he likes you, dislikes you, or disrespects you, is he trying to just get you to quit? there's more choices than the three questions i listed, it could be he is just trying to befriend you, hard to tell.
Posted by Scorpio123That's funny...fade in and fade out...my mom (Cancer) used to do that to my dad (Gemini). I always asked her how did she know when to focus back into the conversation? She would smile and say, "It's a gift...besides I've heard the same story umpteen times." LOL!
I have a family member (not immediate family) who is a Virgo but brags about shit like it was his job. No no not just brag once, brags over and over and over about the same shit. I've heard his bragging stories so many times that sometimes I like to beat him to the punch and finish them for him.
Selective hearing is a blessing, learn how to engage your face while you are thinking about pepperoni pizza for example.
Posted by rabidtalkerYou wrapped it up rabidtalker--basically my concern was: is he 'gaslighting' me or is he being sincere and this is just a nervous tick of his?
He is the boss, he is keeping the OP as captive audience. He knows it annoys you so that is why he does it. But why does he enjoy annoying you is the question: is it because he likes you, dislikes you, or disrespects you, is he trying to just get you to quit? there's more choices than the three questions i listed, it could be he is just trying to befriend you, hard to tell.
We've come a long way from basically refusing to talk to each other and our VPs having to force us to meet monthly.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. I am just going to have to accept that he is to going to act this way during our meetings even though he does not express the same behavior with other colleagues.
Posted by gemvirgoariesPosted by AliensusedourbogrollO.k. I guess I'm not making myself clear. My boss for over two decades is a Scorpio also. When we have a quarterly meeting, we start with the general etiquette greetings and then we get to the agenda. After we've completed the work, then we talk about family life, general interest, and play catch up with each other. But we get the work done first.
So what is it exactly you're annoyed at? The fact that talks too much instead of working or the subject matter he talks about? Are you wanting him to talk about more than his family? I'm not clear about what's annoying you.
My Scorpio co-worker's predecessor, he had the same work style as me. He would come in and we would work and then we'd shoot the breeze after we got the agenda completed.
Scorpio is all over the place. I can't follow his rhyme or reason, it seems like any comment will trigger a conversation or tangent about his wife and away from work in our meetings. But it is my understanding, he's quite focused in other meetings with other people.
Thinking back on his behavior, I think it's my fault, I think I broke him but not on purpose. Being a very extroverted person--coming from two families that are expressive and huggers, I hug everyone, so when he was promoted I was so happy I hugged him. Since then he's been all rambly and meandering, he wasn't before then--did I screw him up? He's seen me hug other people before in greeting. I don't see why that would be such a big deal.click to expand
sounds like you're jealous he is proud and happy with his wife.
you're a woman, and you would be so happy to hear if your husband says things about you. lol
in good ways that make him happy.
so maybe you are attracted to him and felt "ohhh man this is the PITS!! he's into his wife dammit" lmao
Posted by gemvirgoariesPosted by rabidtalkerYou wrapped it up rabidtalker--basically my concern was: is he 'gaslighting' me or is he being sincere and this is just a nervous tick of his?
He is the boss, he is keeping the OP as captive audience. He knows it annoys you so that is why he does it. But why does he enjoy annoying you is the question: is it because he likes you, dislikes you, or disrespects you, is he trying to just get you to quit? there's more choices than the three questions i listed, it could be he is just trying to befriend you, hard to tell.
We've come a long way from basically refusing to talk to each other and our VPs having to force us to meet monthly.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. I am just going to have to accept that he is to going to act this way during our meetings even though he does not express the same behavior with other colleagues.click to expand
maybe since you're a woman, he wants to make sure you get the message that he is happy and taken.lol
maybe since you're a woman, he wants to make sure you get the message that he is happy and taken.lol
O.k. but I've never given him reason to think otherwise. I've always been very professional with him. Honestly, don't ask him anything personal. He brings up personal stuff and then badgers me with questions. This last meeting I was vague with my answers because I think I need to re-establish some boundaries.
He does have women working for him in his department. Maybe because I don't fall over him, he think talking about his wife will make me jealous, but I have no reason to be jealous.
Remember I'm a Gemini--the intellect is where I live, so stimulating conversation and I'm hooked. He did ask me about being a Gemini, maybe he thinks talking about his wife and home life is lively conversation. For me I like a variety of topics:
work
networking
NFL football (I'm so ready)
Soccer
Cricket
Rugby
NBA basketball
books I'm reading (avid book reader) vs. what books you are reading (that I need to read)
includes memoirs, autobiographies, biographies, historical, etc.
seminars
politics
religion
education
technology
language learning--French (family), Spanish (school), future--Italian one day. :-)
culture
art / museums
real life murder mysteries (TV and books)
Everything fascinates me--and I'm always wanting to know more of what I don't know--life long learning.
He's mostly into one football team, food, travel, and exercise.
Posted by Arielle83That was way before him starting to act really weird with me..that was back when he wasn't talking too much. Now when I go on conference he wants to know when, where, for how long, etc. which I find unnecessary. He's not my boss only a co-worker. That's the reason I said in the previous post, I play to re-establish boundaries.Posted by lisabethur8Well she did ask him to set her up with one of his single friends and he did look at her like "wtf?"Posted by gemvirgoariesPosted by rabidtalkerYou wrapped it up rabidtalker--basically my concern was: is he 'gaslighting' me or is he being sincere and this is just a nervous tick of his?
He is the boss, he is keeping the OP as captive audience. He knows it annoys you so that is why he does it. But why does he enjoy annoying you is the question: is it because he likes you, dislikes you, or disrespects you, is he trying to just get you to quit? there's more choices than the three questions i listed, it could be he is just trying to befriend you, hard to tell.
We've come a long way from basically refusing to talk to each other and our VPs having to force us to meet monthly.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. I am just going to have to accept that he is to going to act this way during our meetings even though he does not express the same behavior with other colleagues.
maybe since you're a woman, he wants to make sure you get the message that he is happy and taken.lol
So that's prob it.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Wow, y'all Scorpios really jump to conclusions and make alot of assumptions...no wonder Geminis and Scorpios don't mix. Just cause we are extroverted and bubbly, y'all automatically assume people want y'all. Sorry no dice.Posted by gemvirgoariesPosted by AliensusedourbogrollO.k. I guess I'm not making myself clear. My boss for over two decades is a Scorpio also. When we have a quarterly meeting, we start with the general etiquette greetings and then we get to the agenda. After we've completed the work, then we talk about family life, general interest, and play catch up with each other. But we get the work done first.
So what is it exactly you're annoyed at? The fact that talks too much instead of working or the subject matter he talks about? Are you wanting him to talk about more than his family? I'm not clear about what's annoying you.
My Scorpio co-worker's predecessor, he had the same work style as me. He would come in and we would work and then we'd shoot the breeze after we got the agenda completed.
Scorpio is all over the place. I can't follow his rhyme or reason, it seems like any comment will trigger a conversation or tangent about his wife and away from work in our meetings. But it is my understanding, he's quite focused in other meetings with other people.
Thinking back on his behavior, I think it's my fault, I think I broke him but not on purpose. Being a very extroverted person--coming from two families that are expressive and huggers, I hug everyone, so when he was promoted I was so happy I hugged him. Since then he's been all rambly and meandering, he wasn't before then--did I screw him up? He's seen me hug other people before in greeting. I don't see why that would be such a big deal.
sounds like you're jealous he is proud and happy with his wife.
you're a woman, and you would be so happy to hear if your husband says things about you. lol
in good ways that make him happy.
so maybe you are attracted to him and felt "ohhh man this is the PITS!! he's into his wife dammit" lmaoclick to expand
If that's the case and he's thinking like ya'll do, I'm going to have to clear the air with him most definitely...I told him a long time ago when we had our knock down verbal tussle, that I'm brutally, straightforwardly honest and I will be this time as well.
Poor misguided soul...o.k. gotta keep that monthly meeting because that's going to be #1 on the agenda.
That's just too funny! LOL! Mercy...
That's not a typical scorp thing.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by lisabethur8Well she did ask him to set her up with one of his single friends and he did look at her like "wtf?"Posted by gemvirgoariesPosted by rabidtalkerYou wrapped it up rabidtalker--basically my concern was: is he 'gaslighting' me or is he being sincere and this is just a nervous tick of his?
He is the boss, he is keeping the OP as captive audience. He knows it annoys you so that is why he does it. But why does he enjoy annoying you is the question: is it because he likes you, dislikes you, or disrespects you, is he trying to just get you to quit? there's more choices than the three questions i listed, it could be he is just trying to befriend you, hard to tell.
We've come a long way from basically refusing to talk to each other and our VPs having to force us to meet monthly.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. I am just going to have to accept that he is to going to act this way during our meetings even though he does not express the same behavior with other colleagues.
maybe since you're a woman, he wants to make sure you get the message that he is happy and taken.lol
So that's prob it.click to expand
yup...shes loving that powerful, successful boss of hers...
going...eeeyaaahhh i want to be that wife!!!
she's a woman, first and foremost. lol Posted by lisabethur81) Y'all are twisted and confused. There's two Scorpios. One is my boss who is close to 70 that I used as an example, whom I consider as a father figure. The second Scorpio is the ADD co-worker.Posted by Arielle83Posted by lisabethur8Well she did ask him to set her up with one of his single friends and he did look at her like "wtf?"Posted by gemvirgoariesPosted by rabidtalkerYou wrapped it up rabidtalker--basically my concern was: is he 'gaslighting' me or is he being sincere and this is just a nervous tick of his?
He is the boss, he is keeping the OP as captive audience. He knows it annoys you so that is why he does it. But why does he enjoy annoying you is the question: is it because he likes you, dislikes you, or disrespects you, is he trying to just get you to quit? there's more choices than the three questions i listed, it could be he is just trying to befriend you, hard to tell.
We've come a long way from basically refusing to talk to each other and our VPs having to force us to meet monthly.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. I am just going to have to accept that he is to going to act this way during our meetings even though he does not express the same behavior with other colleagues.
maybe since you're a woman, he wants to make sure you get the message that he is happy and taken.lol
So that's prob it.
yup...shes loving that powerful, successful boss of hers...
going...eeeyaaahhh i want to be that wife!!!click to expand
2) The only problem I have with Scorpio #2 is focus...he can talk about his wife all he wants, but he needs to decide if he wants to talk personal before the meeting or after the meeting, during the meeting we need to concentrate on the agenda of the meeting.
3) No love for Scorpio #2. One of the first disrespectful remarks he made to me after his predecessor (who was very nice) left was about me being a Ph.D. and he told me he will never address me as "Dr. X". So far he's kept his word, but he does address my boss by his title of "Dr." and some others that have the title, even those he considers friends. I also have service years over him within the company which bothers him.
At this point I do not care. I am not leaving and he says he is not leaving, so it is what it is until one of us retires, which probably will be him.
Posted by Cancervirgo15degreesYour post leaks your lack of intelligence and aptitude since your response does not even adequately correspond to my question in my original post.
Wtf i dont get this post. Are you that bitter about being single it bugs you that much? Who fucking carez.
If you do not have anything productive to add, please do not stress your feeble mind by trying to reply.
We have a code word for people like you "not the sharpest knife in the drawer", but in your case, I would assess that you could be classified as a 'butter knife'.
If you do not care (misspelled) as you put it, why comment? Which obviously shows you have some sort of need to "be seen and heard".
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Posted by Arielle83
He's happy.
You thought he was a snob when he didn't talk, but now you're annoyed about the subject he talks about.
Happily married men talk about their wives/family etc.
He isn't going to be talking about the nightclub or pubs anymore.
How is this bragging? He's trying to make a connection, but you're too busy judging.
Some workplaces check in on personal lives with people. Maybe he can't talk about his wife to other men because of machismo, but I guess men get judged either way.
I think she (OP) is jealous.
Posted by gemvirgoaries
maybe since you're a woman, he wants to make sure you get the message that he is happy and taken.lol
O.k. but I've never given him reason to think otherwise. I've always been very professional with him. Honestly, don't ask him anything personal. He brings up personal stuff and then badgers me with questions. This last meeting I was vague with my answers because I think I need to re-establish some boundaries.
He does have women working for him in his department. Maybe because I don't fall over him, he think talking about his wife will make me jealous, but I have no reason to be jealous.
Remember I'm a Gemini--the intellect is where I live, so stimulating conversation and I'm hooked. He did ask me about being a Gemini, maybe he thinks talking about his wife and home life is lively conversation. For me I like a variety of topics:
work
networking
NFL football (I'm so ready)
Soccer
Cricket
Rugby
NBA basketball
books I'm reading (avid book reader) vs. what books you are reading (that I need to read)
includes memoirs, autobiographies, biographies, historical, etc.
seminars
politics
religion
education
technology
language learning--French (family), Spanish (school), future--Italian one day. :-)
culture
art / museums
real life murder mysteries (TV and books)
Everything fascinates me--and I'm always wanting to know more of what I don't know--life long learning.
He's mostly into one football team, food, travel, and exercise.
Everything but his wife ???
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Girlfriend it seems like you have feelings for this man. Why do you know his birthday? Why does it faze you more than when other coworkers talk about their relationships? Fricking get a fidget spinner and numb out whenever he starts talking about wifey ??♀️
Posted by gemvirgoaries
Is this normal for a Scorpio? I thought y'all were a secretive bunch.
Scorp secretive nature tends to be more about detail of our personal lives vs general info.
Posted by gemvirgoaries
Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.click to expand
When he starts talk about anything that isn't work related interrupt him, and simply state, "I'd really like to just focus on the work" and proceed to do just that.
O.k. whatever. You all can think what you want, I think it's odd someone wants to talk about his wife when we should be doing work.
I'm not his friend, I'm not his buddy, and I don't want to be his friend. He volunteered his information to me--I never asked anything. I don't want to know about his personal life. I just want to get my work done and move on to the next meeting.
His last vacation he and his wife went on he brought me back gifts that I plan to re-gift.
When he gets on a tangent I try to steer the conversation back to work that's all.
The friend hookup was a joke to gauge his reaction which was a weird one. And I don't like him asking me about my personal life.
From now on, he can ramble as long as he wants, and if the work doesn't get done, not my fault. No skin off my nose, I'm out. I tired of carrying the load. The VPs can handle it with HR.
I'm not his friend, I'm not his buddy, and I don't want to be his friend. He volunteered his information to me--I never asked anything. I don't want to know about his personal life. I just want to get my work done and move on to the next meeting.
His last vacation he and his wife went on he brought me back gifts that I plan to re-gift.
When he gets on a tangent I try to steer the conversation back to work that's all.
The friend hookup was a joke to gauge his reaction which was a weird one. And I don't like him asking me about my personal life.
From now on, he can ramble as long as he wants, and if the work doesn't get done, not my fault. No skin off my nose, I'm out. I tired of carrying the load. The VPs can handle it with HR.
Posted by Arielle83lol i knew iiitttt. OP is thirsty.Posted by WhorpioShe asked him to hook her up with one of his single mates and he got weird.Posted by Arielle83
He's happy.
You thought he was a snob when he didn't talk, but now you're annoyed about the subject he talks about.
Happily married men talk about their wives/family etc.
He isn't going to be talking about the nightclub or pubs anymore.
How is this bragging? He's trying to make a connection, but you're too busy judging.
Some workplaces check in on personal lives with people. Maybe he can't talk about his wife to other men because of machismo, but I guess men get judged either way.
I think she (OP) is jealous.
Plus she getting all pissy at anyone questioning it.
My dad used to brag about my mom at work when we were kids, and all his female junior scientists got thirsty.click to expand
have a drink, quench your thirst with some single online dating ads.
Posted by gemvirgoaries
O.k. whatever. You all can think what you want, I think it's odd someone wants to talk about his wife when we should be doing work.
I'm not his friend, I'm not his buddy, and I don't want to be his friend. He volunteered his information to me--I never asked anything. I don't want to know about his personal life. I just want to get my work done and move on to the next meeting.
His last vacation he and his wife went on he brought me back gifts that I plan to re-gift.
When he gets on a tangent I try to steer the conversation back to work that's all.
The friend hookup was a joke to gauge his reaction which was a weird one. And I don't like him asking me about my personal life.
From now on, he can ramble as long as he wants, and if the work doesn't get done, not my fault. No skin off my nose, I'm out. I tired of carrying the load. The VPs can handle it with HR.
lol!! cause she probably picked it out?
"Get this for that lovely co-worker the one that likes to talk to you."
Thanks Arielle83 and g-emi-N-I for the advice it was greatly appreciated and you are so right.
The new President and CEO called two special executive meetings back to back within one week's time. The second meeting was a working lunch meeting.
At the end of the meeting, as I was leaving, I turned to the colleague and said, "Well I guess we don't have to meeting Monday, right?" and he chuckled, responding, "Yeah, we are.". I couldn't believe he still wanted to meet and I guess it showed on my face.
My boss was within earshot by then, and my colleague was on the verge of throwing a little tantrum said louder, "Well, I can't believe you want to reschedule our meeting, but if you want to reschedule..." and started to pull out his cell phone.
I pulled him out in the hallway away from my boss....I said, "No, might as well keep it as planned, since I'm booked the rest of the week." You could tell he was happy he had won that round. Then he was ready to chitchat with small talk, but I told him I had to get back to my location, I was already gone for close to three hours.
That evening I went to confession and talked to my priest. I told him I'm not jealous or have eyes of my colleague. I will admit at first I was envious of his marriage, in that I hope to I find a husband someday, but even now I'm no longer envious of him. My priest gave me really good advice.
He told me "sometimes when people talk about good things all the time, those things can be too good to be true. As well, people can convince themselves that things or circumstances are better than they are, but whatever I do, to include my colleague in my daily and nightly prayers. Pray before our meetings, and after our meetings."
After talking with my priest, and the few people here who gave me really good advice in looking at my colleague through a fresh pair of eyes, and I am at peace. Those of you who accused me of lusting after him, I will pray for you as well. Godspeed.
The new President and CEO called two special executive meetings back to back within one week's time. The second meeting was a working lunch meeting.
At the end of the meeting, as I was leaving, I turned to the colleague and said, "Well I guess we don't have to meeting Monday, right?" and he chuckled, responding, "Yeah, we are.". I couldn't believe he still wanted to meet and I guess it showed on my face.
My boss was within earshot by then, and my colleague was on the verge of throwing a little tantrum said louder, "Well, I can't believe you want to reschedule our meeting, but if you want to reschedule..." and started to pull out his cell phone.
I pulled him out in the hallway away from my boss....I said, "No, might as well keep it as planned, since I'm booked the rest of the week." You could tell he was happy he had won that round. Then he was ready to chitchat with small talk, but I told him I had to get back to my location, I was already gone for close to three hours.
That evening I went to confession and talked to my priest. I told him I'm not jealous or have eyes of my colleague. I will admit at first I was envious of his marriage, in that I hope to I find a husband someday, but even now I'm no longer envious of him. My priest gave me really good advice.
He told me "sometimes when people talk about good things all the time, those things can be too good to be true. As well, people can convince themselves that things or circumstances are better than they are, but whatever I do, to include my colleague in my daily and nightly prayers. Pray before our meetings, and after our meetings."
After talking with my priest, and the few people here who gave me really good advice in looking at my colleague through a fresh pair of eyes, and I am at peace. Those of you who accused me of lusting after him, I will pray for you as well. Godspeed.
Some people "brag" about their "perfect" life and relationship because they are actually very unhappy and just want to look like everything is going great for them, even if it is just to only convince themselves.
Nobody likes to look like a chump.
Nobody likes to look like a chump.
g-emi-N-i, thank you for your feedback. I just had my meeting with him. I stood strong. No small talk, strictly business only, and I stayed on point. He drifted a couple of times but didn't discuss his home life, nevertheless I brought the meeting back again on topic. He finally cut the meeting short and left early.
Posted by gemvirgoaries
Thanks Arielle83 and g-emi-N-I for the advice it was greatly appreciated and you are so right.
The new President and CEO called two special executive meetings back to back within one week's time. The second meeting was a working lunch meeting.
At the end of the meeting, as I was leaving, I turned to the colleague and said, "Well I guess we don't have to meeting Monday, right?" and he chuckled, responding, "Yeah, we are.". I couldn't believe he still wanted to meet and I guess it showed on my face.
My boss was within earshot by then, and my colleague was on the verge of throwing a little tantrum said louder, "Well, I can't believe you want to reschedule our meeting, but if you want to reschedule..." and started to pull out his cell phone.
I pulled him out in the hallway away from my boss....I said, "No, might as well keep it as planned, since I'm booked the rest of the week." You could tell he was happy he had won that round. Then he was ready to chitchat with small talk, but I told him I had to get back to my location, I was already gone for close to three hours.
That evening I went to confession and talked to my priest. I told him I'm not jealous or have eyes of my colleague. I will admit at first I was envious of his marriage, in that I hope to I find a husband someday, but even now I'm no longer envious of him. My priest gave me really good advice.
He told me "sometimes when people talk about good things all the time, those things can be too good to be true. As well, people can convince themselves that things or circumstances are better than they are, but whatever I do, to include my colleague in my daily and nightly prayers. Pray before our meetings, and after our meetings."
After talking with my priest, and the few people here who gave me really good advice in looking at my colleague through a fresh pair of eyes, and I am at peace. Those of you who accused me of lusting after him, I will pray for you as well. Godspeed.
lady i wouldnt like it if my man is talking to a bunch of women and chatty watty with them.
that's why he works at home, he's a designer.
but i know my sister's husbands have full time work that work in a co-ed set placing...
so i would hate to hear that one of those guys are all chatty watty with the women all the time talking PERSONAL shit.
and personally, scorpio men in my personal experience do not talk chatty watty with other women unless it's BUSINESS. not even the scorpio who is a professional athlete. even a personal settings/events, no chatty watty with women, unless they are old grandmas, aunties and mothers on a distant level and no getting personal either. not even neighbor ladies. only i am the one that talks to them.
Posted by Impulsvi read that.Posted by GuardianAnuBUt who care why get so bothered by it
Some people "brag" about their "perfect" life and relationship because they are actually very unhappy and just want to look like everything is going great for them, even if it is just to only convince themselves.
Nobody likes to look like a chump.
Unless u feel ur lacking in that arena
Otherwise let it roll
It's their life not your
N this is what I do t get why op so rielled up to even get a priest to tell her his life is shitty so she can feel better about it " at peace"
That's wiredclick to expand
on the going to the Priest and confession about the guy. Thats obsession right there.
O_O
my cousins who are Scorpio dominant have honestly openly told me, that among their friends (who i did their charts, none of them have scorpio) he gets all the wierdos and psycho obsessive people always STALKING his ass. It's the wierdest thing.
Scorpios/8th Scorpio dominants get alot of stalkers. What is with that energy? Maybe that's why alot of Scorpio peeps keep it on the "down Low" .... i got scared for him, and told him to always have someone with him, and lay low.
and another thing about that Priest. what?? a priest saying that! O_O
instead it would have been much more healthier (not anywhere near nunnery and priesthood type) if he had said,
"my child, you need to get these obsessive thoughts out of your head, it is unhealthy. Go make 20 hail marys and 200 Our father's and cleanse your thoughts."
Posted by LadyNeptuneWhat's wrong is his work ethic. He's being highly inappropriate with his coworkers aswell as a potential hazard to the future of the company if only 7% of his meetings are about work and the rest is about his private life. Hello?!Posted by gemvirgoariesHe sounds like he's in love with her. What's wrong with that??
Can anyone give me advice?
bumpclick to expand
Srsly what kind of hold do bosses in the US have over their employees that you guys can't just say "If there's nothing more work-related to discuss I'd like to get back to work now".
?
Posted by DistilledThis is the worst piece of nonsense of advice I've read in a long time.
He respects you. It's taken years. He's still a human though.
Don't cross the line and become weak.
He may become a true friend.
Don't change yourself.
Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by LadyNeptuneWhat's wrong is his work ethic. He's being highly inappropriate with his coworkers aswell as a potential hazard to the future of the company if only 7% of his meetings are about work and the rest is about his private life. Hello?!Posted by gemvirgoariesHe sounds like he's in love with her. What's wrong with that??
Can anyone give me advice?
bump
Srsly what kind of hold do bosses in the US have over their employees that you guys can't just say "If there's nothing more work-related to discuss I'd like to get back to work now".
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http://www.greatleadershipbydan.com/2011/03/im-your-boss-not-your-friend-10-reasons.html
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