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Old Scorpio flame acting strange
He is still "single" after all these years., for a reason.
Run
Posted by Kms0640
...I just need to understand mr Scorpio. Is he trying to play with my head?
Yes/no. Those of us with Merc in Scorp makes us very observant of even the tiniest detail and we like to get to the heart of what we are sensing from you. Sometimes out o genuine concern, sometimes out of curiosity or trying to get something from you. It depends on the nature of our relationship with you and the personality type of the Scorp in question. Given you haven't shared what you two have discussed, what you have shared with him prior to the interrogation about your sex life, it could be any one of the three. Issue is, the more you've told him, the more he has to play with whenever he wants to try to take this further. Just getting into your head (e.g. you creating this thread) may be all he needs to start. You'll need to assess what you opened up about, your motives for doing so and that will give you a bit more info about this situation.
Posted by Kms0640
...should I be concerned? Can I just dismiss it and forget it? Once I get insight I will proceed accordingly.
The mere fact that you are making a thread about him instead of enjoying the life you created suggest yes you should be concerned. The man is already in your head. Slippery slope and if you opened up to him (e.g. answered his very intrusive questions), even more dangerous. Just because someone ask you a question doesn't mean you need to divulge (again, only if you did). If you were catching up "as friends", your sex life should have never been brought up and you shouldn't let him in the door. With Scorps, we need to be shut down to get the message. A polite, "my sex life isn't up for discussion" would have sufficed.
Posted by Kms0640
...He is still single fwiw.click to expand
It isn't worth very much actually. Your status is the only thing that should matter in this scenario. However it appears to mean something to you. No judgement. An observation.
Posted by ImperfectStorm
I just need to understand mr Scorpio. Is he trying to play with my head? is this just general Scorpio sex talk/obsession, or should I be concerned?
...the fact that you’re here needing to “understand him” shows that he is already in your head.
#MercinScorp
Posted by ImperfectStorm
That’s my personal opinion. I have Scorpio sun and Mercury, not Venus or mars but loyalty is a big deal to scorpios. We provide loyalty and we expect it from others… the fact that he feels comfortable talking to you like that gives me the vibe that he doesn’t respect your marriage. And the reason I say that is because if he did, he would know not to come at you like that. I could be wrong obviously but I feel it’s very disrespectful.
No matter how strongly I felt about someone from my past, once they are married they are hands-off. 🚫 but at the same time, I’m not a man and I realize they are different 🤷♀️
I agree with respecting boundaries. Forget marriage, if you're in a relationship it hands off for me. However, we don't know who opened that door to this conversation. We have what the OP has chosen to share with us as short and concise as it was (with directions on where we can take the topic to boot). We can't assume this guy just asked her this without an invitation to do so:
"so how do you like your coffee?... yeah so is homeboy hitting that right?"
I'm also not going to assume there aren't some brazen Scorps out there.
Posted by Kms0640Posted by ImperfectStorm
Based on the description above it sounds like the friendship was built on a shaky foundation to begin with.. it started as casual but imbalanced, you wanted more but he didn’t.. so you moved on and met someone that was emotionally available. What have your conversations been like over the last few years? In depth? Have you developed a solid friendship or has it just been small talk?
It’s been a mix. Mostly small talk but some big stuff too. Heartbreaks, family issues. I’ve shared my stuff about the births, moves, struggles with motherhood. but he is extremely secretive and not a big talker so it’s hard to really get in there.click to expand
Generally speaking, Scorps don't open up quickly, add a Scorp in Merc and that's even worse. We listen more than talk, however in this particular context you should be weary that this dynamic continued after a long period of time because that suggest you're not building a "friendship" of equals. There is no real give and take here. He's simply "taking" (and storing) information about you. You need to ask yourself why that is. Oddly, this tells me more about your dynamic than the OP did....
I would stop divulging your personal business to this man.
Posted by Kms0640Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Kms0640
...I just need to understand mr Scorpio. Is he trying to play with my head?
Yes/no. Those of us with Merc in Scorp makes us very observant of even the tiniest detail and we like to get to the heart of what we are sensing from you. Sometimes out o genuine concern, sometimes out of curiosity or trying to get something from you. It depends on the nature of our relationship with you and the personality type of the Scorp in question. Given you haven't shared what you two have discussed, what you have shared with him prior to the interrogation about your sex life, it could be any one of the three. Issue is, the more you've told him, the more he has to play with whenever he wants to try to take this further. Just getting into your head (e.g. you creating this thread) may be all he needs to start. You'll need to assess what you opened up about, your motives for doing so and that will give you a bit more info about this situation.Posted by Kms0640
...should I be concerned? Can I just dismiss it and forget it? Once I get insight I will proceed accordingly.
The mere fact that you are making a thread about him instead of enjoying the life you created suggest yes you should be concerned. The man is already in your head. Slippery slope and if you opened up to him (e.g. answered his very intrusive questions), even more dangerous. Just because someone ask you a question doesn't mean you need to divulge (again, only if you did). If you were catching up "as friends", your sex life should have never been brought up and you shouldn't let him in the door. With Scorps, we need to be shut down to get the message. A polite, "my sex life isn't up for discussion" would have sufficed.Posted by Kms0640
...He is still single fwiw.
It isn't worth very much actually. Your status is the only thing that should matter in this scenario. However it appears to mean something to you. No judgement. An observation.
Thanks for your response. Your perspective is helpful and I like the straight talk. You don’t mince words.
I answered the questions vaguely which probably just led to more questions. For example, him: “how often do you have sex?” Me: “enough to be happy”. I definitely emphasized the positive. To me confiding in him about sex struggles would have been crossing the line. But every marriage is different.
Him being single for 50 years I guess is just context. I mean maybe because he’s never been in a relationship he just doesn’t understand there is so much more to talk about than sex. I don’t know. I’m looking for excuses. Lol.click to expand
Some Scorpio males are perpetually single..... In their head, until one day they are not.
Next time, tell him, to mind his own business..... when questions like that come up, unless you discuss these kinds of topics with other male friends of course.
Posted by Wizardz_
A Scorpio? Acting strange? Have you informed the newspapers?
Don’t know what you mean 🤣🥴
Has your husband met this “old flame” that you’ve kept in contact with for the last decade?
Is he aware that you meet up with him for chats including a discussion of y’all sex life?
If not, you should examine why that is. An lie of omission is still a lie.
Is he aware that you meet up with him for chats including a discussion of y’all sex life?
If not, you should examine why that is. An lie of omission is still a lie.
Posted by Kms0640Posted by ImperfectStormI just need to understand mr Scorpio. Is he trying to play with my head? is this just general Scorpio sex talk/obsession, or should I be concerned?
Yes you should be concerned because it doesn’t sound like he respects you or your marriage.
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
But the fact that you’re here needing to “understand him” shows that he is already in your head.
Oh he’s been in my head since the day I met him. It used to drive me nuts but I learned to live with it. I never understood why.
I think it’s interesting that you say he doesn’t respect me or my marriage. I hadn’t looked at it that way given how respectful he had been for so many years. But maybe it was never genuine.click to expand
I think I have right to contribute having 15 years of ongoing nothing with Scorpio.
He is always there. Finally, he is out of the marriage. I am dating an Aries whom I left my husband of 26 years for...
HOWEVER...I understood and I made peace with that - I will NEVER be cold-hearted about Scorpio because this is what soul mate relationship like. He thought me a lot. INCLUDING the fact that Aries is better than him in bed!
And I told Scorpio that. In details. I can tell him ANYTHING! ANYTIME! And he is saying I am his only friend now when he is open and out to his family about not being happy and he is out!
So my dear. NOBODY will understand.
And NO. He isnt disrespectful to your marriage. It is just you 2 is the world where others dont exist while you are talking or seeing each other. Nobody understand!!! You wont have huge support here except he is an ass and you are a slut...
Thats what people here who LIVE on dxp do. They pretend having life and knowing about it but...they dont.
Good luck with whatever you decide and I feel your joy and pain and inability to stop because I AM THERE as well.
Since 2006. Ta-Da!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Has your husband met this “old flame” that you’ve kept in contact with for the last decade?
Is he aware that you meet up with him for chats including a discussion of y’all sex life?
If not, you should examine why that is. An lie of omission is still a lie.
Yep! And some people thinking they are perfect. Its one of the deasly sins btw. The Pride!
Posted by GemMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Has your husband met this “old flame” that you’ve kept in contact with for the last decade?
Is he aware that you meet up with him for chats including a discussion of y’all sex life?
If not, you should examine why that is. An lie of omission is still a lie.
Yep! And some people thinking they are perfect. Its one of the deasly sins btw. The Pride!click to expand
what are you rambling about gemitati
Seems pretty basic- He's trying to get his dick wet 🙂
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemMayPosted by LadyNeptune
Has your husband met this “old flame” that you’ve kept in contact with for the last decade?
Is he aware that you meet up with him for chats including a discussion of y’all sex life?
If not, you should examine why that is. An lie of omission is still a lie.
Yep! And some people thinking they are perfect. Its one of the deasly sins btw. The Pride!
what are you rambling about gemitaticlick to expand
Same shit...Queen of All Saints.
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