Overly jealous... WTF?

Scorps, tell me how to handle a Scorp man who is overly jealous. All my boyfriends have been jealous but this one has been way too jealous and controlling. I'm not a cheating person, not even flirting with other men. Sometimes I think he is testing me with all those questions and arguements about other men. Sometimes I think he is trying to manipulate me. He definitely is trying to control me. How is that possible to live a happy life with a man who is jealous about everyone and everything? One thing is sure.. This isn't normal jealousy. Why is he acting like that? How to handle that? If I didn't love him I wouldn't be asking these questions here, I would just leave him. Advice please...

He is testing you because he does not (yet) trust you 100% .

It takes a lot for us Scorpios to Really TRUST people, especially partners.

Show him that you're committed to him and him only...

Having said that, if he is over controlling and too demandng - then he is the one with the problems. If it is to this extreme then you need to re assess your relationship with him.

He will continue controlling you because you keep allowing it. SHOW that you have a backbone and that you wont tolerate this behaviour.

Thanks Scorpion sting for your response.

I said he is TRYING to control me, he isn't controlling me more than I want to allow him to do so. About trust.. I know he doesn't trust me, he said that. But I have never done anything to show I'm not trustworthy. Maybe he's reflecting that from his previous relationships? Both his ex-girlfriends had been cheating on him.

He said that I'm the only woman he had so intense feelings and that makes him crazy. But I feel deeply too and I'm not too jealous. And I don't want him to feel less for me cuz then I'm not interested in him anymore. I want the same intense love that we have had but less that jealousy if possible.

"And I don't want him to feel less for me cuz then I'm not interested in him anymore."

With this statement I mean that if he didn't love me like this I would still love him but lose my interest in being together with him. I can't be in a cold relationship. I need passion and deep feelings.

Sounds like she needs to damn well grow up, too.

He hit me .. but, I love him
He's mean to me .. but, I love him
He is controlling me .. but, I love him


People are amazing ... and stupid.

Not only is the abuser wrong .. so is the stupid person who sits there and not only takes the shit, also has an excuse for it to continue.

When you get some self-respect .. maybe you'll be ready for a relationship in where the man treats you right.

"He is testing you because he does not (yet) trust you 100% .

It takes a lot for us Scorpios to Really TRUST people, especially partners.

Show him that you're committed to him and him only..."

Are you 12 ? Who trusts ANYONE 100% . This idea you have that Scorpios are all high and mighty and OMG...you will sting me so I better conform....should be stuffed right up your A $ $ where it belongs. You PRETEND to be strong, because you're weak (yeah, honey go back and read the Taurus - Scorpio dance...I've been around Scorpios longer than you've been alive).

Sweet&Sour do NOT put up with your man's behaviour. Do NOT prove anything to him about commitment and what not. Stand up for yourself. Tell him if he doesnt trust you, he needs to go find himself another sucker. If he's in love with you, he will break. A scorpio man in love will NOT lose the woman he has become attached to. So YOU need to set the boundaries here. Do not be afraid of scorpio men. There is nothing to be afraid off. All you need to be is strong and independent.

Why is it that the only women who seem to handle these men well are bulls or women with taurus strong in their chart? Because Bulls are strong. Scorpio men are drawn to this strength whether they admit it or not...and the vast majority will NOT admit to it.

sweet


I thought you were smarter than that, hun. He is on your case about cheating because HE IS! He is the one cheating. I betcha 5 bucks.

''Not only is the abuser wrong .. so is the stupid person who sits there and not only takes the shit, also has an excuse for it to continue.

When you get some self-respect .. maybe you'll be ready for a relationship in where the man treats you right.''

An abused person will blame everything and everyone else but themselves. It is partly their own fault and weakness to put up with it.


Newbie - Youre another Scorpio hater because you do not understand our depth and integrity. Your comments are dismissed.

"Newbie - Youre another Scorpio hater because you do not understand our depth and integrity. Your comments are dismissed."

Is that why all my relationships have been with scorpio men and I've been married to a scorpio for the last 20 years?

Dismiss yourself.

This really has nothing to do with sun sign and who is better or more powerful .. for that is what perpetuates this whole abuser/abused situation in which makes a person feel helpless to help themselves.

The fact is this .. we have all taken advantage of a person to whom will allow themselves to be rug to walk on, every one of us, regardless of where the planets were when born.

If you lay at a persons feet to be walked on .. you will be.

It's called a lack of self-respect .... gain that and all of this will go away. Unfortunately, people would rather wallow in the lack of, so they can use it to gain pity for being a victim.


You're not a victim .... you lack self-respect and so another person is taking advantage of what you allow of yourself to be treated, and that's all.

a friend of mine who's a sagi was dating this guy who was a capricorn for 4 years. he was jealous like you wouldn't believe!!! he was also 12 years younger than she was. he's 25 and controlling!!! he would tell her what to wear, who to talk to, and her ex-husband had to talk to him instead of her when he was taking their kid for a weekend. aries can get jealous too and over react🙂

"and her ex-husband had to talk to him instead of her when he was taking their kid for a weekend."


NO, not really .... she just wouldn't stand up for herself. The ex didn't HAVE to talk to him instead of her .... however, by so not standing up for herself ... I'm sure the ex felt really sorry for her, for all the abuse ....


lol

it's insane, right. talking to him instead of her. lol i was shocked when she told me that. so, i told her that from now on i'll be handling her break up with that controlling freak and he should talk to me instead of her 🙂

I'm not really sure what the fear is, to tell you the truth .. and every person I know who is like this cannot see past their own ego to actually comprehend the truth.

The ego fucking lies to you .... why people cannot grasp this concept is beyond me.

dun dun duuuun!

Jealousy is a useless emotion .... it's hard to wrap my head around why it even exists.

What does it mean, exactly?

I want more attention?
I'm not good enough to keep you?

What if somebody steals you away from me .... a person can't be stolen, they can however make a choice to walk away.

What it says is ......... I'm not confident enough in my attributes to keep you, so I will fear that you'll find another to love because I'm not worthy enough for you, and I'll express this fear by attempting to make you stay with me by trying to own you.

The same would go for a person who tries to make their partner jealous of them ......


I'm not confident in my attributes to keep you, so I will attempt to make you think that I'm in big demand by every man, so you'll will be fooled into believing that I am a good catch, and won't see that inside, I'm terrified that you might leave me.

LOL! You guys just crack me up. I find it funny that people think they know the person and the case from a few details told here. I haven't laughed this much to the comments I got to my threads in 2 and half years I've spent on this board. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

To satyrs: The same guy but after we finally talked again we found out there had been many misunderstandings, on both sides. But no more about that..

Someone who knows something about me once said that I can talk and explain things the way that other people believe anything I say because their head is spinning and they lost the point already. I can see the same here but with a lack of information. But instead of explaining and correcting I rather keep people guessing. Go ahead, try to guess who I am, what I do, try to make a profile of me. I may have twisted sense of humour but I got kicks from this. I even copied the whole thread to show it to my friend tomorrow cuz I know she'll have as much to laugh as I had and I wanna share it with her. I love comedies. That's why I love DXP! 🙂

Make sure you copy this here below what I'm going to write because I'm sure that the majority of your friends will comprehend this, and actually be laughing at you .....


Situational observations aren't sujbective, nor intended to be so .. however, the people with limited intelligence, who aren't smart enough to know this, have little recourse except to play as though they are leaving people to guess intentionally ... when in reality, it's them who are guessing because they have no comprehension of objectivity and have to keep this hidden so people won't be clued-into the ignorance.

Girl get some backbone. Tell him to get over himself and deal with who you are as a person and stop being so insecure.

BTW, Scorp men are jealous creatures, and yes somewhat possessive and yes controlling if you let them, the ones that let them, the secure ones become board, the ones that don't intrigue them.

insecure? cant be trusted himself?
trust issues? or playing the dominant role.

what to do? stand ur ground, do wut u think is fair, if he has a problem with it, then he isnt right for u. If a man loves u, they will want to make sure ur happy.

An insecurity issue .... nothing more .. it's that simple.

***so what you are saying is this....it never will really run smoothly, because they dont want it to and if it does they become bored....so, there is no winning!✨***

Noooo, I am saying they are naturally in control, however, we scorps like people who are strong and with backbone and a challenge. If you give us a challenge it is intriguing if you are just a wimp and do exactly what we say with no backbone, sure for a short time they will like it or think they do, but ultimately they need someone with their own identity. Strong, but agreeable at times. It is amazing how different they act when they meet someone who has their own preferences and won't submit to their every wimb. They can be sweet as pie.

lol@satyrs


LOL

""Why is it that the only women who seem to handle these men well are bulls or women with taurus strong in their chart? Because Bulls are strong. Scorpio men are drawn to this strength whether they admit it or not...and the vast majority will NOT admit to it.




Very true Newbie.""




Another reason I don't follow astrology. It breeds idiots.

""I find it funny that people think they know the person and the case from a few details told here.""


Then why didn't you include all the necessary details in the OP, so that respondants could make more accurate assumptions? How are we to know?

""Make sure you copy this here below what I'm going to write because I'm sure that the majority of your friends will comprehend this, and actually be laughing at you .....""

haha


""Situational observations aren't sujbective, nor intended to be so .. however, the people with limited intelligence, who aren't smart enough to know this, have little recourse except to play as though they are leaving people to guess intentionally ... when in reality, it's them who are guessing because they have no comprehension of objectivity and have to keep this hidden so people won't be clued-into the ignorance.""


haaaaaaaaa Just stop. My side hurts. Why are you always trying to type like you're a philosopher of sorts? You try so hard and your grammar is the absolute WORST, man. Just stop trying, dude. For serious. Or, you could always continue. You're a bundle of laughs. That is, when I actually read your posts.

Your responses. So brief and to the point. Makes me chuckle sometimes.

How did you guess how I react? Wake up! Your ing mind reading sucks. Stupid is a person who thinks he/she knows everything and everyone. Not even my own mother knows me that well. They say I'm a ticking timebomb cuz no one ever knows what is my reaction. Some people are not clever enough to know that there's much more in every case than a few words. Why to answer to something I'm not asking? That's stupid. I'm not asking about my reactions (if they are right or wrong, that's why I'm not even telling how I react) or my personality (am I strong or weak?) cuz I know both of them very well. Someone says it's my fault cuz I have had jealous boyfriends... Yeah? Excuse me but it didn't come to your mind that some women may have many guys hitting on them even they are not available? Sometimes being rude to guys doesn't work. Jealousy is not always woman's fault. Wake up to reality. Someone is suggesting my fianc? is cheating on me. Again, guessing! Someone should be spanked. Maybe you would learn something. lol.. Pleasing my partner is in my knowledge only, I don't share that with strangers. There are things you can accept and things you can't. Trust me (oh no, never trust me..) I know what I want and when and where. Read the text again as many times as needed to get the picture. The real picture, not the one stuck in your head. Or come here and I will help you to read it if you have reading problems. See, I'm that sweet. I could even help you. 🙂 About laughing.. My friend knows my case and my fianc?, so she probably won't be laughing at me. But strangers can do whatever they want. I couldn't care less about their opinion.

I have better things to do and I rarely come here to read this board. So say whatever you want but I always like to say this to people who LOVE arguing over the internet and NEVER have anything good to say:

http://youareretarded.ytmnd.com/<BR>

""My friend knows my case and my fianc?,...""

Then her advice should suffice, as it would be far more helpful than any you'd gather from a group of strangers. Strangers who, according to you, are making absurd assumptions. Imagine that.


""I have better things to do ...""

Clearly. Like figuring out how to handle that "overly jealous" man of yours.




Bottomline: if you're not prepared to accept feedback, don't ask for it.

From now on, I'm not responding to these dumb ass "help me attract/understand/control/figure out my man/woman" threads.

"They say I'm a ticking timebomb cuz no one ever knows what is my reaction."


Do I detect a tone of pride in this comment?

In other words .. you're PROUD that you're emotionally out-of-control?

It's not an atrology website, brains. Why am I on it? To humor myself among other things. Thank you for your assistance.


Btw, reciprocating the exact insult that I directed at you is both clever and original.


^ Get all that?

lol@emerald


sorry, the above was for Ass-Myst. haha

""...she's not that bright ScorpSuperior.""


lol I noticed. This is about the...I dunno, umpteenth time I've pointed out her stupidity, and yet, the very first time she's caught on to it. I'm both shocked and impressed.

😉

AM: ""em gem and ss. Your come backs [went over my head].""


As expected. We don't speak "idiota", unfortunately.

I feel sorry for your unborn. I personally feel people should be required to obtain permits in order to reproduce. Otherwise, you have incompetents like yourself raising our future, and all hope is diminished.


A sad, sad world we live in. 😢