Patience pays off with Scorp man
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by LouLore on Sunday, June 10, 2012 and has 5 replies.
The Scorp and I met a little over a year ago. We hung out at least once a week for the first few months, and had text communication a bit, back and forth sometimes daily, sometimes every few days.??
I had never been in a relationship that moved slowly before, and this was definitely slow, this was my first relationship since becomming pregnant and having my now 2 yr old son, which brought lots of new angles to both my interaction with him, and his with me. Though I knew from even the first day we hung out that there was something about us that was gonna work in the long term. Call it water sign intuition
??
So, since I had never moved so slow in a relationship before, at around the 4th month I was eager for him to label me his girlfriend. That's when he detached. Said he wanted to keep it casual. I was upset thinking that the entire time I had been feeling more serious for him, and that perhaps he had just been desiring me for our shared intimacies :p I told him that I didn't want to sleep with him if we were not serious about each other.
At this point we both retreated and had very sparse communication for 4 weeks or so. I gave him his space, but kept myself out there to be reached if he wanted. I knew at this time it wasn't over.. Or at least felt that it couldn't be as the attraction between us was still so strong, and nothing was actually.. Wrong. I think the space I gave him here was key. I did not go cray, but was cool about it. I'm sure my dxp knowledge helped here
??
He asked me to hang out. We did and the sparks flew more than ever before. Our time apart was not in vain, but allowed us to both miss the other, and realize we did not want to let what was just beginning, go. I left any girlfriend chats out of the picture for a long time. I wanted whatever it was he wanted to give me, and enjoyed my time with him no matter what the definition of our relationship was.
I had never been in a relationship that moved slowly before, and this was definitely slow, this was my first relationship since becomming pregnant and having my now 2 yr old son, which brought lots of new angles to both my interaction with him, and his with me. Though I knew from even the first day we hung out that there was something about us that was gonna work in the long term. Call it water sign intuition
??So, since I had never moved so slow in a relationship before, at around the 4th month I was eager for him to label me his girlfriend. That's when he detached. Said he wanted to keep it casual. I was upset thinking that the entire time I had been feeling more serious for him, and that perhaps he had just been desiring me for our shared intimacies :p I told him that I didn't want to sleep with him if we were not serious about each other.
At this point we both retreated and had very sparse communication for 4 weeks or so. I gave him his space, but kept myself out there to be reached if he wanted. I knew at this time it wasn't over.. Or at least felt that it couldn't be as the attraction between us was still so strong, and nothing was actually.. Wrong. I think the space I gave him here was key. I did not go cray, but was cool about it. I'm sure my dxp knowledge helped here
??He asked me to hang out. We did and the sparks flew more than ever before. Our time apart was not in vain, but allowed us to both miss the other, and realize we did not want to let what was just beginning, go. I left any girlfriend chats out of the picture for a long time. I wanted whatever it was he wanted to give me, and enjoyed my time with him no matter what the definition of our relationship was.
3 more months of hanging once or twice a week, with still, the nervous shyness between us. Sometimes I hardly knew what to say to him, but always I knew that I wanted him. While during these months, though we were still so shy with each other sometimes, what neither of us could speak was expressed sexually.??
By about February we had a chat about where we stood with each other and he was surprised to find out that I wasn't sure if we were exclusive or not. As if I should have known. He's got a good poker face, and even up until this time I wasn't positive what he wanted from me because he never expressed it in words.??
Fast forward to now, and my point of this post is that the walls are really coming down now, and it's quite beautiful. I think that my patience and ability to let go of the "where is this going?!" has paid off. The shy nervousness is gone on both of our parts and each time we get together I see more and more of him. It's hard to explain but it's almost like.. I recognize him more and more as we get closer.??
I've learned to look to his actions due to his poker faced attitude, and they are becoming more obvious now. His affections are stronger, especially around his close friends and in public. He jokes more with me, shares details of his life, and is eager to help me with things in mine.
I think that my story may reflect some of the keys to what a lot of the advice that is given to the girls here who are curious about their Scorpio men details. It seems they need a lot of space at first, and 0 pressure, time to really feel you out. Once they have warmed up, though it may take what seems like forever, you are truly rewarded with this beautiful, loving person, who was maybe sheathed behind a bit of a tough faced shell. I am so very excited to share this next summer with my Scorp.??We have multiple plans for August. I love that we both have the expectation of being together for, who knows how long, to come.??
I hope this wasn't too silly to share. I know this site is about helping others grow and learn a lot of the time, so maybe this will help somebody out there w/similar Scorp experience. I'm really happy you guys, and it's just beginning really! You all have helped tons over this past year with your posts. Thanks
By about February we had a chat about where we stood with each other and he was surprised to find out that I wasn't sure if we were exclusive or not. As if I should have known. He's got a good poker face, and even up until this time I wasn't positive what he wanted from me because he never expressed it in words.??
Fast forward to now, and my point of this post is that the walls are really coming down now, and it's quite beautiful. I think that my patience and ability to let go of the "where is this going?!" has paid off. The shy nervousness is gone on both of our parts and each time we get together I see more and more of him. It's hard to explain but it's almost like.. I recognize him more and more as we get closer.??
I've learned to look to his actions due to his poker faced attitude, and they are becoming more obvious now. His affections are stronger, especially around his close friends and in public. He jokes more with me, shares details of his life, and is eager to help me with things in mine.
I think that my story may reflect some of the keys to what a lot of the advice that is given to the girls here who are curious about their Scorpio men details. It seems they need a lot of space at first, and 0 pressure, time to really feel you out. Once they have warmed up, though it may take what seems like forever, you are truly rewarded with this beautiful, loving person, who was maybe sheathed behind a bit of a tough faced shell. I am so very excited to share this next summer with my Scorp.??We have multiple plans for August. I love that we both have the expectation of being together for, who knows how long, to come.??
I hope this wasn't too silly to share. I know this site is about helping others grow and learn a lot of the time, so maybe this will help somebody out there w/similar Scorp experience.
I'm really happy you guys, and it's just beginning really! You all have helped tons over this past year with your posts. Thanks 
Beautiful!
I remember your whole story from last fall. So glad it has come around for you. yay!!
I remember your whole story from last fall. So glad it has come around for you. yay!!
Thank you ladies
Posted by Rockthenerds
The slower the better for me.
yes i see that
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