Posted by TaurusinTexasThank you for responding by the way
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?
Posted by Angie35scorpI'm really sorry this is happening, I would be, beside myself if someone was playing games like this with my cat... Pisces men suck! Hang in there!Posted by TaurusinTexasThank you for responding by the way
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?click to expand
Posted by TaurusinTexasI actually feel like I'm dying I don't know what to do I haven't got a hotel booking not sure about getting a flight back don't know when either will be back at the house. I don't understand why make me book the flight etc and agree only to have me on the street waiting for hours he hasn't even sent me a message ...nothing..I just don't understand itPosted by Angie35scorpI'm really sorry this is happening, I would be, beside myself if someone was playing games like this with my cat... Pisces men suck! Hang in there!Posted by TaurusinTexasThank you for responding by the way
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?click to expand
Posted by MontgomeryOK I didn't know there is a non emergency line will look that up.
What a dick.
Can you see inside?
Ask a neighbor for a key?
Id consider calling the non emergency police line.
Or better yet... text that ratbastard and tell him
you're calling the police for help and see if he responds.
Posted by Angie35scorp
1. He has agreed I can collect my cat in a couple if weeks or whenever I want.
2. When he sends me pics and videos of my cat I just say....she looks well thank you. Thats it.
Posted by Infinite8Your process of thought is exactly what I went through with trying to arrange pick up I called my mum in London and I kept saying to her it doesn't make sense he broke up with me he should want to get rid of my things and cat asap. When I told him I will collect when he first dumped me he said no he can look after them they aren't in his way I insisted on picking them up and the cat....every time I tired to pin him down about a date etc he would just ignore me for days it was so frustrating. I can't figure out what his issue is I did post another topic but I got told by a few people on there that it's my fault I'm a lier drama queen etc so it wasn't very useful some people offered some advice. ..but to be honest I just want her back he can keep the clothes and I will be on my way I don't want to figure him out anymorePosted by Angie35scorpHe sounds reasonable. So, why doesn't he tell you where the spare key is? Or the address of his son - so he could get you cat.
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.
I've been calling but hes not answering.
I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
This SHOULD BE ideal for him because he doesn't have to see you. I feel like there are holes in this story. Every step seems so complicated and it shouldn't be...
You also seem very under prepared. How long was your flight? You expected to only stay a few hours?
I agree with Tikki... Learn from this experience and don't EVER leave your cat with an unknown.click to expand
Posted by Angie35scorp
he spent ages ignoring me every time I asked about collecting her
Posted by Angie35scorp
Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.
Posted by Angie35scorp
When he sends me pics and videos of my catclick to expand
Posted by Infinite8Posted by Angie35scorpThis whole paragraph was about him. Why?Posted by Infinite8Your process of thought is exactly what I went through with trying to arrange pick up I called my mum in London and I kept saying to her it doesn't make sense he broke up with me he should want to get rid of my things and cat asap. When I told him I will collect when he first dumped me he said no he can look after them they aren't in his way I insisted on picking them up and the cat....every time I tired to pin him down about a date etc he would just ignore me for days it was so frustrating. I can't figure out what his issue is I did post another topic but I got told by a few people on there that it's my fault I'm a lier drama queen etc so it wasn't very useful some people offered some advice. ..but to be honest I just want her back he can keep the clothes and I will be on my way I don't want to figure him out anymorePosted by Angie35scorpHe sounds reasonable. So, why doesn't he tell you where the spare key is? Or the address of his son - so he could get you cat.
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.
I've been calling but hes not answering.
I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
This SHOULD BE ideal for him because he doesn't have to see you. I feel like there are holes in this story. Every step seems so complicated and it shouldn't be...
You also seem very under prepared. How long was your flight? You expected to only stay a few hours?
I agree with Tikki... Learn from this experience and don't EVER leave your cat with an unknown.
I don't understand your focus. It should be on the cat, not on him.click to expand
Posted by stopbeingdelusionalDo you think I could be putting the son in awkward position? He's 18 soon? I sent a message to his daughter via fb ages ago but she didn't answer. She's alot older 30+
Or if you can at least look up his son's FB and sent his son a message to find out when the son will be there. => If you really are not into drama or more games.
Posted by Deedee86OK right ..will look into that. Thank you.
This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
Posted by Infinite8Thank you for your time and help have a good weekend
Lol... Ok, I think I've put more effort on saving your cat than necessary. I'm done.
Off to enjoy my weekend!
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Angie35scorp
Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.
This is what you said yesterday on the other thread. In fact Abby even commented also referencing it in plural, since it was stated by you in plural.Posted by Angie35scorp
When he sends me pics and videos of my cat
the pics and videos are plural .. which means more than one.
Everything she says in here, she contradicts herself.click to expand
Posted by stopbeingdelusionalOh no!! It's been making me ill. I was just getting back into eating meals etc I really want a clean break leaving my cat was the worst thing I could have done hindsight is a bitch but I promise you this it will never ever happen again this was a tough lesson to learn which is why I'm not cursing too much other than to myself because its my fault why she's in his home and I'm in this position oh lesson learned big time ....I'm not even upset with that woman P-Angel because if I didn't make this very stupid mistake I wouldn't have given her anything to talk negatively about.
If I were you, I'd just make an arrangment with the son so there wouldn't be any drama.
I hope you are not secretly wanting to see him or secretly enjoying the emotional manipulation.
Posted by Angie35scorpHe wants you to come back next week!? If nobody is home then whose taking care of the cat? I call bs, he's playing games. Someone needs to feed and give the kitty water so call him out on his bs and make it happen NOW!
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.
I've been calling but hes not answering.
I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
Posted by Deedee86Call the police Angie!
This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
Posted by MontgomeryOK thank u. I don't have any friends here or anything so it's been difficult to figure out what I can do. That's great info ...so I should call them after I've booked my flight or call them first to see when they may have time to do it and then book the flight? Sorry if it's a stupid questionPosted by P-AngelPosted by Angie35scorp
Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.
This is what you said yesterday on the other thread. In fact Abby even commented also referencing it in plural, since it was stated by you in plural.Posted by Angie35scorp
When he sends me pics and videos of my cat
the pics and videos are plural .. which means more than one.
Everything she says in here, she contradicts herself.
YOU DON'T EVEN SPAY/NEUTER YOUR ANIMALS, P-gel.
You allow them to breed endlessly until there are too many for you to feed.
You piece of living shit.
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OP
The police will accompany you to collect your things-- ALL OF THEM--
when this man returns home.
Even if OP is lying through her teeth, someone else can use this info.
Call them ahead, and arrange it.
He cannot hold your things or your cat hostage.
I have accompanied friends who've had to do this.
Not a big deal-- all will be fine.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneIf my animal was trapped at another persons home and they were being petty you better believe I'd break a window, kick down the door, trespass all over their property to collect what is mine.Posted by Deedee86Call the police Angie!
This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
If he's telling the truth and no one is there to let you in for the next week then your little kitty IS GONNA DIE FROM STARVATION/THIRST!!!
This is absolutely grounds for getting the police involved. Call the non-emergency line and tell them your animal is trapped inside and you need their help!!!click to expand
Posted by tiki33No he didn't dump me until I left his state..I thought we were ok but no I did even ask why he didn't say while I was sitting in his home but he never did answer me.
Angie you could have got your things the day he broke up with you and I'm not sure why you didn't lookout for yourself but your paying the price for it. Even if by chance you both reconciled you still would have your possessions and property back.
Just seems you are not thinking straight. You move across the country for a guy you don't really know, trust him with your precious cat and other possessions and didn't think to get what's important to you out of his home the same day he callously breaks it off with you, yet you still allow this fool to keep your things weeks after the break up.
The break up meant he didn't care enough to stay so that means he doesn't care about your property. I would not be surprised if that cat has either been given away or is sitting up in a shelter. You may want to check local shelters to see if your cat has been dropped off.
Now he's holding you and your cat and other possessions hostage. I don't believe you will get anything back. He'll avoid you, he know you have to go home eventually and he seems cold enough to drag it out.
I hope I'm wrong. I hope you get your cat back. Good luck.
Posted by tiki33He sent me a video on Wednesday just a 2 sec one but I saw her.
Angie you could have got your things the day he broke up with you and I'm not sure why you didn't lookout for yourself but your paying the price for it. Even if by chance you both reconciled you still would have your possessions and property back.
Just seems you are not thinking straight. You move across the country for a guy you don't really know, trust him with your precious cat and other possessions and didn't think to get what's important to you out of his home the same day he callously breaks it off with you, yet you still allow this fool to keep your things weeks after the break up.
The break up meant he didn't care enough to stay so that means he doesn't care about your property. I would not be surprised if that cat has either been given away or is sitting up in a shelter. You may want to check local shelters to see if your cat has been dropped off.
Now he's holding you and your cat and other possessions hostage. I don't believe you will get anything back. He'll avoid you, he know you have to go home eventually and he seems cold enough to drag it out.
I hope I'm wrong. I hope you get your cat back. Good luck.
Posted by stopbeingdelusionalYep his son and I really got along hung out a bit...ok I will send him a message and see what happens.Posted by Angie35scorpHmmmm, I thought you mentioned before that you and his son get along pretty well??Posted by stopbeingdelusionalDo you think I could be putting the son in awkward position? He's 18 soon? I sent a message to his daughter via fb ages ago but she didn't answer. She's alot older 30+
Or if you can at least look up his son's FB and sent his son a message to find out when the son will be there. => If you really are not into drama or more games.
Well, I don't think it'd be awkward for the son, unless the Pisces has told his son to ignore you or something... If the Pisces did say something like that to his son, then it's yet another reason to get your cat and stuff back asap and walk away.click to expand
Posted by stopbeingdelusionalYep his son and I really got along hung out a bit...ok I will send him a message and see what happens.Posted by Angie35scorpHmmmm, I thought you mentioned before that you and his son get along pretty well??Posted by stopbeingdelusionalDo you think I could be putting the son in awkward position? He's 18 soon? I sent a message to his daughter via fb ages ago but she didn't answer. She's alot older 30+
Or if you can at least look up his son's FB and sent his son a message to find out when the son will be there. => If you really are not into drama or more games.
Well, I don't think it'd be awkward for the son, unless the Pisces has told his son to ignore you or something... If the Pisces did say something like that to his son, then it's yet another reason to get your cat and stuff back asap and walk away.click to expand
Posted by tiki33But for 3 weeks I've been sending txt messages every day asking him for a date to pick up I have proof on my phone and him not responding and when he did like I said he told me I could get her in November. ..
After 3 weeks that is grounds for abandonment.
I would never encourage a person to break and enter into someone's property.
You're going back home to the UK then going in should not be a problem if you chose to do it.
First see if his son will or daughter will help before taking matters into your own hands. The cat may not be in his residence anymore.
Posted by Angie35scorp
I'm actually worried about the abandonment point you brought up. I left him money for the cat before I left just in case he needed to get anything more for her I bought at least 2 months of food if he feeds her the way I asked him to. Even though I've been txting him to get her back and he doesn't respond is that still classed as abandonment?
Posted by Angie35scorp
Is anyone here I need some urgent advice. I went to collect my cat and he is not home. I've called a billion times but he hasn't answered I've left loads of messages nothing his son hasn't come home either I'm not sure what to do. Can I call the police even though he's not home? I'm in the USA but I'm British and I am not sure how it works out here.
Posted by Infinite8
I feel like there are holes in this story. Every step seems so complicated and it shouldn't be...