Pisces man didn't turn up for collection of fur baby

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Angie35scorp on Friday, September 30, 2016 and has 82 replies.
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Is anyone here I need some urgent advice. I went to collect my cat and he is not home. I've called a billion times but he hasn't answered I've left loads of messages nothing his son hasn't come home either I'm not sure what to do. Can I call the police even though he's not home? I'm in the USA but I'm British and I am not sure how it works out here.
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?
Yep been waiting for hours. He arranged the collection with me I have everything on txt so I can prove she belongs to me etc ....I will wait...I've missed my flight back so I may as well wait
Posted by TaurusinTexas
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?
Thank you for responding by the way
Posted by Angie35scorp
Posted by TaurusinTexas
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?
Thank you for responding by the way
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I'm really sorry this is happening, I would be, beside myself if someone was playing games like this with my cat... Pisces men suck! Hang in there!
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Posted by Angie35scorp
Posted by TaurusinTexas
I don't think the police will help, since you left him there and he didn't technically take him. Can you wait a bit and see if the son comes home?
Thank you for responding by the way
I'm really sorry this is happening, I would be, beside myself if someone was playing games like this with my cat... Pisces men suck! Hang in there!
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I actually feel like I'm dying I don't know what to do I haven't got a hotel booking not sure about getting a flight back don't know when either will be back at the house. I don't understand why make me book the flight etc and agree only to have me on the street waiting for hours he hasn't even sent me a message ...nothing..I just don't understand it
What a dick.

Can you see inside?

Ask a neighbor for a key?

Id consider calling the non emergency police line.

Or better yet... text that ratbastard and tell him

you're calling the police for help and see if he responds.

I don't know ...I honestly don't know
Posted by Montgomery
What a dick.

Can you see inside?

Ask a neighbor for a key?

Id consider calling the non emergency police line.

Or better yet... text that ratbastard and tell him

you're calling the police for help and see if he responds.

OK I didn't know there is a non emergency line will look that up.

I will send him the message

I can't see inside
I've txt him ...nothing yet
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.

I've been calling but hes not answering.

I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
Angie be calm.

Curious as to why you didn't get your cat and other belongings when he first broke up with you.

In the future never move across the country to be with a man you hardly know. Since you missed your flight hopefully you can get on the standby list and catch a later flight tonight.

Do a stake out. Maybe you can have someone knock on the door for you, preferably a woman and once he answers the door barge in and get your property.

A 50 something year old man playing these kind of head games is ridiculous.
So he left your cat alone in the house for the whole weekend! He's crazy. Check windows, doors to see if there locked. Also why don't you have a spare key?

Do you have that kind of money to burn? Flying can be expensive, missing a flight is like flushing money down the toilet.
He finished with me around 2 to 3 weeks ago he spent ages ignoring me every time I asked about collecting her and my clothes. Eventually I harassed him enough to agree to allowing me to pick her up first he said November which I said no it was too long then he ignored me again. Then eventually he said I could pick her up when I wanted so I just looked for the cheapest flight confirmed it with him he said ok booked it.

I don't have the money to burn but I'm not giving him the excuse that I didn't turn up when he said to come.

I just want to get her back and then I'm done. It cost me over £1000 to ship her from London to the us I sacrificed to get her here so I'm not giving up.

I don't have a key because we didn't live together I was in the process of moving to his state to continue with the relationship we hadn't got to the stage of having keys to his property.

Everything is locked I don't see her but she's normally sleeping under the bed which is at the back of the house the windows are quite dark.

I'm assuming she's there just don't see her.
Posted by Angie35scorp

1. He has agreed I can collect my cat in a couple if weeks or whenever I want.

2. When he sends me pics and videos of my cat I just say....she looks well thank you. Thats it.





For all responders:


1. definitive arrangements were not made to collect the animal. so if she is telling the truth about sitting on his doorstep for hours and grumbling about him not being there is pretty ridiculous, considering no arrangements were made for her to come there.

2. she has attempted to make people believe that he is ignoring her when she wants to communicate about her cat ... yet, he sends pic and videos, and is communicating with her about the cat, in order for her to respond with thank yous.


Read between the lines people ... that's where you will find the truth.

Seriously, you really told her to go to the police when she STATED that it was left up in the air?

Like seriously ..... people are really that dumb?


this is a fabricated story, and if you read all of her postings here and on the Pisces board, you will find contradictions and holes all through it.

Or maybe you all don't care ... maybe truth is that important to people, and you don't mind being lied to.

Posted by Infinite8
Posted by Angie35scorp
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.

I've been calling but hes not answering.

I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
He sounds reasonable. So, why doesn't he tell you where the spare key is? Or the address of his son - so he could get you cat.

This SHOULD BE ideal for him because he doesn't have to see you. I feel like there are holes in this story. Every step seems so complicated and it shouldn't be...

You also seem very under prepared. How long was your flight? You expected to only stay a few hours?

I agree with Tikki... Learn from this experience and don't EVER leave your cat with an unknown.

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Your process of thought is exactly what I went through with trying to arrange pick up I called my mum in London and I kept saying to her it doesn't make sense he broke up with me he should want to get rid of my things and cat asap. When I told him I will collect when he first dumped me he said no he can look after them they aren't in his way I insisted on picking them up and the cat....every time I tired to pin him down about a date etc he would just ignore me for days it was so frustrating. I can't figure out what his issue is I did post another topic but I got told by a few people on there that it's my fault I'm a lier drama queen etc so it wasn't very useful some people offered some advice. ..but to be honest I just want her back he can keep the clothes and I will be on my way I don't want to figure him out anymore
Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.
Posted by Angie35scorp

he spent ages ignoring me every time I asked about collecting her




Yet, he sent pics and videos of her, and communicated to you about these pics and videos in order for you to say she looks good and thanks.

You people really aren't smart enough to put two and two together?


lol
And yes I thanked him for the pictures and told him she looks well.
Posted by Angie35scorp

Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.





This is what you said yesterday on the other thread. In fact Abby even commented also referencing it in plural, since it was stated by you in plural.

Posted by Angie35scorp

When he sends me pics and videos of my cat

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the pics and videos are plural .. which means more than one.



Everything she says in here, she contradicts herself.

Where is the cat now? Alone in his house? With your ex, wherever he is?
Posted by Infinite8
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Posted by Angie35scorp
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.

I've been calling but hes not answering.

I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
He sounds reasonable. So, why doesn't he tell you where the spare key is? Or the address of his son - so he could get you cat.

This SHOULD BE ideal for him because he doesn't have to see you. I feel like there are holes in this story. Every step seems so complicated and it shouldn't be...

You also seem very under prepared. How long was your flight? You expected to only stay a few hours?

I agree with Tikki... Learn from this experience and don't EVER leave your cat with an unknown.

Your process of thought is exactly what I went through with trying to arrange pick up I called my mum in London and I kept saying to her it doesn't make sense he broke up with me he should want to get rid of my things and cat asap. When I told him I will collect when he first dumped me he said no he can look after them they aren't in his way I insisted on picking them up and the cat....every time I tired to pin him down about a date etc he would just ignore me for days it was so frustrating. I can't figure out what his issue is I did post another topic but I got told by a few people on there that it's my fault I'm a lier drama queen etc so it wasn't very useful some people offered some advice. ..but to be honest I just want her back he can keep the clothes and I will be on my way I don't want to figure him out anymore
This whole paragraph was about him. Why?

I don't understand your focus. It should be on the cat, not on him.

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She made a statement and I was agreeing with her and explained my thought process and what actually happened.

This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
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Or if you can at least look up his son's FB and sent his son a message to find out when the son will be there. => If you really are not into drama or more games.
Do you think I could be putting the son in awkward position? He's 18 soon? I sent a message to his daughter via fb ages ago but she didn't answer. She's alot older 30+
Posted by Deedee86
This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
OK right ..will look into that. Thank you.
Posted by Infinite8
Lol... Ok, I think I've put more effort on saving your cat than necessary. I'm done.

Off to enjoy my weekend!
Thank you for your time and help have a good weekend
Angie you could have got your things the day he broke up with you and I'm not sure why you didn't lookout for yourself but your paying the price for it. Even if by chance you both reconciled you still would have your possessions and property back.

Just seems you are not thinking straight. You move across the country for a guy you don't really know, trust him with your precious cat and other possessions and didn't think to get what's important to you out of his home the same day he callously breaks it off with you, yet you still allow this fool to keep your things weeks after the break up.

The break up meant he didn't care enough to stay so that means he doesn't care about your property. I would not be surprised if that cat has either been given away or is sitting up in a shelter. You may want to check local shelters to see if your cat has been dropped off.

Now he's holding you and your cat and other possessions hostage. I don't believe you will get anything back. He'll avoid you, he know you have to go home eventually and he seems cold enough to drag it out.

I hope I'm wrong. I hope you get your cat back. Good luck.
Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Angie35scorp

Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.




This is what you said yesterday on the other thread. In fact Abby even commented also referencing it in plural, since it was stated by you in plural.

Posted by Angie35scorp

When he sends me pics and videos of my cat



the pics and videos are plural .. which means more than one.

Everything she says in here, she contradicts herself.

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YOU DON'T EVEN SPAY/NEUTER YOUR ANIMALS, P-gel.

You allow them to breed endlessly until there are too many for you to feed.

You piece of living shit.



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OP

The police will accompany you to collect your things-- ALL OF THEM--

when this man returns home.

Even if OP is lying through her teeth, someone else can use this info.

Call them ahead, and arrange it.

He cannot hold your things or your cat hostage.

I have accompanied friends who've had to do this.

Not a big deal-- all will be fine.




Posted by stopbeingdelusional
If I were you, I'd just make an arrangment with the son so there wouldn't be any drama.

I hope you are not secretly wanting to see him or secretly enjoying the emotional manipulation.

Oh no!! It's been making me ill. I was just getting back into eating meals etc I really want a clean break leaving my cat was the worst thing I could have done hindsight is a bitch but I promise you this it will never ever happen again this was a tough lesson to learn which is why I'm not cursing too much other than to myself because its my fault why she's in his home and I'm in this position oh lesson learned big time ....I'm not even upset with that woman P-Angel because if I didn't make this very stupid mistake I wouldn't have given her anything to talk negatively about.

Shes like my baby I got her when my own baby died and I haven't been a part from her for longer than a week because I was home in the uk I had family etc I could trust if I had to go away. Now I haven't seen her for 3 weeks.

I'm finding it very tough. I'm still waiting just in case his daughter answers and she can come round I know for a fact she has a key!!!

It's 6.42 here. I'm thinking maybe she finished work a little late.

My lesson has been learned!!!

Big time!!
Posted by Angie35scorp
Ok so he's txt back and said he's gone away with his group and won't be back until Monday morning his son is at his mums home and won't be back. He said next week will be fine. He said he didn't realize it was today even though when I sent him the txt with the confirmation of the flight time etc he agreed and said it was ok with him.

I've been calling but hes not answering.

I need to call the police I'm sure they should be able to offer advice on what to do next....Thanx guys for your help. Really appreciate it.
He wants you to come back next week!? If nobody is home then whose taking care of the cat? I call bs, he's playing games. Someone needs to feed and give the kitty water so call him out on his bs and make it happen NOW!
Posted by Deedee86
This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
Call the police Angie!

If he's telling the truth and no one is there to let you in for the next week then your little kitty IS GONNA DIE FROM STARVATION/THIRST!!!

This is absolutely grounds for getting the police involved. Call the non-emergency line and tell them your animal is trapped inside and you need their help!!!
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by P-Angel
Posted by Angie35scorp

Yes he has sent me 1 video and 1 picture of the cat since I left her at his home.




This is what you said yesterday on the other thread. In fact Abby even commented also referencing it in plural, since it was stated by you in plural.

Posted by Angie35scorp

When he sends me pics and videos of my cat



the pics and videos are plural .. which means more than one.

Everything she says in here, she contradicts herself.



YOU DON'T EVEN SPAY/NEUTER YOUR ANIMALS, P-gel.

You allow them to breed endlessly until there are too many for you to feed.

You piece of living shit.



--------------------------------------------

OP

The police will accompany you to collect your things-- ALL OF THEM--

when this man returns home.

Even if OP is lying through her teeth, someone else can use this info.

Call them ahead, and arrange it.

He cannot hold your things or your cat hostage.

I have accompanied friends who've had to do this.

Not a big deal-- all will be fine.




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OK thank u. I don't have any friends here or anything so it's been difficult to figure out what I can do. That's great info ...so I should call them after I've booked my flight or call them first to see when they may have time to do it and then book the flight? Sorry if it's a stupid question

Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Deedee86
This is a civil matter but the police may be willing to speak to him for you. I think it depends on how busy they are. I was in a kind of similar situation years ago and the sheriff spoke to the guy for me. He cooperated with the officer and everything got resolved.
Call the police Angie!

If he's telling the truth and no one is there to let you in for the next week then your little kitty IS GONNA DIE FROM STARVATION/THIRST!!!

This is absolutely grounds for getting the police involved. Call the non-emergency line and tell them your animal is trapped inside and you need their help!!!
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If my animal was trapped at another persons home and they were being petty you better believe I'd break a window, kick down the door, trespass all over their property to collect what is mine.
Posted by tiki33
Angie you could have got your things the day he broke up with you and I'm not sure why you didn't lookout for yourself but your paying the price for it. Even if by chance you both reconciled you still would have your possessions and property back.

Just seems you are not thinking straight. You move across the country for a guy you don't really know, trust him with your precious cat and other possessions and didn't think to get what's important to you out of his home the same day he callously breaks it off with you, yet you still allow this fool to keep your things weeks after the break up.

The break up meant he didn't care enough to stay so that means he doesn't care about your property. I would not be surprised if that cat has either been given away or is sitting up in a shelter. You may want to check local shelters to see if your cat has been dropped off.

Now he's holding you and your cat and other possessions hostage. I don't believe you will get anything back. He'll avoid you, he know you have to go home eventually and he seems cold enough to drag it out.

I hope I'm wrong. I hope you get your cat back. Good luck.
No he didn't dump me until I left his state..I thought we were ok but no I did even ask why he didn't say while I was sitting in his home but he never did answer me.

Posted by tiki33
Angie you could have got your things the day he broke up with you and I'm not sure why you didn't lookout for yourself but your paying the price for it. Even if by chance you both reconciled you still would have your possessions and property back.

Just seems you are not thinking straight. You move across the country for a guy you don't really know, trust him with your precious cat and other possessions and didn't think to get what's important to you out of his home the same day he callously breaks it off with you, yet you still allow this fool to keep your things weeks after the break up.

The break up meant he didn't care enough to stay so that means he doesn't care about your property. I would not be surprised if that cat has either been given away or is sitting up in a shelter. You may want to check local shelters to see if your cat has been dropped off.

Now he's holding you and your cat and other possessions hostage. I don't believe you will get anything back. He'll avoid you, he know you have to go home eventually and he seems cold enough to drag it out.

I hope I'm wrong. I hope you get your cat back. Good luck.
He sent me a video on Wednesday just a 2 sec one but I saw her.
After 3 weeks that is grounds for abandonment.

I would never encourage a person to break and enter into someone's property.

You're going back home to the UK then going in should not be a problem if you chose to do it.

First see if his son will or daughter will help before taking matters into your own hands. The cat may not be in his residence anymore.

Posted by stopbeingdelusional
Posted by Angie35scorp
Posted by stopbeingdelusional
Or if you can at least look up his son's FB and sent his son a message to find out when the son will be there. => If you really are not into drama or more games.
Do you think I could be putting the son in awkward position? He's 18 soon? I sent a message to his daughter via fb ages ago but she didn't answer. She's alot older 30+
Hmmmm, I thought you mentioned before that you and his son get along pretty well??

Well, I don't think it'd be awkward for the son, unless the Pisces has told his son to ignore you or something... If the Pisces did say something like that to his son, then it's yet another reason to get your cat and stuff back asap and walk away.
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Yep his son and I really got along hung out a bit...ok I will send him a message and see what happens.
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Posted by Angie35scorp
Posted by stopbeingdelusional
Or if you can at least look up his son's FB and sent his son a message to find out when the son will be there. => If you really are not into drama or more games.
Do you think I could be putting the son in awkward position? He's 18 soon? I sent a message to his daughter via fb ages ago but she didn't answer. She's alot older 30+
Hmmmm, I thought you mentioned before that you and his son get along pretty well??

Well, I don't think it'd be awkward for the son, unless the Pisces has told his son to ignore you or something... If the Pisces did say something like that to his son, then it's yet another reason to get your cat and stuff back asap and walk away.
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Yep his son and I really got along hung out a bit...ok I will send him a message and see what happens.
Posted by tiki33
After 3 weeks that is grounds for abandonment.

I would never encourage a person to break and enter into someone's property.

You're going back home to the UK then going in should not be a problem if you chose to do it.

First see if his son will or daughter will help before taking matters into your own hands. The cat may not be in his residence anymore.

But for 3 weeks I've been sending txt messages every day asking him for a date to pick up I have proof on my phone and him not responding and when he did like I said he told me I could get her in November. ..
Then eventually he said I could get her whenever I want his exact words were I can get her whenever I want so I need to stop asking ...
I'm actually worried about the abandonment point you brought up. I left him money for the cat before I left just in case he needed to get anything more for her I bought at least 2 months of food if he feeds her the way I asked him to. Even though I've been txting him to get her back and he doesn't respond is that still classed as abandonment?
It's still abandonment. The lack of response from him and the kids is troubling. The kids may decide to just stay out of it.

I hope this has a happy ending. I really hope it all turns out okay.
Posted by Angie35scorp
I'm actually worried about the abandonment point you brought up. I left him money for the cat before I left just in case he needed to get anything more for her I bought at least 2 months of food if he feeds her the way I asked him to. Even though I've been txting him to get her back and he doesn't respond is that still classed as abandonment?


No. It's not abandonment. You paid him for boarding and you have been making attempts to get the cat back. If you left the cat at the groomers, didn't call or pay for 3 weeks it would be considered abandonment.

His lack of cooperation most likely means you have to go through small claims court to get her back and there is no telling how long that process is including the expenses to file and the cost of gas, hotel cost, flight cost, rental car cost, all of it is costly and time consuming.

The options you have all come with a risk. Break in, get the cat and potentially go to jail. Break in and the cat isn't in the home and risk charges pressed against you and lose the cat, wait it out and get the cat back which is the best possible outcome. So you either steal your cat back or wait and hope for the best.
Posted by Angie35scorp
Is anyone here I need some urgent advice. I went to collect my cat and he is not home. I've called a billion times but he hasn't answered I've left loads of messages nothing his son hasn't come home either I'm not sure what to do. Can I call the police even though he's not home? I'm in the USA but I'm British and I am not sure how it works out here.


Call the police over a cat? Lawd, please tell me someone gave this woman some sound advice....



is there an unlocked window that you can open? You don't have to enter the house, just call for the cat to come to you. Then get on a plane and get the hell out of there before he can press charges. And never ever tell him how you got the cat. Just say that she was wandering outside or better yet, say nothing at all.

This link may help with the abandonment question. You have nothing to worry about. You arranged for the cat's care and returned in a reasonable amount of time.

http://www.animalleague.org/expert-advice/legal/q-as/what-constitutes-abandonment.html
Posted by Infinite8

I feel like there are holes in this story. Every step seems so complicated and it shouldn't be...



This. Noted it on the first thread.
Good news his daughter called me. She's on her way!!!!
I found a flight for tomorrow!!! Not booking it until she arrives and I see the cat!!! American Airlines allow you to take your pet in cabin...at a fee of course I'm silently hopeful ....shoot I forgot I now need to find somewhere to stay for the night that accepts pets
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