Pisces Women and Scorpio man

Hi there! I'm new to this message board, but I have been reading on some messages from time to time regarding Scorpio men. Here's some background information about myself and the situation that I am in.

I'm a Pisces woman and of course he's a Scorpio man, hence the topic title for this message. I started talking to him online back in January where he messaged me on a social networking site. A few weeks before I had gotten out of a breakup and I just wanted to make some friends for the most part. I told him this and he agreed that is the reasoning he was on that site but if something ever came to he wouldn't mind it. We chatted for almost every single day for about 2 months. Then out of the blue he tells me he has become smitten by me, he day dreams of a life that has yet to be seen, that he cannot understand how he feels this way. We kept things to ourselves considering we just wanted to be friends with each other so the asking about past relationships weren't brought up, until I decided right before my birthday to do that. I asked the dreaded question about girlfriends for him. Turns out that he has 2 kids, divorced (going on 4 years now), and has been single since. He has dated but nothing ever came more than a single date with these women. I found this eerie due to the same has been happening to me. I never told him this until after he made that statement about his past. I was engaged and the relationship ended in September of 2009. This also occurred for him. I take it he has been hurt and it's enough that he cannot find a connection with someone until me. We have yet to meet. We make plans to do this and one of us backs out. It's been an ongoing back and forth for the past 6 months.

A little more information... I don't love easily, even though it's said Pisces do, I have been hurt badly where it's not easy to let another in. I did with him. Don't judge, I haven't met this man and yes I fell in love with him. I told him this. He took 100 steps back from me, distanced himself for a good 3 days (mind you he does a disappearing act a lot), and then on Easter he tells me he's crazy about me. He's told me before this that he does like me a lot but he doesn't want to mess up a good thing. Everything he does will and can affect his life for his kids and business. I get that; he's a business man and a father. The distance, the mystery of him, he comes full blown into wanting me then backs away when he gets too heated. I had this strong feeling last mon

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month that he has fallen in love with me. The site that we began talking on he has deleted his profile on it. I confronted him about this feeling I was getting that he did and he flipped. Well, in the process of me asking I did ask if he's only talking to me because he wants to boost his ego because he's gained weight since the last I saw a picture of him. He flipped out. We didn't speak for two days and he comes back around telling me he's done. I asked him why, he told me he is in love with me but we rushed things and we missed our chances. I said alright, and then he tells me he still wants me in his life and that he wants me. I'm confused at this point. He got pissed off when I told him I was confused and a few days I didn't hear from him. He texts me out of the blue asking if I was still mad at him. I can't be mad at him; I never have been able to. As much as I have gotten angry with this man, told him I was done and never speaking to him again, I always took him back.

My confusion is that why is he distancing himself from me? He hasn't been the same since he admitted his feelings to me. He's going through legal issues at the moment and business problems. He has a lot going on in his life more than he lets me know about. Little things he has let out but that is about it. The moment he lets me in a tiny bit he backs away and distances himself again. What is the reasoning it's been a week now for his distance? I forgot to mention he was upset that I wasn't in my hometown this weekend, which is closer to him than I am now, and I told him a solution was I move closer to him or we move in together. We have discussed moving in with one another because of many reasoning??s that I don't want to get into. I made a joke about it at the end of the text to him and he goes let's move in together. Begins asking me where should we look at places, he's up for the West and/or just wants the country but close to a city. It's never been that much on topic with moving in together. A crack here or there but that's it. The distance began after that. I haven't heard from him since Monday when I asked if I??ll ever get a chance to see his soft side. I??ve seen it on occasion but I miss it now??_ Sorry if I'm not 100% clear on what I'm asking or the information I'm giving. Please ask me anything that you need to know mor

The problem is your only real connection is online and online relationships are not real. You're not encountering a real person and not presenting yourself in a real way, even if you think you are. You idealize love and each other online. That's what makes it feel so real, so compelling. But you've got to spend real time together and get to know each other over time to know whether you have what it takes to make it as a couple. You're lonely and rebounding and that's why you're pining so much hope onto a man you haven't met. At this stage you can't know the difference. When the time and the man is right, you'll know. Unfortunately this is a fantasy you're nurturing to keep from feeling alone. You need time to heal so you won't be so afraid to let a man in. You did nothing wrong here. You're just not ready yet and this man isn't the one. You're both lonely and clinging to a fantasy.

"We have yet to meet. We make plans to do this and one of us backs out. It's been an ongoing back and forth for the past 6 months."

" I haven't met this man and yes I fell in love with him. I told him this."

"We have discussed moving in with one another because of many reasoning??s that I don't want to get into."

"Please ask me anything that you need to know"

Ok, I'll ask...what the fuck are you thinking?

livelaughlove228

You should change your name to "livelaughlovehurtlearn228"
Yep, that's what your future looks like.

IMHO, you had better back of that mindset you have.