e the thread was created for me I will post this here:
Posted by WaterCup
Im not justifying anything, I'm just addressing what took place here. She did check his phone & in doing so she found something...those are the facts that cannot be undone. Sadly.
I didn't say you were justifying anything. I asked if you're suggesting in your response that invading someone's privacy can be excused if she/he finds suspicious behaviour in the process of snooping? Does the end justify the means basically is what I am asking. And again, if she/he doesn't find anything? Would it be okay if we address the act of invading someone's privacy then? Or are we just going to stay stuck on how horrible he is for exchanging pics prior to them getting involved?
Yes, she found things on his phone, she addressed it and he blew up. Probably because he got caught for not being sincere about where they really stand. But here's the thing--that wasn't enough for her to leave him. This only came to a hit and became thread worthy when she brought up another issue, they fought and he iced her out and refused to give her back her stuff, so let's not make this about him being a "cheater"--she wasn't upset enough to end thing because of that.
Posted by WaterCup
I'm very aware that it's not good to snoop on anyone's personal belongings, but personally I wouldn't trust anyone who is too overprotective of his phone especially. I'd be like "what is he hiding?". Trust goes both ways. I think it's natural to be curious/suspicious when a person is being so secretive about such things.click to expand
I would be leery about someone that seems to be hiding something as well, but I would act accordingly--not go through their shit and justify doing so because "I was suspicious". If I can't trust you because I think you're hiding something, I don't f*ck with you too seriously. Period. You're very right, trust goes both ways. If he doesn't trust you, why are you laying down with him/her? Why are you giving your all to someone that is giving you a half a** version of a relationship? All valid points you made--that's not my issue. My only issue is rather than recognizing this and pulling back when a person feels "off" you go through their sh*t?
Yeah, that doesn't fly for me.
Posted by DMV
I dont trust anyone who cuffs their phone. I.e taking it to the bathroom. Thats a red flag.
but the issue is a breach of privacy. I would b pissed if someone did that 2 me.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by DMV
I dont trust anyone who cuffs their phone. I.e taking it to the bathroom. Thats a red flag.
but the issue is a breach of privacy. I would b pissed if someone did that 2 me.
Well my response would be don't get serious with someone you don't trust. Why would you be upset?click to expand
Posted by DMVPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by DMV
I dont trust anyone who cuffs their phone. I.e taking it to the bathroom. Thats a red flag.
but the issue is a breach of privacy. I would b pissed if someone did that 2 me.
Well my response would be don't get serious with someone you don't trust. Why would you be upset?
this would be what P Angel is getting at, women getting involved knowing full well of the red flags just for the sake of being with someone.click to expand
Posted by mfwb55
How am I even to answer that?
Posted by capgirl69
We have privacy here, but we don't have secrets from each other. I think there's a difference.
Posted by DMV
She called it snooping because subconsciously she knew what she was doing. Birthday party was a lameo smoke screen
Posted by DMV
She called it snooping because subconsciously she knew what she was doing. Birthday party was a lameo smoke screen
Posted by WaterCup
@Phoenix, in my way of thinking, yes it would be excusable...if I was the one doing it to their property...not the other way aroundI'm being honest.
Posted by WaterCup
Plus I don't get why what OP did is called snooping, she wasn't snooping, she just innocently picked up his phone not knowing how he felt about it, nor was she even suspicious with him at that point. To me snooping is going through somebody things with an intent to find "evidence" because you're suspicious. However, that's not how it initially went down in this story. If he felt like it was a "violation" of privacy then tough tit because it was all innocent from her part, she wasn't spying & I'm sure it was never discussed that his phone is off-limits. Some people need to be told because they are not as privacy conscious like yourself for an example.click to expand
Posted by WaterCupPosted by DMV
She called it snooping because subconsciously she knew what she was doing. Birthday party was a lameo smoke screen
Oh you guys, but nobody knows that for sure. I believe that she meant him no harm, I really do.
Anyway I'm bored with this story now. Whatever. I'm not wasting any more of my time on this nonsense.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by DMV
She called it snooping because subconsciously she knew what she was doing. Birthday party was a lameo smoke screen
Lol
It's saying to your son or daughter who has a hidden diary of their personal thoughts, and saying, "I needed to understand you better because you're so closed off."
erm..NO. I hate that when even parents/family do that. It's invasion of trust/privacy. If you're emo-ing out, so what? it's not meant for anyone else to read but your own self. thats why it's private. If you want an online public journal then that's different. Some people enjoy emo-ing out openly.
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Posted by DMVPosted by lisabethur8Posted by DMV
She called it snooping because subconsciously she knew what she was doing. Birthday party was a lameo smoke screen
It's saying to your son or daughter who has a hidden diary of their personal thoughts, and saying, "I needed to understand you better because you're so closed off."
erm..NO. I hate that when even parents/family do that. It's invasion of trust/privacy. If you're emo-ing out, so what? it's not meant for anyone else to read but your own self. thats why it's private. If you want an online public journal then that's different. Some people enjoy emo-ing out openly.
my mother taught me the art of snooping and not even being sorry about it. We had no privacy and yes it kept me out of trouble but it also taught me how valuable privacy is.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by DMV
She called it snooping because subconsciously she knew what she was doing. Birthday party was a lameo smoke screen
Lol
It's saying to your son or daughter who has a hidden diary of their personal thoughts, and saying, "I needed to understand you better because you're so closed off."
erm..NO. I hate that when even parents/family do that. It's invasion of trust/privacy. If you're emo-ing out, so what? it's not meant for anyone else to read but your own self. thats why it's private.click to expand
Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Oh my bad PR, I'm not good with names. I know who you were now.
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