Question for Scorpio ladies
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by XV2 on Monday, April 16, 2012 and has 9 replies.
A close friend of mine (Libra male) recently began a relationship with a Scorpio female. For the moment it??s a long distance relationship with the promise that they will unite shortly. A couple of nights ago I noticed that she posted on facebook that she was flying to Las Vegas by herself and it made me wonder whether this is some sort of Scorpio tactic.
It brought back memories of a Scorpio I dated some 10 years ago, it was also long distance, our relationship was also somewhat new and she had to travel around the US, at one point she was in St. Louis and she kept leaving messages on my phone every day whenever I wouldn??t pick up, about how she had met this wonderful guy named Chad, that he was so sweet and such a gentleman and so forth.
It all makes me wonder, are Scorpios like this? Taking the initiative quickly and trying to demonstrate something perhaps? How wanted they are? How quickly and easily they can cheat on you? and manipulate you with the "power" of your own fears and insecurities from there?
What is this? Insight appreciated.
How did it backfire? Did she actually like this guy or?
Signed Up: Apr 10, 2012
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IntriguedScorp hit the nail on the head.
@ Ellesque: You??re right, I might be reading too much into it. I don??t actually know that anything HAS or did happen. I must say though, when I first read that post the first thing that popped into my mind was: Of all places in the world, why Vegas?
Speaking personally I??ve always been critisized for being too "liberal" with partners, letting them do as they please, sometimes, beyond what certain guys would find acceptable. I am something of an emotional gambler, and regretably, I??ve always ended up in the loser side in that equation, my trust having been misplaced... So no, I wouldn??t say it??s an insecurity of mine in THAT sense, though, it might be in the sense that my bad experiences have left me far more suspicious of peoples?? motives. For example in the past I would have not thought of anything like a "random outing to Vegas over the weekend".. now I think "Why Vegas of all places?"
I don??t know, you??re right, it could be me. For the record, he hasn??t expressed any concern, and I haven??t so much as mentioned anything. It just struck a nerve in my mind and I wanted to consult with Scorpio ladies such as yourselves to see what you all thought. The reason I care so much about this is because the guy in question is my cousin, I love that guy like a brother. I know that even if anything were to happen, it wouldn??t really be in my power to change it, but, in correlation to my own experience with a Scorpio lady, I wanted to understand if it??s something more general, if there was a pattern here.
As for your comments regarding MY Scorpio ex... well... I suppose that if she had mentioned the guy ONCE, it would have been ok, but, she kept mentioning him every day, how sweet he was, how he invited her to dinner and so forth, for like a week. I had recently come out of a relationship where my partner had cheated on me, and so I felt particularly vulnerable to this... so this behavior on her part had the effect of having me launch a preemtive strike. To my eternal shame (in a way) I cheated on her with someone else.
HOWEVER, even though we ended that relationship and did not see each other for 6 years, when I saw her next, she told me that after we broke up, like a year later she did meet up with the guy Chad and had sex with him... so that proves it wasn??t that innocent... I sensed there was more to it than "he??s just so nice and he invites me to dinner". I still wish I hadn??t cheated, but I definitely sensed there was more to it.-
Speaking personally I??ve always been critisized for being too "liberal" with partners, letting them do as they please, sometimes, beyond what certain guys would find acceptable. I am something of an emotional gambler, and regretably, I??ve always ended up in the loser side in that equation, my trust having been misplaced... So no, I wouldn??t say it??s an insecurity of mine in THAT sense, though, it might be in the sense that my bad experiences have left me far more suspicious of peoples?? motives. For example in the past I would have not thought of anything like a "random outing to Vegas over the weekend".. now I think "Why Vegas of all places?"
I don??t know, you??re right, it could be me. For the record, he hasn??t expressed any concern, and I haven??t so much as mentioned anything. It just struck a nerve in my mind and I wanted to consult with Scorpio ladies such as yourselves to see what you all thought. The reason I care so much about this is because the guy in question is my cousin, I love that guy like a brother. I know that even if anything were to happen, it wouldn??t really be in my power to change it, but, in correlation to my own experience with a Scorpio lady, I wanted to understand if it??s something more general, if there was a pattern here.
As for your comments regarding MY Scorpio ex... well... I suppose that if she had mentioned the guy ONCE, it would have been ok, but, she kept mentioning him every day, how sweet he was, how he invited her to dinner and so forth, for like a week. I had recently come out of a relationship where my partner had cheated on me, and so I felt particularly vulnerable to this... so this behavior on her part had the effect of having me launch a preemtive strike. To my eternal shame (in a way) I cheated on her with someone else.
HOWEVER, even though we ended that relationship and did not see each other for 6 years, when I saw her next, she told me that after we broke up, like a year later she did meet up with the guy Chad and had sex with him... so that proves it wasn??t that innocent... I sensed there was more to it than "he??s just so nice and he invites me to dinner". I still wish I hadn??t cheated, but I definitely sensed there was more to it.-
@ Intrigued: Hi 
Yeah, could be nothing. As I said in my previous post to Ellesque, I haven??t mentioned a word of my thoughts on this to either party. We??ll see what comes out of this.
In any case if anyone here is guilty of projecting anything it??s me, my own bad experiences led me to worry for a friend, perhaps prematurely.
@Ellybean: So for Scorpios cheating is more rarely an issue and it??s just more of a matter of keeping their partner "on their toes" and playing it by the edge?
Hmm, in her case -I??ve known her for a while- I??d like to think she??s the matture type, I hope so, for his sake.
Again, you guys are all right, I think it??s really just me projecting stuff.
Thank you all for the input.-
Yeah, could be nothing. As I said in my previous post to Ellesque, I haven??t mentioned a word of my thoughts on this to either party. We??ll see what comes out of this.In any case if anyone here is guilty of projecting anything it??s me, my own bad experiences led me to worry for a friend, perhaps prematurely.
@Ellybean: So for Scorpios cheating is more rarely an issue and it??s just more of a matter of keeping their partner "on their toes" and playing it by the edge?
Hmm, in her case -I??ve known her for a while- I??d like to think she??s the matture type, I hope so, for his sake.
Again, you guys are all right, I think it??s really just me projecting stuff.
Thank you all for the input.-
@Ellybean: You know, that??s something I??ve dealt with before: when a partner feels attraction for another person. I can??t say it makes me feel good but, I??ve just acted as if there was nothing there. On a deeper level though I simply can??t relate. When I??m into someone my character becomes very dry towards other women. I might see a woman and acknowledge that she is beautiful, but, the attraction becomes nullified. In that sense when I notice that a parter of mine is attracted to someone else, I go quietly along but the shadow lingers: "Perhaps she doesn??t feel as intensely as I do, she can still feel attracted to others."
I understand it, rationally, and that it??s something one just has to deal with, but on a deeper level I can??t relate to it.-
I understand it, rationally, and that it??s something one just has to deal with, but on a deeper level I can??t relate to it.-
Well, in any case I am grateful to everyone. Thanks again
Thanks
It??s true, I rarely venture outside the Pisces board.-
It??s true, I rarely venture outside the Pisces board.-
LOL i love board fights....
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